Big Time Adulting

Today we are joined by Dr. Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett who are the hosts of The Puberty Podcast, a riveting show that weaves together scientific research, parenting strategies, and hilarious stories to help guide adults who are raising kids through puberty. You might be surprised to learn that puberty begins for girls at 8 or 9 and for boys at 9 or 10! In this episode, we focus on body image and what to say and not say to our kids about their bodies. Caitlin seeks to understand how to set boundaries around clothing, nudity, and public displays of pleasure. We talk about pleasure, consent, social pressures, bodily changes, and how to navigate these awkward conversations. Buckle up, because we need to know how to stay cool, how to talk to our kids without pushing them away, and how to mentally prepare OURSELVES for this next phase of parenting. Connect with Cara and Vanessa: The Puberty Podcast IG: @spillingthepubertea Pre-order their book: This is So Awkward Shop their loungewear: @my.oomla --- Find me Caitlin Murray @bigtimeadulting The Big Time Adulting podcast is brought to you in part by a few of my favorite brands & affiliate partners: Knockaround Sunglasses (use code BIGTIMEADULTING for 15% OFF)  Perfect Bar  The best store in the world  The second best store   

Domestic burnout is real. When asked about the division of labor at home, moms always say they do more than their partners. When dads are asked the same question they say the work is shared equally. Why such a disconnect? Join Caitlin as she talks to Eve Rodsky, an expert in the gendered division of labor, to break down the invisible labor of motherhood. "Invisible labor" is all the work someone does that goes unseen or unacknowledged by others. As a graduate of Harvard Law, Eve Rodsky envisioned smashing the glass ceiling, solving the world's problems, and doing it all. But a decade into her ambitious professional career and with a couple of kids in tow, the only thing she was smashing were peas for her toddler. Eve's groundbreaking book Fairplay and documentary film by the same name have launched a movement to rebalance domestic life and make the invisible work of women visible. The path to relieving this burden starts by understanding invisible labor for what it is and then making little adjustments in your family system. So, if a to-do list is running through your mind at all hours and you feel you're carrying the mental/physical load of your family, then this episode is for you. Eve Rodsky: @everodsky  Explore the Fair Play movement and card game: www.fairplaylife.com --- Find me Caitlin Murray @bigtimeadulting The Big Time Adulting podcast is brought to you in part by a few of my favorite brands & affiliate partners: Knockaround Sunglasses (use code BIGTIMEADULTING for 15% OFF)  Perfect Bar  The best store in the world  The second best store 

Join in with Catherine Reitman, creator and star of the wildly popular and hilarious Netflix series Workin’ Moms. Catherine, a creative powerhouse and mom of two, just dropped the 7th and final season of her hit show. Catherine shares how her own complicated experience of motherhood led her to write the show, how it evolved through the years and became a cathartic process, and why it resonates with millions of women. Catherine opens up about her late father, the famed Hollywood director of iconic movies like Ghostbusters and Kindergarten Cop and also discusses her youngest son’s recent diagnosis of a rare and mysterious condition called PANDAS (Pediatric Autoimmune Neuropsychiatric Disorders Associated with Strep Throat). Catherine Reitman is a force of grit, generosity, warmth, and wit and we couldn't be more excited to share this special conversation with you. Keep in touch with us:  Caitlin Murray: @bigtimeadulting Catherine Reitman: @reitcatou  Workin’ Moms: @workinmomsnetflix Learn more about PANDAS disease at www.pandasnetwork.org --- Find me Caitlin Murray @bigtimeadulting The Big Time Adulting podcast is brought to you in part by a few of my favorite brands & affiliate partners: Knockaround Sunglasses (use code BIGTIMEADULTING for 15% OFF)  Perfect Bar  The best store in the world  The second best store 

Join Caitlin and her first celebrity guest Chelsea Handler as they talk about childhood, parenting styles, ambition, cultivating a strong sense of self, and how to raise cool kids. What we love about Chelsea Handler is how loud and proud she is in her beliefs - agree or disagree, and she is not afraid to speak up, which can be hard for women, even in this day and age. Her viral videos extolling the luxury of her freedom, solitude, adventure, pleasure, sleep, and carefree living are frankly, mom porn. We can’t get enough of it. We fell in love with Chelsea in 2004 on Girls Behaving Badly and watched her rise to fame on her late-night show Chelsea Lately. She’s published numerous bestsellers like the college cult classic, Are You There Vodka? It's Me, Chelsea.  Today, Chelsea is living the dream of performing stand-up on her nationwide Little Big Bitch tour while staying grounded and humbled on the ski slopes. In this fun and heartfelt interview, Chelsea reflects on her upbringing and how her mom and dad’s parenting shaped her. She discusses how her relationship with her mom strengthened after her death and still serves as a positive guiding force. She offers parents her take on how to raise cool and respectful kids and suggests resisting the temptation to lose your entire identity in parenthood because no one wants to hang out with someone who only talks about their kids. She kinda gets it, because for a long time, Chelsea’s identity and self-worth were wrapped up in her career and she thanks therapy for helping her cultivate a strong sense of self beyond her ambition. Follow along with us as Chelsea gives us the gift of a positive attitude! @chelseahandler See Chelsea Handler LIVE in a city near you on her Little Big Bitch Tour! --- Find me Caitlin Murray @bigtimeadulting The Big Time Adulting podcast is brought to you in part by a few of my favorite brands & affiliate partners: Knockaround Sunglasses (use code BIGTIMEADULTING for 15% OFF)  Perfect Bar  The best store in the world  The second best store 

In this special episode, Caitlin is interviewed by her podcast producer Cameron Mullenneaux! Caitlin kicks things off with a pep talk to empower us to trust our gut and define motherhood on our own terms. She shares her feelings about being a stay-at-home parent while building a new career and offers deep thoughts on how hard it is to be truly fulfilled in your role. She reflects on her son's illness, the ways it transformed her perspective on life, and how that dark time period inspired her to create Big Time Adulting. Caitlin also revisits her kid-free days, leading her college lacrosse team to victory like the boss that she is, and gallivanting around NYC with her now husband in pursuit of fun. Get the dirt on Caitlin in this relaxed and thought-provoking interview. --- Find me Caitlin Murray @bigtimeadulting The Big Time Adulting podcast is brought to you in part by a few of my favorite brands & affiliate partners: Knockaround Sunglasses (use code BIGTIMEADULTING for 15% OFF)  Perfect Bar  The best store in the world  The second best store 

Caitlin is joined by Becky Vieira, the hilarious woman behind @wittyotter and author of Enough About the Baby. Becky shares her scary journey through postpartum depression and how she found support. Join in as they discuss mental health, anxiety, rage, boredom, loneliness, and the woes of breastfeeding. She reminds listeners that putting our needs first isn’t selfish and that the whole motherhood martyrdom thing is on the outs. They laugh and cry and help us all breathe a collective sigh of relief.  Disclaimer: This episode contains conversations about depression and suicide. Take care of yourself. It's okay if you want to skip today's episode. Follow Becky @wittyotter Buy her book Enough About the Baby PPD support: Karen Kleiman @postpartumstress Postpartum Support International  --- Find me Caitlin Murray @bigtimeadulting The Big Time Adulting podcast is brought to you in part by a few of my favorite brands & affiliate partners: Knockaround Sunglasses (use code BIGTIMEADULTING for 15% OFF)  Perfect Bar  The best store in the world  The second best store 

Nicki and Caitlin take it deep in their usual fashion of no BS-laden truths on motherhood and life. Listen in as Caitlin questions Nicki on her experiences with miscarriage and infertility, divorce, and facing internet trolls as an "influencer." #blessed --- Find me Caitlin Murray @bigtimeadulting The Big Time Adulting podcast is brought to you in part by a few of my favorite brands & affiliate partners: Knockaround Sunglasses (use code BIGTIMEADULTING for 15% OFF)  Perfect Bar  The best store in the world  The second best store 

Hi Everyone, I’m Caitlin Murray, and this is Big Time Adulting the podcast! I’m a fouled-mouthed mother of three, and one of my kids is a cancer survivor. I am here to take it deep with you on parenthood, adulthood, womanhood, and whatever other things end in the hood that we can think of to discuss. Join in with me to feel deeply, provoke your inner spirit, and laugh until a little pee comes out. If you’ve been looking to find a podcast to relate to as a woman and a mom and appreciate someone keeping it really real, you will love Big Time Adulting

Today on the podcast we welcome actress, television host, author, and mom of two Tiffani Thiessen! After Caitlin shakes off being a little starstruck and Tiffani returns the admiration, they reflect on Tiffani's past as a teen idol and the many ways it impacted her life. They dive into her upbringing and how her family helped her stay humble and grounded amidst the Hollywood hustle. They discuss her love of cooking and how she came to pivot her career towards food. Tiffani recently came out with her 2nd cookbook, Here We Go Again, a love letter to her childhood, which is all about getting creative with leftovers!  @tiffanithiessen @bigtimeadulting The Big Time Adulting podcast is brought to you in part by a few of Caitlin's favorite brands & affiliate partners: Knockaround Sunglasses (use code BIGTIMEADULTING for 15% OFF)  Perfect Bar  The best store in the world  The second best store 

There’s no shortage of parenting advice today, and it can often feel overwhelming, causing us to second guess ourselves constantly. Today on the pod, we have clinical psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy, who needs no introduction because she was dubbed the “millennial parenting whisperer” by TIME magazine, and has sparked a parenting revolution. Dr. Becky believes that everything we need is already inside us and she wants to help us move from uncertainty and self-blame to confidence and sturdy leadership. Her brand, Good Inside, boasts a New York Times bestselling book, a podcast, and a massively successful membership community that offers millions of parents tools that focus on the "parent behind the parenting and the child behind the behavior." In this episode, Caitlin and Dr. Becky address the stress around back to school and how to handle anxious emotions, clinginess, and bullying. They also discuss how to approach different parenting styles, why the normal strategies and scripts don’t work on some kids, and how to repair after losing our shit and yelling at our kids. You don’t want to miss this dynamic conversation. And please check out Becky’s phenomenal TED talk about “the single most important parenting strategy.”   Follow Caitlin Murray @bigtimeadulting Becky's Ted Talk on Repair www.goodinside.com @drbeckyatgoodinside The Big Time Adulting podcast is brought to you in part by a few of Caitlin's favorite brands & affiliate partners: Knockaround Sunglasses (use code BIGTIMEADULTING for 15% OFF)  Perfect Bar  The best store in the world  The second best store 

Even though dads today are taking on more housework and childcare than in past generations, moms typically carry ALL the mental load for the family, a term referring to the cognitive logistics, worry, and decision-making involved in managing a household and family. The mental load can be described as an unending mental checklist that anticipates every need for the family and home. This might include strategizing meals, researching schools and the best eczema cream, remembering to schedule doctor's appointments, organizing calendars, managing the family's emotional needs, changing the bed sheets, signing Johnny up for soccer, remembering that the toilet paper is out, snacks are low, or whether you paid the babysitter last week, not to mention the endless worrying about your kids and if you're doing enough. This "invisible labor" often goes unnoticed by your partner. It's exhausting and no surprise we're dealing with an epidemic of burnout. Today’s guest, relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip, PhD, has helped hundreds of thousands of people worldwide learn how to form and maintain healthy relationships. Morgan knows what it feels like to lose yourself in motherhood, and she’s determined to help mothers navigate it better. In this episode, Caitlin and Morgan talk about why carrying the mental load leads to burnout, how to start expressing our needs, and why they hate the term self-care. If that's not enough to lead you in the right direction, Morgan just wrote a book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself. Follow Caitlin Murray @bigtimeadulting Connect with Dr. Morgan Cutlip: @drmorgancutlip Free Resources at www.drmorgancutlip.com including how to talk to your partner about the mental load Pre-order Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself  The Big Time Adulting podcast is brought to you in part by a few of Caitlin's favorite brands & affiliate partners: Knockaround Sunglasses (use code BIGTIMEADULTING for 15% OFF)  Perfect Bar  The best store in the world  The second best store 

Moms with young kids increased their alcohol consumption by nearly 325% during the pandemic according to a study by RTI International. The term "mommy wine culture" is used to describe moms drinking wine as a way to cope with parenting stresses. Caitlin welcomes professional chef, sommelier, and life coach Molly Zemek to the podcast to talk about the connection between parental stress and booze consumption. Molly shares her story of how over-drinking and over-eating led her down a painful path of ill health, dissatisfaction, and depression and how she changed her mindset and developed new skills to create a healthier relationship with alcohol WITHOUT taking the pleasure out of a good time. Caitlin and Molly talk about unique circumstances around motherhood that lead to habitual drinking, how you might develop a more moderate attitude to drinking, how over-drinking is connected to over-eating, and how to create a drink plan. This conversation is not about vilifying alcohol but will help you explore your relationship to booze in a more holistic way. Follow along with us: Molly Zemek @mollyzemek Caitlin Murray @bigtimeadulting The Big Time Adulting podcast is brought to you in part by a few of Caitlin's favorite brands & affiliate partners: Knockaround Sunglasses (use code BIGTIMEADULTING for 15% OFF)  Perfect Bar  The best store in the world  The second best store 

Perimenopause is top of mind. Hollywood is talking about it. Vaginal creams and supplements are being sold for it. But still, what the hell is going on? As we sail through midlife, how are our fluctuating hormones impacting our bodies and minds and what do we do about it? Dr. Shieva Ghofrany, an OBGYN and insta-glorious expert on all things women’s health, sits down with Caitlin to discuss the predictably unpredictable hormonal shifts of perimenopause. Actual menopause occurs, on average, around age 51 marked by a one year absence of a menstrual period. That means perimenopause is the 10-15 year lead up to menopause that begins somewhere between the late 30s and 40s. Symptoms may include: brain fog, mood swings, feelings of rage, weight gain, heavy periods, vaginal dryness, chin whiskers, lack of libido, insomnia, hot flashes, joint pain, and hair loss. Yay. Often occurring in conjunction with the deranged parenting years, this change in a woman’s life is sure to be miserable and magical, as Dr. Ghofrany puts it. She gives us hope by demystifying this confusing time, equipping listeners with the right questions to ask their doctors, and offering a myriad of treatment options. Maybe we can even embrace this naturally occurring life stage because growing older is a gift and we might as well indulge and enjoy it.  Follow Dr. Shieva Ghofrany @biglovefiercejuju and @tribecalledv Tribe Called V is a virtual women's health platform  ---   Caitlin Murray @bigtimeadulting The Big Time Adulting podcast is brought to you in part by a few of Caitlin's favorite brands & affiliate partners: Knockaround Sunglasses (use code BIGTIMEADULTING for 15% OFF)  Perfect Bar  The best store in the world  The second best store 

Today on the pod we are doing something a little different. Caitlin was recently a speaker at the MTHR Collective Retreat in Cape Cod with fellow IG sensation Nicki Marie. They sat on a panel to discuss the unique paradox of motherhood: love and rage. In this episode, Nicki and Caitlin reflect on the special weekend, how it felt to meet for the first time in person, and how they experience and view their own anger, rage, frustration, and burnout.   About MTHR Collective: An intersection between community and creativity, MTHR Collective is an inclusive, visionary space built for mothers to share, connect, and become stronger advocates for self-care in the realm of motherhood.   Nicki Marie @nickimarieinc Caitlin Murray @bigtimeadulting The Big Time Adulting podcast is brought to you in part by a few of Caitlin's favorite brands & affiliate partners: Knockaround Sunglasses (use code BIGTIMEADULTING for 15% OFF)  Perfect Bar  The best store in the world  The second best store     

Today, we have the luminous Nicole Sachs, an LCSW, speaker, writer, podcaster, and psychotherapist who has dedicated her work to the treatment of emotional and physical chronic pain. In this episode, Nicole shares her fascinating story of healing her own debilitating back pain through mind/body medicine inspired by Dr. John Sarno who encouraged her to journal about her repressed emotions. Nicole reflects on the watershed moment when she wrote the words, “I hate being a mother,” a proclamation that released an emotional pressure valve and helped her heal her pain and ultimately enriched her relationship with her kids. Through the lens of motherhood, Caitlin and Nicole talk about the link between emotions, anxiety, depression, and chronic pain, and how we can begin to free ourselves from their grips so that we can experience more connection and energy along our parenting journey.  Nicole has developed a process called JournalSpeak also known as “rage on the page,” a type of expressive writing therapy that rewires neural pathways that cause chronic symptoms. If your bullshit meter is going off, then lean into this episode even harder because Nicole is kind of amazing and certainly changed my preconceived notions about mind/body medicine.  Connect with Nicole Sachs: @nicolesachslcsw Visit www.thecureforchronicpain.com to learn more about JournalSpeak and to find Nicole's membership community, retreats, and on-demand courses: Freedom From Chronic Pain Freedom From an Anxious Life Listen to Caitlin on Nicole's podcast, Freedom From Chronic Pain: Finding Your Authentic Voice (and Humor) When Life is Hard with Caitlin Murray.  --- Find me Caitlin Murray @bigtimeadulting The Big Time Adulting podcast is brought to you in part by a few of my favorite brands & affiliate partners: Knockaround Sunglasses (use code BIGTIMEADULTING for 15% OFF)  Perfect Bar  The best store in the world  The second best store 

We are delighted to welcome author Elise Loehnen to the pod today. Elise is the former chief content officer of GOOP and the host of the podcast Pulling the Thread. She is here to talk about her new book On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good. The seven deadly sins are likely not on your radar, but they are subversively controlling and distorting women’s lives. They are pride, greed, lust, envy, gluttony, sloth, and anger, all qualities women deny within themselves in order to be “good.” Weaving together history, memoir, and cultural criticism, Elise’s groundbreaking book masterfully reports on this cultural phenomenon and inspires us to untether ourselves from the grip of patriarchy and societal expectations. In this episode, Caitlin and Elise share personal stories about the pressure they feel to over-function and over-compensate as women, the profound ratcheting up of anger and rage they experience in motherhood, how envy can serve as a motivator to discover secret wants and dreams, and the reason why pride is so uncomfortable to feel. We highly recommend grabbing a copy of Elise's book. It will crack you open and help you reclaim the things you sacrifice in order to be a "good" mother, wife, partner, friend, daughter, human.  Connect with Elise: @eliseloehnen Order her book On Our Best Behavior here: www.EliseLoehnen.com Follow me, Caitlin Murray @bigtimeadulting The Big Time Adulting podcast is brought to you in part by a few of my favorite brands & affiliate partners: Knockaround Sunglasses (use code BIGTIMEADULTING for 15% OFF)  Perfect Bar  The best store in the world  The second best store 

Join in our discussion as Caitlin and Aaron get gritty on all things relationship based, and how to keep your partnership in tact after kids. From the division of labor, living through exhaustion,  rediscovering intimacy, and not keeping score, we cover it all. You can find Aaron on Instagram @babyproofingyourrelationship --- Find me Caitlin Murray @bigtimeadulting The Big Time Adulting podcast is brought to you in part by a few of my favorite brands & affiliate partners: Knockaround Sunglasses (use code BIGTIMEADULTING for 15% OFF)  Perfect Bar  The best store in the world  The second best store 

In this episode, Erin Holt, The Funk'tional Nutritionist, chats with Caitlin about women's nutrition, not only as a function of food, but also about how both food and stress effect our bodies as women and how intertwined our hormonal and nutritional health are with each other. Join in to hear us going deep on the stresses of motherhood and how to best fuel our systems, including leaving room for joy.  --- Find me Caitlin Murray @bigtimeadulting The Big Time Adulting podcast is brought to you in part by a few of my favorite brands & affiliate partners: Knockaround Sunglasses (use code BIGTIMEADULTING for 15% OFF)  Perfect Bar  The best store in the world  The second best store 

In this episode Caitlin interviews health anxiety expert, Dr. Kirren Schnack about her longtime struggle with health anxiety. Dr. Kirren discusses the origins of health anxeity, the symptoms of health anxiety, the types of treatments used and tips for parenting our kids should your own or their own health anxiety be causing issues. Dr. Kirren has a fantastic social media presence with highly relateable content for sufferers of health anxiety. Listen in today to let the damn healing begin and find her on Instagram @drkirren

In this episode Caitlin speaks with her Irish friend, Laura Farrington, who worked with her when they were wild and free in their 20's in NYC. Since then they have both been through many changes, some horrific and some wonderful. Join them as Laura talks about the grief of losing both her parents, one to suicide and one to cancer, as a young adult and how her career change and journey through becoming a mother herself has helped heal her. Find Laura on social media @meditatewithlaura