Black Girls Heal

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we're diving into the world of love avoidance and how to navigate new relationships when you're healing from it. We'll talk about understanding intimacy disorders, recovering from those avoidant patterns, and how to communicate your needs in a healthy way.Whether you're just starting in your recovery, you're in a new relationship, or even in a long-term one, this episode is packed with tips to help you stay balanced and build stronger connections.In this episode, we cover…01:33 Understanding Love Avoidance02:30 The different archetypes of intimacy disorders 03:22 How to navigate love addiction and avoidance05:26 Practical tips for love avoidants10:12 Ways to share your life as a recovering love avoidant19:00 How to initiate compliments and kindness25:09 Why you should embrace vulnerabilityResources mentioned in the episode:Listen to Episode 258: What to Do When You Like Someone as a Love AddictReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into the intricacies of managing romantic relationships for those in recovery from love addiction. We discuss the importance of staying in touch with your body, practicing self-affirmation, and maintaining your own life and identity. These actionable tips are geared to help you stay balanced while developing healthy, secure connections. Whether you're in a new relationship or already partnered, these strategies will guide you towards emotional stability and personal growth.In this episode, we cover…01:08 Understanding love addiction02:22 Symptoms of love addiction04:07 Keys to staying balanced in relationships13:38 The importance of self-affirmation21:14 Why you should maintain your own lifeResources mentioned in the episode:Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

You know that feeling when things don't go as planned and you're left feeling disappointed? Yeah, we've all been there. This week on the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving deep into how to manage unrealistic expectations and fantasies in your relationships so you can avoid those heartbreaks.We're going to break down how to set realistic standards, the difference between your hopes and someone else's reality, and why putting people on pedestals is a one-way ticket to heartbreak. Tune in to learn how to keep your heart happy and your expectations in check.In this episode, we cover…03:32 Understanding why you have unrealistic expectations04:02 The impact of high expectations in relationships04:35 How to balance standards and emotional safety05:43 Why you should see people for who they are10:16 How to avoid the pedestal trap15:59 Breaking the cycle of unrealistic expectationsResources mentioned in the episode:Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal, we’re going to be talking about something really deep today: how what happened to us as kids can mess with our love lives BIG TIME. We're diving into childhood emotional neglect and how it can lead to those addictive relationships we sometimes find ourselves in.It's wild how many of us deal with the fallout from not feeling seen or heard as kids. It's like this sneaky little pattern that shows up in our adult lives, making us chase love in all the wrong places. We'll break down what emotional neglect actually looks like, how it sticks with us, and how it sparks addictive relationships.Don't worry! This episode isn't just about the problem. We're gonna talk about healing too. It's all about understanding where this stuff comes from so we can start breaking those unhealthy patterns and building the love we deserve.In this episode, we cover…00:17 What is childhood emotional neglect?01:47 The impact of childhood emotional neglect on relationships03:08 What is love addiction?03:32 Signs of emotional neglect in your life06:51 How to break the cycle of emotional neglect09:03 The connection between neglect and love addiction12:03 Steps to overcome love addiction24:00 Why you should heal with a communityResources mentioned in the episode:Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Sign up for the Healed and Loved Woman Retreat waitlist.Running On Empty by Jonice WebbCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I dive deep into the lessons I've learned over my 10 years of recovery from love addiction. This journey has been incredibly personal and transformative. Many of you have watched and supported me through it all—clients, friends, and those who know me through this podcast. I reflect on the challenges, the growth, and the relationships that have shaped me, culminating in a discussion inspired by a poignant poem that has guided me. Join me as I share my story, my insights as a therapist, and the lessons that have helped me build a stronger, healthier relationship with myself. Whether you're just starting your journey or have been here for a while, I hope my experiences resonate with you and offer inspiration for your own path to self-acceptance and self-love.In this episode, we cover…00:57 My journey of love addiction recovery02:09 The poem that changed everything03:37 My personal background and struggles with love addiction06:56 Lessons from my love addiction recovery journey13:08 The turning point in my love addiction recovery journey15:29 How I embraced self-love and independence39:03 Final reflections and takeawaysResources mentioned in the episode:Join our 90-Day No Contact Support Group to help you break your trauma bonded relationships, build a full life outside of the connection, heal related anxieties, and make space for healthy love.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive deep into financial codependency—a pattern where you feel obligated to support others financially, even to your own detriment. We explore its roots, how it manifests in various relationships, and the emotional toll it takes. You'll learn about practical steps to break free from this cycle, including a 90-day no-contact financial challenge to help reset your finances and reclaim your well-being. We also provide resources to support your journey, including workshops on money trauma and no-contact groups. Join us as we focus on reclaiming control, setting healthy boundaries, and prioritizing self-care in your financial life.In this episode, we cover…02:47 What does financial codependency mean?03:47 How to recognize financial codependency in relationships08:21 How to start breaking the cycle of financial codependency25:52 How to implement no-contact with financial codependency32:34 Practical steps for financial independence43:16 Resources to support your no-contact journeyResources mentioned in the episode:Join our 90-Day No Contact Support Group to help you break your trauma bonded relationships, build a full life outside of the connection, heal related anxieties, and make space for healthy love.Start healing the wounds that sabotage financial goals, increase fear and anxiety around money, and interrupt the ability to enjoy financial abundance and prosperity through the Money Rehab workshop.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I talk about the power of "no contact" as a tool to finally break free from toxic relationships.You know how it goes – you finally decide to walk away, but somehow, you end up back in contact with that person who just brings you down. It's frustrating, right? Well, here's the thing: most setbacks in our healing journeys happen because we keep connections with folks who are bad for us.In the episode, I'll walk you through four key steps to make no-contact work. We'll talk about the withdrawal symptoms you might experience, both physical and emotional (because yes, this can be a rollercoaster!). I'll also share tips on setting intentions for your no-contact period and how to cut off those lingering fantasies that hold you back.In this episode, we cover…00:58 What is No-Contact?02:45 Why you should take a 90-day break03:10 Four steps to no-contact03:47 Withdrawal symptoms you might experience16:20 What it looks like to cut off all contact21:17 How to cut off lingering fantasies29:26 Support resources to start your no-contact journeyResources mentioned in the episode:Join our 90-Day No Contact Support Group to help you break your trauma bonded relationships, build a full life outside of the connection, heal related anxieties, and make space for healthy love.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands Challenge.' This discussion is aimed at those caught in addictive or trauma-bonded relationships, whether romantic, familial, or friendships. We discuss topics like recognizing toxic relationships, the importance of breaking the cycle for self-healing, and the benefits of having a support system during this process. We also touch on the new 90-Day No Contact Support Group, offering 90-day support for those serious about cutting trauma bonds. Tune in to learn why you deserve fulfilling relationships and how to reclaim your power and joy.In this episode, we cover…01:05 The importance of no contact05:04 The Sit on Your Hands Challenge05:28 Who this episode is for and not for16:34 How to recognize avoidant behavior21:58 How to start making decisions from a place of wholeness23:13 Implementing the Sit on Your Hands Challenge24:06 Handling communication during the challenge25:08 Ways to focus on yourself and other relationships28:58 How to respond to their messages32:42 Ways to engage in self-care and hobbiesResources mentioned in the episode:Join our 90 Day No Contact Support Group to help you break your trauma bonded relationships, build a full life outside of the connection, heal related anxieties, and make space for healthy love.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Join our free Black Girls Heal Circle Community for access to:Inspiration and support regarding love addiction, love avoidance, healing trauma and improving your self esteemAccess to our free resource libraryConnect & build sisterhood with other women on their healing journey as wellClick here to join the new free Black Girls Heal Circle CommunityOur Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the challenging yet liberating process of surrender and letting go. We explore themes such as grieving, setting boundaries, and focusing on self-love, supported by a poignant poem 'Just Let Them' by Cassie Phillips. We also go into the three key takeaways: realizing you can't control others, being open to love and connection, and mastering the art of balanced surrender. Additionally, we introduce various support resources including the co-contact support group, love avoidance healing programs, and more. This episode is a heartfelt guide towards self-healing and embracing the goodness life offers.In this episode, we cover…01:00 Why surrendering and letting go are necessary02:32 Poem: Just Let Them by Cassie Phillips04:17 Reflections on the poem10:36 Takeaway 1: Realizing you can't control others16:52 Takeaway 2: Being available to let others in30:42 Takeaway 3: Why you must surrender36:44 Program announcementsResources mentioned in the episode:Pre-enroll in The Prosperous Podcaster and save $250 off. We start on July 2, 2024.Sign up for the Healed and Loved Woman Retreat waitlist.Join our 90-Day No Contact Support Group to help you break your trauma bonded relationships, build a full life outside of the connection, heal related anxieties, and make space for healthy love.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the crucial topic of feeling deserving and why it's essential for receiving the love you desire. We explore how internalizing negative beliefs and trauma can lead to feeling undeserving, even when we outwardly affirm our worth. You'll learn practical steps to identify the emotional 'weeds' that choke your growth, including energy-draining relationships and perfectionist tendencies. Additionally, we discuss the importance of self-love, self-compassion, and clearing stored trauma from your body. This episode aims to guide you through the first step of the four-step bloom method to help your relationships flourish, ensuring you are on the path to feeling truly deserving of love and happiness.In this episode, we cover…01:03 Understanding deservingness03:04 Identifying emotional weeds05:13 Clearing emotional blockages05:29 Identifying energy drains in your relationships09:43 How perfectionism plays a role in low self-worth22:39 Tools for healing27:24 Why you need to consider bodywork to heal traumaResources mentioned in the episode:Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Listen to Episode 248: Getting Out of the Negative in RelationshipsCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today’s episode, we get into the topic of the fear of being seen, exploring the underlying trauma that leads to avoidance behaviors and vulnerability in relationships. We discuss the common thoughts, actions, and patterns that arise when individuals struggle with feeling exposed and unworthy. Additionally, we address the impact of childhood trauma, emotional neglect, and exclusion on the development of these fears. Episode 249 also highlights the symptoms of low self-worth and how they manifest in perfectionism, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment. In this episode, we cover…04:04 Common patterns when you have a fear of being seen04:48 The risk of personal development07:55 Using perfectionism and people-pleasing as ways to exempt yourself from criticisms11:09 Self-abandonment as a means to hide yourself12:09 Making a list of things you're proud of about yourself13:16 Why being humble is actually quiet confidence14:47 Why you're afraid of people getting access to you15:45 The traumas that lead to fear of being seen21:08 How the fear of being seen manifests for love addicts25:04 How the fear of being seen manifests for love avoidants26:45 Disassociating to keep yourself safe31:28 How to work on your fear of being seenResources mentioned in the episode:Sign up for the Healed and Loved Woman Retreat waitlist.Listen to Episode 163: How Childhood Emotional Neglect Leads to Love AddictionReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, I discuss the importance of moving from negative relationship patterns to positive, healed, and love-filled connections. I also talk about the common pitfalls of remaining in negative relational spaces, the impacts of childhood emotional neglect, and the signs of low self-worth. You’ll get to know what it means to reach a baseline in emotional health and relationships and, ultimately, how to grow towards a healed and loved woman status. Listen to get actionable advice on stepping away from unhealthy relationships, identifying roadblocks, and embracing one's personal needs. In this episode, we cover…06:45 Why you operate in a deficit in relationships12:19 How childhood emotional neglect affects you and your relationships16:54 What it looks like to be in a relationship with a dominant and passive partner18:44 The risk that happens when you still don't get to the baseline of relationships22:12 Why you still struggle with low self-worth (even if you don't think that you are)25:50 Why you need to make yourself available for happiness31:13 The healed and loved woman standard for relationships32:40 What it looks like to be in the negative baseline in relationships33:44 What the baseline standard is for relationships40:06 Why you're encouraged to do healing work in a community41:09 Shena's personal story of healing in a community41:57 Why you need to share your story42:48 No contact as a healing agentResources mentioned in the episode:Join the FREE Recovery School Open House on Tuesday, June 18th at 6:30 PM CST. Register here.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Listen to Episode 239: Secret Narcissistic Lovebombing Techniques that You Need to KnowCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, let’s discuss the importance of recognizing and celebrating personal growth. Reflecting on past conversations with coaching students, I explore three key signs that show how much you've evolved: pausing before reacting even when hurt, becoming open to alternative viewpoints, and feeling and validating your emotions. Alongside these insights, we discuss the impact of sharing emotions with safe individuals and re-evaluating your social circle for healthier relationships. We have been very attuned to keep our focus on our shortcomings but rarely do we allow ourselves to celebrate the progress that we’ve been making in our inner work.Tune in to learn how to acknowledge your progress, appreciate your journey, and break unhealthy patterns for a better tomorrow.In this episode, we cover…02:49 The inspiration for this episode04:00 How labels from your past are keeping you stuck from growing05:16 Why you should give yourself credit for the progress you've made06:49 Why you need to pause before reacting09:15 Are you open to seeing alternative perspectives?10:21 A tool to use when you're triggered14:43 Example of seeing the alternative perspectives in dating16:41 Example of seeing the alternative perspectives in inner work18:38 Feeling your emotions and validating them20:15 Why people *don't care* about your emotions21:14 What to do when you don't have safe people around youResources mentioned in the episode:Listen to Episode 208: How to Make Adult Female Friendships with Danielle Bayard JacksonReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, I go over the 4 seasons of healing everyone will go through when healing from unresolved trauma and relationship issues.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.org Our Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, I review the first 3 steps to heal from love avoidance and the issues that get in the way.Click here to download the free roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgOur Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, I talk about 4 examples of emotional abuse that may set us up to be vulnerable to love addicted and love avoidant relationships.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.org Our Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

As a love addict, it can be easy to slip into pushing away the love we want by holding on a little bit too tightly.In this episode, I review 3 ways that love addicts accidentally sabotage their relationships.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgOur Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This episode for anyone who is experiencing or has experienced a friendship breakup that has been hard to recover from. I hope these 7 tips help you move forward and find friendships that help you feel fulfilled and whole.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.org Our Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

If you've gone through heartbreak and are feeling jaded or "over" love, in this episode I go over 3 ways for you to work through your jadedness to give love a chance again when you're ready.Click here to join the free masterclassReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgOur Sponsors:* Check out ByHeart and use my code BGH for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out OSEA and use my code BGH for a great deal: oseamalibu.com* Check out Sunbasket: sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.com* Check out eHarmony: www.eharmony.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy