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Parenting is hard, but it's even harder when you feel alone and have only the sounds of Cocomelon to keep you company. Betches Media’s Childproof is a parenting chat show for when you’re craving adult conversation. As parents to three kids each, co-hosts Gwenna Laithland and Tori Phantom have been there. They know that sometimes our kids are the ones on the verge of a tantrum, and that sometimes it’s us. Childproof attempts to figure out the dos, don’ts, and f*ck its of modern parenthood. From yelling at your kids (we’ve all done it) to finding a sleep schedule that doesn’t ruin your life, Gwenna and Tori share the challenges they’ve faced and the lessons they’ve learned, and are eager to share their experiences through a mix of one-on-one conversations, guest appearances, and input from listeners revealing their own parenting secrets. Clearly, we could use some help from everyone and their mother.

65 Episodes
In this second episode of Ages and Stages, Gwenna and Tori discuss the unique challenges and experiences of parenting children in the pre-K to third grade age range. They talk about the importance of setting boundaries with screens, teaching children to be bored and creative, navigating conflicts and emotions, and the random rules and commands that come with this age. They share their experiences and insights on a child's development of personalities, interests, and friendships. They also touch on the milestone of starting school and the emotions that come with it. The conversation also delves into the topic of screen time and the challenges parents face in managing it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Welcome to our first Ages and Stages episode. This week, Tori and Gwenna walk through the early years. They emphasize trusting your instincts, prioritizing sleep, and realizing that disposable products can be self care. They discuss letting go of worries, balancing challenges, and dealing with regressions, while also stressing the importance of keeping and creating memories. They share their stories and advice on scrapbooking, gentle parenting, and the significance of repetition and communication in parenting toddlers (even though you hate it). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
If you don't listen to this episode, I'm telling Mom! This week, Tori and Gwenna discuss the dynamics of sibling relationships, sharing their own experiences and how they navigate conflicts and foster strong bonds. They emphasize the importance of boundaries, autonomy, and communication, addressing issues like tattling, sibling competition, and comparison. They encourage fostering positive sibling relationships and teaching children to be gracious winners and losers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Why Is Her Butt So Big?

Why Is Her Butt So Big?


Kids say the darnedest things. In this episode, Tori and Gwenna discuss how to handle kids saying mean sh*t. They emphasize teaching children about social norms, empathy, and the impact of their words. They also stress the importance of teaching intent versus impact and navigating sarcasm and phrases like "no offense" and "just kidding." To close they read off some listener emails about childhood memories and Furby nightmares. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Let Your Kids Get Hurt

Let Your Kids Get Hurt


Bring out the feelings wheel! In this episode, Gwenna and Tori emphasize the importance of allowing children to experience and express their emotions. They share practical tools like the ‘feelings wheel’ and ‘catastrophe scale’ to help children regulate their emotions, and discuss the role of boundaries, including the necessity of making children mad to enforce them. They share their own experiences, highlighting the need for parents to model emotional intelligence, repair mistakes, and distinguish between big feelings and trauma. The Feelings Wheel: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
This will definitely be a core memory. In this episode, Gwenna and Tori discuss their issues with the movie Inside Out and how it introduced 'core memories' into society. They share how comparing themselves to their own highlight reels is a common occurrence among parents, but even their bloopers aren't as bad as they think. The duo swap core memory stories from both their past as well as ones they have unintentionally given their kids. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Summer has begun! In this episode, Gwenna and Tori share their excitement and challenges of the summer season, including the chaos of end-of-school-year activities and the need for balance between structured activities and free time. They share their summer bucket list activities like learning to swim, digging a hole, and going to the library. They close with listing off the wacky rules their families have to implement during summer vacation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
I think it's time we have "The Talk". Tori and Gwenna are joined by Rachel Coller Mulholland, a nationally certified counselor and author of 'The Birds, The Bees and The Elephant in the Room,' to discuss the importance of having tough conversations with kids about sex and other sensitive topics. Rachel provides advice for parents feeling shame or discomfort around these conversations and emphasizes comprehensive sex education. The book is divided by age appropriateness and covers topics like body awareness, puberty, consent, and healthy relationships, offering a framework for discussing sensitive topics and building trust. Pre-Order 'The Birds, The Bees and The Elephant in the Room': Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Don’t be nervous! This week, Gwenna and Tori are joined by Philippa Soo and Maris Pasquale Doran to discuss their children's book 'Piper Chen Sings' and the inspiration behind it. They talk about the importance of kids acknowledging and navigating through their bigger emotions like stage fright. The book aims to empower children to embrace their feelings and find their voice. To close out, Gwenna and Tori play a game of Dry Side or Wet Side, brought to you by Splash Refresher. Do you look at the dry side or wet side of life? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
As Childproof’s first birthday approaches, Gwenna and Tori are thrilled to bring you a special mailbag episode. Listeners have submitted questions about managing the never ending energy of a two year old to supporting their kids through divorce, and even teaching boundaries with preteens. Plus, they’re back again with a game of Dry Side or Wet Side, brought to you by Splash Refresher. Do you look at the dry side or wet side of life? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Why Fight The Robots?

Why Fight The Robots?


What’s your biggest pet peeve? This week, Gwenna and Tori are here to rant. The duo vents about everyday parental frustrations and pet peeves from Kidz Bop to Frozen karaoke, and even self-flushing toilets. What do all of these have in common? The robot revolution. To close out, they are back with another round of Dry Side or Wet Side, brought to you by Splash Refresher. Do you look at the dry side or wet side of a problem? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
The simple solution is… you should listen to this episode. This week, Tori and Gwenna discuss the challenges of parenting and finding those simple solutions. They introduce us to the lesson of Occam’s razor, which states that the simplest answer is often the best solution. Drawing from personal experiences, they share their own stories from navigating online information overload, teaching children the art of drinking from a glass, and managing one’s emotions. With each story, they hammer home how the best results always came from the simplest solutions. To close out, Gwenna challenges Tori to a game of Dry Side or Wet Side, brought to you by Splash Refresher. Do you look at the dry side, or wet side of a problem? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
We Look With Our Eyes

We Look With Our Eyes


Sharing is caring... well, sometimes. This week, Tori returns, and the dynamic duo dives into the topic of sharing. They explore the nuances of sharing, whether it's about food, toys, or even navigating the grocery store aisles. With tips, tricks, and sayings, they reflect on their experiences in guiding their children through interactions with others. As they say, "We look with our eyes, not with our hands," imparting a valuable lesson on the importance of respecting boundaries and fostering cooperation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
This week, Gwenna is joined by Dr. Sujay Kansagra, pediatric neurologist and director of the pediatric neurology sleep medicine program at Duke Health. The duo dives into the intricacies of sleep training, discovering its true meaning, and its unique application within each family dynamic. They also explore the complexities of sleep cycles, circadian rhythms, and the surprising impact a mere 5-minute nap can have. Wrapping up, they offer insights into effectively communicating with your pediatrician when your child is experiencing sleep difficulties. Get Dr. Kansagra's Book: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Lower Your Expectations

Lower Your Expectations


Let's let go, together. This week, Gwenna and Tori dive into the art of lowering expectations, both for themselves and their children. They kick off their discussion with school, acknowledging the struggle surrounding grades as a significant aspect of expectations. While recognizing that grades aren't the sole measure of a child's worth, they can give parents a peek into a kids holistic wellbeing. Transitioning into extracurricular activities, they share their experiences of striving to provide their children with diverse opportunities while also learning the importance of establishing healthy boundaries. Amidst the whirlwind of daily life, they discovered the necessity of showing themselves grace, particularly during meal times, recognizing that ensuring their children are nourished and content is what's important. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
This week, Gwenna and Tori find themselves halfway through spring break and already found themselves in the pit of the avocado (IYKYK). They share stories about supporting their children in preparing for emergencies, fostering their interests, and handling anger. This episode is just as jam-packed as your "week off," so be sure to tune in. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Kid Spaces And Stuff

Kid Spaces And Stuff


Okay, I'm going to need some space. In this episode, Gwenna and Tori delve into the topic of spaces within their homes. From shared living areas to designated play zones, the duo discusses the dynamics of family spaces. They explore the intricacies chore systems with their children, highlighting tips and tricks of finding organizational methods that suit each child's temperament. Wrapping up, they reflect on the importance of aesthetics in their homes, sharing insights into the specific aesthetic styles they resonate with and how they manage to maintain them as well as their kids's. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Today, Gwenna and Tori are thrilled to welcome Megan McNamee, one of the minds behind the Instagram account @feedinglittles. Recognizing the profound impact that Megan's platform has had on their own approaches to navigating the realm of food with their children, they eagerly invite her to delve deeper into the topic. The discussion starts with the myth surrounding "picky eaters" and the importance of respecting children's individual preferences. From there, the trio delves into practical strategies and tools aimed at enriching children's dining experiences, while also addressing the perennial question of when to introduce dessert into the equation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
This week's episode is a special dedication to our very own TikTok sensation, Gwenna. Her recently released book, "Momma Cusses: A Field Guide to Responsive Parenting & Trying Not to Be the Reason Your Kid Needs Therapy," is now available, and we're thrilled to get a glimpse behind the curtain. Tori asks Gwenna to delve into her journey, starting from the moment she realized her passion for writing, to her audience, and the significant role her family played in the writing process. Order Gwenna's Book: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Congratulations, you've reached your podcast listening milestone. In this episode, Gwenna and Tori dive into the long list of developmental milestones that your kids are expected to meet. They offer reassurance to listeners, acknowledging the immense pressure felt by parents and emphasizing that you don't need to feel guilty if your children deviate from the list. However, they recount their own encounters with detecting early signs of developmental delays, shedding light on potential implications. CDC’s Developmental Milestones: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Comments (9)

Beka Schaub

4 yo sleep sack would be a sleeping bag. lol

Apr 24th

Afra Tanzeem


Jan 29th

Makayla Moccabee

I agree with this. I use totes. we have 6 kids & 2 adults in a tiny home. dressers are not a thing. Laundry is hard enough & someone one time said hey I use a tote system & I've never looked back each person has a tote for their clothes & a laundry basket above the washer and dryer for their clean clothes. I fill them up all week and on Sundays I hand them to the kids and they dump them back in the tote & give them back. it's amazing.

Jun 22nd

Samantha Crawford

I love Monopoly!!! I can play all day me and Abby would get along 😆

May 17th

Rachel Cole

Sooo thankful this is on Castbox! I can't wait to listen.

May 4th

Megan Rausch

I love you two!! Thank you for all the responsive-parenting advice, cannot wait for all these episodes!

May 3rd

Sabrina Boswell

I LOVE THEIR YOUTUBE VIDEOS. Watch some. I dare y'all.

May 1st

Oscar Wilson

so excited for this!!!

Apr 26th
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