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“How do I become part of this child’s life, without alienating the father, but still in the sense we need to become a family?” Eric Naaman on DADicated.com Eric Naaman, who grew up in war-torn Lebanon, is a leading entrepreneur, and loving stepdad to 12 year old Francois. He studied in the US, and is a successful entrepreneur now living in Canada. In the session Eric shares about his upbringing in Lebanon, resilient family units, the unique role of a step-dad, and how to build a relationship with a child that’s not your own. Eric shares how he has approached discipline and influence, when to take a step back, and his relationship with Frank’s father. He has amazing insights into how to turn a difficult situation into something very positive. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were: As a step-dad don’t try to replace or disparage the father; never take away glory from him Be supportive of all your child’s endeavours I should always be working at the relationship with my wife and kids. Ask them about their dreams, share yours. “Embrace our separate journeys. These journeys are at the root of our individuality but sharing in them is the cornerstone of life as a family.” Eric Naaman on DADicated.com Visit www.dadicated.com to book Philipp as a keynote speaker on “Empowering Dads & Facilitating Family Success”. GUEST (guest): Eric Naaman LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/eric-naaman-b446937 Website: https://www.damotech.com/ Links: Article mentioned: https://time.com/5899546/family-structures/ Philipp Hartmann (host): Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“The best advice I can give myself as a dad is to spend one-on-one quality time with each son,” Hao Lam on DADicated.com Hao Lam’s story as a dad is powerful and super inspirational. Hao Lam is a refugee and dad of two sons (23 AND 20) from Vietnam, now living in Seattle. He has been married to his wife Lisa, for 27 years. As a youngster Hao spent 12 years trying to escape Vietnam, was a street kid and refused formal education from the country that held his dad as a prisoner of war. He eventually made his way to Canada, managed to graduate from High School and College and went on to create Best in Class Education Center, which is now one of the largest education franchises in the US. In the session we discuss Hao’s journey, his upbringing and escapes from Vietnam to becoming an entrepreneur. Hao shares openly about fatherhood during hardship, his mistakes, his regrets and his learnings as a father. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were: If I’m not going to die, it’s probably not such a big deal. Am I treating my parents as well as I am treating my children? The more you push your children, the less they will want to come. Always tell your children that you love them & do make time for them. To book Philipp as a keynote speaker on “Empowering Dads & Facilitating Family Success” visit www.dadicated.com or reach out via LinkedIn. “Our children see us and copy us. Being a dad, we are our children’s model. They look up to us. I want my children to persevere, be resilient, and not be afraid of failure.” Hao Lam on DADicated.com GUEST (guest): LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/haolam/ Website: https://www.bestinclasseducation.com/ Twitter: BestInClassEdu Email: hao@bestinclasseducationcenter.com Books: "From Bad to Worse to Best in Class: A Refugee's Success Story." by Hao Lam https://books.google.co.za/books/about/From_Bad_to_Worse_to_Best_in_Class.html?id=t4hktgEACAAJ&source=kp_book_description&redir_esc=y Philipp Hartmann (host): Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“The best advice I can give myself as a dad is finding as many different reference points to emulate becoming a better dad.” Don Britton on DADicated.com Don Britton (2 daughters, 1 & 5) is an amazing entrepreneur with a wealth of life experience who recently sold his company in a quest to spend more time with his family. Don grew up without his dad. He shares about his mother’s sacrifices and why (pre-kids) family seemed to be a competitive disadvantage. We discuss entrepreneur-dad challenges, family-positive workplaces, family values and mentorship for dads. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were: Have frank conversations with your kids about difficult topics. Never leave a question unanswered. Teach your children the value of work and that things in life don’t come for free. Don is an adventurous guy with a wealth of life experience, I do hope you’ll enjoy the session! If you do, hit subscribe and share the podcast with another dad or to. Thanks for listening! Don Britton (guest): Don’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/donbritton/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/don_britton Books: Simple Numbers: https://www.amazon.com/Simple-Numbers-Straight-Talk-Profits/dp/1608320561 Leap of Reason: Managing to Outcomes In an Era of Scarcity https://www.amazon.com/s?k=9780983492009&i=stripbooks&linkCode=qs King Me: What Every Son Wants and Needs from His Father https://www.amazon.com/King-Me-Every-Wants-Father/dp/0802433197 Links: https://www.cashflowstory.com/ https://www.rebelgirls.com/pages/podcast Philipp Hartmann (host): Philipp’s Website: www.philipp-hartmann.de Philipp’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 Podcast webpage: www.DADicated.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“Stay humble and accept the humility that comes as a parent. There is so much we want to do for our children and there is so much we try to do, and in the end, they have their lives that they will lead and there is only so much we can do.”  Mark Cronin, on DADicated.com Mark lives in Long Island and has been married for 38 years. He has 3 boys, Patrick (29), James (26), and John (24), who has down syndrome. Mark and John are the co-founders of John’s Crazy Socks, which was John’s idea. They sell crazy socks and employ dozens of employees with special needs. Their mission? To spread happiness! The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were: I truly found Mark inspiring because he is humble and real. Be positive, no matter what. I’ll think twice before I “soften” things for my kids who might struggle with something. If your children tell you they want something, be sure they understand what it takes to achieve it “You want to set goals that people have to reach to attain. If they’re too easy, it is uninteresting, and if it is too far out there, you're going to quit, but if they make you stretch, and get outside your comfort zone and reach for something, that is the sweet spot, for all of us and for our kids.” Mark Cronin on DADicated.com GUEST (guest): Mark Cronin on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mxcronin/ JohnsCrazySocks: https://johnscrazysocks.com/ JohnsCrazySocks on Twitter: https://twitter.com/JohnsCrazySocks Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/johnscrazysocks/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johnscrazysocks/ Links: Hope Story: https://hopestory.org/ Brittany's Baskets of Hope: https://www.brittanysbasketsofhope.org Special Fathers Network: https://21stcenturydads.org/about-the-special-fathers-network/ Philipp Hartmann (host): Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 #dads #downsyndrome #family #crazysocks #fatherhood #specialneedsdads #specialneedsfamily --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“The solutions will be simple, but the process is anything but.” Jeff Neufeld on DADicated.com Jeff Neufeld lives in Calgary, Canada, with his wife and 3 children who are 8, 5 and 1.5 years of age. Jeff once was a successful concert pianist performing in Europe and North America and now is the owner of a leading manufacturing company and an industrial racking company. In this session, Jeff shares openly about the impact alcohol had on his life and family-life, what changes he made and the benefits gained. Furthermore Jeff opens up about the hardest and best things he has done for himself and his family as a dad and how he allocates the 168 hours we all are gifted with every week. We discuss what it was like for him becoming a dad and how he learned to balance a blended life of work and family. He also talks about having to challenge parenting gender roles and shares amazing insights into the importance of seeking mentorship, not only in business, but in life and parenting. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were: When you are not feeling connected, look at how you are spending your time. Humility makes you a better father. I don’t have to have all the answers as a dad. “I don’t have to have all the answers and be everything to my children. What has changed is I view my role with my kids to teach them respect for themselves and others and imbue in them a sense of joy and awe and marvel astonishment about the world. That’s it. If I can do that, I think they will have pretty good lives!” Jeff Neufeld on DADicated.com GUEST (Jeff Neufeld): LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/jeffreyneufeld Books: Why We Sleep, by Matthew Walker https://www.amazon.com/Why-We-Sleep-Unlocking-Dreams/dp/1501144316 Philipp Hartmann (host): Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“I am 100% responsible for how I choose to walk through the door at the end of a day and parent my kids.” Craig Rodney, on DADicated.com Craig Rodney sold his agency and committed himself to being a full-time dad. He’s the primary parent to his boys (4 & 6), a situation which challenges the parenting narrative of our society. We talk co-parenting after divorce, why it’s easier to be a dad (than a mom), dad-efficiency-hacks, picking battles and the concept of perceived “selfishness” vs “self-first”. Craig is very funny and the session was super fun, enjoy & thanks for listening! The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were: Being responsible for your children is not the same as being responsible to your children. Consequences only feel like a punishment to your kids if you do not explain them upfront. I’ll make sure I am in alignment with my wife around parenting issues. GUEST (Craig Rodney): LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/craigrodney Twitter: https://twitter.com/craigrodney Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/craigrodney Philipp Hartmann (host): Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“Do not take anything for granted and you will change the way that you live every day of your life.” Bruno Monteferri on DADicated.com Bruno Monteferri (37) is from Peru, married to Christel. Together they have a 2 year old daughter. Bruno is an impressive changemaker, conservationist, lobbyist, filmmaker and environmental lawyer. Talking to Bruno was like talking to a brother. We talk about big waves, family culture in Peru, our experiences during the birth of our children, Bruno’s conservation work and stories of his own upbringing. Bruno is an Ashoka Fellow and has a Master in Philosophy in Conservation Leadership. He has published several books and has directed over 50 short videos including the award-winning documentary “A la Mar”. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Decide which of my acquired values I’d like to carry on with in my own family Make sure my kids experience nature as much as possible It is important to have a purpose and to follow your heart Some of you know this already: I initiated a fundraiser called togetherforcapetown.com during lockdown here in South Africa. We aim to raise enough funds for 3.000.000 meals for kids in Cape Town’s townships before the year is out. If you haven’t yet, please do get involved and donate at togetherforcapetown.com. Thank you. Alright, without any further adu, here is Bruno, please enjoy and thanks for listening! Bruno Monteferri: Listen to Bruno on the Oceanriders Podcast: https://medium.com/@theoceanriderspodcast/meet-bruno-monteferri-big-waverider-filmmaker-and-environmental-lawyer-5e2eed79cc83 Conservamos por Naturaleza : http://www.conservamospornaturaleza.org/ Haz la por tu Ola : https://hazlaportuola.pe to support the funding of technical studies that complete the wave protection procedure. A La Mar, documentary : http://www.alamar.pe/ Totnes: UK transition town leading the way in terms sustainability and circular economy : https://www.transitiontowntotnes.org/ E.O Wilson “The Diversity of Life” : https://www.amazon.co.uk/Diversity-Life-Penguin-Press-Science/dp/014029161X Bruno on Ashoka: https://www.ashoka.org/en-za/fellow/bruno-monteferri  Books mentioned: Ethica par Amador (Ethics for Amador) by Savater https://www.amazon.com/Amador-Addresses-Questions-Ethics-That-Freedom/dp/0805047654 Philipp Hartmann (host): Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

Don Lamont lost his first wife to breast cancer when his youngest daughter was four years of age. Don is an amazing serial entrepreneur and a wise family leader. He is 59 today and married to his second wife Ronda. In the session Don tells us how he managed to deal with the pressure of losing his wife and bringing up his daughters together with truly inspirational learnings he made along the way. I learned a lot from his shares. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Vet your kids’ friends. Do not focus on your mistakes. Don’t ever feel sorry for yourself. Be careful with your words: Things you say will haunt you. Find something you and your child both love and do that together to gain an opening into her life. Have frank conversations with your girls and teach them how men think. “When you think they are too young to hear something, they are probably not.” Don Lamont on DADicated.com GUEST (guest): LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/don-lamont-29a8004b/ Books: “Raising Daughters” by Steve Biddulph Philipp Hartmann (host): Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 “Lead when you don’t know how.” Don Lamont on DADicated.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“To a child the word LOVE is spelled T-I-M-E.” Michel Kripalani on DADicated.com This session is one of my favourites and it’s very powerful. Michel Kripalani is the President & CEO of Oceanhouse Media, an app development company, ranked by Inc 500 as one the Fastest Growing Private Companies in 2013. Michel also founded a virtual reality, augmented reality and mixed reality company. He serves in EO as a regional chair and is a recognised coach in the Marshall Goldsmith 100 group. Michel is in his early 50s, he is married to Karen and has two daughters. In July 2011, his daughters were one and two, Michel’s wife was diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor - a turning point in their life. In the session Michel shares his learnings from dealing with the brain tumor and how it strengthened and shapes his family. We discuss his own dad, intentionality and legacy; empowering and educating children and why the tumor came as a gift to them.. Michel has five family values which guide all their decisions: these are: “Family and others first”, “Choose extraordinary”, “Leave breadcrumbs”, “Healthy living” and “Gratitude”. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: “Live as if you’re dying.” "Shredd the ego." I have a responsibility to take care of my health towards my family. You can tell someone's priority by where they spend their time. Easiest value rule for all: if everyone in the world knew I am doing this right now, would I feel comfortable to still do this? If not, don’t do it. “It is so easy in life to live small. Always be asking yourself: am I living a big enough life right now?” Michel Kripalani on DADicated.com Michel Kripalani (guest): Twitter: https://twitter.com/mkripalani Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelkripalani/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelkripalani/ Email: mk@omapp.com Web: www.MichelKripalani.com Marshall Goldsmith 100 group: https://www.marshallgoldsmith.com/Welcome Philipp Hartmann (host): Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“My best advice to myself as a dad is to realise how valuable I am to my children and how much my presence is needed in their lives and just be present and engaged.” Craig Wilkinson on DADicated.com Craig Wilkinson from South Africa is a powerful dad who has truly applied himself to his cause of being a dad and empowering other fathers. Craig has two kids (24 and 26), is a bestselling author, award winning social entrepreneur, sought after inspirational speaker and calls himself and is the “Dad Coach”. He is passionate about equipping men to be great fathers and leaders. Craig is the founder of Father a Nation (FAN), an NPO which restores men to true masculinity and authentic fatherhood. He believes that if we can heal men we can heal the world. Craig shares his own journey as a dad and his parenting views. We discuss his divorce, what is means to be a man in todays world and how we can empower our sons and daugthers. Craig explains how woundedness manifests in children when there is no father figure around, we talk about Craig’s work sibling-led families in the townships, what surrogate fathers are and our own impact as men on other men around us. “It’s much easier to bring up a healthy child than to heal a broken adult.” Craig Wilkinson on DADicated.com The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Pursue your daughters heart and set the standard this way. Make sure your sons know they are real men and have what it takes. Constant communication is key. The four lies of masculinity are sex, power, money and big boys don’t cry As a male use the strength you were given well. It’s about serving. “Sometimes the poorest man leaves behind the most valuable legacy because it’s not what you leave behind for someone but all about what you leave in someone.” Craig Wilkinson on DADicated.com Craig Wilkinson (guest): Craig on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craig-wilkinson Craig’s Website: http://craigwilkinson.co.za/ Dad Coach: https://dadcoachonline.com/ Craig on Twitter: https://twitter.com/dadcoach Craig’s facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DadCoachCraig Books: Craig’s book: http://thedadbook.co.za/ Raising Boys (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/204098.Raising_Boys) by Steve Biddulph The Boy Crisis (https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/34196216-the-boy-crisis) by Dr. Warren Farrel Philipp Hartmann (host): Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

Arel Moodie is a Jewish person of colour (white mom and a black dad) who grew up in the projects in New York witnessing gang violence and fatherlessness all around him. Arel has built a million-dollar company and made Inc. Magazine’s “30 under 30” list. President Obama has personally acknowledged him for his work. Arel has two boys (7 and 5). Arel shares his own racial identities and personal identity struggles and how this has shaped him as a dad. We also discuss learnings from his dad, leaving behind our own trauma in parenting, effort and excellence, how Arel empowers his children, how to deal with bullying and preparing kids for a racial divide. Arel talks about playful parenting, owning emotions, non-actions, the importance of language, bonding and the power of routines. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: If nothing else, you can control effort Seperate your own trauma from your parenting Teach in peaceful moments. Do roughhousing dads! Appreciation dinner rounds with the family - I love this! Maybe the most valuable learning: mom first, kids second. Don’t become two adults who are merely co-living and co-parenting. If you love this session, please share it. Thank you and enjoy this episode with Arel Moodie. Arel Moodie (guest): Arel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/arelmoodie/ Arel’s Website: https://arelmoodie.com/ Arel on Twitter: https://twitter.com/arelmoodie Arel’s facebook: https://www.facebook.com/arelmoodie Books: Arel co-wrote a book on how to stop tantrums and meltdowns with his wife The Peculiar Purple Penguin (http://purplepenguinbook.com) “The Art of Likability” by Arel Moodie: https://www.artoflikability.com/ Philipp Hartmann (host): Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“By profession I am a dental surgeon by profession I am a mental surgeon.” Suhail Jouaneh on DADicated.com Dr. Suhail Jouaneh is a leader, coach and businessman from Amman in Jordan. He is a business facilitator and executive coach having organized thousands of workshops and trained more than 20,000 people from over forty countries. Suhail is well spoken, very witty and positive and the session is fun and very interesting. Suhail is married to his wife Abeer and has two daughters Elisabeth 21, Christina 14. Suhail is Christian in a country where 98% of the population is muslim. He spent seven years in France during his studies and so I was very interested to hear his perspective as a “Arab Dad” with a Western understanding and mindset. Suhail did not disappoint. In the session Suhail shares his own journey as a father; we discuss his family principles and values, Suhail contrasts Western family culture and Jordanian family customs, the role of daughters in Jordan and “Arab Dads” as Suhail coins it. Suhail explains how he empowers his daughters in a country where arranged marriage still exists and sons are often preferred over daughters. He also tells us how he applies his coaching techniques to family. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Investing in the relationship early is so important. Where required, talk to your daughters in the role of a male, not just as a dad. Don’t be distant or harsh, especially with your wife and daughters. Always be watchful and amend mistakes instantly. “Whenever our daughters lie, they admit that they lie. They don’t know how to lie.”  Suhail Jouaneh on DADicated.com If you love this session, please share it. Thank you and enjoy this session with Suhail. Suhail Jouaneh (guest): Suhail’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suhailjouaneh Philipp Hartmann (host): Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“How is the most important job the one we have the least information for?” Richard Mulholland on DADicated.com Richard Mulholland, an amazing entrepreneur, storyteller, insanely creative and of course a very interesting Dad. I love Richard. He is funny, intriguing and smart and his will to self-optimise is astonishing. I truly enjoyed listening to Richard’s perspective on being a dad. Richard is the founder of presentation powerhouse Missing Link, as well as the co-founder of 21Tanks, HumanWrit.es and The Sales Department. He has written three books; Legacide, Boredom Slayer, and Story Seller. He was voted top 40 under 40, and top 300 South Africans to take to lunch. Mostly though he's a husband, father, son, brother, and uncle. Richard has spoken in over 30 countries on six continents and works with executives and speakers around the world, helping them deliver unforgettable presentations that activate audiences and generate income. Richard is 45, he is married to Jess and has two children from his first marriage. His son Callum who is 17 and his daughter Bailey who is 12. Second marriage now 8 years. In the session Richard shares his own journey and how ultimately his divorce helped him to become an involved and passionate dad, how he realised he needs to stop lying to himself and stop prioritising work over family. We discuss his time as a single dad and his family setting after he remarried. We talk about his own dad, the role of step-parents in the parenting eco-system, how we can help fathers owning being a dad and Richard’s life hacks and family systems. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: If you want the year to be successful remember this: a day becomes a week, a week becomes a month, a month becomes a year. Bingo. I will start a “to-do-better-list; the one thing you could have done better yesterday. Moving forward is not the same as moving toward. Becoming a better dad and husband must be an intentional pursuit. My children did not enter a family structure, they created it. Kids don’t want more, they just want us more... in the house. Richard Mulholland (guest): All of Richard’s websites: www.getrich.af Books: “Microtrends: The Small Forces Behind Tomorrow's Big Changes” by Mark J. Penn, E. Kinney Zalesne: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1556580.Microtrends “Acta Non Verba” by Erik Kruger: https://books.google.co.za/books/about/Acta_Non_Verba.html?id=8sXnDwAAQBAJ&source=kp_book_description&redir_esc=y “A Calendar of Wisdom” by Leo Tolstoy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Calendar_of_Wisdom “The Boy Crisis” by Dr. Warren Farrel Legacide by Richard Mulholland: http://www.legacide.com/ Boredom Slayer by Richard Mulholland: https://msnglnk.com/boredom-slayer/ Story Seller by Richard Mulholland: https://storyseller.co.za/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

"If you avoid pain you’re not inoculated for when hard things happen.” Rorke Denver on DADicated.com Commander Rorke Denver is a highly decorated assault team leader with over 200 combat missions as a NAVY Seal. Rorke has run every phase of training for the U.S. Navy SEALs and led special-forces missions in the Middle East, Africa, Latin America and other international hot spots. As officer in charge of BRAVO Platoon of SEAL Team THREE in Iraq, he was part of the most combat-heavy deployments of any regular SEAL team since Vietnam. Rorke has a Master in Global Business Leadership and is the founder and CEO of EVER ONWARD, a leadership and human performance brand. As a Dad Rorke is married and has two daughters. My feeling was that Rorke lives in a permanent state of heightened intensity and is also able to live single purposefully. The session is very interesting, fun and I found it very motivational. We talk about self-discipline, prepping kids for hard times and how parents who are being deployed manage to transition between family life and combat situations. Rorke shares his standpoints and values as a Dad and talks about his own father and upbringing. He also also shares lessons from the battlefield and SEALS training and how those are applicable for families. We talk about general parenting principles, how to keep your relationship strong and healthy, the importance of own pursuits, goal setting, operating at your highest point of contribution and holding your kids accountable whilst still supporting them. Not surprisingly Rorke is big on tangible over digital experiences in family. “The fact that my daughters have learned how to shoot a gun, make a fire and play rough has helped them become resilient, self-reliant people.” Rorke Denver on DADicated.com The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Trust yourself Share your failures more than your successes with your kids and why Keep working towards an end-state Do hard things and do not avoid suffering and pain. Build resilient, confident children Never leave a question unanswered. Let them be kids as long as they can As a father of daughters the example I set as a man is a fundamental gift for their future. “Basics for my kids: Respect for yourself and other people. Spend very little time on electronics. No phones. I try and let them be kids as long as they can.” Rorke Denver on DADicated.com Rorke Denver’s books, TV and film appearances His first book, the New York Times Bestseller: Damn Few: Making the Modern SEAL Warrior (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/15818527-damn-few), takes you inside his personal story and the fascinating, demanding SEAL training program His second book Worth Dying For (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/27221344-worth-dying-for) speaks to leadership, service and the future of our nation Rorke starred in the hit film Act of Valor, which is based on true SEAL adventures Rorke starred in Season One of the FOX TV show “American Grit” Rorke Denver (guest):  Rorke’s website: https://rorkedenver.com/ Rorke on Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rorke_Denver Rorke’s twitter: https://twitter.com/RorkeDenver Rorke on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rorkedenverauthor/ Philipp Hartmann (host):  Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 Please share DADicated.com with other parents and please leave a review as I truly love getting that feedback from you. Thank you! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“As fathers we sometimes have to be benevolent dictators, even if our children are grown-ups, they are still children.” Arthur Gillis on dadicated.com If this podcast helps you being a better parent, please consider leaving a review and share it with another parent or two. I truly love getting feedback from you, in fact it makes my day! Arthur Gillis is married and lives in South Africa. He is a titan in the hospitality industry, maybe the most successful in Africa. He is a serial hotelier and proud dad of five. Three of those kids are his biological children and two came with the second marriage. However Arthur and his wife took the line of treating all kids as their own kids. All five are married and Arthur is a grandfather of three, soon four children. Arthur speaks from the heart and his experience shares are powerful & inspiring.  As entrepreneur and CEO Arthur grew the Protea Hotels Group from the initial four hotels to the leading hotel operating company in Africa consisting of 128 hotels in 19 countries with 16.000 employees. After 36 years, in 2014, Arthur facilitated the sale of Protea Hotels’ three brands and management company to Marriott International, Inc.. In our session Arthur shares his own journey of being a dad, a granddad, an entrepreneur and how he manages to blend the many family streams that make up his own family today. Arthur shares some amazing insights and very practical experience shares on building a successful family. Some of the shares are on positive conflict, family forum and family counsel, Arthur's estate planning, forging bonds with children, fathering the fatherlessness, treating children appropriately instead of equally, money and its energy, turning disadvantages into advantages. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Listen more to other Dads who have walked this path before. Be kinder to yourself. If you have no choice at least make the experience beautiful. In a blended family: never side with blood, ever. Show your children your vulnerability. It’s a strength and not a weakness. Find a project, like restoring a car or anything really, to do together with your boys to forge bonds. Have a psychologist or independent third party on call to act as family counselor. Quality time has to equate quantity time. Beautiful routine for all parents: “What made you glad what made you sad? What do you want to do tomorrow and what do you want to do right now? This is your time, you chose.” 45 minutes exclusive one on one time with your child. Please support www.togetherforcapetown.com. Our aim is to raise enough money for 3.000.000 meals for kids in Cape Town’s townships. Arthur:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/arthur-gillis-5540566/ Philipp:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 Books mentioned in this episode: Life of Ludwig van Beethoven’s Biography. Raising Boys by Steve Bidulph https://www.stevebiddulph.com/Home.html https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_8th_Habit Good to Great https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Good_to_Great by Jim Collins https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_C._Collins --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“As a dad I just didn’t want to go through the rest of my life not being whole with my son.” Dr. Mark Schillinger on DADicated.com  This is one of my favourite sessions so far.  Dr. Mark Schillinger is 67 years of age, has 2 kids, one son and one daughter and is based north of San Francisco. He refers to his family setup as “successful divorced family”. Mark is a physician, chiropractor, entrepreneur, community leader and awesome dad. Mark coaches parents and mentors young men on how to have more caring and cooperative relationships. As a neuroscientist he also specialises in stressmanagent teaching doctors how to calm down their patients - something we all can use in family life I guess.  Mark’s life’s purpose is to help people achieve their true potential by mentoring them to discover their own core values and transform those values into positive beliefs and productive behaviors. 20 years ago Mark realised that his relationship with his teenage son was failing and started a programme called the Young Mens’ Ultimate Weekend. A weekend that involves other men and aims to initiate boys into manhood. The aim is to help them to get rid of all their past pain, hurt and disappointment and move on to be able to fulfil their full potential of their life going forward.  Mark teaches us relaxation techniques, how to empower boys, covers mentorship and how not to be emotionally distant. Mark shares powerful insights from his decades -long work with teenagers and families. We dive into how he managed to reconnect to his teenage son himself, how he managed to achieve a healthy relationship with his wife after their divorce and his own journey as a dad.  The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:  As a father find a mentor.  Be willing to relax and learn how to relax quickly. Stay calm and kind.  The powerful concept of both, and… two things can be true at the same time. For instance: you can be upset and collect yourself.  Don’t make your kids wrong but find them right.  If you can, find rites of passages to initiate your sons as men.  Working with virtues and values is powerful.  Take care of yourself first so you can take care of the family.  If this podcast helps you be a better parent, please consider leaving a review and share it with another parent or two. Thank you so much. Enjoy this session with Dr. Mark Schillinger!  Links from this episode:  The ManKind Project: https://mankindproject.org/  MDI: https://www.mentordiscoverinspire.org/  Together for Cape Town, raising 3.000.000 meals for Cape Towns underserved kids by January 2021: www.togetherforcapetown.com  Dr. Mark Schillinger:  www.ChallengingTeenageSons.com  www.ymuw.org  www.Schillinger-Chiro.com  www.AdjustingTheMindSeminar.com  For stress management and personal growth contact mark@MarkSchillinger.com  Philipp Hartmann (host):  Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2  “Being Dad” on DADicated.com:  Podcast: www.dadicated.com  Instagram: www.instagram.com/beingdad_official  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dadicateddotcom --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

In 1994 Coley Harris went to prison to serve a 16 year sentence; he left behind his 2 year old son Ahmarr Melton. The two were separated for 14 years and have since both been working on their relationship. Today both of them work with youth from underserved communities focussing on the issue of father absence due to incarceration. The session is very powerful and important. Coley is 47, he is married, a father and grandfather. Coley shares his story of ending up in prison after a series of bad decisions in an environment of street culture surrounding drug dealing, drug usage and violence. Coley opens up about the pain and how he dealt with the unbelievable magnitude of the situation during the 14 year long separation. We also talk about his relationship with his own Dad and his upbringing. Ahmarr is 29, he is also married and a father of three. Ahmarr is in finance and also works in the community helping children whose parents are incarcerated finding their way. Ahmarr shares how it was for him to grow up with his Dad in prison and the impact the situation had on him in the home, in school and in his community. Ahmarr said he did not feel anger, just confusion. And he also shares how his own past has shaped him as a father today. We touch on adoption, discuss the issue of incarcerated parents and their joint journey of healing that started with “Outh of the Ashes”. “Out of the Ashes” is a dramatic expression of the real life journey of father and son who struggled while building the relationship they never had after their separation. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Continue to leave space for growth and dont be rigid in your own growth. Stay engaged, even if your circumstances do not allow for much interaction with your children. No matter how long you’ve gone as a father: take a shot. For the most part an adult child will want a relationship with a father. Fathers have a second chance as grandfathers. Forgiveness is key. If this podcast helps you, please consider leaving a review and share if this podcast helps you in your parenting journey. It’ll take you only a few minutes but the impact for others might be huge. Thank you so much. Enjoy this session with Ahmarr and Coley! Links from this episode: http://www.outoftheashesllc.com/ Order “Out Of The Ashes: Where a Seed Finds Life [DVD+Discussion Guide]” here: https://store.fatherhood.org/out-of-the-ashes#product-reviews Missing Dad Podcast with Coley Harris & Ahmarr Melton: https://podcasts.apple.com/bw/podcast/missing-dad/id1493365898 Together for Cape Town, raising 3.000.000 meals for Cape Towns underserved kids by January 2021: www.togetherforcapetown.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

Jason is a devout Christian, he is married and has one son. Jason is one of the best business strategists I know, he is also a successful venture capitalist, leader and entrepreneur. In business his mission is to create jobs and impact by scaling impactful firms. In the family sense his mission is to be living in the manifest presence of God so that that is palpable for his son. Jason’s Dad left when he was ten and he grew up without a dad, raised by a single-mom with two sisters in a family with very little money. Jason and his Dad only connected two decades later and Jason opens up about his own healing journey stemming from having an absent father and thus not growing up emotionally whole. It is powerful to hear Jason talk on how he found his Faith and how this has transformed himself, his life and his view on family in such a radical way. He shares how he has recently learnt to be a man and what being a Dad in the presence of God means for him and how this shapes his own life and his family life. When his son Elai was three he devoted a year to being a great father in terms of reading, praying and thinking. He refers to this as a faith driven revelation for him. Jason finishes the session with powerful book recommendations on family, religion and becoming a better dad (links below). The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Switch on as a Dad. You need to choose this. An interesting concept Jason shares: Children first and foremost must feel safe with you, after that they must feel unconditionally loved, after that they must feel capable and after that they must feel responsible. Behaviour issues can sometimes be solved by healing the gut. Parenting with a higher purpose or energy in mind in beneficial for yourself and your children. Spending dedicated time on learning how to become a better father is powerful. If dadicated.com helps you being a better parent, please consider leaving a review. It’ll take you only a few minutes but the impact for others might be huge. Thank you so much. Enjoy this session with Jason Goldberg! The books Jason discusses in this episode (also see Jason’s parenting books airtable: https://airtable.com/shrsf8XkbHQpr3sF0): “Raising Men: Lessons Navy Seals Learned from Their Training and Taught to Their Sons” by Eric Davis “Raising Kingdom Kids” by Tony Evans “Discipline That Connects with Your Child's Heart” by Jim Jackson‎ “The Well-Behaved Child” by Dr. John Rosemond‎ “Raising Giant-Killers: Releasing Your Child's Divine Destiny Through Intentional Parenting” by Beni Johnson and Bill Johnson “Kingdom Man” by Tony Evans “Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High”, by Al Switzler, Joseph Grenny, and Ron McMillan --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

Sander is a dear friend of mine. He is 41 years old and has one daughter together with his partner Babiche. Sander has always been a big inspiration for me as a dad. His wife struggled with postnatal depression after Lou was born and it was very valuable for me to hear first hand how they managed that situation. Sander is a humble, warm man with a big heart. He has an awesome family and both our families have been friends for many years. We obviously speak about how his partner’s postpartum depression impacted Sander and Babiche as a couple, what it is and what he learned from the situation. We also cover each of our birth experiences and how to empower dads during birth, breastfeeding, not sleeping as young parents, unmet expectations and how to deal with that in a relationship. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Step up as a Dad. This is a decision you choose for yourself. Go to all the checkups be there for the Birth and make sure that you are being involved. Ask questions and apply yourself. Have a Doula present during Birth. Be flexible and do not hold on to expectations. Dads are able to empower their children by not minding but minding them at the same time. Lastly please do check out togetherforcapetown.com. Our aim is to provide 3.000.000 meals to children in Cape Town’s townships before the year is out and since our start three weeks ago we were able to raise 55.000 meals so far. You can find more under togetherforcapetown.com. If you like this episode, please leave a review. As always, I appreciate your time, thank you for listening in. Enjoy this session. Links from this episode: Book: “Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams”, by Matthew Walker: https://www.google.com/search?rlz=1C5CHFA_enZA883ZA883&q=why+we+sleep+matthew+walker --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“You never really know how much people are willing to do or are prepared or want to help until it’s needed.” Eric Fox on DADicated.com (Eric’s daughter went through a long coma, wasn’t breathing on her own for the first five weeks and she had a 3% chance of survival). Eric Fox is a stay-at-home Dad of two, married since 1999, living in Dubai. In 2015 his wife Krysta was diagnosed with breast cancer but has now recovered. In November 2017, right after Krysta’s chemo, Chloe, his daughter, was involved in a near fatal road accident resulting in a coma for weeks on end with a 3% chance of living. Luckily she is well on the way to recovery. In our session Eric opens up about the strain the situation brought to their marriage and how they managed to turn their relationship around. Eric shares how he managed to deal with the feelings and fears throughout his wife’s and daughter’s fight for recovery. We talk about his situation as a stay-at-home dad, how the family deals with all of this. Eric also shares how Matthew, his son, dealt with his sister’s accident at the time. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Always oblige when your kids want to spend time, you can’t get that opportunity back. Make sure your children understand that they can never disappoint you. No matter what happens. Check-in on the best, worst and funniest every night over dinner with everyone. Schedule important conversations with your wife and don’t try them when you’re exhausted or the kids are screaming. If your friends need your help, be the first to raise your hand. “Bring clarity to discussions. Say what it is that you want to say and also work out how you want to receive information.“ On a personal note: South Africa’s Covid-19 lockdown has brought the economy near collapse and people are starving. If you, as many, love Cape Town and its people, please do check out our initiative www.togetherforcapetown.com and donate. Our aim is to provide 3.000.000 meals to children in Cape Town’s townships before the year is out. Thank you! Beautiful quote by Eric Fox: “When things became extremely difficult communication or the lack thereof became crucial.” Thank you for listening and sharing this episode of dadicated.com. If you like it, please consider leaving a review, truly appreciated. Links from this session: Help us to reach our goal of feeding 3.000.000 kids in Cape Town’s townships before the end of 2020: https://togetherforcapetown.com/ Dadicated.com Website: www.dadicated.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message