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“To a child the word LOVE is spelled T-I-M-E.” Michel Kripalani on DADicated.com This session is one of my favourites and it’s very powerful. Michel Kripalani is the President & CEO of Oceanhouse Media, an app development company, ranked by Inc 500 as one the Fastest Growing Private Companies in 2013. Michel also founded a virtual reality, augmented reality and mixed reality company. He serves in EO as a regional chair and is a recognised coach in the Marshall Goldsmith 100 group. Michel is in his early 50s, he is married to Karen and has two daughters. In July 2011, his daughters were one and two, Michel’s wife was diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor - a turning point in their life. In the session Michel shares his learnings from dealing with the brain tumor and how it strengthened and shapes his family. We discuss his own dad, intentionality and legacy; empowering and educating children and why the tumor came as a gift to them.. Michel has five family values which guide all their decisions: these are: “Family and others first”, “Choose extraordinary”, “Leave breadcrumbs”, “Healthy living” and “Gratitude”. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: “Live as if you’re dying.” "Shredd the ego." I have a responsibility to take care of my health towards my family. You can tell someone's priority by where they spend their time. Easiest value rule for all: if everyone in the world knew I am doing this right now, would I feel comfortable to still do this? If not, don’t do it. “It is so easy in life to live small. Always be asking yourself: am I living a big enough life right now?” Michel Kripalani on DADicated.com Michel Kripalani (guest): Twitter: https://twitter.com/mkripalani Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelkripalani/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelkripalani/ Email: mk@omapp.com Web: www.MichelKripalani.com Marshall Goldsmith 100 group: https://www.marshallgoldsmith.com/Welcome Philipp Hartmann (host): Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“My best advice to myself as a dad is to realise how valuable I am to my children and how much my presence is needed in their lives and just be present and engaged.” Craig Wilkinson on DADicated.com Craig Wilkinson from South Africa is a powerful dad who has truly applied himself to his cause of being a dad and empowering other fathers. Craig has two kids (24 and 26), is a bestselling author, award winning social entrepreneur, sought after inspirational speaker and calls himself and is the “Dad Coach”. He is passionate about equipping men to be great fathers and leaders. Craig is the founder of Father a Nation (FAN), an NPO which restores men to true masculinity and authentic fatherhood. He believes that if we can heal men we can heal the world. Craig shares his own journey as a dad and his parenting views. We discuss his divorce, what is means to be a man in todays world and how we can empower our sons and daugthers. Craig explains how woundedness manifests in children when there is no father figure around, we talk about Craig’s work sibling-led families in the townships, what surrogate fathers are and our own impact as men on other men around us. “It’s much easier to bring up a healthy child than to heal a broken adult.” Craig Wilkinson on DADicated.com The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Pursue your daughters heart and set the standard this way. Make sure your sons know they are real men and have what it takes. Constant communication is key. The four lies of masculinity are sex, power, money and big boys don’t cry As a male use the strength you were given well. It’s about serving. “Sometimes the poorest man leaves behind the most valuable legacy because it’s not what you leave behind for someone but all about what you leave in someone.” Craig Wilkinson on DADicated.com Craig Wilkinson (guest): Craig on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craig-wilkinson Craig’s Website: http://craigwilkinson.co.za/ Dad Coach: https://dadcoachonline.com/ Craig on Twitter: https://twitter.com/dadcoach Craig’s facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DadCoachCraig Books: Craig’s book: http://thedadbook.co.za/ Raising Boys (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/204098.Raising_Boys) by Steve Biddulph The Boy Crisis (https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/34196216-the-boy-crisis) by Dr. Warren Farrel Philipp Hartmann (host): Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

Arel Moodie is a Jewish person of colour (white mom and a black dad) who grew up in the projects in New York witnessing gang violence and fatherlessness all around him. Arel has built a million-dollar company and made Inc. Magazine’s “30 under 30” list. President Obama has personally acknowledged him for his work. Arel has two boys (7 and 5). Arel shares his own racial identities and personal identity struggles and how this has shaped him as a dad. We also discuss learnings from his dad, leaving behind our own trauma in parenting, effort and excellence, how Arel empowers his children, how to deal with bullying and preparing kids for a racial divide. Arel talks about playful parenting, owning emotions, non-actions, the importance of language, bonding and the power of routines. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: If nothing else, you can control effort Seperate your own trauma from your parenting Teach in peaceful moments. Do roughhousing dads! Appreciation dinner rounds with the family - I love this! Maybe the most valuable learning: mom first, kids second. Don’t become two adults who are merely co-living and co-parenting. If you love this session, please share it. Thank you and enjoy this episode with Arel Moodie. Arel Moodie (guest): Arel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/arelmoodie/ Arel’s Website: https://arelmoodie.com/ Arel on Twitter: https://twitter.com/arelmoodie Arel’s facebook: https://www.facebook.com/arelmoodie Books: Arel co-wrote a book on how to stop tantrums and meltdowns with his wife The Peculiar Purple Penguin (http://purplepenguinbook.com) “The Art of Likability” by Arel Moodie: https://www.artoflikability.com/ Philipp Hartmann (host): Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“By profession I am a dental surgeon by profession I am a mental surgeon.” Suhail Jouaneh on DADicated.com Dr. Suhail Jouaneh is a leader, coach and businessman from Amman in Jordan. He is a business facilitator and executive coach having organized thousands of workshops and trained more than 20,000 people from over forty countries. Suhail is well spoken, very witty and positive and the session is fun and very interesting. Suhail is married to his wife Abeer and has two daughters Elisabeth 21, Christina 14. Suhail is Christian in a country where 98% of the population is muslim. He spent seven years in France during his studies and so I was very interested to hear his perspective as a “Arab Dad” with a Western understanding and mindset. Suhail did not disappoint. In the session Suhail shares his own journey as a father; we discuss his family principles and values, Suhail contrasts Western family culture and Jordanian family customs, the role of daughters in Jordan and “Arab Dads” as Suhail coins it. Suhail explains how he empowers his daughters in a country where arranged marriage still exists and sons are often preferred over daughters. He also tells us how he applies his coaching techniques to family. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Investing in the relationship early is so important. Where required, talk to your daughters in the role of a male, not just as a dad. Don’t be distant or harsh, especially with your wife and daughters. Always be watchful and amend mistakes instantly. “Whenever our daughters lie, they admit that they lie. They don’t know how to lie.”  Suhail Jouaneh on DADicated.com If you love this session, please share it. Thank you and enjoy this session with Suhail. Suhail Jouaneh (guest): Suhail’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suhailjouaneh Philipp Hartmann (host): Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“How is the most important job the one we have the least information for?” Richard Mulholland on DADicated.com Richard Mulholland, an amazing entrepreneur, storyteller, insanely creative and of course a very interesting Dad. I love Richard. He is funny, intriguing and smart and his will to self-optimise is astonishing. I truly enjoyed listening to Richard’s perspective on being a dad. Richard is the founder of presentation powerhouse Missing Link, as well as the co-founder of 21Tanks, HumanWrit.es and The Sales Department. He has written three books; Legacide, Boredom Slayer, and Story Seller. He was voted top 40 under 40, and top 300 South Africans to take to lunch. Mostly though he's a husband, father, son, brother, and uncle. Richard has spoken in over 30 countries on six continents and works with executives and speakers around the world, helping them deliver unforgettable presentations that activate audiences and generate income. Richard is 45, he is married to Jess and has two children from his first marriage. His son Callum who is 17 and his daughter Bailey who is 12. Second marriage now 8 years. In the session Richard shares his own journey and how ultimately his divorce helped him to become an involved and passionate dad, how he realised he needs to stop lying to himself and stop prioritising work over family. We discuss his time as a single dad and his family setting after he remarried. We talk about his own dad, the role of step-parents in the parenting eco-system, how we can help fathers owning being a dad and Richard’s life hacks and family systems. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: If you want the year to be successful remember this: a day becomes a week, a week becomes a month, a month becomes a year. Bingo. I will start a “to-do-better-list; the one thing you could have done better yesterday. Moving forward is not the same as moving toward. Becoming a better dad and husband must be an intentional pursuit. My children did not enter a family structure, they created it. Kids don’t want more, they just want us more... in the house. Richard Mulholland (guest): All of Richard’s websites: www.getrich.af Books: “Microtrends: The Small Forces Behind Tomorrow's Big Changes” by Mark J. Penn, E. Kinney Zalesne: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1556580.Microtrends “Acta Non Verba” by Erik Kruger: https://books.google.co.za/books/about/Acta_Non_Verba.html?id=8sXnDwAAQBAJ&source=kp_book_description&redir_esc=y “A Calendar of Wisdom” by Leo Tolstoy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Calendar_of_Wisdom “The Boy Crisis” by Dr. Warren Farrel Legacide by Richard Mulholland: http://www.legacide.com/ Boredom Slayer by Richard Mulholland: https://msnglnk.com/boredom-slayer/ Story Seller by Richard Mulholland: https://storyseller.co.za/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

"If you avoid pain you’re not inoculated for when hard things happen.” Rorke Denver on DADicated.com Commander Rorke Denver is a highly decorated assault team leader with over 200 combat missions as a NAVY Seal. Rorke has run every phase of training for the U.S. Navy SEALs and led special-forces missions in the Middle East, Africa, Latin America and other international hot spots. As officer in charge of BRAVO Platoon of SEAL Team THREE in Iraq, he was part of the most combat-heavy deployments of any regular SEAL team since Vietnam. Rorke has a Master in Global Business Leadership and is the founder and CEO of EVER ONWARD, a leadership and human performance brand. As a Dad Rorke is married and has two daughters. My feeling was that Rorke lives in a permanent state of heightened intensity and is also able to live single purposefully. The session is very interesting, fun and I found it very motivational. We talk about self-discipline, prepping kids for hard times and how parents who are being deployed manage to transition between family life and combat situations. Rorke shares his standpoints and values as a Dad and talks about his own father and upbringing. He also also shares lessons from the battlefield and SEALS training and how those are applicable for families. We talk about general parenting principles, how to keep your relationship strong and healthy, the importance of own pursuits, goal setting, operating at your highest point of contribution and holding your kids accountable whilst still supporting them. Not surprisingly Rorke is big on tangible over digital experiences in family. “The fact that my daughters have learned how to shoot a gun, make a fire and play rough has helped them become resilient, self-reliant people.” Rorke Denver on DADicated.com The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Trust yourself Share your failures more than your successes with your kids and why Keep working towards an end-state Do hard things and do not avoid suffering and pain. Build resilient, confident children Never leave a question unanswered. Let them be kids as long as they can As a father of daughters the example I set as a man is a fundamental gift for their future. “Basics for my kids: Respect for yourself and other people. Spend very little time on electronics. No phones. I try and let them be kids as long as they can.” Rorke Denver on DADicated.com Rorke Denver’s books, TV and film appearances His first book, the New York Times Bestseller: Damn Few: Making the Modern SEAL Warrior (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/15818527-damn-few), takes you inside his personal story and the fascinating, demanding SEAL training program His second book Worth Dying For (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/27221344-worth-dying-for) speaks to leadership, service and the future of our nation Rorke starred in the hit film Act of Valor, which is based on true SEAL adventures Rorke starred in Season One of the FOX TV show “American Grit” Rorke Denver (guest):  Rorke’s website: https://rorkedenver.com/ Rorke on Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rorke_Denver Rorke’s twitter: https://twitter.com/RorkeDenver Rorke on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rorkedenverauthor/ Philipp Hartmann (host):  Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 Please share DADicated.com with other parents and please leave a review as I truly love getting that feedback from you. Thank you! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“As fathers we sometimes have to be benevolent dictators, even if our children are grown-ups, they are still children.” Arthur Gillis on dadicated.com If this podcast helps you being a better parent, please consider leaving a review and share it with another parent or two. I truly love getting feedback from you, in fact it makes my day! Arthur Gillis is married and lives in South Africa. He is a titan in the hospitality industry, maybe the most successful in Africa. He is a serial hotelier and proud dad of five. Three of those kids are his biological children and two came with the second marriage. However Arthur and his wife took the line of treating all kids as their own kids. All five are married and Arthur is a grandfather of three, soon four children. Arthur speaks from the heart and his experience shares are powerful & inspiring.  As entrepreneur and CEO Arthur grew the Protea Hotels Group from the initial four hotels to the leading hotel operating company in Africa consisting of 128 hotels in 19 countries with 16.000 employees. After 36 years, in 2014, Arthur facilitated the sale of Protea Hotels’ three brands and management company to Marriott International, Inc.. In our session Arthur shares his own journey of being a dad, a granddad, an entrepreneur and how he manages to blend the many family streams that make up his own family today. Arthur shares some amazing insights and very practical experience shares on building a successful family. Some of the shares are on positive conflict, family forum and family counsel, Arthur's estate planning, forging bonds with children, fathering the fatherlessness, treating children appropriately instead of equally, money and its energy, turning disadvantages into advantages. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Listen more to other Dads who have walked this path before. Be kinder to yourself. If you have no choice at least make the experience beautiful. In a blended family: never side with blood, ever. Show your children your vulnerability. It’s a strength and not a weakness. Find a project, like restoring a car or anything really, to do together with your boys to forge bonds. Have a psychologist or independent third party on call to act as family counselor. Quality time has to equate quantity time. Beautiful routine for all parents: “What made you glad what made you sad? What do you want to do tomorrow and what do you want to do right now? This is your time, you chose.” 45 minutes exclusive one on one time with your child. Please support www.togetherforcapetown.com. Our aim is to raise enough money for 3.000.000 meals for kids in Cape Town’s townships. Arthur:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/arthur-gillis-5540566/ Philipp:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 Books mentioned in this episode: Life of Ludwig van Beethoven’s Biography. Raising Boys by Steve Bidulph https://www.stevebiddulph.com/Home.html https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_8th_Habit Good to Great https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Good_to_Great by Jim Collins https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_C._Collins --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“As a dad I just didn’t want to go through the rest of my life not being whole with my son.” Dr. Mark Schillinger on DADicated.com  This is one of my favourite sessions so far.  Dr. Mark Schillinger is 67 years of age, has 2 kids, one son and one daughter and is based north of San Francisco. He refers to his family setup as “successful divorced family”. Mark is a physician, chiropractor, entrepreneur, community leader and awesome dad. Mark coaches parents and mentors young men on how to have more caring and cooperative relationships. As a neuroscientist he also specialises in stressmanagent teaching doctors how to calm down their patients - something we all can use in family life I guess.  Mark’s life’s purpose is to help people achieve their true potential by mentoring them to discover their own core values and transform those values into positive beliefs and productive behaviors. 20 years ago Mark realised that his relationship with his teenage son was failing and started a programme called the Young Mens’ Ultimate Weekend. A weekend that involves other men and aims to initiate boys into manhood. The aim is to help them to get rid of all their past pain, hurt and disappointment and move on to be able to fulfil their full potential of their life going forward.  Mark teaches us relaxation techniques, how to empower boys, covers mentorship and how not to be emotionally distant. Mark shares powerful insights from his decades -long work with teenagers and families. We dive into how he managed to reconnect to his teenage son himself, how he managed to achieve a healthy relationship with his wife after their divorce and his own journey as a dad.  The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:  As a father find a mentor.  Be willing to relax and learn how to relax quickly. Stay calm and kind.  The powerful concept of both, and… two things can be true at the same time. For instance: you can be upset and collect yourself.  Don’t make your kids wrong but find them right.  If you can, find rites of passages to initiate your sons as men.  Working with virtues and values is powerful.  Take care of yourself first so you can take care of the family.  If this podcast helps you be a better parent, please consider leaving a review and share it with another parent or two. Thank you so much. Enjoy this session with Dr. Mark Schillinger!  Links from this episode:  The ManKind Project: https://mankindproject.org/  MDI: https://www.mentordiscoverinspire.org/  Together for Cape Town, raising 3.000.000 meals for Cape Towns underserved kids by January 2021: www.togetherforcapetown.com  Dr. Mark Schillinger:  www.ChallengingTeenageSons.com  www.ymuw.org  www.Schillinger-Chiro.com  www.AdjustingTheMindSeminar.com  For stress management and personal growth contact mark@MarkSchillinger.com  Philipp Hartmann (host):  Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2  “Being Dad” on DADicated.com:  Podcast: www.dadicated.com  Instagram: www.instagram.com/beingdad_official  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dadicateddotcom --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

In 1994 Coley Harris went to prison to serve a 16 year sentence; he left behind his 2 year old son Ahmarr Melton. The two were separated for 14 years and have since both been working on their relationship. Today both of them work with youth from underserved communities focussing on the issue of father absence due to incarceration. The session is very powerful and important. Coley is 47, he is married, a father and grandfather. Coley shares his story of ending up in prison after a series of bad decisions in an environment of street culture surrounding drug dealing, drug usage and violence. Coley opens up about the pain and how he dealt with the unbelievable magnitude of the situation during the 14 year long separation. We also talk about his relationship with his own Dad and his upbringing. Ahmarr is 29, he is also married and a father of three. Ahmarr is in finance and also works in the community helping children whose parents are incarcerated finding their way. Ahmarr shares how it was for him to grow up with his Dad in prison and the impact the situation had on him in the home, in school and in his community. Ahmarr said he did not feel anger, just confusion. And he also shares how his own past has shaped him as a father today. We touch on adoption, discuss the issue of incarcerated parents and their joint journey of healing that started with “Outh of the Ashes”. “Out of the Ashes” is a dramatic expression of the real life journey of father and son who struggled while building the relationship they never had after their separation. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Continue to leave space for growth and dont be rigid in your own growth. Stay engaged, even if your circumstances do not allow for much interaction with your children. No matter how long you’ve gone as a father: take a shot. For the most part an adult child will want a relationship with a father. Fathers have a second chance as grandfathers. Forgiveness is key. If this podcast helps you, please consider leaving a review and share if this podcast helps you in your parenting journey. It’ll take you only a few minutes but the impact for others might be huge. Thank you so much. Enjoy this session with Ahmarr and Coley! Links from this episode: http://www.outoftheashesllc.com/ Order “Out Of The Ashes: Where a Seed Finds Life [DVD+Discussion Guide]” here: https://store.fatherhood.org/out-of-the-ashes#product-reviews Missing Dad Podcast with Coley Harris & Ahmarr Melton: https://podcasts.apple.com/bw/podcast/missing-dad/id1493365898 Together for Cape Town, raising 3.000.000 meals for Cape Towns underserved kids by January 2021: www.togetherforcapetown.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

Jason is a devout Christian, he is married and has one son. Jason is one of the best business strategists I know, he is also a successful venture capitalist, leader and entrepreneur. In business his mission is to create jobs and impact by scaling impactful firms. In the family sense his mission is to be living in the manifest presence of God so that that is palpable for his son. Jason’s Dad left when he was ten and he grew up without a dad, raised by a single-mom with two sisters in a family with very little money. Jason and his Dad only connected two decades later and Jason opens up about his own healing journey stemming from having an absent father and thus not growing up emotionally whole. It is powerful to hear Jason talk on how he found his Faith and how this has transformed himself, his life and his view on family in such a radical way. He shares how he has recently learnt to be a man and what being a Dad in the presence of God means for him and how this shapes his own life and his family life. When his son Elai was three he devoted a year to being a great father in terms of reading, praying and thinking. He refers to this as a faith driven revelation for him. Jason finishes the session with powerful book recommendations on family, religion and becoming a better dad (links below). The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Switch on as a Dad. You need to choose this. An interesting concept Jason shares: Children first and foremost must feel safe with you, after that they must feel unconditionally loved, after that they must feel capable and after that they must feel responsible. Behaviour issues can sometimes be solved by healing the gut. Parenting with a higher purpose or energy in mind in beneficial for yourself and your children. Spending dedicated time on learning how to become a better father is powerful. If dadicated.com helps you being a better parent, please consider leaving a review. It’ll take you only a few minutes but the impact for others might be huge. Thank you so much. Enjoy this session with Jason Goldberg! The books Jason discusses in this episode (also see Jason’s parenting books airtable: https://airtable.com/shrsf8XkbHQpr3sF0): “Raising Men: Lessons Navy Seals Learned from Their Training and Taught to Their Sons” by Eric Davis “Raising Kingdom Kids” by Tony Evans “Discipline That Connects with Your Child's Heart” by Jim Jackson‎ “The Well-Behaved Child” by Dr. John Rosemond‎ “Raising Giant-Killers: Releasing Your Child's Divine Destiny Through Intentional Parenting” by Beni Johnson and Bill Johnson “Kingdom Man” by Tony Evans “Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High”, by Al Switzler, Joseph Grenny, and Ron McMillan --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

Sander is a dear friend of mine. He is 41 years old and has one daughter together with his partner Babiche. Sander has always been a big inspiration for me as a dad. His wife struggled with postnatal depression after Lou was born and it was very valuable for me to hear first hand how they managed that situation. Sander is a humble, warm man with a big heart. He has an awesome family and both our families have been friends for many years. We obviously speak about how his partner’s postpartum depression impacted Sander and Babiche as a couple, what it is and what he learned from the situation. We also cover each of our birth experiences and how to empower dads during birth, breastfeeding, not sleeping as young parents, unmet expectations and how to deal with that in a relationship. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Step up as a Dad. This is a decision you choose for yourself. Go to all the checkups be there for the Birth and make sure that you are being involved. Ask questions and apply yourself. Have a Doula present during Birth. Be flexible and do not hold on to expectations. Dads are able to empower their children by not minding but minding them at the same time. Lastly please do check out togetherforcapetown.com. Our aim is to provide 3.000.000 meals to children in Cape Town’s townships before the year is out and since our start three weeks ago we were able to raise 55.000 meals so far. You can find more under togetherforcapetown.com. If you like this episode, please leave a review. As always, I appreciate your time, thank you for listening in. Enjoy this session. Links from this episode: Book: “Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams”, by Matthew Walker: https://www.google.com/search?rlz=1C5CHFA_enZA883ZA883&q=why+we+sleep+matthew+walker --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“You never really know how much people are willing to do or are prepared or want to help until it’s needed.” Eric Fox on DADicated.com (Eric’s daughter went through a long coma, wasn’t breathing on her own for the first five weeks and she had a 3% chance of survival). Eric Fox is a stay-at-home Dad of two, married since 1999, living in Dubai. In 2015 his wife Krysta was diagnosed with breast cancer but has now recovered. In November 2017, right after Krysta’s chemo, Chloe, his daughter, was involved in a near fatal road accident resulting in a coma for weeks on end with a 3% chance of living. Luckily she is well on the way to recovery. In our session Eric opens up about the strain the situation brought to their marriage and how they managed to turn their relationship around. Eric shares how he managed to deal with the feelings and fears throughout his wife’s and daughter’s fight for recovery. We talk about his situation as a stay-at-home dad, how the family deals with all of this. Eric also shares how Matthew, his son, dealt with his sister’s accident at the time. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Always oblige when your kids want to spend time, you can’t get that opportunity back. Make sure your children understand that they can never disappoint you. No matter what happens. Check-in on the best, worst and funniest every night over dinner with everyone. Schedule important conversations with your wife and don’t try them when you’re exhausted or the kids are screaming. If your friends need your help, be the first to raise your hand. “Bring clarity to discussions. Say what it is that you want to say and also work out how you want to receive information.“ On a personal note: South Africa’s Covid-19 lockdown has brought the economy near collapse and people are starving. If you, as many, love Cape Town and its people, please do check out our initiative www.togetherforcapetown.com and donate. Our aim is to provide 3.000.000 meals to children in Cape Town’s townships before the year is out. Thank you! Beautiful quote by Eric Fox: “When things became extremely difficult communication or the lack thereof became crucial.” Thank you for listening and sharing this episode of dadicated.com. If you like it, please consider leaving a review, truly appreciated. Links from this session: Help us to reach our goal of feeding 3.000.000 kids in Cape Town’s townships before the end of 2020: https://togetherforcapetown.com/ Dadicated.com Website: www.dadicated.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“The hardest thing I have ever tried to do was to truly, truly emotionally connect.” Conrad Stoltz, 7x world champion, 2x Olympian Athlete, 5x African Champion, 5 Times South African Champion - DAD of three! Conrad Stolz, aka the “Caveman” is an exceptional triathlete from South Africa. He’s a powerful man and humble dad of three kids, Sina 4.5, Zander 2.5 and Zoe 5 months. In my mind Conrad is the definition of hardcore. He is a 7x Cross Triathlon World Champion, 10x XTERRA USA Series champion, 2x Olympian athlete and so many more amazing results… The first ten years of his career he lived hand to mouth, sleeping on park benches or in police stations as he came straight out of Apartheid and without a sponsor he actually couldn’t afford to compete on that level globally. Conrad told me he had to win to be able to eat! He says his own Dad, an Afrikaans cattle Farmer and proud, hard man, was a true icon for him and ultimately he learned the essential life-lessons for his success from his father. Through visualisation Conrad is able to disassociate his mind from physical pain and enter flow or peak state during competition. In the session we explore how this ability can be applied to being a parent. Conrad opens up about his own upbringing, his personal fears and struggles as a dad, athlete and husband and his journey and struggles of retirement from competing after 34 years when his child was born and becoming an entrepreneur The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Being a Dad is an endurance sport all by itself. Have more patience. Be vulnerable, show emotion. Nobody told us it’s going to be hard. Prepare outcomes. Visualise. Have a pre-prepared outcome of what you want to happen for any given situation. You have to also visualise the failure. What you put in is what you get out: Perseverance, Suffering, Connecting with people. “If you follow your passions it’s very easy to commit, suffer and succeed.” Teachable moments: during play if a teachable moment arises, stop everything (in a playful way), explain what you need to explain, carry on playing. Another amazing quote from the Caveman: “Racing is even harder if you’re being chased.” On a final note: many of you know that I am based in Cape Town and we are currently in one of the hardest lock-downs globally. The result of the lockdown is that the economy has collapsed and COVID-19 has brought hunger and, sadly in some cases, violence. Together we have started an initiative called www.togetherforcapetown.com. Our aim is to raise enough money for 3.000.000 meals for underprivileged kids before the year is out. Conrad's website: http://www.conradstoltz.com/ Conrad on Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conrad_Stoltz --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

“First I was a boy raising a baby. Then I was a man raising a boy on my own while raising and growing a business. Sometimes that overlap was great, sometimes it was quite messy.” Todd Palmer, entrepreneur, single-parent dad and now also step-dad, on dadicateddotcom.  Todd Palmer became a single-parent at the age of 24 in a time where chances for getting custody for fathers was around 1% in his hometown Detroit, Michigan. Having brought up his son as a single dad, today, in his fifties, Todd has become a step-father to a ten year old girl. He filed for personal bankruptcy at the age of 25 as he had spent all his money on the custody court case. He started his business at 28 and went from struggling entrepreneur on the brink of bankruptcy with $600,000 debt to making the INC 5000 as one of America’s fastest-growing companies 6 times.  Todd opens up about his journey as a single parent, a dad and step-dad, male bonding between father and son, his own experiences with divorce, bringing up a child on his own and how he was able to overcome imposter syndrome for himself.  The session is fun and it’s meaningful on many levels. Todd’s shares are powerful and it’s interesting to hear him opening up as a father and businessman.  The most powerful takeaways for me a a dad where:  There’s no perfection in parenting and therefore failure doesn’t exist if we allow failure to be a learning opportunity.  Have self-compassion and kindness for yourself.  “ATV (authenticity, transparency, vulnerability) with spouses and children.”  Show up and be fully present.  Have tenacity and resilience.  Memories over money.  Set aside self-care time every day.  Have genuine, authentic conversations. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

Michael Trautmann is a strong man with the ability to inspire and lead people to success. He is a serial-founder, entrepreneur and Dad who has two sons, Oskar and Moritz, 21 and 24.  The session is meaningful, powerful and moving and we both had a good cry together towards the end. Michael truly leads with vulnerability as he shares deep personal experiences about his own journey as a father, husband and his relationship with his own Dad who died of cancer last year. We talk about our roles as entrepreneurs and businessmen. Michael shares his own learnings and insights gained from business in relation to being a Dad, what he learned from the Hoffmann process and one very powerful, life changing day and night he experienced with his father. Michael is one of the most important and successful heads in the German advertising landscape (global ex-CMO Audi, ex-MD of Springer & Jacobi, founder of kempertrautmann and founder of thjnk). Michael also co-founded upsolut Sports which initiated and runs HYROX. Together with Christoph Magnussen, he runs one of Germany’s leading podcasts #OnTheWayToNewWork. They kindly invited me towards the end of last year (link below). The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Quality over quantity of time. Michael and his father once where gifted a unique 8 hours together that changed his life and that of his children forever. What if we can look out for those opportunities with our kids? Allow myself to reflect back and improve. This implies that I have to accept where I made mistakes. Lead with vulnerability. Time together is bonding. Values form the foundation. As always I am hoping that these sessions do help you in your journey as a parent. If they do, please do share this with others and leave a review. Highly appreciated. Enjoy! #fatherhood #advertising #onthewaytonewwork #otwtnw #beingdad #dadicated #familyadvice #hoffmannprocess Links of this episode: My episode with Michael and Christoph on their podcast #OTWTNW: https://soundcloud.com/onthewaytonewwork/163-podcast-mit-philip-hartmann-agenturunternehmer-remote-worker The Hoffman Process: https://www.hoffmaninstitute.org/ HYROX: https://hyrox.com/en/ thjnk: https://www.thjnk.de/en/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

As we do this session I am in lockdown with four three year olds and two four and a half year olds, so times are interesting. Dave Bacon is an amazing man and Dad. Dave’s thoughts about Being a Dad are remarkable and his own story is remarkable as well - for instance each his dad, himself and his son were all born in a different century. Dave and his wife Heather have 3 children who are 11 and 7 - he also has twins. Dave is the Founder & CEO of Better With Bacon, recognised as ‘Best Places to Work’, ‘Top 50 Colorado Companies to Watch’ and he has been on the Inc. 5000 fastest growing companies three times. He is an avid skier and very active and holds numerous board positions in altruistic and charity causes. Dave’s father, Ernst Bacon, was a famous composer who had 6 children, 11 grandchildren, 1 great grandchild. Dave was born in 1973. At that time his dad was 45 years his mom’s senior. He was born a great uncle because his sister was already a grandma and of course his niece was older than him. The session is really fun and beautiful. Dave opens up on his own upbringing and all the different perspectives and viewpoints he grew up with in such a unique family setting - think about a 85 trying to parent a ten year old. The overarching theme of his upbringing was always the arts and the beauty of all things. We cover the amazing gift Covid has given us - which is having more time together as families and we talk about how we each handle COVID as families. Dave shares some amazing tips on how he manages to improve his relationship with his children and I have to say he seems like an extraordinary human. For instance the one time his 8 year old had the idea of climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro for a fundraiser for a local school, two years later they did just that - and raised USD 103.000. A simple idea became something amazing. Dave also shares how his kids and the family deal with death, how he tried to solidify his kids' impact on himself and how the arts and music impacts their lives on a daily basis. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Mandate your children to participate in the arts. Keep a field note for each child, don’t date the entries, give it to them later in life. This way they will know the impact they had on you and the world around them in a powerful way. Show your vulnerability to your kids. Make sure they understand you, too make mistakes, all the time. 1.000.000 seconds are 11 days, 1.000.000.000 are 31 years. Our children are multiple time billionaires which is a lovely concept! Kids must know that their ideas matter and also that their ideas are actionable. Allowing my kids ideas into my life is a great excuse to celebrate our relationship. Get everybody to write down three things they are grateful for and read it out over dinner. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

This next session truly left me in awe. It is powerful and inspirational. Dr. Abdul-Malik Muhammad is a father, husband, educator, transformational leader, entrepreneur and author. He has been married to Christina for 25 years and became a dad at the young age of 20, a second time at 25. Interestingly his step-father and his wife’s father stay with them as well. Malik’s story really is powerful and amazing. Born into a womb of trauma, Malik’s father died during his mother’s pregnancy. He was homeless from five well into his teenage years and spent quite some time in juvenile correction facilities. Malik describes this period as a time of transition, instability and dysfunction - yet he shares amazing insights from that time that helped him as a Dad later in life. Today he has a BA in International Affairs, an MA in Educational Leadership and a Doctor of Education in Educational Leadership. Always working with the underserved in urban and rural areas, he has focused on the development of boys to men, establishing a tutelage for oppressed youth, and building progressive organizations. He is the founder and CEO of Akoben LLC and Transforming Lives Inc. so he is in the fields of education and mental health. Malik trains people on how to develop restorative relationships with adults and children to bring positive transformation. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: We have to be truth-tellers. Build resilience and perseverance in our children to create an inner fortitude and strength. Don't do things for them or to them, do things with them. Be a man of honour and work hard. It’s all about impact. Explain to your children how their behaviour or not meeting their responsibilities makes you feel. Make sure you stand in your power of moral authority. Model a manifestation of your values to your children. It is mission critical that we make sure the world sees our children through the same beautiful lens that we see them through. We have to fight hard for this! Fathers of boys cannot solely raise their sons. As fathers we have a responsibility to reach many and give them the opportunity to show other boys what fatherhood looks like. Allow myself to be changed by my children as I change them. If you feel that podcasts help and inspire you to be a better parent I am asking you to share two podcasts you love with two dads or moms you love today. Enjoy the session! Links from this session: Malik’s first book The Restorative Journey – Book One: The Theory and Application of Restorative Practices, inspires to think and act differently in leadership, relationships and service to others: https://akobenllc.org/products/the-restorative-journey-book-one/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

Marc Rousso has two children; his shares are uplifting and practical and they are very important as we are stuck in a downturn economy caused by the explosive global deceleration we are currently experiencing. Marc built his business from nothing to a decent property company. As Marc and his wife had their first child, Lehman Brothers hit, he went bankrupt, lost his business and was left with $2.500.000 personal debt. Without a paycheck for five years Marc doubled down a new start, his family and being a Dad. It’s amazing to hear how Marc managed to separate the huge anxiety he felt during this time and his role as being a Dad. The session is really powerful and Marc shares beautiful and important insights and tips. Marc wants to create a life without regrets and be the best dad he can be -  regardless of the situation. This was amplified by the sudden death of a dear friend who told him he wished he had spent more time with his kids.Having felt more of a nuisance to his father Marc is trying to be the dad he never had. As a family man and entrepreneur Marc has driven a lot of intentional choices such as creating a family friendly business or ritualising routines that have worked for him and his children. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: When times are tough, there is always that one part of life I can control: being a good dad. A successful life - and being a good dad for that matter - stems from the ability to wake up the next day and be a better version of yourself. Life has a time expiration. Learn to live a life without regret. Every night before bed they play GIN - a card game. For 15 minutes. An amazing way to connect on an ongoing basis. Carve out a dedicated stretch of intentional time with the kids every day where you are present and engaged. If you feel that podcasts help and inspire you to be a better parent I am asking you to share two podcasts you love with two dads or moms you love today. Enjoy the session!  #bankrupcy #dads #entrepreneurship #fatherhood #lifeafterbankrupcy #familygoals --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

Dr. David Zelman is 72 years old, married for 40 years, three children and two grandchildren. David has been doing “Transcendental Meditation” for 50 years. Through his work in the last four decades David has achieved enlightenment. David is a behavioural psychologist and received his PhD back in 1976. He has done extensive work with families and children. David has coached thousands of people nationally and internationally, including billionaires, royalty, industry leaders, entrepreneurs, executives, professional athletes, and performers. David is the founder and CEO of Transitions Institute in Dallas, Texas. His process guides people on a powerful journey of self-discovery and freedom. David feels that individuals are most effective when their intentions and actions are aligned toward a future they deeply desire, and to which they make a deliberate commitment. David says clarity, purpose, and self-expression need to become the guiding principles for living happily and living successfully. In this session we talk about the Transitions model, powerful concepts of parenting and communicating with our children. David shares valuable insights from his forty years of working with people and particularly families and children. The session was truly powerful and there are so many valuable and amazing, positive learnings. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: To be a better Dad I have to be a better self. Live in the present but with a future mindset. Nothing I’ve ever accomplished in my life did I do on my own. Look for opportunities to celebrate your relationship with your kids. My actions and feelings are perfectly correlated to whatever my internal conversations are. Promote a growth mindset in your kids. Kids need to have a say. Teach them to be other-oriented. The capacity to communicate with others is fundamental to their success in life. So is mine. Be present to their being present. Be conscious of their awareness. Be conscious of who I am as a provider in my different roles. Listen, listen, listen to them and their world around them. Don’t hurt them, guilt them or make them afraid of me. Don’t make them choose sides. Please do get involved in our mission to facilitate family success. If you feel that podcasts help and inspire you to be a better parent I am asking you to share two podcasts you love with two dads or moms you love today. Enjoy the session! Links from this episode: Dr. David Zelman’s book: “If I can, you can. Transformation made easy”: https://books.google.co.za/books/about/If_I_Can_You_Can_Transformation_Made_Eas.html?id=zRaNCwAAQBAJ&redir_esc=y --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

Jeremy Ames is 42, married and has 2 kids. He lives in Idaho in the U.S. and is a serial entrepreneur. Jeremy’s current business, Guidant Financial, has helped over 18.000 entrepreneurs put more than 4 billion USD to work, mainly in small businesses or franchises. In 2007, Jeremy was honored as the National Young Entrepreneur of the Year by the Small Business Administration. I like this session a lot because it’s mainly just an honest chat between two dads. Jeremy says his main challenge as a dad is balancing his time to feed personal growth, his desire to build businesses and spend quality one-on-one time with his friends and family. I was intrigued to hear his strategies and experience shares coming from such a high-paced, driven individual. Jeremy is a brave man at heart and we had a powerful and valuable conversation about love, family, relationship and self. Jeremy opens up about his own family challenges and how he manages to keep his marriage healthy. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Do not let your own ego and sense of validation get tied up in how others perceive your kids. Do an annual trip with only one of the kids and yourself - kids decide where to go. It’s difficult to engage with kids over activities outside of your own bias. Keeping appointments is a superpower. Lastly: please do get involved in our mission to facilitate family success: share two podcasts - any podcasts - that inspire you to be a better parent with two parents you love today. Enjoy this session! #dad #dads #entrepreneurship #entrepeurdad #fatherhood #parenting #relationship #supportsystem #father --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message