What happens when your "type" doesn't seem to work, yet you keep gravitating towards people with similar characteristics over and over again? We're here to learn how to reset our romantic GPS with Mark Sholes so we don't keep steering toward the wrong partners. We discuss how attachment style plays into the partners you choose, when to work through a rough patch vs. accept it's not the right partner for you, and how to start making different choices that lead to different outcomes for your love life. Learn more about Marc's work at https://www.marcsholeslcsw.com/ and check out his book 'Reset Your Romantic GPS' Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts. This episode is sponsored by: Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Hers: Get access to medical providers for help with anxiety and depression. For more information visit forhers.com/spring Nux Activeware: Get 20% off your purchase at nuxactive.com and use the code DATEABLE20 at checkout. Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We all want to be the cute loving couple but never to be THAT couple....so what's the line? And how do your levels of PDA change depending on if you're alone vs. with friends, family, or coworkers? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing ways to show love and affection that won't alienate others, what to say if you have THAT friend who makes it uncomfortable, and how to stay inclusive so no one feels like the third wheel. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.com Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard This episode is sponsored by: Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Hers: Get access to medical providers for help with anxiety and depression. For more information visit forhers.com/spring Nux Activeware: Get 20% off your purchase at nuxactive.com and use the code DATEABLE20 at checkout. Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Is there ever a good way to break up with someone? Well, we know there are certainly some less-than-ideal ways (ahem text) as we chat with comedian Allison Goldberg about the art of breaking up and if texting is ever a good idea. We discuss why text is the modern-day post-it note (IFYKYK), how you can get more closure in any breakup, and ways laughter can be the best medicine to help us heal. Follow Allison Goldberg @alli_goldi and learn more about her upcoming shows at https://www.allisongoldberg.com/ (or become a contestant on https://www.loveisntblind.co/!) Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard This episode is sponsored by: HoneyLove: Treat yourself to the best shapewear on the market and save 20% Off at honeylove.com with the code DATEABLE Nux Activeware: Get 20% off your purchase at nuxactive.com and use the code DATEABLE20 at checkout. Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

From all the romcoms and dating advice, we've been told over and over again: if they wanted to, they would. They'd move mountains to be with us and if they can't, then they just aren't that into it. In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing when someone says they can't do something / they aren't ready and what this means for you, why this saying isn't always so black and white, and how to use this information to help propel you forward in your love life. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.com Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard This episode is sponsored by: Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Nux Activeware: Get 20% off your purchase at nuxactive.com and use the code DATEABLE20 at checkout. Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Why is it so damn difficult to make it past the second date in today's world? We're chatting with Kevin about how it was so hard that he thought he had a second date curse – until he realized the pressure he was putting on himself. We discuss why we look at dating as an achievement, how to stop putting so much emphasis on milestones and metrics such as the number of dates you've been on, and how you can start to enjoy the process more of dating. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard This episode is sponsored by: BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE Blissy: Get 30% off silk pillows with the code DATEABLE at https://blissy.com/dateable Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

When dating, we're always looking to see if we have common interests as potential partners....but does it matter? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing how a relationship can work if you have different hobbies and interests, the line between accommodating your lifestyle vs. what doesn't matter for the long haul, and how we can reframe what we're looking for to account for the growth and change that's bound to happen in a long-term partnership. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.com Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard This episode is sponsored by: Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Nux Activeware: Get 20% off your purchase at nuxactive.com and use the code DATEABLE20 at checkout. Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We often throw up the red flag card, but how can we make sure we are focused on actual red flags that may lead to unhealthy relationships? We're diving in with Ebele Onyema from the OneLove Foundation about signs of unhealthy behaviors in relationships and how they can show up subtly in early dating. We discuss the line that makes a behavior unhealthy (or even abusive), how you talk to a friend whether it's you or them in the situation, and what green flags to look out for that make for healthy relationships. TW: We discuss both physically and emotionally abusive relationships Learn more about The One Love foundation (and get their free guides to healthy & unhealthy relationships) at JoinOneLove.org Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard This episode is sponsored by: One Love Foundation: visit JoinOneLove.org, a national non-profit dedicated to ending relationship abuse, and learn to spot the signs of unhealthy AND healthy relationship behaviors. Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

When we're dating we always want to know...is this person as invested in me as I am in them? Are they serious about this relationship? But what happens when all the boxes are checked but you still are unsure? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re talking about how DTR'ing and putting labels on a relationship aren't everything, how you can communicate what a relationship means to you, and why expressing how you feel and giving the space for a partner to meet you is what a relationship is all about. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.com Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard This episode is sponsored by: One Love Foundation: visit JoinOneLove.org, a national non-profit dedicated to ending relationship abuse, and learn to spot the signs of unhealthy AND healthy relationship behaviors. Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It's getting hot in here – as we chat about sex, intimacy, and why talking about sex could be the key to having the love life you've always wanted. Whether you wish you were having more or happy with the way things are, single or partnered up – it doesn't matter – we're diving into it all with sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her husband Xander. We discuss what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors for couples, how to talk about sex in early dating without being creepy, and why talking about sex doesn't have to be scary (and can actually be sexy!). Learn more about Vanessa and Xander at: https://sextalksbook.com/ and check out their book 'Sex Talks: The 5 conversations that will transform your love life' today. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard This episode is sponsored by: One Love Foundation: visit JoinOneLove.org, a national non-profit dedicated to ending relationship abuse, and learn to spot the signs of unhealthy AND healthy relationship behaviors. BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What happens when you’re dating someone who needs large amounts of alone time? How do you not start to feel neglected? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re talking about the balance of your personal well-being with your partners needs. We discuss what a healthy amount of independence looks like, how you can make both yourself and your partner a priority, and why independence doesn’t have to be imbalance. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.com Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard This episode is sponsored by: One Love Foundation: visit JoinOneLove.org, a national non-profit dedicated to ending relationship abuse, and learn to spot the signs of unhealthy AND healthy relationship behaviors. Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Why is it so difficult to be single AND happy? And why do we assume being in a relationship will bring us nothing but joy? We’re diving into science-based strategies to keep your sanity while looking for a soulmate with Dr. Jenny Taitz, Psyd. We discuss how to stop thinking about being single as a layover to a relationship, the thoughts that get in our own way, and how we can enjoy our own company even when we’re partnered up. Learn more about Dr. Jenny Taiz: https://drjennytaitz.com/ and check out her book 'How to be Single & Happy' today. Our Finding Your Person program is back for v-day's day! Registration is open now until 2/19. Get your spot now before they fill up: https://www.findingyourperson.com Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard This episode is sponsored by: One Love Foundation: visit JoinOneLove.org, a national non-profit dedicated to ending relationship abuse, and learn to spot the signs of unhealthy AND healthy relationship behaviors. HoneyLove: Treat yourself to the best shapewear on the market and save 20% Off at honeylove.com with the code DATEABLE BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We're back for our final installment of Ask Us Anything before Season 16! We're picking up some topics y'all wrote in about such as the #1 thing we'd fix about modern dating, how we'd approach dating if we were single again, and more! Plus we spill the tea on some BTS (behind the scenes) stuff we've encountered in our 7 years of doing this podcast. Our Finding Your Person program is back for v-day's day! Registration is open now until 2/19. Get your spot now before they fill up: https://www.findingyourperson.com/ Make sure to subscribe today so you are there when Season 16 drops on February 14th!! Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard This episode is sponsored by: One Love Foundation: visit JoinOneLove.org, a national non-profit dedicated to ending relationship abuse, and learn to spot the signs of unhealthy AND healthy relationship behaviors. Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

With Valentine’s Day (and our new season!) right around the corner, what better way to end our bonus episodes than with a v-day prep guide. Whether you’re pretending this day doesn’t exist, celebrating with a new partner, hitting the town for galentine’s day (or the bro equivalent), or snuggling with your beau of many years, we’re diving into how to prep for the big day, the best gifts for every stage of a relationship, and how to shower yourself and others with love regardless of your status. Our Finding Your Person program is back for v-day's day! Registration will be from 2/12 to 2/19. Get on the waitlist now to learn more and be able to get your spot a day early before they fill up: https://www.findingyourperson.com/ Make sure to subscribe today so you are there when Season 16 drops on February 14th!! Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard This episode is sponsored by: One Love Foundation: visit JoinOneLove.org, a national non-profit dedicated to ending relationship abuse, and learn to spot the signs of unhealthy AND healthy relationship behaviors. Blissy: Get 30% off silk pillows with the code DATEABLE at https://blissy.com/dateable Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

You've asked, and we've delivered. We're doing our first-ever Ask Us Anything episodes leading up to our Season 16 Premiere! We're diving into a few gems we received from you all around topics such as if we've been on a date with a listener before, whether to wait to meet someone IRL, how to date without resorting back to old patterns, plus so much more. Our Finding Your Person program is back for v-day's day! Registration will be from 2/12 to 2/19. Get on the waitlist now to learn more and be able to get your spot a day early before they fill up: https://www.findingyourperson.com/ Make sure to subscribe today so you are there when Season 16 drops on February 14th!! Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard This episode is sponsored by: One Love Foundation: visit JoinOneLove.org, a national non-profit dedicated to ending relationship abuse, and learn to spot the signs of unhealthy AND healthy relationship behaviors. Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Modern dating sucks, but it shouldn't have to – and in fact, we can make it better, we know we can. We're catching up on what's been going on in the new year and re-airing an episode where we were guests on the podcast Seeing Other People with Ilana Dunn. We discuss the biggest mistakes that are happening in all our dating lives, how we can turn each date into a learning experience, and why it's important to focus on the positives when dating. Follow Ilana @ilana.dunn and @seeingotherpeople and listen to Seeing Other People wherever you listen to podcasts Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard This episode is sponsored by: One Love Foundation: visit JoinOneLove.org, a national non-profit dedicated to ending relationship abuse, and learn to spot the signs of unhealthy AND healthy relationship behaviors. Blissy: Get 30% off silk pillows with the code DATEABLE at https://blissy.com/dateable Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

From being the "cool girl" to avoiding difficult conversations to blowing up when trying to DTR, we're unpacking more bad dating habits that we both had – that you probably do too. But this week, Julie is interviewing Yue about her dating history and how these behaviors got in her way – even today. We're discussing how dating games ended up being counterproductive, why bad dating behavior is often a self-protection mechanism, and how to continue to grow at any stage of a relationship. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard This episode is sponsored by: BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE Apostrophe: Get your first visit for only $5 at apostraphe.com/dateable using the code DATEABLE. Nux Activeware: Get 20% off your purchase at nuxactive.com and use the code DATEABLE20 at checkout. Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

From staying in situationships to being rigid with timelines, we all have some bad dating behaviors that have gotten in our way. On this week's bonus episode, Yue is interviewing Julie about her past patterns and how they still sneak in even while in a relationship. We dive into it all: from how these behaviors were learned, how they manifest in dating, and how she's still trying to unlearn them today. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard Thank you to our partners for this episode: Apostrophe: Get your first visit for only $5 at apostraphe.com/dateable using the code DATEABLE. Nux Activeware: Get 20% off your purchase at nuxactive.com and use the code DATEABLE20 at checkout. Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Is this the year we'll finally stop ghosting each other? With Dating Sunday behind us, it's time to take on 2023 with all we got. On this bonus episode, we're chatting about how to recession-proof your dating life, what's happening with dating and our mental health, and why 2023 is the year to finally take control of your love life. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard Thank you to our partners for this episode: Apostrophe: Get your first visit for only $5 at apostraphe.com/dateable using the code DATEABLE. Nux Activeware: Get 20% off your purchase at nuxactive.com and use the code DATEABLE20 at checkout. Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

With the new year upon us, it's time to get intentional about what we want for our love lives. We'll be back for Season 16 shortly but in the meantime we've got a bonus episode just for you where we get real about some of our own challenges in our love lives while discussing how we can all ourselves up for success in the new year. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard This episode is sponsored by: BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We're turning the tables as we hear the full story of mismatched timelines, becoming "ready", and letting her love story unfold as we chat with Amy about the trials, tribulations, and triumphs of her relationship with Will (who you may remember from last season!). We discuss the challenges no one talks about with relationships, how to handle difficult conversations and situations when you two just aren't aligned, and how YOU stay the main character despite whatever is happening in your love life. Follow Amy @itsamyjin and learn more about Amy at https://www.amyjin.com/ Check out S14E3: Who will you meet in the wild? if you want to hear from Amy's husband about how they met on his solo travels. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard Thank you to our partners for this episode: Kensington Books: Check out Kensington's newest title You Can Hide by Rebecca Zanetti. You can find it wherever books are sold or visit kensingtonbooks.com OMGYES: Have better sex and relationships with a membership to OMGYES. Visit omgyes.com/dateable for special discounts. Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy