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What does it mean to have the Holy Spirit? To encounter or experience the Holy Spirit? How does he speak to us? Does he speak to us?  Western cultures tend to operate under the assumption that if we can’t explain it, it isn’t real. My guest this week gives us hope beyond what we can understand. Author and pastor Max Lucado encourages us that God wants to guide us and speak to us and reminds us that the Holy Spirit was given to us as believers to guarantee our arrival one day in heaven. He shares some of his own experience and what it’s like to hear from God by the power of the Holy Spirit. If you are looking for empowerment in motherhood and strength for difficult days and decisions, Max Lucado is encouraging you to “open yourself to the possibility that the greatest power in the universe is alive and well accessible to you wherever you are.” Connect with Max Lucado:  Website:  https://maxlucado.com  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maxlucado  Instagram:  @maxlucado Twitter: @maxlucado YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/MaxLucadoOfficial  Links Mentioned:   Help is Here: Finding Fresh Strength and Purpose in the Power of the Holy Spirit by Max Lucado  Cru Spiritual Gifts Quiz   Related Episodes: You Are Never Alone :: Max Lucado [Ep 298] Parenting in the Power of the Holy Spirit :: Jeannie Cunnion [Ep 347]  Featured Sponsors:  Find links to this week’s sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors. 
How do you feel when you are in between stages of life? Excited? Nervous? Afraid?  Tweens - those kids in between childhood and adolescence - are capable, growing into their own thoughts and ideas and preferences, but not quite as opinionated as teenagers.  In this “in between” there is plenty of room for curiosity and character development if we will stay connected to and interested in our kids.  My guest this week is Charissa Lopez (she’s gotten married since she was last on the show as Charissa Fry), a therapist and parent coach, and she encourages us that healthy attachment can lead to healthy individuation (that process of our kids distinguishing themselves from us).  She helps us see that for the entire time we are in relationship with our kids they need comfort and encouragement and connection with us. Though we still have authority over our kids we, as parents, are transitioning out of such a hands-on role in their lives and Charissa helps us think through puberty and friend groups, and our tweens’ spiritual growth.  Connect with Charissa Lopez:  Website:  https://charissalopez.com  Special Resources for DMA Listeners from past episodes: https://charissalopez.com/resources/regulation-pack/ Links Mentioned*:   **For resources mentioned below, parents should read the book first. Don’t feel like you have to read every word to your child. Just use the parts that work for your family and skip the rest. Or discuss why some people believe differently than you.* Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté  It’s So Amazing!:A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies and Families The Care and Keeping of You: The Body Book for Younger Girls, Revised Edition The Care and Keeping of You 2: The Body Book for Older Girls Guy Stuff: The Body Book for Boys Birds and Bees Ministry with Mary Flo Ridley and Megan Michelson Related Episodes: Connecting Through Play :: Charissa Fry [Ep 319]  The Window of Tolerance :: Charissa Fry [Ep 260]  Self-Differentiation and Why it Matters :: Nancy Houston [Ep 335] Featured Sponsors:  Find links to this week’s sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors.
What do we do with ourselves when our kids need less of our minute to minute attention? How do we fill the space given to us when kids go to preschool or elementary school?  If we aren’t intentional as we step into this next phase of motherhood it can become a place of confusion or lost identity. As we focus on different Ages & Stages of our children’s development during this series we are taking an aside this week to parent ourselves if you will.  My guest this week, Kara Trochta, has a special place in her heart for the moms in the middle - whose children aren’t all launched into adulthood but who aren’t asking for their juice boxes to be opened 1675 times a day anymore. Through her own journey of soul searching and learning to dream again she has created a program to walk moms through this process of realigning who you are and where you are headed.   Connect with Kara Trochta:  Website:  https://www.karatrochta.com/session/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/karatrochtacoaching/  Instagram:  @karatrochta  Links Mentioned:    Book Your Free Middle Motherhood™️ Life Audit Session to get clarity and create purpose and passion in this next season of motherhood. www.karatrochta.com/session Grab your Free Guide: 5 Steps to Writing Your Next Chapter in Motherhood www.karatrochta.com/free  Related Episodes: Sunday Planning :: Retha Nichole [Ep 349] Manage Your Life with Guilt-Free Confidence :: Christy Wright [Ep 192]  Creating Family Culture :: Amber O’Neal Johnston [SOM Wk 4] Featured Sponsors:  Find links to this week’s sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors. 
What is your favorite elementary school memory? A teacher you loved? Playing on a favorite team? Parenting elementary school kids can sometimes feel like a breath of fresh air - kids are more capable, they can get their own snacks, help out around the house, and more. But in every stage of childhood our kids are developing and it’s important we give them the tools to do so.   My guest this week is pediatrician, author, speaker, and mom, Dr. Meg Meeker. For over thirty years she has been helping kids and their parents navigate childhood. In this episode she encourages us to let our elementary kids slow down and grow self-esteem and empathy by being and doing with us. We cover a range of topics from identity formation to sensory issues to extra curricular activities.  Connect with [Dr. Meg Meeker]:  Website:  https://www.meekerparenting.com  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/megmeekermd/  Instagram:  @megmeekermd Twitter: @megmeekermd  Podcast: https://www.meekerparenting.com/podcast  Links Mentioned:   Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters on PureFlix Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know by Dr. Meg Meeker  Related Episodes: Creating Digital Safe Spaces :: Chris McKenna [Ep 360] Shaping Your Family Culture :: Kimberly Amici [Ep 294] Featured Sponsors:  Thrive Market. Get convenient, high-quality, affordable groceries delivered with Thrive Market! Join Thrive Market today and get $80 in free groceries! Visit ThriveMarket.com/DMA.  Rothy’s. Find your new favorite shoes and get $20off your first purchase at rothys.com/DMA. Thrive Causemetics. Right now, you can get 15% off your first order when you visit thrivecausemetics.com/DMA.
It’s cliché until you have to live it - the grocery store crying infant or toddler tantrum. The hushed pleas or commands from embarrassed parents. The silent judgment of others. Crying or whining are often attempts at communication, but they cause a stress response in moms and it can feel easier to just hush the child than keep a boundary. From there it’s a quick hop, skip, and a jump to all the mom-guilt we can throw on our shoulders. No, we can’t keep your toddler from throwing inane tantrums or make your infant suddenly articulate, but we know someone who can help you approach these situations from a different perspective.  As a licensed Language of Listening parent coach, certified sleep consultant, and mom to 5 kids, Rachel Norman has experienced a lot of infant and toddler behavior. In this episode she teaches us how to validate our children’s feelings while holding our boundaries. Rachel helps us understand why managing and understanding our own stress response to whining and crying can be a valuable tool as we help our children learn to regulate their own emotions.  Connect with Rachel Norman:  Website:  https://amotherfarfromhome.com  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AMotherFarFromHome?ref=hl  Twitter: @momfarfromhome  Instagram:  @amotherfarfromhome Links Mentioned:   If Mama Ain't Happy: Why Minding Healthy Boundaries Is Good for Your Whole Family (A Mother's Guide to Joy, Anxiety Relief, and Freedom from Depression, Stress, and Weariness. A Book of Hope for Moms.) by Rachel Norman   **Please note, this is a pre-order link. The book releases October 11, 2022.** Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kids by Scott Turansky  It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn  Do Over Principle Video  Quiet Time (Rest Time) for Toddlers: All You Need to Know A Mother Far From Home blog post Related Episodes: Fed is Best || New Baby Series Pt 1 :: Demetria Martin and Dr. Odom [Ep 342] Fed is Best || New Baby Series Pt 2 :: Dr. Bridget Young [Bonus] Shepherding Healthy Sleep Habits :: Jenn and Robin of Sleepy Cues [Ep 230] Featured Sponsors:  Ladder Life. Visit LadderLife.com/DMA today to see if you’re instantly approved. Gladskin. Enjoy 15% off plus free shipping on your first order at Gladskin.com/DMA.   Hello Fresh. Visit HelloFresh.com/DMA16 and use code DMA16 for 16 free meals across 7 boxes AND 3 free gifts!
What fear pops up in your parenting again and again? Maybe it’s, “how do I teach my kids that they can do hard things in a loving way?” or, “what if my kids make bad decisions?” or “what if I’m a bad mom?” These fears can feel overwhelming and that the answers to them are complicated.  My guest this week gives us an unexpected ally in overcoming the fears that grip us as moms - reading aloud. It sounds almost too simple, but author and mom of 7, Jennifer Pepito, shows us that the stories we share with our kids can help them navigate some of the tougher experiences with life. By exposing our kids to character building stories we can infuse them with perspective and thoughtfulness as they face life’s difficult situations. She also encourages us that forgiveness can be an avenue to freedom from fear in our lives and specifically our parenting.  TRIGGER WARNING: This episode briefly mentions suicide. If you or anyone you know are struggling with suicidal thoughts please reach out to someone you trust. You can call or text 988 anytime of day or night.  Connect with Jennifer Pepito:  Website:  https://www.thepeacefulpreschool.com  Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/peacefulpress/   Instagram:  @JenniferPepito Links Mentioned:   Mothering by the Book: The Power of Reading Aloud to Overcome Fear and Recapture Joy by Jennifer Pepito PREORDER BONUSES→Mothering by the Book: The Power of Reading Aloud to Overcome Fear and Recapture Joy by Jennifer Pepito Wild and Free Podcast  Books Mentioned: Endurance: Shackleton’s Incredible Voyage by Alfred Lansing  Little Britches: Father and I Were Ranchers  by Ralph Moody (book 1 of 8 in series) The Hiding Place  by Corrie Ten Boom Swiss Family Robinson  by Johann David Wyss James Herriot book series  The Little House 9 Volume Set (includes Little House on the Prairie) by Laura Ingalls Wilder Treasures of the Snow by Patricia St. John  All-of-a-Kind Family by Sydney Taylor  The Saturdays by Elizabeth Enright  Related Episodes: Recovering from Mom Burnout :: Nicole Zasowski [Ep 357] The Day Fear Died :: Courtney Smallbone [Ep 201] Practicing Faith Through Fear :: Dominique Young [Ep 295] Featured Sponsors:  Caraway. Non-Toxic cookware made modern. Get 10% off your next purchase at Carawayhome.com/DMA. Stitch Fix. For a limited time, get $20 off your first purchase at StitchFix.com/DMA  Outschool. Save $15 on your child’s first class at Outschool.com/DMA.
Doubt is a normal part of a growing faith. When the big questions come, you can navigate them with confidence.  Is it worth it to go to church? If God is loving, why would he allow bad stuff in the world? Did God really create me the way I am on purpose? Questions and exploration are rites of passage for the teenage years as each of us grapples (in varying degrees) to figure out who we are and where we want to go in life. With a near endless supply of voices, ideas, and influences from the internet and culture at large it can feel like our kids are in danger of being lost in a sea of information we have no control over.  But all is not lost! My guest this week, apologist and writer Mary Jo Sharp, encourages us to walk with our kids into the tunnel of doubt. She reminds us that contrary to what we might think, we really are still the biggest influencers on our child’s religious views and that the culture we create in our homes around self transformation and questioning can help our kids make their faith their own. By giving them a safe space to ask and discuss the big questions of life we will likely give ourselves a seat at their decision-making table.  Mary and her team create resources for parents and teens as they walk through doubt and faith finding at DarkroomFaith.com Connect with Mary Jo Sharp:  Website:  https://maryjosharp.com  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/confidentchristianity/  Instagram:  @MaryJoSharp Twitter: @MaryJoSharp Links Mentioned:   Darkroom Faith  Jane Eyre: A Guide to Reading and Reflecting by Karen Swallow Prior, Charlotte Brontë Confronting Christianity: 12 Hard Questions for the World’s Largest Religion by Rebecca McLaughlin 10 Questions Every Teen Should Ask (and Answer) about Christianity by Rebecca McLaughlin  "Unfiltered" a documentary on the Chosen App   Related Episodes: Practicing Faith Through Fear :: Dominique Young [Ep 295] Building Lasting Faith in Your Kids :: Dr. Kara Powell [Ep 290] Featured Sponsors:  Thrive Market. Get eighty dollars in free groceries! Go to ThriveMarket.com/DMA.  Gladskin. Get 15% off plus free shipping on your first order at Gladskin.com/DMA.  Indeed. Start hiring now with $75 sponsored job credit to upgrade your job post at Indeed.com/DMA. 
Marriage is like riding a bike with no training wheels - you have to keep pedaling to stay up. There’s no easy downhill, no coasting. It’s worth it, but it’s work. Add a kid or a few in there with work and bills and activities and it’s easy for us to stop the pedaling of intentionality that builds a strong marriage.  My guest this week is Kimberly Beam Holmes and without God’s intervention and her parents’ commitment to do the hard work of repairing their broken marriage she wouldn’t be alive! Now she is committed to helping couples build strong relationships through the organization her father started, Marriage Helper. They are passionate about situations that feel hopeless and she encourages us that while growing a healthy marriage isn’t simplistic, there are simple places for us to start.  Connect with Kimberly Beam Holmes:  Website:  https://marriagehelper.com  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MarriageHelper/  Instagram:  @marriagehelper  @kimberlybeamholmes TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/marriagehelper  Links Mentioned:    Concrete Conversations Cards    Related Episodes: Sinners Married to Sinners - How God Refines Us :: Cheryl Scruggs & Jae Carpenter [Ep 195] Habits of a Healthy Marriage :: Paul David Tripp [Ep 234] Featured Sponsors:  Rothys. Step up your shoes and accessories, get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/DMA. Thrive Causemetics. Now is a great time to try Thrive Causemetics for yourself! Get 15% off your first order when you visit thrivecausemetics.com/DMA.  
If you’re new here or even if you’ve been around a while, join us this week as I give you a glimpse into who I am, how Don’t Mom Alone came about, and where we’re headed as a show. We’ll talk through a listener story and some of my own healing journey I’ve walked through this summer. My hope is you’ll accept the invitation to “withness”. And, that you’ll join our team to help other moms not go it alone.  Links Mentioned:   DMA Podcast Club Info Redeeming Shame Through Community :: Dr. Curt Thompson [Ep 308] Related Episodes: Introducing the GCM Podcast Club — Carla Goodwin— Oct 2016 Answering Your Questions—Heather—Ep 276 Winning Together as Co-Laborers —Heather—Ep 367  Featured Sponsors:  Stitch Fix—Sign up today at StitchFix.com/DMA to get $20 off your first purchase. Limited time offer purchase within 2 days of signup.  HelloFresh-Go to HelloFresh.com/dma16 and use code dma16 for 16 free meals across 7 boxes AND 3 free gifts.
Media is all around us - movies, music, tv, online videos, reels, TikToks, and more. And, there are as many parenting strategies around media as there are types of media. How do we safeguard our kids around media in today’s culture? Spoiler Alert: We aren’t going to talk about what to watch per se, but rather how to watch.  In this episode I’ll talk about what it could look like for us to raise not just haphazard watchers but discerning media consumers. Of course, we should exercise wisdom with what our kids watch and listen to, but also, as moms we’re in the business of teaching men to fish.  Let’s teach our kids to become discerning viewers. I’ll give you some handlebars to foster discussions about movies or TV with your kids and to get them thinking about what they’re watching too. “We want our children to know the one good story so well that when they see Luke Skywalker, Harry Potter, Frodo, Anne of Green Gables, Ariel, and Sleeping Beauty they can recognize the strands of truth and deception in them.” (Karalee Reinke, in Ep 27).  “O Discerning Spirit,  Who alone judges all things rightly,  Now be present in my mind and active In my imagination as I prepare to engage  With the claims and questions of diverse cultures Incarnated in the stories that people tell.”  A Liturgy Before Consuming Media, Every Moment Holy by Douglas McKelvey Links Mentioned:   Feeding the Mouth That Bites You  by Kenneth Wilgus, PhD  VidAngel Filtering Service Minno PureFlix Related Episodes: Family Movie Moms :: Amanda White [Ep 27] Annie, Into the Woods, & Night at the Museum 3 :: Family Movie Moms [Ep 53] Summer Movie Edition :: (Inside Out, Tomorrowland) :: Family Movie  Moms [Ep 79] Mockingjay & Big Hero 6 :: Family Movie Moms [Ep 49] How to Train a Dragon 2 :: Family Movie Moms [Ep 31]  Movie Discussion Guides Meet the Robinsons :: Family Movie Discussion Guide Big Hero 6 :: Family Movie Discussion Guide Family Movie Discussion Guide : “Cars” (Pride & Humility of Lightning McQueen) “The LEGO Movie” Family Discussion Guide Frozen :: Family Movie Discussion Guide Using God’s Story to Analyze Movies Dolphin Tale 2 :: Family Movie Discussion Guide (& Review)  Featured Sponsors:  Caraway - Visit Carawayhome.com/DMA to take advantage of this limited time offer for 10% off your next purchase.  GladSkin -  Gladskin is offering listeners 15% off plus free shipping on your first order at gladskin.com/DMA.  Ladder - Go to LadderLife.com/dma today to see if you’re instantly approved.
What would it take for you to walk away from the most abundant time in your career? From a time that was not only full, but fun, rewarding, and productive?  My guest this week, Christy Wright did just that - walked away from a season of immense abundance in her career, not because of difficult situations but simply because God called her out of it. She says this call was so clear she came to a point where she feared disobedience more than the uncertainty of leaving her career. She followed God into a new season of freedom and work. It's like God called Christy in for a meeting to talk about rebranding - not to change who He had created her to be, but to change her everyday look and her assignments.  We've spent our summer talking through our unique "mom brands" and in our final week of Summer of Mentorship we're hitting on something that will happen to each of us as moms at one point or many - the need to rebrand. To leave behind what worked and was right for that specific time to embrace what God is saying is right for now. Ecclesiastes reminds us there is rhythm and seasons to life and we will walk through transitions in our work and home life. Christy encourages us to courageously cling to God's voice in those times and not let the fear of uncertainty keep us from the rebranding God is walking us through..    Discussion Questions: What stood out to you from the episode?  What current roles help shape your days?  Are you ok with you when you take away what you do? Or, how easily can you separate out who you are from what you do?  Have you gone through a “rebranding” as a mom? Either because of change in circumstance or because your routines weren’t serving you, or for another reason. What was difficult about that time? What was beneficial in that transition? Spend the last 10 minutes of your group time in silence praying and listening and ask God, “Is there anything I need to be freed from?” Connect with Christy Wright:  Website:  https://www.christy-wright.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OfficialChristyWright  Instagram:  @ChristyBWright Links Mentioned:   Take Back Your Time : The Guilt-Free Guide to Life Balance by Christy Wright  How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t with Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent by Carla Naumburg, PhD Related Episodes: Manage Your Life With Guilt-Free Confidence :: Christy Wright [Ep 192] Featured Sponsors:  Thrive Market. Join Thrive Market today and get $80 eighty dollars in free groceries! Go to ThriveMarket.com/DMA. Athletic Greens. Get a FREE 1 year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D AND 5 FREE travel packs with your first purchase. Visit athleticgreens.com/DMA.  Indeed. Now with Indeed, businesses only pay for quality applications matching the sponsored job description. Visit Indeed.com/DMA to start hiring now.
Does your life look exactly like you want it to? All too often we come across what seems like the life that we want on someone else’s Instagram. You can dismiss those as the “highlight reels”, that is what they are, but sometimes the girl next door has what you want. What do you do then? How do you prep your kids for when they don’t get invited or when they feel like someone else has it better than them?  My guest this week, Karen Ehman, says, “Go find your old self.”  She’s not leading us on an existential journey into the past, but to those around us that need the love of Christ. She encourages us in a powerful way that when we are discouraged by someone who has it “better” than us to find someone who has it “worse” than us, not so we can feel good about something, but because there is a person who needs the love of Christ.  We’re taking time this summer (as usual) to be mentored by some experienced moms and benefit from their wisdom. I’m asking them about their “mom brands” and the unique families and assignments God has given them to help us embrace the specific and unique spot God has given each of us.  Discussion Questions: What stood out to you in this episode? Why?  Who is your “old self”? What was a particularly difficult time God brought you through that you could use as a connection point to love someone else?  When have you felt loved or seen by someone else in the midst of a difficult situation?  Thinking about Karen’s mom and how hard she has to work as a single mom, where in your life are you having to work hard? Which of your God-given assignments is either physically, or mentally, or spiritually challenging? Spend some time praying for these situations with your group.  When you think about loving others by inviting them into your life what limitations come to mind?  Who is a necessary person you can love tangibly this month? Brainstorm ideas with your group about simple ways to show Christ’s love. Connect with Karen Ehman:  Website:  https://karenehman.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OfficialKarenEhman  Instagram:  @karenehman  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLbA_nXZ6HAhLGUL6KNhzRw  Links Mentioned:   Make Their Day: 101 Simple, Powerful Ways to Love Others Well by Karen Ehman Related Episodes: Changing the World for One :: Tara Clapper [Ep 70]  Ridiculous Faith :: Shelene Bryan [Ep 116] Featured Sponsors:  StitchFix: Sign up today at Stitchfix.com/DMA to get $20 off your first purchase.  HelloFresh: Go to HelloFresh.com/dma16 and use the code: dma16 for 16 free meals across 7 boxes AND 3 free gifts.  Thrive Causemetics: You can get 15% off your first order when you visit thrivecausemetics.com/DMA.   
Creating Family Culture :: Amber O’Neal Johnston [SOM Wk 4] You are creating a culture for your family, right now, whether or not you’re aware of it or intentional in it. Your words and actions reveal the functional values you have for your family. Is yours a culture of fun and laughter? Grace and second chances? Integrity and grit? It could be all of those and more, or something simpler - it is unique to your family! Whatever it is, if it isn’t intentionally cultivated it will be like a garden filled with weeds - growing, but haphazard. My guest this week is Amber O’Neal Johnston and one of the values that drives her family’s culture is that her kids would know they are seen and valued at home and in the world. And that other people are just as valuable too.  This, along with other values, drives the decisions they make about how they interact with the world around them, right down to the restaurants they eat at.  She challenges us to not only cultivate a family culture, but to grow as moms and people along the way. Her book, A Place to Belong: Celebrating Diversity and Kinship in the Home and Beyond is available now. We’re taking time this summer (as usual) to be mentored by some experienced moms and benefit from their wisdom. I’m asking them about their “mom brands” and the unique families and assignments God has given them to help us embrace the specific and unique spot God has given each of us.  Discussion Questions: What stood out to you from this episode?  What practices or resources have you used to expose your kids to other cultures?  Where has God called you to speak out in love when you’d prefer to remain silent? Spend time praying with your group for these circumstances. What is one value that you want to emphasize in your home?  Amber shared that she had to release her need to impress other moms in order for her kids to flourish - what expectation or ideal do you need to let go of so that your kids can flourish? How would being secure and confident in your family culture change your relationships with other moms or families?  Connect with Amber Johnston:  Website:  https://heritagemom.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HeritageMomBlog  Instagram:  @heritagemomblog Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/HeritageMomBlog/_created/  Links Mentioned:   A Place to Belong: Celebrating Diversity and Kinship in the Home and Beyond by Amber O’Neal Johnston  Things To Do List from the Heritage Mom Website Related Episodes: Finding Yourself in Motherhood :: Amber O’Neal Johnston [Ep 310] Featured Sponsors:  Athena Club. Get 20% off your first order at AthenaClub.com with promo code DMA. Rothy’s. Your new favorite shoes are waiting. Fet $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/DMA.  Fabric. Protect your family with term life insurance now, in just 10 minutes. Apply today at MeetFabric.com/DMA.
“I don't have time for the things that God has not called me to.” My guest this week, Shontell Brewer, wisely speaks those words. She is a wife and mom of 5. She’s written a book on parenting and still things haven’t always gone the way she’s planned or wanted. But she has learned where to lean in and wait on the Lord. She’s learned that to be intentional as a mom or wife or teacher she’s got to cut out the “keeping up” with others, whether on social media or the mom down the street. And she’s learned that God hasn’t finished writing the story. Even if she can’t see to the end of all God’s workings in her kid’s lives, knowing His word and taking time to commune with Him have given her a firm foundation to stand on.  We’re taking time this summer (as usual) to be mentored by some experienced moms and benefit from their wisdom. I’m asking them about their “mom brands” and the unique families and assignments God has given them to help us embrace the specific and unique spot God has given each of us.  Discussion Questions: What stood out to you from the episode? Shontell encourages us to get on the same level as the person across from us to grow intentionality in our relationships - be it a spouse or child or friend. What relationship in your life needs this sort of attention? How can you meet that person right where they are?  How has God gifted you? Do you know?  Have you thought through what you want for your children, or what the goal of your parenting is? Keeping the tiny humans alive is big work, so no shame at all if you haven’t! If we’re working towards intentionality as moms, thinking through this question can help us cut activities or practices we don’t need and to make space for ones we do.   How do you measure your success as a parent?  What situation or circumstance would benefit from you processing with God before processing with a friend? Set aside time to do that this week.  Connect with Shontell Brewer:  Website:  http://shontellbrewer.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shontell.brewer  Instagram:  @shontellbrewer Twitter: @shontellbrewer   Links Mentioned:   Missionary Mom: Embracing the Mission Field Right Under Your Roof By Shontell Brewer  Cru’s Spiritual Gifts Assessment More info on Spiritual Gifts   Related Episodes: Parenting Small :: Shontell Brewer [Ep 140] Featured Sponsors:  Hello Fresh. Get up to 16 free meals and 3 free gifts at HelloFresh.com/DMA16 Caraway Home. Non-Toxic cookware made modern. Visit Carawayhome.com/DMA to take advantage of a limited-time offer for 10% off your next purchase.  Gladskin. Visit gladskin.com/DMA and get 15% off plus free shipping on your first order.
Childhood should be carefree, right? We hope that our kids make it to adulthood with as few scars as possible, but that isn’t the nature of the world we live in. What happens when our kids encounter grief? What happens when we aren’t able to give them the childhood we wanted them to have?  This week I talk with Lisa Appelo, widow and mom of seven, who found herself in that spot - grieving the life she wanted for herself and her children, and then having to navigate the shift in every relationship that comes through change or grief. What she has found in the last 11+ years has been the presence of God for her and her kids. The rhythm of their regular bible study was a lifeline and she offers us great encouragement of God’s nearness and direct involvement in our lives. Read more of their story in Lisa’s new book Life can be Good Again: Putting Your World Back Together After it All Falls Apart. We’re taking time this summer (as usual) to be mentored by some experienced moms and benefit from their wisdom. I’m asking them about their “mom brands” and the unique families and assignments God has given them to help us embrace the specific and unique spot God has given each of us.  Discussion Questions: What stood out to you in the episode?  What does family bible reading look like in your home? What is one change you could make to your routine to incorporate some kind of bible reading? Think small! Remember that Lisa says it’s a fight to make that space but totally worth it.  Where can you give your kids the freedom to choose, allowing the Lord to work in them independent of your direct guidance? You can think small here too!  Where might you need to step back in your child’s life to preserve your relationship with them? What relationships have shifted because of loss or change, big or small?  Spend time praying with and for one another over these relationships and God’s good plan for them. (This could feel like an insurmountable question for someone in your group - approach it with empathy and care!)   Connect with Lisa Appelo:  Website:  https://lisaappelo.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisaappeloauthor  Instagram:  @lisaappelo Twitter: @AppeloLisa Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/LisaAppelo/_created/    Links Mentioned:   Life Can be Good Again: Putting Your World Back Together After it All Falls Apart by Lisa Appelo  Hinds’ Feet on High Places: An Engaging Visual Journey by Hannah Hurnard  Hinds’ Feet on High Places: Children’s Edition by Hannah Hurnard  Write the Word Journal for Kids Love God Greatly SOAP Journal One Year Devotional for Boys 2 Related Episodes: How to Fight Fear & Believe in a Faithful God :: Lisa Appelo [Ep 84] Featured Sponsors:  Athletic Greens. Reclaim your health and arm your immune system with convenient, daily nutrition! Get a FREE 1 year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D AND 5 FREE travel packs with your first purchase at athleticgreens.com/DMA.  Stitch Fix. Sign up today at StitchFix.com/DMA to get $20 off your first purchase. Indeed. Need a hire? You need Indeed. Now with Indeed, businesses only pay for quality applications matching the sponsored job description. Visit Indeed.com/DMA to start hiring now.
“Don’t care how, I want it now!” When we watch Veruca Salt sing those words in Willy Wonka we are immediately repulsed. And yet, lots of our time and energy is spent trying to unlock the secrets to a quick change of our circumstance.  This week, mom of seven Helen Smallbone, encourages us that following Christ and parenting alike are long games. Marathons, in fact. She has honesty and wisdom to offer as we strive to grow and maintain relationships with our kids that last into adulthood. She also encourages us with some practical ways to foster relationships between our kids, to get them working, and retain our own sanity.  We’re taking time this summer (as usual) to be mentored by some experienced moms and benefit from their wisdom. This year I'm recording new interviews and I’m asking guests about their “mom brands”. They share their values, unique assignments God has given them and what helps their family flourish. The goal is to help you define your "mom brand" and the places God is assigning you.  Discussion Questions: What stood out to you from the episode?  Do you take a “mum’s time out” during the day? Why or why not? What would change about your day if you did?  How do you balance connection with your kids while maintaining the boundaries of a parent-child relationship? How do you typically handle sibling conflict? Which of Helen’s tactics could you adapt to use in your own home?  How do you maintain or reestablish connection with your child after an argument/difficult exchange? What’s your favorite way to help kids get their energy out? If another mom shares one that might work at your house, write it down!  Helen reminded us that motherhood is not for the faint of heart - what aspect of motherhood has got you feeling fainthearted? Spend some time praying for one another about those specific areas.  Connect with Helen Smallbone:  Website:  https://www.mumlife.org/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/helenjsmallbone/  Instagram:  @MumLifeCommunity Podcast: MUM Life Community  Links Mentioned: Behind the Lights: The Extraordinary Adventure of a Mum and Her Family by Helen Smallbone  PAST EPISODE: Gentle Christ-Centered Parenting {Ep 363} Related Episodes: Raising Rock Stars on a Firm Foundation :: Helen Smallbone [Ep 166] Summer of Mentorship 2019 Week Four :: Helen Smallbone  Featured Sponsors:  Thrive. Join Thrive Market today and get $80 in free groceries! Visit ThriveMarket.com/DMA. Peloton. The Peloton Bike+ is now $500 less, its best price yet! Including FREE delivery and setup. Visit onepeloton.com to learn more. Fabric. Protect your family with term life insurance now, in just 10 minutes. Apply today at MeetFabric.com/DMA to start protecting your family today.
Tragedy struck and Paulette Franklin could have given up hope. Instead, she used it as a chance to “bring together the village of hope and help” from her extended family, namely her aunts, who lived both near and far. They rallied around Paulette and her boys through presence and connection. Make no mistake, single parenting was still hard work, but by clinging to her faith in God and the village around her, she and her boys thrived.  Though this bond with extended family was knitted together well before Paulette’s husband passed away, she had to let them in, she had to let them help. For Paulette’s middle son, DeVon, and his brothers, their aunts’ houses became places of refuge and connection that they still rely on to this day.  DeVon and his aunts tell their compelling and encouraging story in his audiobook, It Takes a Woman, available now on Audible. Through the audiobook all of our villages are enlarged, all of their wisdom can be ours. Connect with DeVon and Paulette Franklin:  Website:  https://devonfranklin.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DeVonFranklinOfficial  Instagram:  @DeVonFranklin Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKqTVGX0BZGQ5xPX98ibb4g  Twitter: @DeVonFranklin   Links Mentioned:    It Takes a Woman audiobook by DeVon Franklin Heather’s Interview with Jennifer Garner and Christy Beam (start at 32:20 mark)   Related Episodes: Be Vulnerable, Find Your People :: Jennie Allen [Ep 354] Mom, You are Important, but Not Essential, That’s Good News :: Brittany J. Turner [Ep 361] Truth for When You Feel Like a Bad Mom :: Jamie Ivey [Ep 339]  Featured Sponsors:  Athena Club–Get 20% off your first order at AthenaClub.com with promo code dma.  Rothy’s–Your new favorite shoes are waiting. Discover the versatile styles you can wear absolutely anywhere and get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/DMA.  Ladder– So go to LadderLife.com/dma today to see if you’re instantly approved.   
Over 20% of Gen Z identifies as LGBTQ+.  That’s roughly 1 in 4 of today’s teen and young adult populations. There is a lot of confusion around gender and sexuality in our Christian culture today - how do we love others well that have different belief systems and  different language around gender and sexuality? How do we parent our children in a way that honors our faith and what we believe to be true? What do we do with the Church’s reputation of hate towards LGBTQ people we inherited?  With even the staunchest of liberals asking questions around the sharp rise in people identifying as LGBTQ our grace and truth filled responses are more important than ever. This week’s guest, Dr. Preston Sprinkle, is the co-founder and president of The Center for Faith, Gender, and Sexuality and has written several books guiding Christians through these areas including Embodied: Transgender Identities, the Church + What the Bible has to Say and People to be Loved.  Connect with Preston Sprinkle:  Website:  https://www.prestonsprinkle.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PrestonMSprinkle?fref=ts  Instagram:  @preston.sprinkle Twitter: @PrestonSprinkle Podcast: Theology in the Raw   Links Mentioned:   Bill Maher on Real Time with Bill Maher: New Rule: Along for the Pride May 20, 2022: Mark Esper, Donna Brazile, Adam Carolla (Full Episode)  Clip that was discussed: New Rule: Along for the Pride The Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender The Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender course on Parenting LGBTQ Kids Related Episodes: Preparing Now for Future Puberty and Masturbation Questions :: Megan Michelson and Mary Flo Ridley [Ep 243] Let’s Talk About Sex :: Mary Flo Ridley and Megan Michelson [Ep 328] Sexual Identity and Radical Ordinary Hospitality :: Rosaria Butterfield [Ep 301] Gay Girl, Good God :: Jackie Hill Perry [Ep 214] When to Have “The Talk” :: Mary Flo Ridley [Encore] Birds and Bees (Continuing the Conversation) :: Mary Flo Ridley and Megan Michelson [Ep 153] Featured Sponsors:  HelloFresh. Go to HelloFresh.com/dma16 and use code dma16 for up to 16 free meals AND 3 free gifts! Pair Eye Wear. Get glasses as unique as you are.  Go to paireyewear.com/DMA for 15% off your first purchase. Stitch Fix. Sign up today at StitchFix.com/DMA to get $20 off your first purchase.
“I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.” Psalm 119:11 is a very familiar verse, but do you take it as a life-giving exhortation or do you shove it into the mental closet of “shoulds”?  The rest of Psalm 119 tells us the person who loves God’s word enough to hide it in their heart finds peace, wisdom, delight, comfort, blessing, shameless life, reminders of the Lord’s nearness, and promises that will endure forever - just to name a few!  So why don’t we memorize scripture?  What if you had a system that was simple and beautiful and easy enough for the whole family to practice together? This week’s guest, Natalie Abbott, is a mom of five who knows firsthand of the wonderful things the rest of Psalm 119 promises the person who hides God’s word in their heart.  She and her sister, Vera, created Dwell Differently, a system of temporary tattoos and devotional cards all beautifully designed for simple memorization of and meditation on one verse a month. It gives individuals, families or friend groups a chance to sow one verse into every aspect of their lives and then reap the peace and wisdom that comes from nearness to God.  Connect with Natalie Abbott:  Website:  https://dwelldifferently.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dwelldifferently/  Instagram:  @dwelldifferently  Podcast: https://dwelldifferently.com/pages/dwell-podcast-2  Links Mentioned:   Dwell Differently. Visit www.dwelldifferently.com to get the first month free of a FAMILY membership ($12 value) use the code: DMA   Related Episodes: Praying the Scriptures :: Jodie Berndt [Ep 194] Equipping Your Kids for Difficulty :: Kim Sorgius [Ep 356] Must Have Conversations :: Vicki Courtney [Ep 239] Gospel-Focused Conversations :: Joel Fitzpatrick [Ep 251] Featured Sponsors:  Caraway. Visit Carawayhome.com/DMA for 10% off your next purchase.  Stitch Fix. Get 25% off when you keep everything in your Kid’s Fix. StitchFix.com/DMA Fabric. Protect your family with term life insurance now, in just 10 minutes. Apply today at MeetFabric.com/DMA 
Our sons are constantly receiving messages about how to handle their emotions - from us as moms and dads, or from other men in their lives and from our culture as well. All too often that message has been “Be strong, emotion other than anger only shows weakness” and this to their detriment. Anxiety and depression are rapidly on the rise and our boys are not immune.  We need our boys to grow into men who are strong of character and a beautiful, if undervalued, aspect of that is helping them learn how to name and process their emotions. This can be difficult to do as a grown up - imagine how your child experiences this and the training they need!  Counselor and author David Thomas works regularly with boys and their families to help them put his three R’s of emotional processing into practice - recognize, regulate, and repair. Listen as he walks us through the importance of these practices and how they can set our sons up for lifelong emotional health. His new book, Raising Emotionally Strong Boys: Tools You Son Can Build On for Life, and companion study guide for boys, Strong and Smart: A Boy’s Guide to Building Healthy Emotions release June 14th Connect with David Thomas:  Website:  https://www.raisingboysandgirls.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisingboysandgirls  Instagram:  @raisingboysandgirls Podcast: Raising Boys and Girls Podcast Links Mentioned:   Emotions Chart Raising Emotionally Strong Boys: Tools Your Son Can Build On for Life by David Thomas Strong and Smart: A Boy’s Guide to Building Healthy Emotions by David Thomas  Related Episodes: Understanding Boys Better :: David Thomas [Ep 315] Bruce Learns to Label His Feelings :: Bruce & Heather [Ep 316] Emotional Milestones :: Sissy Goff & David Thomas [Ep 160] The Art of Nurturing Boys :: David Thomas [Ep 119] Getting Brave About Anxiety :: Sissy Goff [Ep 311] Featured Sponsors:  Thrive. Join Thrive Market today to get 40% off your first order AND a FREE gift worth over fifty dollars! Visit ThriveMarket.com/DMA. Peloton. The Peloton Bike+ is now $500 less, its best price yet! Including FREE delivery and setup. Visit onepeloton.com to learn more. Storyworth. Save $10 on your first purchase at StoryWorth.com/DMA.  
Comments (18)

Allison Ward

loved this particular episode. I have been really feeling like I've been missing hearing from the Lord. so this was timely. I was wondering if you had any resources or recommendations on studying about the Holy Spirit?

Jan 8th
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Sally Kunis

I cannot recommend this show enough. I've been listening to podcasts on parenting, faith and homemaking for more than 3 years now. This is simply the best and most authentic show out there. So many great guests with great advice and resources on ALL the topics that come up on your motherhood journey. It has been and still is a game changer for me and has so much inspiration and encouragement and tons of applicable,practical advice. Heather is just a fantastic host - very genuine and honest but never self centered. It's a real gem and I love how she always makes me go to Jesus.

Oct 13th
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Sparrow Wings

there *aren't* innate differences. Girls and boys are just people. what many conservatives (especially complementarians) confuse for biology is socialization. Society teaches boys it's bad to show softness and teaches girls they're not allowed to not be soft (yet it is still shameful to be, just less so than boys). Rigid gender roles were not part of God's plan- we see in the curses of Adam and Eve that they were just the opposite.

Nov 22nd
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Emily Mihocko-Bowling

is "how to develop empathy in kids" a book? anyone send me a link? not able to find on Amazon

Dec 11th
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Timmy Beasley

I'm learning and growing so much listening to this podcast!

Oct 17th
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Brittany Schultz

Love the new logo thingy!! super cute!

Oct 3rd
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Brittany Schultz

I am already crying and it is only the intro...oh my goodness. this might mean I have a 5 day old newborn a 1 1/2 year old and a fresh 4 year old. and it might mean sleep has been rare the last 5 nights...

Jun 26th
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Emma Mann

awesome podcast. great ideas. loved it!

Jun 15th
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Heather Terrell

So good!! I needed the reminder that resting is also a gift for my family. (8 days into summer break with 4 kiddos here! Pray for me! :) )

Jun 4th
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Willie Fountainjr

let hear more

Mar 4th
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Ivelisse Pierce

what books do you recommend that can break the bible down little better

Feb 13th
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Elisabeth C

Hey Heather I'm not sure how to comment on your latest episode, but the book (affiliate!) links aren't actually linked! Can you change them into links so if we buy the book you get the credit? :)

Jan 29th
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MCA DWB

love to hear more plzzzz

Jan 15th
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Danielle A

Love that I found this app that has this podcast!

Nov 29th
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Erneshia Scott

So helpful

Oct 28th
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Kellie Curry

would love to hear more

Oct 10th
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