Fleekazoid

While I’ve always had an inclination for solitude, I still found myself occasionally buying into the narrative, during my youth and adulthood, where I believed it was one of the worst things that could ever happen to me. Today’s episode is about acceptance of isolation, whether it was self-induced or randomly brought upon you, and how to know when you found peace with it and can even celebrate it. This episode starts at 0 and goes to 100 around 12 minutes in.

Listen to this when you can't get over how much you hate a person, place or thing and want to take your mind back.

Re-romanticizing is the name we’re going with today because this shit is a life practice that never stops. Today’s topic covers 11 talking points of how to treat it like one. Whether you arrived at this place from heartbreak, job woes, toxic circles and surroundings, or just pure ennui. This is for embracing inner, outer, audible and tangible change.

Nothing I say can ever prepare you for the logic that will inevitably fly out the window if you feel even a slither of emotion for someone you’re trying to move on from. Let’s start there. However, I am not going to make you feel bad about it. Here’s my indepth thoughts on how to deal, heal and self talk when you’re dealing with a man who won’t let you move on.

So you went through a breakup. Now what? Well, it’s time to decide who you are (you know, after you peel away from all the parts of you that you became while dating that person). No, this isn’t a long episode about how you need to “just love yourself”. Infact, I didn’t even say that phrase once in the entire episode. This is for anyone who is grappling with all the little things. Like, do you stay friends with their friends? Do you go back to the girl friends they dubbed as “hoes”? And all those things you loved that they called lame, were they really that lame? Spoiler alert, no, yes, and no! But listen anyways just to remind yourself <3 Support on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/fleeksie

You don’t want to move on, but everyone around you is telling you it’s been time to. And yet, here we are. I’m not here to shame you, because I’ve been you. Outer circle of people begging me to move on and all. Here’s an understanding take on how to move on when you secretly don’t want too, and what it takes to get you to that place. https://www.patreon.com/fleeksie

The infamous topic of ghosting has arrived. Ghosting sucks and you’re totally normal for being affected by it. In today’s episode, I attempt to address the need for feedback, closure, answers, an apology, and how to make sense of it all and bounce back when you’re sitting in the feeling of rejection. I also talk about the types of ghosters, reasons they do it, and how it’s not your job to make them unghost you.

In today's episode we discuss making an identity out of pain and how we end up letting moments of rejection, separation or unfortunate situations unnecessarily define us. How this can be harmful to us, why we shouldn't do it, and allowing ourselves to move forward with self forgiveness and fluidity. This is discussed in relation to breakups, losing jobs, and any jarring life event that feels like we'll never be able to let go or move on from.  Support the patreon: https://www.patreon.com/fleeksie

Moving out of your parents for the first time? This video podcast starts with financial expectations and the general amount to have saved.  We discuss moving (getting boxes, moving companies vs task rabbits and renting a van).  The topic then expands into requirements to anticipate based on wherever you are applying to move.  How to apartment shop online, how to prepare documents to send on your application, and what to expect on your application.  We try to cover every little corner and address every fear about leaving your parents and living alone.  Each segment of topics contains responses to questions from a live audience chat. This topic is geared from the perspective of being absolutely confused and starting from ground zero and with very little to spend. It also includes the personal experience of myself and the stressors i went through, and how I self soothed through my anxiety. This is all about how to move and how to find an apartment in the hellish year of 2022 and how it’s completely normal to be stressed out by all of this. Please consider supporting the patreon if you enjoy my content! https://www.patreon.com/fleeksie

You might not even realize you're in one. You might be thinking "he said he likes me" or "he said he loves me", and you might think that situationships are only for the people in one sided dynamics. Well my friend, I'm here to expand your view. I'm also here to explain how situationships exist on a plane of emotional ab**se. Today's episode is also packed with advice as well.

So many reasons to dislike them, where does a girl even start? Today's episode is a rant styled list of reasons of why I dislike dating apps and have discontinued my use of them. 

In today's episode, we talk about how we find ourselves in situationships. How they thrive under our noses, and how we can either push them forward or keep it pushing all together. The main theme: it's not about how they feel about you, it's about how you feel about you and what you feel like you're worth (which is so much more than a situationship).

No, we're not just talking about a dollar value and who you date. This is about the intrinsic value of your time and mental energy and being intentional with it across the board of whoever you deal with, and how to recognize when it's being drained or even exploited. This is meant to hype you up to gtf away from these mofo's, or to atleast set boundaries with them. It's also me voicing my frustrations to a certain degree. Yeah, sorry about that in advance.

That tense, heightened, intense feeling that makes you wonder if you're crazy? Yeah, that’s your needs and emotions demanding to be recognized. Today we break it down, and talk about how you can recognize yours.

What they said was kinda mean, but that’s just how they are… SIKE! They’re a**holes. Today’s episode is talking about negging, and people who use flaw finding and flaw exploiting as a conversational device. This addresses a range of people, i.e; those who you just met, long term relationships, friendships, and co workers. Why you should shut that sh*t down, and let it burnnnnnn (the connection that is). Because you shouldn't have to gaslight yourself another second longer. It's not normal, cute, or funny and I'm done pretending like it is!

Ok, literally *everyone* says this. But seriously, a large part of moving on is acceptance, and today’s episode is a walk down the brutal streets of acceptance lane. Why leaving someone alone who doesn’t want you in their life is the nicest thing you can do for them, and why you can’t love another person into loving you back.

It’s a trying *ss time to be a positive person. Is this what living through history feels like? Today we’re talking about spiraling into a doom mindset and being a doomer. Making doom your identity and the center of all your conversations (without dismissing the times).

Today's episode is answering FAQ and is a pre-episode as an intro to season 2 of the Fleekazoid podcast. We discuss where I've been, where I'd like to go, and give an update on my personal life (trigger warning: scorpio mention jump scare alert). The purpose is to set the mood for what's to come and to provide background context and personal notes behind the episodes and my content.

This episode discusses scams, red flags, and things to look for when dating beneficially and sugaring. These are things that cross over into vanilla dating and can be helpful in scenario's outside of just regular sugaring. 

So you blocked and unblocked him? Maybe you've done this more than once. Maybe you've even done it over the course of years. Whether you did it unprompted or if he resurfaced and elicited you to do it, today's episode is for the girls who are stuck in this pattern, and we talk about how to break it and come to your senses (with love and compassion!).