Sexual discrepancies are common in relationships. While they occur to varying degrees, an inability to have safe and secure conversation on this topic with your partner can result in the formation of a negative sexual cycle. A dark cloud can form over this wonderful part of an intimate relationship and we risk sex being viewed as negative, rather than positive, loving and bonding. Inspired by a listener question, George and Laurie tackle the challenge of sexual discrepancy in this episode. This is a MUST LISTEN for couples that see the shift in their sexual worlds after becoming parents but don't know how to talk about it, have tried to talk about it before and it hasn't gone well, or might not have the energy to touch it with a ten foot pole! Both the partner that wants sex more often and the partner that may feel overwhelmed by how much they give to others will benefit from L & G's role play and come away with ways to say it better, express more vulnerability and face this dark cloud together. Sexual discrepancy is not an ending, it's an opportunity!
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This episode felt very traditional, as in male female rolls towards sex... And also no openness towards any type of partner. I feel like that type of assumption throughout the episode was somewhat single-sided and even though I am a pursuer, left me feel somewhat unheard in working towards resolution with my withdrawler husband.
He's probably cheating.
excellent idea..to challenge the social constructed ideas n write our own script instead of following sum1 elses..we can borrow ideas we deem useful n chuckout bad ideas..just as we wrote college papers in college days .
umm not true, after cumming men wanna just take a mini vacation, if we can...haha, George stop it! tell her the truth, lose the political correctness. :) ps: as a mid 30 man I wanna say I'm attracted to women's intelligence n resilience, on physical side women wearing their hair up, breads, pony rails, anything that exposes her neck to caress is hot. you forgot dirty talk or flirty talk, women dominating men is hot..passsionate sex just into each other like a fat kid sees mcdonald french fries..not just lay their n men do all the work. atleast act haha..
how do I know if he really enjoys what he sees. he used to look at me when I would change, now it's like he doesn't even see me even when I announce that my breast are viewable. yet, he will view porn as soon as possible.
I love this podcast it is truly unbelievable how helpful it has been for myself let alone my husband and I. I take meds that mess my system all up and I am so very grateful for all the advice and information on this podcast it has helped my relationship 1000%. pls keep them coming!! ❤
Wow George owned this episode, he came out swinging, lauri u looose! j/k good advice we need to e the driver in seat n take our partners to their destination by understanding their needs n be patient with them becuz each individual has own clock to recover to return to nornal, which we as partner must respect but just tell em whenever ur ready I'm there for you to talk it out n gelp resolve anything 1 is going thru..
ahh nice but unconditional love may spoil some ppl..like knowing they r secure no matter what nay trigger laziness..it's how humans operate if there is no one's watching holding us accountable, we slack.off or procrastinate etc..so balance may be?
Unsuscribed after an utterly inaccurate understanding of the Madonna/whore complex. Is that what you have to offer the general public on this subject?! Your words are doing women an incredible disservice.
wow so Jane low score explain your women r slow n take a while before heating up... it almost feel they are coerced into bed to pleasuring men..where is the passion for women in this? seems non existent jane...are women asexual then early stage of life.I have sympathies that women seem to have to get in mood n act or pretend..wish women had same arousal time line as men but may be there is God's wisdom behind it otherwise we be planet of 14 o 20 billion people..just sucks women engine is 1950s while men arousal engine is concord haha...thx Laura for being honest n not inflating numbers, it seems real tough task to get women aroused SEXUALLY.
I so appreciate you two taking the time to speak about something so difficult. I wanted to speak about the looters. So many ask why loot in your own neighborhood. But you have to understand, these people don't own homes in "their" neighborhood(due to systemic rascism), they don't own businesses in "their" neighborhood(due to systemic rascism), and the "justice system" that's taken away the ability of many young black men to get good jobs(forever), and the omnipotence of a police force, there to punish, not protect(due to systemic rascism). Theae neighborhoods are owned and patrolled by others who really don't want these people(ex: black, poor, broken families). Doesn't make it right to loot-but understand it's not "their" neighborhood. Again, I appreciate the sensitive, intelligent and mature way you both adressed the subject of black lives and systemic rascism in America.
This was just an awful conversation on the topic. This was a very negative view from both sides, I mean Adam couldn't even say the words anal sex and he's a couple's therapist? The tone on the subject was not supportive at all and don't use this episode as a precursor for conversations. Very stereotypical views on men and the subject and they couldn't even say 2 words on men's anal sex.
Is Tony really a marriage therapist? He seems pretty clueless. Suggesting that a couple in a sexual rut role play paying for sex? Say what!? Is he suggesting this kind of stuff to clients?
You are being stereotypical. There's a lot of pressure on both partners on this make-up holiday. It's built up so much in our culture that when it doesn't meet expectations, both partners can feel anger and resentment.
Why are people having sex in the dark?
Is he joking? He really didn't know this information? Unbelievable.
TY TY interesting concepts. Hopefully, open dialogues will begin.
this podcast doesn't play, so do half of your other ones! what's going on?
This episode definitely dispelled some myths