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I Have ADHD Podcast
Author: Kristen Carder
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The I Have ADHD Podcast is a clear, concise, and FUN podcast for adults with ADHD. Listen to learn about how ADHD impacts every area of your life from the boardroom to the bedroom...and how you can begin to overcome your symptoms by accepting who you are, flaws and all.
Host Kristen Carder is a dually certified coach who has supported thousands of of people with ADHD worldwide. Kristen's extensive experience working with ADHDers began in 2012, and she now leads a global community of adults with ADHD in her coaching program, FOCUSED.
****OBVIOUSLY the content in this podcast is not meant to be a substitute for medical advice. Kristen Carder is not a medical professional.
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If you’ve ever felt like your struggles with ADHD make you "less than"—this one’s a must-listen. We’re diving deep into Shame Resilience Theory (thanks, Brené Brown!) and unpacking why ADHDers are especially vulnerable to toxic shame. Spoiler: It’s NOT because you’re lazy or broken (even if you’ve been made to feel that way). ✨ We’re covering: Why shame thrives in secrecy—and how to stop feeding it.The real reason ADHD tasks feel SO loaded with guilt and moral judgment.How shame travels in fa...
Today we're talking emotional flexibility, why black-and-white thinking is holding you back, and how one tiny phrase (borrowed from parenting wisdom!) can radically change how you relate to yourself and others: “Two things can be true.” You’ll also get: A cheat-code app for building emotional intelligence (perfect for ADHD brains)My spicy take on that viral New York Times ADHD article A heartfelt message for anyone struggling with a late diagnosis And yes… the spicy podcast review t...
Rejection hurts—especially when you have ADHD. For years, the term Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) has helped many of us put language to that experience. But in this episode, I explain why I’m no longer using that term—and what I’m saying instead. We’ll cover: What rejection sensitivity actually isWhy it makes total sense (and it's not a disorder)What’s problematic about the term RSD...in my opinionWhat the research really says about rejection and ADHDHow trauma, therapy, coaching, and ye...
In this episode of the I Have ADHD podcast, I have the absolute pleasure of sitting down with autism expert and clinician Dr. Robert Naseef to explore the deeply personal and complex relationship between autism and ADHD. Together, we reflect on the key differences between these two neurodivergent identities while celebrating the importance of self-acceptance and understanding. We also touch on AuDHD, the experience of having both ADHD and autism—a dual diagnosis that is more common than many ...
Think you know ADHD? Think again. In this solo episode, I’m breaking down 10 surprising truths about ADHD that most people (even professionals!) get wrong. From misunderstood symptoms to powerful treatment outcomes, we’re going deep—but keeping it real, relatable, and research-backed. You’ll learn: Why ADHD is one of the most treatable mental health conditionsThe truth about calling ADHD a “superpower”How support systems make all the differenceWhat messed-up sleep has to do with your symptoms...
Making and keeping friends as an adult with ADHD can be really hard. We tend to move fast—bonding quickly, oversharing early, and sometimes getting burned. In this episode, I’m sharing two powerful (and practical!) skills that can help you build friendships that feel safer, steadier, and more fulfilling: going slow and listening better. If you’ve ever felt like friendship is either all in or all out, this episode is your gentle reminder that connection doesn’t have to be chaotic. You can take...
Friendship as an adult is hard—and when you have ADHD, it can feel almost impossible. The impulsivity, the overthinking, the struggle to set boundaries or trust your gut... it’s a lot. But you can build strong, supportive friendships—and it starts with knowing what to look for (and what to avoid). In Part 1 of this two-part series, we’re breaking down: Why friendships can be uniquely challenging for ADHDersHow to recognize red flags before you waste time on the wrong peopleWhat green flags to...
If you’re parenting with ADHD, you already know—it’s a lot. The meltdowns (sometimes yours), the forgotten school forms, the overstimulation, the guilt spiral after snapping at your kid… and then the vow to do better next time. In today’s episode, we’re talking about how to be a good enough parent, even when ADHD makes it hard. You’ll learn the 5 essential building blocks every ADHD parent needs (hint: perfection is not one of them), and how to model one of the most powerful relationship skil...
Following through is hard enough when everything goes right—but what about when life happens? When motivation was there, the plan was solid, and then… BAM. A curveball knocks you off track. If you have ADHD, you know how hard it is to re-engage after a disruption. So how do you recover without spiraling into guilt and frustration? In this episode, I’m sharing practical strategies for getting back on track when life throws you off course—plus, what to do when you are the reason you didn’t foll...
Ever been so locked into a task that the world around you fades away? That’s hyperfocus, one of the most misunderstood aspects of ADHD. Some call it a superpower—but is it really? In this episode of the I Have ADHD Podcast, I break down what hyperfocus actually is, how it impacts ADHDers, and why it’s not the magical productivity hack some people think it is. What You’ll Learn: Why hyperfocus looks like the opposite of ADHD but still causes major challengesThe hidden cost of hyperfocus (spoil...
In this solo episode of the I Have ADHD podcast, we’re covering a little bit of everything—because, let’s be honest, ADHD brains thrive on variety! First up: BOREDOM. Ugh. It’s uncomfortable, frustrating, and makes us want to do literally anything else. But here’s the hard truth—boredom is the price we pay to get what we want out of life. If we want success, fulfillment, and progress toward our goals, we have to learn to sit with the discomfort instead of running from it. I break down exactly...
Struggling to keep up at work with ADHD? Wondering if you should tell your boss? 😬 We’ve got you covered! In this episode, I sit down with ADHD coach Meghan Brown-Enya to tackle the real challenges of navigating ADHD in the workplace—from emotional dysregulation to productivity hacks to self-advocacy. We’re diving into: ✅ Should you disclose your ADHD to your employer? (And what happens if you do?!) ✅ How to ask for reasonable accommodations—without the stress! ✅ Why ADHDers often struggle in...
In this must-listen episode, Dr. Marcy Caldwell joins us for a deep dive into the wild and sometimes frustrating world of ADHD. We’re breaking down what ADHD really is (spoiler: it’s NOT just about being distracted), why self-regulation is so tricky, and how masking can leave people feeling exhausted and unseen. Ever felt like you know what to do but just can’t seem to do it? Yep, we go there. We also tackle the unique ways ADHD shows up in women, the surprising pain of boredom, and the myths...
In this raw and personal episode, I open up about my journey with alcohol dependency—how I struggled with moderation, what finally pushed me toward sobriety, and the surprising ways it transformed my ADHD experience. If you've ever wondered about the connection between ADHD and alcohol use, this is a conversation you won’t want to miss. I also dive deep into Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)—what it is, how it shows up in kids (and adults!), and why traditional parenting strategies often ba...
Y’ALL. This is wild. I had the insane honor of speaking at SpaceX (yes, the rocket-launching SpaceX!!) about ADHD, and I have so much to tell you. In this episode, I’m sharing: ✨ What it was like to speak at SpaceX (and why my ADHD brain almost short-circuited) ✨ Your voicemails!—including how to actually support friends with ADHD and why boundaries might just save your sanity ✨ The surprising genetic link between ADHD & dyslexia (who knew?!) ✨ My current fave journaling resource and why ...
300th EPISODE, BABY!!!! Today, I’m sitting down with Maddie Novy, a teacher who also has ADHD, to talk about what it’s really like to juggle the demands of a classroom while managing this unique brain. Maddie shares her story, including: Her personal ADHD journey and how she’s handled medication ups and downs.The challenges of planning and problem-solving as an educator (spoiler: it’s not easy!).How perfectionism has shown up in her work—and what she’s doing to overcome it.The art of staying...
It’s just me today, y’all, and you know what that means—it’s going to be a wild ride! Buckle up, because in this solo episode of the I Have ADHD Podcast, I’m diving into the juicy (and sometimes chaotic) topic of following through when you have ADHD. Spoiler alert: it’s HARD. But don’t worry, I've got some tips for you. I’m sharing my personal struggles, some real talk about why it’s so tough for us ADHDers to follow through, and how we can start shifting that narrative. We’re talking abo...
Ever feel like the world just doesn't get what’s happening inside your brain? In this episode of the I Have ADHD Podcast, I sit down with my client and colleague Dr. Priyanka Rao, and we dive headfirst into the wild, twisty world of ADHD and autism—especially how it shows up in women. We’re talking about the real stuff—like why it’s so dang hard to get diagnosed, the silent battles happening behind the scenes, and why neurodiversity-affirming care is a game-changer (spoiler: it’s life-changin...
In this episode, I sit down AGAIN with the amazing Dr. Jessica McCarthy to dive into the wild, messy, and beautiful world of parenting with ADHD. We’re getting real about emotional regulation (for us and our kids), that constant dance between connection and control, and why making repairs with our kiddos is pure magic. We unpack the unique challenges ADHD parents face—like, why is parenting so dang hard sometimes?! Plus, we talk about how having some kind of framework (even if we ADHD-ify ...
THIS WEEK ONLY: Use code FOCUSED75 for $75 off your first month in FOCUSED! A few months ago, I shared an Instagram reel about the struggle ADHDers have when it comes to hearing, and THOUSANDS of you responded. If you relate to the phrase, "I can hear but I can't HEAR", you're going to get so much out of this episode! Today we're discussing the intersection of auditory processing issues and ADHD, emphasizing the common struggles faced by adults with ADHD in processing verbal information...
I am literally in tears listening to this and how much I relate. Just hearing that I am not alone! I’ve done a lot of therapy in my life & I never connected with words so much!! Thank you.
omg the comment on her saying people that don't like talking on the phone. I despise it and it took me over a year to finally message my doctor about me talking about my concerns on being diagnosed and she said I need to call psychology department and talk to that department... that was almost a year ago... 🙄 I'm going to try to do it soon...
I thought this would have some actual advice.......
I can HIGHLY recommend the app Paprika for saving recipes and maintaining a grocery list. It's helped me stay organised, it's a game changer for someone with ADHD.
Ep 241 So good.
Podcasts that don't get to the point are a waste of time.
The irony of this speaker talking about racism but completely neglecting to talk about the AAPI comnunity.
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really missed on this one Kristen. sounds like a lot of insider baseball. I was 15 minutes in before I was figuring out what you were even talking about.
as a adhder .i have a social phobia and anxiety .most of the time i can't go out .because i think that i might get lost and because of this i think that These thoughts have paralyzed my mind.please talk about this in your another podcast .maby it can helps me .
lordy I want to join Focused but I def can't swing $199 a month although I'm sure it's worth it.....
That's imposter syndrome. 200 IS huge! congrats!
I had to pause this episode because it brought up feelings in me that I was unprepared for. I’m recently diagnosed as an adult and hearing you describe your shame for things in your younger years really made me feel so sad for my younger self
I'd really like to check out some of those resources you mentioned, but I can't seem to find them where they should be. Have they been removed since this is an old episode?
Hey Kristen! This episode blew my mind!!! Let me share a little about myself to explain why. I am 34 years old, mom of two, Norwegian nurse with a bachelor's degree, and at the moment in my 3rd year of "sickleave". I put it in the quote marks because I, and everyone else, believed I had an incapacitating depression due to several issues spanning from my childhood to my early 20s. I have received therapy, medication and a lot of help, and i can't believe that my boyfriend hasn't left yet... A couple of months ago I accidentally (and finally) persuaded my therapist to examine me for ADHD, which he categorically turned down when we first met, and I met all the criteria except for one area. I'm not visible hyperactive. So a new journey began. I started testing out stimulants a month ago and discovered that my ADHD had impacts far beyond what I suspected, and that most of my symptoms for depression probably was my ADHD. My depression is real, but also probably a symptom of undiagnosed ADHD.
Is there only one type of adhd.
It won't let me play this episode 😭
this has helped me out so much
I love your podcast! It's like a goldmine of useful info. I also love how you cannot help yourself from externalising those thoughts that come up. Mega cute :)
This is the best thing I have ever heard.