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I Have ADHD Podcast
Author: Kristen Carder
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The I Have ADHD Podcast is a clear, concise, and FUN podcast for adults with ADHD. Listen to learn about how ADHD impacts every area of your life from the boardroom to the bedroom...and how you can begin to overcome your symptoms by accepting who you are, flaws and all.
Host Kristen Carder is a dually certified coach who has supported thousands of people with ADHD worldwide. Kristen's extensive experience working with ADHDers began in 2012, and she now leads a global community of adults with ADHD in her coaching program, FOCUSED.
****OBVIOUSLY, the content in this podcast is not meant to be a substitute for medical advice. Kristen Carder is not a medical professional.
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If you’re a parent with ADHD trying to hold it all together, this episode is for you. Kristen sits down with Amy Marie Hann, author of Master the Mundane, to talk about what it’s really like to run a home, raise kids, and manage your own ADHD brain — all at the same time. Amy was diagnosed back in the 80s (as a girl, no less!) and now has a family full of ADHD brains. She’s walked the walk, lived the chaos, and found systems that actually work.You’ll hear:Amy’s best tips for managing home life — including her simple “Daily Three” system that keeps laundry, meals, and clutter in checkHow to support ADHD kids when you have ADHDWhat perimenopause did to Amy’s brain (and how she’s adapting!)The message behind her new book, Master the Mundane — and why thriving as an ADHD mom might just be the best gift you give your kidsThis one’s warm, funny, real, and full of hope. Whether your house feels like a tornado zone or you’re just trying to get dinner on the table, you’ll feel seen, understood, and inspired.Find Amy at @amymariehann or amymariehann.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #313: Rejection Sensitivity Is Real (But I Reject RSD)Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
If you’ve ever binge-watched Love on the Spectrum (let’s be honest—who hasn’t?), you already know and love Kaelynn Partlow — the sharp, funny, and deeply insightful advocate whose story stole our hearts in season 1. In this episode, Kristen sits down with Kaelynn for an unforgettable, no-filter conversation about Autism, ADHD, identity, and what it’s really like to live life on the bridge between two neurotypes.Kaelynn opens up about:Why she “wasn’t autistic enough for TV”Why she feels she's hard to live with What her day-to-day looks like behind the scenes — from hyperfocus to burnout and everything in betweenHer newly updated book, Life on the Bridge, and how she’s using her platform to reframe the way we think about neurodiversityThis isn’t a conversation about labels — it’s about living boldly in the in-between. Kaelynn’s honesty and humor will challenge everything you think you know about Autism, ADHD, and what it means to belong.Follow Kaelynn on Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, and Facebook.Life on The BridgeWatch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #284: Overcoming ADHD Productivity Challenges with Dr. Ari Tuckman Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
In this episode, our returning guest expert (and favorite friend of the podcast!) Dr. Nacchi Felt joins us to unveil the brand-new Cycle of Accountability—the life-direction loop that helps ADHD brains point their power at the right targets.Inside the loop:Alignment — Name your values (think truth, responsibility, gratitude) so decisions stop feeling random.Accountability — Drop the “shoulds.” Hold yourself to what you care about.Attention — Your attention is your presence. Reclaim it as your birthright.Attachment — Safe relationships supercharge the loop and keep you present.But here’s the deeper truth: safety and acceptance are the foundation that make this loop possible. Being “safe” means you can be fully seen and still contained—someone can sit with you in your hardest moments without pulling away. That’s a rare experience for many ADHDers, and therapy or coaching can provide a version of that safety while you learn to build it yourself. From playful co-regulation with a child to a friend’s honest reassurance, relationships that combine honesty and containment create fertile ground for growth. When you experience that kind of attachment, it not only soothes your nervous system—it also strengthens your alignment with your values and makes accountability feel natural, not forced. You're not going to want to miss this episode!More from Dr. Felt here!Clearheaded: The ADHD Guide for Turning Overwhelm into Clarity, Calm, and ControlWatch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokGo to drinkag1.com/ihaveadhd to get a FREE Frother with your first purchase of AGZ.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Love this clip? Check out the full episode: Episode #308: Raising Kids While Being a Hot (ADHD) Mess Listen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Have you ever felt like a leaf in the wind—just being blown around by life instead of steering it?That’s exactly how Sarah described her life before finding ADHD coaching.Sarah opens up about what life was like before coaching—feeling passive, stuck, and like she wasn't really in control. She shares the struggles that led her to seek support, why she chose FOCUSED, and the powerful shifts she’s made by learning to process emotions instead of buffering them away.We talk about emotional regulation tools and how they helped Sarah change her relationship with her feelings, and even how coaching tools showed up in her dreams. She gets real about using coaching tools “against herself,” the mindset shift that changed everything, and what life feels like now compared to just a few years ago.If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, unmotivated, or afraid to invest in yourself, Sarah’s story will give you hope and a peek at what’s possible.This Episode's Resources:https://www.unblockedandaligned.com/https://www.twitch.tv/unblockedandalignedhttps://www.tiktok.com/@unblockedandalignedhttps://www.instagram.com/unblockedandaligned/Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic GreensSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Love this clip? Hear the full conversation: Episode #307: SOS: What To Do When Life (or You) Gets In The Way Of Getting Sh*t DONEListen to the full conversation in the original episode HERE.Following through is hard enough with ADHD—and when life throws interruptions, it can feel impossible. In this episode, I share how I handle setbacks, why self-compassion matters, and how to start again without shame.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Do you skip over your wins like they don’t matter? Feel weird or embarrassed when people cheer you on? Yep, that sounds about right. Adults with ADHD often struggle to celebrate themselves… but it’s a skill worth learning.In this episode, I’ll show you why celebration feels so uncomfortable—and why it’s actually essential for your mental health, motivation, and identity. We’ll unpack how to embrace positive emotions, honor your effort (even the “bare minimum”), and finally let yourself feel accomplished.If you’re tired of living in hamster-wheel mode and ready to slow down long enough to say “look at me go”… this episode is for you.Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Love this clip? Hear the full conversation: Episode #304: ADHD At Work: Should You Spill The Beans To Your Boss? How to Thrive In Any Job!Listen to the full conversation in the original episode with Meghan Brown-Enyia HERE.I know how overwhelming it can feel to decide whether to disclose personal information at work. In this conversation, I remind you that you deserve to feel safe while seeking the support you need.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Ever wondered what it’s really like inside FOCUSED? In this special episode, you’ll get a front-row seat to an actual coaching call.You’ll hear me coach Bob through feeling stuck, and Heejung as she navigates awkward relationships with her coworkers. And here’s the thing—this isn’t just about seeing what FOCUSED is all about. You’ll walk away with insights you can apply to your own life (I mean, who doesn’t feel stuck or have awkward relationships, am I right?).These conversations show how ADHD challenges run much deeper than quick-fix hacks—and why real coaching makes all the difference. Don’t miss this behind-the-scenes peek!Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic GreensSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Think your problem is poor time management? Think again. If your color-coded calendar keeps failing you, the missing piece isn’t another app, planner, or hack—it’s capacity.In this episode, we’re digging into why ADHD brains chronically overbook, underestimate, and run ourselves into the ground. You’ll learn:The hidden reason productivity hacks don’t stickWhy “fantasy scheduling” feels so good (but always backfires)How to spot your real mental, emotional, and physical limitsA simple shift that helps you build a schedule you can actually keepIf you’re tired of chasing unicorn days and shaming yourself when reality doesn’t match the plan, this conversation will change how you see time management forever. Hit play and start planning for real life—not the fantasy version of it.This Episode's Resources:ihaveadhd.com/timeWatch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
You’ve tried planners and reminders, but time still slips through your fingers. This episode explains why ADHD makes “now vs. not now” so hard—and what to do about it. In plain English, I break down the executive functions behind time blindness and share the quick story that shattered my own drama cycle (spoiler: the dishes took seven minutes).Then I give you the one tool that can change your week fast: a shame-free Time Audit that replaces schedule fantasy with reality so you finally start (and finish) what matters. If you’ve ever felt “bad with time,” don’t miss this—your whole approach could shift in a single day. Grab the free template here, and literally improve your time blindness TODAY. This Episode's Resources:https://ihaveadhd.com/time/Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic GreensCozy EarthSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Think ADHD meds are “basically meth”? Afraid they’ll turn you into a zombie? Wondering if you really need them—or if they’re even safe during pregnancy?In this episode, I’m busting through the most common (and most damaging) myths about ADHD medication—fast. No fluff, just clarity. If you’ve ever felt confused, judged, or pressured when it comes to treatment, this one’s a must-listen.By the end, you’ll know what’s fact, what’s fiction, and what might actually change your life.This Episode's Resources:
The Clinical Pharmacokinetics of Amphetamines Utilized in the Treatment of Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder
Drug Fact Sheet: Methamphetamine
ADHD Medication and the "Zombie Effect"
Stimulant ADHD medication and risk for substance abuse
Methylphenidate and Atomoxetine in Pregnancy and Possible Adverse Fetal Outcomes
Long-Term Outcomes of ADHD: Academic Achievement and Performance
Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokCozy EarthSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Medication is great. Therapy is powerful. But is your life ADHD-friendly?In this episode, we explore how your environment can make or break your progress — and share genius, real-life strategies from adults with ADHD who’ve been there. From food hacks and med routines to productivity tricks and travel tips, this episode is loaded with ADHD-tested, chaos-reducing gold.You’ll leave inspired to set up your life in a way that actually works for your brain. No shame. No shoulds. Just smart, gentle support.Episode Resources:Relationships Survey is Closed.Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic GreensSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
This one’s for the ADHDers and the people who love them.In today’s episode, I do the heavy lifting of explaining ADHD—what it is, why it matters, and what it really feels like to live with it—so you don’t have to.If you’ve ever wished your partner, parent, friend, or co-worker just got it, this is the episode to send them.Inside:Why ADHD is so hard to explain (even for ADHDers)The top 3 things people with ADHD wish their loved ones knewThe top 3 things they need from youWhat it means when someone with ADHD shares this episode with youWhether you’re an ADHDer or a neurotypical ally, this episode is all about building bridges, deepening connection, and fostering real, loving understanding.🎧 Press play, then pass it on.🧠 Research of the Week: www.ihaveadhd.com/research📞 Voicemail shoutouts included!This Episode's Resources: Relationships Survey is closed.Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokCozy EarthSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Hey ADHDer, summer isn’t over over… and you haven’t wasted it. In this gentle, reflective episode, we’re talking about the emotional soup of August: regret over what didn’t get done, sadness that the magic is fading, dread of back-to-school chaos, and the last-minute urgency to squeeze it all in.If you're feeling a swirl of emotions right now, this episode is your soft place to land.We’ll:Reflect on what actually did happen this summer (yes, even the tiny wins!)Laugh together over my annual last-minute school supply scrambleTalk about why transitions feel so hard for ADHD brainsLook ahead to fall with intention, not panicADHD TIP: Your brain may want to fixate on what you didn’t do. But let’s pause and name what you did. Because it matters. You’re not behind. You’re not doing life wrong. You’re a beautifully wired human doing your best. Let’s mark this transition with grace, not guilt.How Immersion in Nature Benefits Your HealthAssociations Between Exposure to Nature and HealthWatch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic GreensSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
I’m joined again today by my favorite human—my husband, Greg! Together, we pull back the curtain on what it’s really like to raise neurodivergent kids, how our parenting style has evolved over the years, and why we’ve chosen a low-demand, emotionally supportive approach in our home.We talk candidly about:When we decided to get our kids evaluated (and how we did it)Whether or not we medicate—and whyWhat low-demand parenting looks like in real lifeHow we navigate screen time (without losing our minds)Our journey of regulating ourselves so we can show up for our kidsHow we accommodate and support each of our unique kids, especially those with PDA traitsThis is a vulnerable, honest, and hopeful conversation between two very imperfect parents figuring it out as we go—and choosing connection over control as much as possible.Whether you're raising neurodivergent kids or just want a peek into our home life, we hope this episode leaves you feeling seen, supported, and a little less alone.Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokCozy EarthSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
What does it look like to stay in love and on the same team when one partner has ADHD and the other doesn’t?In this episode, I’m joined by my husband Greg—my neurotypical partner of 21 years—for an honest, heartfelt, and often hilarious conversation about what it’s really like to build a life together in a neurodiverse marriage.We’re answering questions about everything from how Greg came to understand and accept my ADHD, to what helped us navigate parenting neurodivergent kids, to how we’ve held boundaries (without being jerks) and grown through the hard seasons—together.If you’re wondering how to help your partner “get it,” if you’re craving more acceptance in your relationship, or if you’re simply curious what goes on behind the scenes in our marriage... this episode is for you.We talk about:What helped Greg finally get on board with understanding ADHDWhy acceptance is an action, not just a feelingHow to bring a reluctant partner along on your diagnosis journeyHow to balance emotional needs when ADHD takes up space in the relationshipPractical ways to support each other without falling into resentment or the parent-child dynamicThis conversation is raw, funny, and full of truth bombs (and yes, Greg absolutely roasts me a few times 😂). Whether you're married, dating, or just dreaming of a healthy relationship someday, I hope this episode reminds you that real love includes imperfection, growth, and mutual care. Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic GreensSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Smartass ADHDer alert! Kerry Shea, an OBGYN physician and beloved FOCUSED member, is here to share her journey as a doctor with ADHD. In this heartwarming episode, we discuss Kerry's ADHD diagnosis, experiences in medical school, the impact of early education, and the challenges of balancing professional success with personal chaos. The conversation delves into the stigma surrounding ADHD, the struggles with self-perception, chronic pain, and the importance of community support for individuals with ADHD.You can find Kerry at www.beautifulmessyself.com and on Instagram HERE. Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokCozy EarthSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
absolutely loved this episode!! thank you!
I am literally in tears listening to this and how much I relate. Just hearing that I am not alone! I’ve done a lot of therapy in my life & I never connected with words so much!! Thank you.
omg the comment on her saying people that don't like talking on the phone. I despise it and it took me over a year to finally message my doctor about me talking about my concerns on being diagnosed and she said I need to call psychology department and talk to that department... that was almost a year ago... 🙄 I'm going to try to do it soon...
I thought this would have some actual advice.......
I can HIGHLY recommend the app Paprika for saving recipes and maintaining a grocery list. It's helped me stay organised, it's a game changer for someone with ADHD.
Ep 241 So good.
Podcasts that don't get to the point are a waste of time.
The irony of this speaker talking about racism but completely neglecting to talk about the AAPI comnunity.
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really missed on this one Kristen. sounds like a lot of insider baseball. I was 15 minutes in before I was figuring out what you were even talking about.
as a adhder .i have a social phobia and anxiety .most of the time i can't go out .because i think that i might get lost and because of this i think that These thoughts have paralyzed my mind.please talk about this in your another podcast .maby it can helps me .
lordy I want to join Focused but I def can't swing $199 a month although I'm sure it's worth it.....
That's imposter syndrome. 200 IS huge! congrats!
I had to pause this episode because it brought up feelings in me that I was unprepared for. I’m recently diagnosed as an adult and hearing you describe your shame for things in your younger years really made me feel so sad for my younger self
I'd really like to check out some of those resources you mentioned, but I can't seem to find them where they should be. Have they been removed since this is an old episode?
Hey Kristen! This episode blew my mind!!! Let me share a little about myself to explain why. I am 34 years old, mom of two, Norwegian nurse with a bachelor's degree, and at the moment in my 3rd year of "sickleave". I put it in the quote marks because I, and everyone else, believed I had an incapacitating depression due to several issues spanning from my childhood to my early 20s. I have received therapy, medication and a lot of help, and i can't believe that my boyfriend hasn't left yet... A couple of months ago I accidentally (and finally) persuaded my therapist to examine me for ADHD, which he categorically turned down when we first met, and I met all the criteria except for one area. I'm not visible hyperactive. So a new journey began. I started testing out stimulants a month ago and discovered that my ADHD had impacts far beyond what I suspected, and that most of my symptoms for depression probably was my ADHD. My depression is real, but also probably a symptom of undiagnosed ADHD.
Is there only one type of adhd.
It won't let me play this episode 😭
this has helped me out so much
I love your podcast! It's like a goldmine of useful info. I also love how you cannot help yourself from externalising those thoughts that come up. Mega cute :)