I Talk To Myself Sometimes

Sometimes love catches you by surprise after the biggest heartbreak you think you've ever had to endure and it feels like an invitation to validate and affirm all of the ideas of yourself that previous relationship called into question.Inspired by “Have You Ever” by Brandy.

Happiness begins with embracing the fact that you’re HUMAN. After that, the ways you define…and experience it…will be endless!

Are you sure you know the difference between love, like, lust and limerance? It’s time to stop shaming women that crave sex and physical contact by saying they need to date themselves. Telling them deprivation & isolation mislabeled as self-love is the answer, when in fact, self-awareness is the very necessary muscle she’s exercising by acknowledging her needs in the first place. Inspo track: “Loungin’ (Who Do You Love?) by LL Cool J feat. Total. Listen here: https://spotify.link/tMuzj0Xjkyb

Healthy friendships teach you what showing up feels like. So when you encounter someone new, you draw hard lines in what you know is good and what isn’t. It’s time to practice having the kinds of connections you want. Doesn’t always mean it can happen when you want, but you can to start finding freedom in feeling confident enough to do it. This is how all relationships should feel. Friends, who you love like family. This is what safety feels like. Inspired by “What About Your Friends” by TLC. Listen Here: https://open.spotify.com/track/63PIgPkDf3rswlU4ZWCYAM?si=V568W9bUT8CVywDGMH07vQ

How many times in life did the men & women around you find you most attractive…magnetic…and beautiful when you were broken?! I wonder at how someone could find me magnetic…so irresistably attractive during I season I’ve had to numb myself against in self-defense…and then blanche at the idea of me coming out on the other side different. Does that count as beauty in the eye of the beholder too? Episode inspired by Dru Hill’s “Beauty”. Listen here: https://open.spotify.com/track/125dAqUSmX1nOG50fBz9vb?si=bNQK_oD-R7aiNBwF6eYB_g

Sometimes, getting off makes dudes go off…the deep end. As confusing as that’s been for me I know that I’m not alone so if you’ve ever gotten subpar peen and been dragged downward in a post-coital rabbit hole of anger, shaming, blaming, and outright outrage, then this one is for you too. Inspired by all of the “pipe” dreams Intro sang about on “Come Inside”. Listen here: https://open.spotify.com/track/1XX4xX9rrdaomm4RxAJjZW?si=K4treYrwRR2F-a2Q33xhGw

You have to come to an understanding about what it looks and feels like to trust your gut to guide you towards putting yourself first. It’s time to do away with the guilt of being seen as selfish and start leaning into what makes you feel safe and appreciated. Inspired by “In My Bed” by Dru Hill. Listen here: https://open.spotify.com/track/2MflYZf6aZzOxQWX0O7Brc?si=PfWJEgiBSI2sS115IrCC_w

**Trigger Warning** Episode contains description of domestic violence, assault and abuse. I spent so much time being busy looking…I forgot to SEE. Now that I know what I saw I don’t have the luxury to forgive and forget. This episode is for anyone that needs to keep the reality of what can go wrong top of mind in order to live a life that feels right.

You don’t feel like YOU when you’re busy being someone else. You owe it to yourself to really think about all the things that make you uniquely…well, you, and start to apply them in a way that leaves no doubt that you’re THAT girl…around the way in every way. Inspired by “Around The Way Girl” by LL Cool J. Listen here: https://open.spotify.com/track/6jL1SnyXcXiKOmw4M2RnmT?si=3rxEI6-9SjO5ggrpieOb3g

A little compliment goes a looong way. I hate when men say "I don't need to flatter you, you know how good you look." Sir, my ex literally destroyed my self esteem. Please tell me I'm pretty and that my body is nice. I NEED to hear it. Listen to the song that underscores it all, “So Fine” by Mint Condition here: https://open.spotify.com/track/2ZhSrBSchTaDbxCFi1SoiC?si=fpcI4jCmQGGKamBi6eWW0w

Sometimes, it’s not who you know…it’s knowing when to go. Today’s episode is inspired by an ex-friend’s phuckery, foolishness and the fumbling of me. Listen to the song that sparked the convo, “Get Gone” by Ideal here: https://open.spotify.com/track/0CofintZCm8MhxiOMrauiT?si=5_t29NIdRhWCNz-uh2xY9w

When Usher dropped “You Make Me Wanna” in 1997, it felt like a smooth confession — a man caught between two loves. But years later, it reads like a deeper story about temptation, self-awareness, and the moments when curiosity exposes what comfort conceals.In this episode of I Talk To Myself Sometimes, Antoinette Arrington unpacks the gray area between attraction and alignment — and how sometimes, the real decision isn’t about who you choose, but who you become in the process.

When Jade released “Don’t Walk Away” in 1992, it sounded like heartbreak. But years later, it feels like clarity — a woman finding her voice between connection and self-worth.In this episode of I Talk To Myself Sometimes, Antoinette Arrington reflects on the moment between asking someone to stay and realizing peace often begins with release. Because love doesn’t always mean holding on — sometimes, it means learning when to let go with grace.

There was a time when asking someone to talk felt like the most intimate act of all. Jodeci’s “Come & Talk to Me (Remix)” captured that moment — when interest met intention, and connection felt both tender and bold. In this episode of I Talk To Myself Sometimes, Antoinette Arrington unpacks the quiet power of vulnerability — and how the courage to approach, listen, and be seen still defines the truest kind of intimacy.

1998. Dru Hill released “Beauty” — a song that taught us how admiration can be tender, restrained, and profoundly intimate. In this episode of I Talk To Myself Sometimes, Antoinette Arrington dissects the emotions behind the melody: the quiet recognition of love from afar, the suspended space between yearning and access, and the self-reflection that comes with time. “Beauty” isn’t just about someone else — it’s about what their presence awakens in us, and how we learn to see ourselves more clearly through that mirror. Listen as we explore desire, dignity, and the kind of connection that lingers long after the song ends.

When Lauryn Hill released “Ex-Factor” in 1998, we thought it was about heartbreak — about loving someone who wouldn’t love you back the same way.But time has shown us the truth beneath the melody:This song wasn’t just about loss, it was about forbidden love.It was the sound of loving someone who belonged elsewhere — of wanting a love that was never fully yours.In this episode of I Talk To Myself Sometimes, Antoinette unpacks the hidden truth behind Lauryn Hill’s haunting ballad — the quiet confession tucked between every note — and what it teaches us about loving from a place of hope, guilt, and eventual release.In this episode you’ll hear: • Why “Ex-Factor” was really about an affair • The emotional weight of loving where you can’t belong • The power of self-forgiveness and self-awareness • How time changes the way we hear heartbreak

When Mary J. Blige released “I Can Love You” in 1997, it became an anthem for women who loved hard and stood loyal — even when they weren’t the one being chosen.But time changes how we hear things.In this episode of I Talk To Myself Sometimes, Antoinette revisits Mary’s soulful confession and reflects on what happens when love turns into competition.It’s a conversation about worth, comparison, and the quiet truth that no woman should ever feel like she has to compete with another for love that’s meant to be hers.In this episode you’ll hear: • How love songs taught us to perform instead of receive • What it means to grow out of comparison • Why peace feels better than being picked • The moment you realize your softness was never the problem — his indecision was

Before there was the phrase “soft life,” there was “Pretty Brown Eyes.”Mint Condition didn’t just sing about heartbreak — they gave us a masterclass in emotional honesty and growth through melody.In this episode of I Talk To Myself Sometimes, Antoinette revisits “Breakin’ My Heart (Pretty Brown Eyes)” and explores how this classic 90s slow jam evolved from a song about desire into a reflection on self-awareness, boundaries, and what it means to outgrow certain versions of love.In this episode you’ll hear: • A breakdown of the emotional genius behind Mint Condition’s storytelling • Why this song still defines the sound of emotional growth and discovery • Reflections on longing, self-worth, and what it means to choose clarity over confusion • How music teaches us to recognize the difference between attraction and alignmentThis episode is for the woman who knows that healing doesn’t mean hardening — it means softening in the right direction.

Before situationships had a name, Groove Theory gave us “Tell Me.”It was more than a 90s slow jam — it was emotional maturity in disguise.In this episode of I Talk To Myself Sometimes, Antoinette revisits “Tell Me” and breaks down how this smooth groove evolved from a song about attraction to a quiet manifesto on communication, boundaries, and self-worth.In this episode you’ll hear: • How Amel Larrieux’s voice redefined feminine power and vulnerability • The shift from flirtation to self-assurance • Why clear communication is the most underrated kind of intimacy • Reflections on choosing clarity over confusion

When SWV released “Weak” in 1992, it became the anthem for every girl who ever lost her composure in the presence of someone who made her heart skip.But underneath its sweet harmonies and flawless runs, “Weak” is a confession — an emotional unraveling of what it feels like to give in to love, to lose your cool, and to risk your balance for something that feels bigger than logic.In this episode of I Talk To Myself Sometimes, Antoinette unpacks the language of surrender that shaped so many 90s love songs — the vulnerability, the longing, and the quiet ache that comes with being seen and undone.In this episode you’ll hear: • A lyric-by-lyric reflection on SWV’s “Weak” and its emotional layers • How the song redefined feminine softness and vulnerability in 90s R&B • The way love once felt like falling — and how we now understand that fall differently • Reflections on emotional safety, trust, and the risk of romantic surrender • What happens when “weak in the knees” becomes both a thrill and a warningFor anyone who’s ever been caught between strength and surrender, this one hits deep.“Weak” isn’t just a love song — it’s a mirror for what happens when we let love teach us, test us, and touch the parts we keep guarded.