Not So Normal Parenting

In this episode, we delve into the age-old debate of nature versus nurture and its impact on our temperament. Discover the findings of an eighty-year Harvard happiness study, revealing that 50% of our happiness capacity is determined by our temperament, which is set at birth. Despite this, we often focus on changing our circumstances rather than accepting our inherent strengths. We explore how temperament influences our reactions to life's challenges and how understanding our children's temperament is crucial for effective parenting. Drawing from real-life examples and psychological research, we examine how temperament manifests from infancy and shapes our experiences and interactions. From fussy babies to strong-willed toddlers, each child exhibits unique traits that remain consistent throughout their lives. Join us as we explore the four main personality patterns: Cooperators (Ox), and (Human)  Challengers (Lion), and (Scarecrows). Through anecdotes and character analyses from literature, such as "The Wizard of Oz," we gain insight into the characteristics and motivations of each personality type. Don't miss out on practical tips for parenting and fostering harmony within your family, tailored to the specific needs of each personality pattern. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of nature versus nurture and its profound impact on our lives.   Website: Get FREE resources at Wendygossett.com Get a FREE Child Temperament Test when you join my Not So Normal Parenting Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/notsonormalparenting or on my podcast page. Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram is Wendy.Gossett  

In this episode Wendy talks about the 3 centers of intelligence in the enneagram system. The Bodoy center which is concerned with control, autonomy and centers around the emotion of anger. The Heart center concerned with attention and self image centers around grief or shame and the Head center, concerned with security and systems or beliefs centers around the emotion of fear or anxiety. We will talk about all nine types and what the fixate on. We will also talk about how people misunderstand and misuse the Enneagram, what it is and what it is not!   Website: Get Free resources at WendyGossett.com Get a FREE Child Temperament Test when you join my Not So Normal Parenting Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/notsonormalparenting Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram is Wendy.Gossett

Because this personality type often feels overlooked, it is critical that they feel seen by the most important people in their lives: their parents and siblings. Sometimes their negative emotions can stay buried for weeks without your child even knowing what is bothering them.   My 22 year old son Nathan (who is now graduating with a Pre-Med degree) struggled with ADHD, OCD, anxiety and sensory processing disorder. Through understanding his temperament, as a highly sensitive introvert and a peacemaker, he has learned many ways to build upon his strengths and overcome his weaknesses. Gain insights and helpful coping mechanisms for dealing with all these issues from childhood bedtime routines to asserting boundaries in social interactions, anxiety management, and the quest for self-acceptance. Discover how your child's main brain function (introverted sensing) shapes decision making involving extracurricular choices, social interactions, loyalty, peer pressure, substance curiosity and choosing a life path.   Claim your FREE resource for helping your introverted sensor stand up to peer pressure and other resources for ISFJ type 9's by emailing me at WendyGossett.com and requesting, "Peer Pressure".   Website: Wendy Gossett.com Get FREE resources on my website: https://wendygossett.com/category/resources/ or email me at WendyGossett.com Get a FREE Child Temperament Test when you join my Not So Normal Parenting Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/notsonormalparenting Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram is Wendy.Gossett  

ntroverted Thinking Lion ISTP (Introverted Sensing Thinking and Perceiving), Type 8 individuals are intellectually sharp but may lack emotional intelligence, making self-awareness essential. Their affinity for systems makes understanding temperament valuable. Female thinkers constitute only 25% of the population, underscoring the importance of teaching appropriate interactions with women. It's crucial to acknowledge and validate their uniqueness. Encourage Introverted thinking (Ti) individuals to explore logical subjects like engineering, philosophy, or theology, aligning with their strategic, independent nature. For ISTPs, action trumps reading, so practical books with real-life scenarios are ideal. As they mature, purpose-driven books become more appealing. Engage ISTP children by acting out stories and ensuring rules make logical sense to them. Embrace the Lion: Encourage freedom and fun, but address ADHD concerns tactfully, considering placebos and life lessons over medication. Observing the lion's transformative journey from childhood to adulthood reveals adaptability and growth in various aspects of life. Ti's self-discipline and intrinsic motivation require patience and negotiation, favoring silly activities and collaborative rule-making. Recognize and harness Ti-Lion's independence and problem-solving skills, incentivizing with sensory rewards and freedom. Understand Ti-Lion's aversion to losing and preference for logical problem-solving, adapting games and communication methods accordingly. Navigate Ti individuals' lower emotional awareness with rational discussions and group activities, fostering emotional intelligence gradually. For type 8 individuals, fairness and justice are paramount, necessitating fair chore distribution and constructive anger expression outlets. Understanding Ti-Lion's extroverted introversion, provide space for solitude and engage in exciting, challenging activities to connect. Bond with Ti-Lion through stimulating activities, avoiding rigid plans, and embracing spontaneity, fostering a dynamic, fulfilling relationship. Website: Get Free resources at WendyGossett.com Get a FREE Child Temperament Test when you join my Not So Normal Parenting Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/notsonormalparenting  Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ  Instagram is Wendy.Gossett #TemperamentAwareness #IntellectualStrength #EmotionalIntelligence #UniqueIndividuals #LogicalThinkers #PracticalLearning #EmpowermentThroughUnderstanding #SelfDiscoveryJourney #ActionOriented #BooksWithPurpose #EngageThroughPlay #LogicalRules #FreedomAndFun #ADHDAwareness #TransformativeGrowth #SelfDisciplineJourney #NegotiationSkills #ProblemSolvers #FairnessAndJustice #EmotionalAwareness #ConstructiveExpression #IntrovertedExtroverts #DynamicConnections #SpontaneousAdventures #StimulatingActivities #UnconventionalFun

Ever find yourself wondering if your child's behavior is normal? Some personality types don’t respond to traditional parenting. This could be why you are feeling stressed and uncertain how to handle their sibling rivalry, explosive tantrums, disorganization, picky eating, impulsivity, sleep problems, low empathy, high sensitivity or fill in the blank.  Maybe you and your partner don’t feel as close as you once did. Due to all the crazy, you may have lost sight of the connection that brought you together? Are you struggling to identify the God given strengths in your child, connect with your child and be on the same page with your partner? Are you praying for a way to finally relax and feel assured that you are parenting your child in a way that will bring out the best in them?   I understand the journey and have asked these very questions many many many times myself. Both my kids fall outside of the norm. My son is a highly sensitive feeler who broke his arm in band and cross country…not once, but twice! I bet you didn’t realize that band and cross country could be hazardous! He struggled with sensory processing disorder, OCD, anxiety and ADHD. My daughter, on the other hand, is a highly logical thinker, who enjoyed decapitating her American Girl dolls, riding a scooter through the neighborhood with a live chicken on the handlebars and refusing to eat anything unless it was a Cheezit, goldfish or chicken nugget. She struggled with low empathy, low grades and ADHD. I am not normal either, which you will discover if you Google “mom embarrasses son by dancing in a blizzard, on the Interstate to the Backstreet Boys.” If you are familiar with the Myers Briggs system I am an ENFJ and if the Enneagram is your jam, I am a type 1 to 1 type 4 wing 3.  Although I do hold a Master’s degree in education and work as a team building coach, these credentials did not help when it came to managing my own family team and parenting my daughter who is opposite of me in every way and nothing like anyone else in the family. It felt as though she had been beamed down to us from another planet. This is why my understanding extends to parents in blended and adoptive families, where the process of getting to know your new child can be its own unique challenge and feel anything but normal!   There was no user manual for my daughter. Every parenting book I picked up didn’t seem to fit. By the time she was five years old, I felt like I was yelling at her more than I was being positive. She was a tornado of orneryness, very blunt with her negative opinions and she didn’t know how to show appreciation or affection. When I looked at her, all I could see were her weaknesses and I was worried that if I didn’t turn things around and figure out how to reframe the way I saw her, I was going to ruin our relationship and damage her self-esteem. To make matters worse, my son was super easy to understand and parent. She was already commenting on how he was the good kid and she was the bad kid. As I was using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram in my career as a team building coach and educator, I realized these tools could be powerful for helping family teams.  I set out to study child personality patterns and began crafting a best-selling book called "Your Child’s Inner Drive: Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens." Its packed with helpful tools, discipline techniques, and over two hundred real-life case studies from families sharing their unique stories about children of all sixteen personality types. To my surprise, my not so normal kids fell into normalized categories. As it turns out, they were acting perfectly normal for their personality types.  I've also developed a brain mapping system that is equal to a QEEG map of the brain. If you have ever wanted to take a peek into your child’s head to understand why on earth they just threw a perfectly delicious ice cream cone up against the wall, now you can!  With each family member, including your partner, you can pinpoint what is causing the disconnect and figure out solutions.   My goal is to help you grow and learn about yourself so you are able to differentiate your identity from that of your children. Children act out when they don’t feel seen. As soon as I realized how my daughter’s brain was wired, I was able to recognize the strengths I had mistaken for weaknesses. What seemed like an unappreciative, apathetic attitude, was logic and independence. I want to help you see your kids far beyond just WHAT they are doing to truly understanding WHY they are doing it.   On The Not So Normal Parenting podcast will we will discuss how your child's unique brain wiring can provide you with valuable understanding through every stage of their development from the toddler years all the way through to adulthood.   You will learn about all elements of personality through teaching as well as stories from families representing all sixteen Myers Briggs types and 9 Enneagram types to gain a crystal-clear FOCUS for understanding one another and forming appropriate expectations. Through the insights I have gained by working with thousands of personality patterns and conversations with experts in the not-so-normal you will develop a solid FRAMEWORK for building up their best qualities. We will discuss education, discipline, extracurricular activities, relationships and more. Have you ever wished you had a crystal ball to see what the adult version of your child would be like? Enjoy interviews with Adult Temperament Twins of your child's personality type as well as hearing personality data to help you sketch a detailed FORECAST for encouraging them in their future development. Discover your own type and parenting FLAVOR to gain self-awareness and encouragement so you can be a better spouse, friend, family member and coach for your child. The Harvard business journal states that the number one quality of a leader is self- awareness. A parent is a leader! This podcast will help you and your partner appreciate how you complement each so you can effectively lead your children to become the best version of themselves and lead your family team to be connected and harmonious.   Website:  Get FREE resources at WendyGossett.com Get a FREE Child Temperament Test when you join my Not So Normal Parenting Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/notsonormalparenting Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram is Wendy.Gossett        

Phil and his family are You Tubers who travel the world. Their website is followabc.com. A B C stands for Always Be Changing which has been the theme of Phil's life. He talks about how his parent's use of simple logic made sense to him as a child. He talks about his exploration, wandering attention in school and round about career path. INTP's usually don't follow a conventional plan. He also talks about parenting his own ENTP son and redirecting his curiosity so that it isn't destructive    Follow the Lockwood Family adventures at Always Be Changing:https://followabc.com/our-story   Website: Get Free resources at WendyGossett.com Get a FREE Child Temperament Test when you join my Not So Normal Parenting Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/notsonormalparenting Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram is Wendy.Gossett

Sara Van Rensburg CEO of Potential Arena and ENTP, Extroverted, Intuitive, Thinking and Perceiving, talks about how she was in school. She shares how you can keep your ENTP from jumping from one thing to another How to collaborate, negotiate and how to communicate in a way that gets them to listen. How they take things apart and cans seem disrespectful How to handle their fast-acting creative mind How their mind works conceptually rather than linearly Understanding their impatience, explosivity and lagging emotional development How to handle sibling rivalry Sara@potentialarena.com potential arena unleashing potential in virtual teams Potential Arena is a potential-centered individual and team development organization. We combine the most powerful elements of peer group transformation with a practical model to help individuals, teams, and organizations unleash far greater potential as a hybrid or virtual team   Website: Get Free resources at WendyGossett.com Get a FREE Child Temperament Test when you join my Not So Normal Parenting Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/notsonormalparenting Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram is Wendy.Gossett    

Dr. Brandon Davison Tracy, pediatrician and owner of Colorado Kids Pediatrics in Denver Colorado, has practiced medicine for over 20 years is an ENFP. Extroverted, Intuitive, Feeling and Perceiving. He talks about social anxiety versus shyness, overachieving to avoid feelings of fear, battling selfish thoughts and the need to be happy all the time. We talk about "taming the monkey brain", big picture thinking versus being detail oriented, being unaware in his senses, sports, OCD, deciding on a college and career and asking too many questions.` Dr. Brandon's practice: Colorado Kids Pediatrics: https://coloradokidspeds.com/   Website: Get Free resources at WendyGossett.com Get a FREE Child Temperament Test when you join my Not So Normal Parenting Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/notsonormalparenting Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram is Wendy.Gossett

In this episode of Not So Normal Parenting, we delve into the fascinating realm of Thinkers and Feelers, exploring how these cognitive preferences shape not only decision-making but also parenting dynamics. Host [Host's Name] unpacks the essence of Thinking (T) and Feeling (F) in the context of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, shedding light on how individuals lean towards logic-driven judgments or decisions infused with empathy and consideration of emotions. Drawing from personal experiences and observations, [Host's Name] shares anecdotes about her own children, Nathan and Jordan, whose contrasting temperaments challenge societal norms. Nathan, a gentle soul with a penchant for empathy, defies the stereotype of competitive masculinity often associated with boys, while Jordan's determined and independent nature bucks the trend of nurturing femininity. Listeners are taken on a journey through the nuances of parenting Thinkers and Feelers, from early childhood indicators to navigating societal expectations. [Host's Name] emphasizes the importance of understanding and supporting children based on their unique temperaments rather than conforming to traditional gender roles. Through insightful anecdotes, [Host's Name] highlights the significance of parental adaptation, whether it's encouraging individual sports for a sensitive Feeler like Nathan or embracing a Thinker's unconventional choices, such as Jordan's foray into pole-vaulting. As the episode unfolds, listeners gain a deeper appreciation for the diverse ways in which children process information and make decisions, transcending gender stereotypes and societal pressures. Whether your child is a Thinker or a Feeler, this episode offers valuable insights and practical tips for navigating the intricate landscape of parenting. Tune in to Not So Normal Parenting and discover how understanding Thinkers and Feelers can revolutionize your approach to parenting and nurture a more empathetic, inclusive family dynamic.     Website: Get Free resources at WendyGossett.com Get a FREE Child Temperament Test when you join my Not So Normal Parenting Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/notsonormalparenting Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram is Wendy.Gossett

In this episode, we take a broad view of introversion and extroversion, delving into the nuances of each type. From rechargers to absorbers in introversion, and players to talkers in extroversion, we navigate through the varied behaviors associated with these personality traits. Join us as we address common concerns of parents regarding their children's introverted tendencies. We debunk myths surrounding introversion, highlighting the distinction between shyness and introversion, with insights from experts like Susan Cain, author of "Quiet". Our discussion extends to the neurobiological differences between introverts and extroverts, shedding light on how brain chemistry influences preferences for external stimuli or inner reflection. With anecdotes and practical advice, we offer strategies for both introverted and extroverted individuals to thrive in social settings and recharge their energy accordingly. Discover why understanding your family's unique blend of introverted and extroverted traits is crucial for fostering harmonious relationships. Learn how to create an environment that respects each member's need for solitude or social interaction, whether you're an extroverted parent navigating an introverted child's world or vice versa. In upcoming episodes, we'll delve deeper into the specific needs and challenges faced by introverts and extroverts, offering actionable tips for parents and individuals alike. Plus, don't miss out on our insightful interviews with adult introverts sharing their personal experiences.   Website: Get Free resources at WendyGossett.com Get a FREE Child Temperament Test when you join my Not So Normal Parenting Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/notsonormalparenting Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram is Wendy.Gossett    

Join us in the latest episode of the Not So Normal Parenting Podcast as we uncover a powerful strategy for shaping your child's behavior while strengthening your bond with them. Host [Host's Name] introduces the transformative CREATE method, designed to address challenging behaviors while nurturing connection and control. Discover how understanding your child's emotions and strengths, revealing new rules in advance, and equipping them with coping strategies can pave the way for smoother parenting journeys. Tune in to learn how to foster resilience and empower your child to navigate life's ups and downs with confidence. Don't miss out on this enlightening discussion that promises to revolutionize your parenting approach and deepen your connection with your little one.     Website: Get Free resources at WendyGossett.com Get a FREE Child Temperament Test when you join my Not So Normal Parenting Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/notsonormalparenting Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram is Wendy.Gossett

In this episode Wendy talks about the 3 centers of intelligence in the enneagram system. The Body center which is concerned with control, autonomy and centers around the emotion of anger. The Heart center cncerned with attention and self image centers around grief or shame and the Head center, concerned with security and systems or beliefs centers around the emotion of fear or anxiety. We will talk about all nine types and what the fixate on.     Website: Get Free resources at WendyGossett.com Get a FREE Child Temperament Test when you join my Not So Normal Parenting Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/notsonormalparenting Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram is Wendy.Gossett