Relationship Advice

When our nervous system is activated it's hard to make good decisions, show up how we want to be in relationships and generally keep ourselves together! Listen to today's show for a step-by-step process to regulate your nervous system and go from chaos to calm.  In this episode with Julie Potiker we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to find your soothing touch spot to begin calming yourself down Understanding and releasing the shame of losing yourself and acting out in the past How to deactivate yourself in a moment of conflict Using free association to rewire your thinking and bring more joy to your life Understanding the feelings below your emotions and how to do it Detailed visualizations that will help you deal with anxiety, anger and other difficult emotions And much more! Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Love and relationships can often get mixed up in terms of the difference between the two and how we experience them. Understanding the deeper meaning of love and relationships for ourselves can help us navigate our lives and relate better. Listen to today's show for an interesting discussion around these topics and much more! In this episode with Sanya Bari we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The nature of relationships and why they require rules The important distinction between a 'secret sacrifice' and compromise  What to do if resentment is building because of sacrifices you're making in relationships What to do if you're a giver and you feel your partner is not Learning to receive in relationship and allowing yourself to come into love on it's own How to give from an honest and authentic place And much more! Sponsors BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Foria is an innovative health and sexual wellness company that designs all-natural sexual intimacy products for women, people with vulvas, and the people who love them. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/ido. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our emotions can affect us both consciously and unconsciously. Negative emotions can be stored in the body and even lead to illness and disease. Listen to today's episode for deep insights into how our emotions, conscious and unconscious mind and our heart all influence how we move through relationships and the world around us.  In this episode with Dr. Brad Nelson we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How emotional baggage can lead to illness and how to begin to heal this The importance of allowing negative emotions and how to move through them How to ask the subconscious mind questions for deep insights Understanding the role our heart plays in relationships and whether or not we have walls surrounding our heart Understanding that we don't have to be at the mercy of our emotions The importance of forgiveness in relationships and healing And much more! Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have spiritual practices in your life and relationship? What does spirituality mean to you? Listen to today's show to better understand what it means to be on a spiritual path and learn how to walk that path to improve your life and relationship.  In this episode with Dimitri Moraitis we discuss relationship advice topics that include: What is a spiritual awakening and how do they occur? Four actionable steps to grow spirituality in your life Instead of looking for the perfect relationship, perfecting the one your in How relationships can be our spiritual teachers What to do if your partner is not into walking the spiritual path with you And much more! Sponsors Lume Deodorant helps you control your body odor anywhere! Get $5 off of your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code: "I Do" at lumedeodorant.com #lumepod Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Models for how to behave and what not to do in a relationship can be a valuable tool for growth. Listen to today's show to understand what strong couples don't do in order to create a healthy, happy relationship. In this episode with Amy Morin we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The danger in assigning meaning to your partner's behavior and making assumptions Why you shouldn't keep secrets from your partner and understanding that privacy is different from secrecy The importance of setting boundaries in your relationship and how to set healthy ones What to do if your partner uses emotions as weapons for manipulation How to compromise better in your relationship Cultivating mental strength and navigating relational challenges better And much more! Sponsors BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Much of how we show up in relationships is formed during our childhood. Understanding how our parents did, or did not, show us love can help us relate better as adults, be better partners and be better parents as well. Listen to today's show for actionable tips and insights to understand our childhoods and relate better as adults.  In this episode with Dr. Julia DiGangi we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How our childhood shapes how we relate as adults How we pick up on emotional energy as young children and how it impacts us later in life The forms of injury our parents can pass along to us How to parent from an emotionally centered perspective How to raise our kids so that they relate in the best way possible as adults And much more! Sponsors Foria is an innovative health and sexual wellness company that designs all-natural sexual intimacy products for women, people with vulvas, and the people who love them. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/ido. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have feelings of anxiousness around your partnership? Maybe you feel you need your partner to complete you and feel whole? You might be showing some signs of codependency, but that's Ok! Listen to today's show to learn more about codependency, creating relationship agreements and learning that it's not our jobs to fix our partner or be fixed ourselves.  In this episode with Veronica Lynn Clark we discuss relationship advice topics that include: What codependency looks like and how to move toward more security with yourself Why we become codependent Understanding our limiting beliefs around love and relationships How to get rid of the idea that we need to fix our partner or be fixed ourselves How to create relationship agreements so your relationship can flourish And much more! Sponsors Athena Club is your one stop shop to fulfilling all of your shaving needs. Get started with Athena Club today by shopping in-store at Target nationwide. Lume Deodorant helps you control your body odor anywhere! Get $5 off off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code: "I Do" at lumedeodorant.com Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anxiety may be baked into what it means to be human but it doesn't have to rule our lives. Listen to today's show to learn about why anxiety may feel like it's taking over our lives and the tools to become less anxious while cultivating a more fulfilling life and relationship. In this episode with Dr. Kirk Schneider we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding the evolutionary origins of anxiety How to stay with uncomfortable feelings and the value that can have The importance of learning to slow down and specific tips to do so Cultivating our ability to choose rather than react Understanding that life is an adventure and creating a cosmic perspective to help improve your life And much more! Sponsors BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Relationships will have conflict. Successful relationships are not necessarily built by preventing conflict, but instead by navigating it in a healthy and productive way. Listen to today's show for valuable tools and tips for navigating relationship conflict better.  In this episode with Stephanie Wijkstrom we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Identifying similar conflict patterns and how to change these patterns What you can learn about conflict resolution from a hostage negotiator How to listen productively when resolving conflict The best way to respond to your partner to help resolve conflict effectively Specific communication tips for conflict resolution And much more! Sponsors Foria is an innovative health and sexual wellness company that designs all-natural sexual intimacy products for women, people with vulvas, and the people who love them. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/ido. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The more tools we have to make our relationship healthier and happier, the better! Listen to today's show for some very actionable tips and advice to help you improve your relationship today.  In this episode with Multiamory Podcast (Dedeker Winston, Emily Matlack, Jase Lindgren) we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding the stories we are telling ourselves to help improve our relationship Step by step guide to repairing your relationship after an argument or disagreement Understanding our triggers to help repair your relationship Why an apology may not be enough The importance of a periodic relationship check-in and how to do it How to reconnect if you're feeling bored or disconnected with your partner And much more! Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Relationships change over time and require us to evolve in order to keep them healthy. Listen to today's show for tips for how to keep the spark in your relationship as it grows and evolves.  In this episode with Dr. Michael Mongno we discuss relationship advice topics that include: What to do if you feel you or your partner has changes drastically during the relationship How to communicate with your partner when you're feeling distant and that you may be growing apart Exploring other interests and needs outside of the relationship The importance of curiosity and novelty for growth How to plan new things to keep your relationship fresh And much more! Sponsors BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Athena Club is your one stop shop to fulfilling all of your shaving needs. Get started with Athena Club today by shopping in-store at Target nationwide. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Physical and emotional trauma can have a profound impact on our lives and we may not even realize it. Listen to today's show for a holistic approach to treating trauma, it's link to your digestion and much more.  In this episode with Dr. Ellen Cutler we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How trauma manifests itself differently in each individual Uncovering trauma in your past The link between trauma and digestion and chronic disease Holistic approaches to healing your health and trauma And much more! Sponsors Foria is an innovative health and sexual wellness company that designs all-natural sexual intimacy products for women, people with vulvas, and the people who love them. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/ido. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Group therapy and community can be a unique and powerful way to improve your relationship and feel supported, especially if your partner is neuro-diverse. Listen to today's show to learn more about group therapy and the value of community for your mental health. In this episode with Lisa Anzaldua we discuss relationship advice topics that include: What group therapy entails and how it's beneficial Navigating the difficulties of being in a relationship with a neuro-diverse partner The importance of validation, feeling seen and how to obtain it How to cultivate empathic resonance  The importance of reclaiming the self in relationships And much more! Sponsors BetterSleep knows when you sleep better, you feel better, so they've given you endless options of sounds and guided content curated just for you. Relationship Advice is sponsored by BetterSleep. Download BetterSleep from your App Store or Google Play. VIIA Hemp believes in the medicinal value found within the cannabis plant, that's why they are focused on making products that people actually feel. From energized to relaxed and blissed, VIIA Hemp has just what you are looking for. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Clear communication around sex and a deeper understanding of our partner and our own desires can help us lead healthier and happier sex lives. Listen to today's show to learn the 5 sex languages and how to use them to ignite your sex life! In this episode with Dr. Doug Weiss we discuss relationship advice topics that include: What to do when your sexuality has been damaged through past relationships, conditioning or trauma The discipline needed to increase intimacy in your relationship How to nurture your partner to connect more effectively in the bedroom How to directly ask for sex Using better language to upgrade your sex life The 5 sex languages and how to use them for yourself and your partner And much more! Sponsors Foria is an innovative health and sexual wellness company that designs all-natural sexual intimacy products for women, people with vulvas, and the people who love them. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/ido. BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Athena Club is your one stop shop to fulfilling all of your shaving needs. Get started with Athena Club today by shopping in-store at Target nationwide. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like you're carrying an unfair load in your relationship? The truth is, no relationship will be perfectly split with household responsibilities, carpooling the kids, taking care of the bills and any other number of responsibilities. However, it is important that both partners feel the relationship is fair. Listen to today's episode to learn what fairness looks like in a healthy relationship and how to make your relationship more balanced if it is not currently.  In this episode with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How fair can you really make a relationship? The steps to take if you feel your partner is not carrying a fair load in the relationship Specific communication tools to productively create more fair relationships The importance of recognizing how our parents modeled relationships and it's impact on us How to navigate the shame spiral and not feeling good enough And much more! Sponsors Hatch Rest makes sleep better and more magical for your entire family. The all-in-one Hatch Rest is a smart sleep device with a sound machine and night light that grows with your kids. Get up to 15% off your purchase of a Hatch Rest and free shipping at hatch.co/ido.  Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Relationships can be complicated and hard to navigate. Of course you're here listening because you want to uncomplicate things and relate better! This episode is full of insight and wisdom from Sulonda Smith who has a beautiful way of communicating exactly what we can do to relate better and live a more fulfilling life. Listen to today's show for actionable tools and tips to start improving yourself and your relationships today.  In this episode with Sulonda Smith we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How our automated responses can complicate our relationships Getting clear on what a relationship should look like How to understand and embody the idea that it's ok to not have everything figured out How to observe yourself and your actions for the best outcomes in your relationship Recognizing your levels of need for validation in a relationship and how to heal these needs And much more! Sponsors Paired is a fun app that brings you closer to your partner. Connect with your partner every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/IDO BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you in a relationship that does not feel good to you? Perhaps you're currently in a toxic relationship or you've been in one before? It can feel like you're stuck while you're in it or you may feel you're repeating the same pattern with unhealthy relationships. Listen to today's show to learn why we enter, stay and repeat toxic relationships and the key tools to break the patterns and enter into more healthy, happy relationships.  In this episode with Kierstyn Franklin we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How your subconscious may be attracting you to negativity and how to break this pattern Trauma bonding and addiction to the highs and lows of a unhealthy relationship Why we sometimes get stuck in the shame of a toxic relationship How to develop more self awareness and turn inward to break unhealthy patterns Recognizing the signs of abuse, gaslighting and other unhealthy relationship traits Addressing a toxic partner and how to recognize when to leave And much more! Sponsors BetterSleep knows when you sleep better, you feel better, so they've given you endless options of sounds and guided content curated just for you. Relationship Advice is sponsored by BetterSleep. Download BetterSleep from your App Store or Google Play. BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Relationships of all kinds take work. LGBT relationships can have additional difficulties to navigate such as bringing in one's potential shame around sexuality or dealing with rejection from childhood as an adult, among many other unique difficulties. Listen to today's show as Dani and Keely provide their unique perspective and advice for people in LGBT relationships. Even if you are in a heterosexual relationship there are many great nuggets of wisdom to gain from listening to today's show.  In this episode with Dani and Keely we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Difficulty dealing with rejection, struggling to be vulnerable and other patterns they see with their clients The struggle with one's identity as they come to terms with their sexuality Coming out as an adult and how to deal with unaccepting family or friends Dealing with insecurities when someone identifies with the LGBT community Listening to the body's emotional responses to difficulties  The importance of community when navigating LGBT relationship difficulties And much more! Sponsors Foria is an innovative health and sexual wellness company that designs all-natural sexual intimacy products for women, people with vulvas, and the people who love them. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/ido. BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Hatch Rest makes sleep better and more magical for your entire family. The all-in-one Hatch Rest is a smart sleep device with a sound machine and night light that grows with your kids. Get up to 15% off your purchase of a Hatch Rest and free shipping at hatch.co/ido.  Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all have been there with a romantic partner, family member or friend who always has something dramatic going on in their lives. Perhaps it may even be you who is addicted to drama. There are important patterns to recognize and correct if you or someone you know is addicted to drama. Don't let the drama of others, or within yourself, continue to decrease your happiness and well being. Listen to today's show for key tools and tips for dealing with drama in your life. In this episode with Dr. Scott Lyons we discuss relationship advice topics that include: What is drama, how to recognize it and the important differences between a drama reflex and a drama occurrence How those who engage in drama are disconnected from themselves How drama helps reinforce one's identity as a victim and how to break this pattern Why some individuals create drama to feel alive and connected How to relate with someone who is addicted to drama Interrupting the drama pattern for a happier, healthier life And much more! Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Life in India as a woman is much different than in the western world. Arranged marriages and a deeply patriarchal society are just two of the pressures that can make life difficult for an Indian woman. Add a toxic, abusive arranged marriage with kids involved to these cultural pressures and one could feel quite hopeless. This is exactly what Kanchan Moudgil had to go through and was able to come out the other side happy, healthy and with a positive outlook on life. Listen to today's show to hear Kanchan's inspirational story along with specific, actionable advice for what to do if you're in a toxic or abusive relationship.  In this episode with Kanchan Moudgil we discuss relationship advice topics that include: What it's like to grow up in India with arranged marriages and a strong patriarchal hierarchy How to get out of a victim mentality How those who are in toxic relationships can justify an abusive situation and how to change the narrative Visualization as a tool to help exit a toxic relationship Developing the strength to leave an unhealthy relationship And much more! Sponsors Paired is a fun app that brings you closer to your partner. Connect with your partner every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/IDO BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices