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Sharing stories of force-free dog training journeys with challenging, reactive and aggressive dogs and the impact living with those dogs has on our daily lives and our mental health. I hope that hearing these stories can help to make people feel less alone. We love our dogs to pieces but sometimes it's hard and then it's simply nice to hear from others going through something similar. This podcast is about us trying to teach our dogs, but more importantly, it's about what our dogs are teaching us.Find the show notes at https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/ruff-around-the-edges-podcast/
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Send us a text A chat at the airfield turns into a round of “I would never…” and sparks this episode on what I call verbal condemnation. From “I’d never rehome my dog” to “My dog would never bite”, these statements often hide fear, not fact. I explore the defense mechanisms behind them, projection, denial, moral high ground, and why they sting so much when directed at us. Awareness isn’t about brushing things off. It’s the first step toward understanding what we’re really afraid o...
Send us a text We say things like “I just want to get the most out of life” all the time, especially when it comes to our dogs, who already feel like they’re on borrowed time. But when you stop to really think about it…what does that even mean? In this episode, I follow that thought down a bit of a rabbit hole. What does it actually mean to maximize life? For ourselves, for our dogs? Is it about time? Love? Impact? And who gets to decide whether we’ve done “enough”? As always, I don’t land on...
Send us a text When your work is about helping others, whether it’s animals, people, or both, it can be hard to draw the line between care and self-sacrifice. In this episode, I talk to Gunila Pedersen, a veterinarian who dealt with burnout, left the field, and then returned on her own terms after becoming a coach. We talk about the pressure to be perfect, the weight of euthanasia decisions, what happens when clients can’t afford treatment, and how to live with imperfection in a s...
Send us a text It's not my dog's fault I'm sick... It's not my dog's fault work's busy... So, that means I have to put them first. Not make them suffer for my choices. What's suffering though? Are they suffering? Are you? When do you get to put yourself first? That's what this episode is about. I give you some pointers as to how you can question your brain as well as some practical tips. Episode Website: https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/mindset-episode-026-not-wanting-your-dog-to-suffer-becau...
Send us a text Barbara van Rheenen is illustratrice en woont samen met haar twee witte herders Guzzi en Lupo. Recent schreef en illustreerde ze een boekje over wat daar bij komt kijken. Een boekje met tips over opvoeding, maar ook veel herkenbare anekdotes uit haar eigen leven, en natuurlijk met schitterende illustraties. Het schrijven van "Wittebroodsweken- Houden van je herder" leverder Barbara een hoop nieuwe inzichten op. En daar gaat het in deze aflevering over: - Hoe je je no...
Send us a text In this episode of Ruff Around the Edges, I explore the power of starting with a "no" to gain clarity on what we truly want. By identifying what we're not willing or able to do, we make it easier to figure out where we want to go — whether it’s choosing how to manage our dog’s behavior or making parenting decisions. I also dive into the importance of listening to your body’s signals to understand when something is a genuine no, and when it’s simply fear trying to hold you...
Send us a text Claire describes such familiar themes. Like what it’s like to look back at how her childhood dogs were treated with the knowledge she has now. How she thought she knew quite a bit about dogs until Ozzy came along. Ozzy was adopted from a charity, who had done a pretty great job preparing prospective adopters for what it’s like to bring a new dog into the home, and yet Claire, like many of us, still underestimated the reality, partly because she adopted Ozzy when he was still ...
Send us a text Warning: this episode references euthanasia What do you do when you have been dealt an emotional blow, and need time to process that, but time is the one thing you don't have? Because you have to get back to work so you can make rent for example? Or because you're parenting small children and you're happy to get 5 minutes of quiet time on the toilet? This episode tries to give some practical tips as to what you can do in situations like that using the low-key of example of ge...
Send us a text Leah Lykos, a dog behaviorist out of Chattanooga Tennessee and guardian to three dogs, Eva, Biggie, and Mia explains how her focus is on movement and somatic work. That makes sense given that she operates from the philosophy that for dogs even more so than for humans there is no separation of mind and body. We discuss something new to me: resistance feeding. The idea behind resistance feeding is to not control the dog's behavior but to provide an appropriate outlet for it. Ever...
Send us a text [The audio of this episode is a bit wonky, but I hope you'll put up with it because the content is great] Matilda is a canine coach who creates all the things she wishes she would have had available when working with her dog Nala for her clients. We talk about how Rafiki, her second dog, helped her grow into the person she is now. (and what on earth possessed her to get a second dog after having a first dog who was Ruff Around the Edges) When you listen to the episode you'l...
Send us a text When you have to train something you don't know how to identify, where do you start? Can you even start? I share the experiences a friend of mine and myself have had doing physical therapy, the lessons I learned from it and how they apply to life with our dogs. How do you find which dials to tweak? If the podcast resonates with you and you want to dig a little deeper, coaching is the tool to help you cope better with stressful situations, makes you more confident and daring,...
Send us a text How does a UK national end up a dog (and other animals) trainer in Dubai? Just listening to Aimee's backstory will have you in awe of the way she has stayed true to herself making big life decisions. We talk about how she tries to make clients feel like they can share everything with her as a trainer so that they don't have to hide their feelings and frustration. We discuss how breed stereotypes and other assumptions may prevent us from recognizing our dogs are in pain. ...
Send us a text This episode is for you if you identify as a perfectionist. Simply talking with Aga, the short version for Agnieszka about the concept of errorless learning has given me another way to look at perfectionism and how it can (often but not always) be unhelpful. Aga talks about training behaviors to fluency which is different from perfection, and about the benefits of playing by someone else's rules now and then, just to get you out of your comfort zone. She will have you completel...
Send us a text Als Ninke Luka adopteert heeft hij al twee jaar lang in een Russisch asiel gezeten. Eenmaal thuis in Belgisch Limburg durft hij niet eens binnen te komen, zo ontzettend moet hij wennen aan zijn nieuwe leven. Goedbedoelde adviezen als "da's een een scheper, die moet u wel bezig houden" blijken voor Luka helemaal niet te werken. Ninke vertelt over de omzwervingen die haar uiteindelijk naar Daniëlla van Paws in Touch leiden en wat haar overtuigde om toch nog weer meer geld in tra...
Send us a text A spontaneous unscripted ramble about my new Mind's Best Friend group coaching program. If you like what you hear on the podcast and you have been wanting to dig deeper, now is your chance. You can find more information here: https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/november-2023-group-coaching/ Or send me an email, or contact me on social media. I'll be happy to answer any questions. Do you want to start now and not wait for any New Year's resolutions to: Have better relationshipsL...
Send us a text Beating yourself up about being stuck in the "I kind of want to change, but I can't get myself to change, so I must not want the change bad enough" is one of the most counterproductive ways to talk to yourself. Change isn't all about action. It starts with you (and your dog) just living your life (or lives), followed by as much time as necessary to consider if there is something you want to change and how. Change is also about falling back into old patterns and trying again. W...
Send us a text If you follow any kind of dog related social media, then you will know Georgie, where she posts under the handle @trickwoofs. You will have seen the lovely whimsical cartoons she draws about life with a reactive dog, which are so extremely on point they always make me laugh. A particular cartoon comes to mind that has the guardian and their dog navigating the urban jungle that is the city, James Bond style, ducking behind walls and sneaking around corners, all in an attempt to ...
Send us a text Does your partner brush off your dog's reaction like it was nothing? Don't they understand the concept op threshold and the importance of limiting reactions? It's enough to make you fume! What could be going on on their end though? Is your partner shouting at the dog? Do you so want to get in their face and tell them that's not acceptable? What could they be going through? Are people telling you to stay calm, because it's your anxiety that is making the vet visits problematic...
Send us a text This 50th jubilee episode of Ruff Around the Edges is in Dutch! Come back next episode for more English language content. [Waarschuwing: Rond de 20 minuten horen we Thiseas even blaffen] Maak kennis met Isabelle, het baasje van Thiseas, een adoptiehond uit Griekenland Na een stressvolle start in het leven (Thiseas wordt met 6 weken met een gebroken pootje langs de weg gevonden en nadien ook nog met het vliegtuig naar zij nieuwe thuis vervoerd) is al snel duidelijk dat T...
Send us a text If only you knew you would get there in the end, then the setbacks wouldn't be so hard to bear. If you just had someone who could guarantee you that, yes, your dog's going to go after a couple more cyclists and there will be 4 more periods of regression, but for sure 100% guaranteed they're going to get there, then that would probably make it easier to deal with the hard times, wouldn't it? Knowing that spring is coming makes it easier to get through the winter (well, the win...
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