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The podcast is on hiatus this month, but I'm popping into your feed to let you know that the doors to my hands-on membership community, the Differently Wired Club, are open this week (September 26 - 30, 2022). To learn more go to https://tiltparenting.com/clubSupport the show
This is the third installment in a series of solocasts specifically about homeschooling 2e children. I know many families of 2e and differently wired kids end up going down the homeschooling road, whether they’re reluctant homeschoolers and they felt “forced” into the decision because they ran out of other options or whether they knew they would homeschool from the moment their child was born. Whatever the case, this episode is for you.In this episode, I share how Asher and I structure our school, what kind of classes he takes, how I figure out what he’s going to focus on, and what a typical school day looks like for us. I wanted to talk about these things because I know that designing a curriculum can be one of the most overwhelming pieces of this puzzle.A quick note: If you haven’t already done so, I encourage you to listen to the two other solocast episodes I’ve done on homeschooling 2e children. In Episode 42 I talk about how I made the decision to homeschool even though I had a LOT of resistance to the idea, and in Episode 48, I talk about the actual transition to homeschooling … basically how we survived that first rocky year. Debbie Reber, MA, is a parenting activist, bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker who moved her career in a more personal direction in 2016 when she founded Tilt Parenting, a top resource for parents like her who are raising differently wired children. The TiLT Parenting Podcast has grown to be a top podcast in Kids & Family, with more than 4 million downloads and a slate of guests that includes high-profile thought leaders across the parenting and education space. A certified Positive Discipline trainer and a regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie’s newest book is Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired. In the summer of 2020, she co-created the Parenting in Place Masterclass series.     Things you’ll learn from this episodeHow Debbie has worked with curriculum advisors in designing the game plan for Asher’s classesThe big role developing executive functioning skills plays in Asher’s curriculumWhy Debbie believes freedom and flexibility is one of the biggest benefits of homeschoolingHow Debbie has incorporated outside curriculums into her school approachHow Debbie supplements formal curriculum with videos, books, and experiential learningDebbie’s favorite resources for teaching, subject by subjectWhat a typical school day looks like for Debbie and AsherWhy Debbie believes it’s critical that Asher participate in the actual design of their schedule and curriculum Resources mentioned for homeschooling 2e childrenKathi Kearney (curriculum advisor classes)Kristi Helgeson (curriculum advisor)Gifted Homeschooler’s ForumAthena’s Advanced AcademyYoga with Adrienne (YouTube channel)Life of FredSupport the show
To close out this Summer season I’m bringing you a special double episode all about college, specifically, how families can navigate the application process and what’s changed since Covid, as well as understanding the ways in which colleges may, or may not, support their neurodivergent students and what families should be looking for when exploring potential schools.In the first half of this episode, you’ll hear me talking with Eric Karlan, the co-founder of Ivy Experience, a company providing academic tutoring, standardized test preparation, and essay consulting services. Since 2010, Eric has consulted thousands of high school and graduate school students on their college and graduate school application essays and resumes across the country and around the world. He gave a TEDx Talk in 2018 called “What do I need to know about you?” inspired by his work brainstorming with students on their college application essays. Eric and I talked about what’s different in the college admissions process today as a result of the Covid pandemic, and whether or not those changes are here to stay. Eric explains what “test-optional” and “test-blind” policies are and how they affect some students more than others, what schools are doing to bring in more diversity to their student body, and how students might choose to disclose their neurodivergence, disability, or other parts of their identities in their college application. Then in the second half of the episode, I’m joined by Elizabeth Hamblet, an expert in college disability services and helping neurodivergent high school students successfully transition to college. Elizabeth began her career as a high school special education teacher and then began working at the college level in the late 1990s. She is now at her third university, where she helps students with time management, organization, reading, and study skills. She offers programs on preparing students for successful college transition. Elizabeth’s newest book, Seven Steps to College Success: A Pathway for Students with Disabilities, will be out in early 2023.In our conversation, Elizabeth and I talk about what kinds of services colleges may offer students, how to vett schools to find out what kinds of supports and accommodations may be available and how to access them, and what parents should consider when helping their differently wired young adult explore potential colleges. Things you'll learn from this episodeHow the college admission process has changed as a result of the COVID pandemicWhat it actually means when colleges declare they are “test-optional” or “test blind,” and how applicants should navigate decisions around submitting testsHow the young adult mental health is impacting students’ performance in high school, and how prospective colleges are considering those dipsWhat schools are doing to foster more diversity within their student body (race, gender, neurodiversity, etc.)Considerations surrounding whether or not a student should disclose their neurodivergence, disability, or other parts of their identities in their college applicationHow some universities have added expanded their disability and mental health services on campus in response to student’s needs since the pandemicWhat fee-based college disabilities programs are and how they can help students with unique learning needsFor more info, visit: https://www.tiltparenting.com/session304 Support the show
In this special kid’s POV edition, Asher and I talk about having ADHD and goal setting, a topic near and dear to my heart, but also an issue we hear from parents about a lot. Asher is someone who always seems to have a lot of projects he’s working on and he sets often ambitious goals centered around those projects. Yet because of the way Ash is wired, he can often get distracted or derailed, which results in him being frustrated with himself.I know a thing or two about goal setting — it’s actually the topic of a book I wrote for teen girls in 2015 called Doable, and so I am committed to using what I know about goals to help Asher learn how to successfully set and reach his own goals while also developing his planning, organizational, and time management skills. If you have kids with lots of ideas for things they’d like to do but seem to get stuck before they finish, or maybe even struggle to begin in the first place, this would be a good episode to listen to with them. Debbie Reber is the founder and CEO of Tilt Parenting and the host of the TiLT Parenting Podcast. 11-year-old Asher is Debbie’s child and is regularly featured on the podcast.  Things you’ll learn from this episodeThe connection between ADHD, executive functioning challenges, and goal planningAsher’s strategy for setting, measuring, and reaching goalsHow Asher uses both daily and weekly goal planning to keep him on trackWhat typically derails Asher when he’s pursuing a goalThe power of the daily check-inAsher’s tips for other kids looking to set and reach their personal goals Resources mentioned for ADHD & goal settingDebbie’s book Doable: The Girls’ Guide to Accomplishing Just About Anything by Debbie ReberA Conversation with 11-year-old Asher About His Game-Changing Morning Routine (podcast)Understood.orgProductivity Planner from Intelligent ChangeDownload a copy of Asher’s Goal Planning WorksheetThe Color Run (series of 5k races)Support the show
Have you ever wondered if SEL (social and emotional learning) in school and classrooms really matters? I’ve been exploring this question a lot about over the past year, as well trying to understand the recent increase in parental and political pushback in the US specifically that is putting the future of SEL in schools at risk.  I wanted to get into a deep conversation about SEL for the show, and so I reached out Dr. Joseph Lee, a psychiatrist with a special interest in social and emotional learning and helping people achieve what he calls optimal mental healthiness.We had exactly the conversation I was hoping we would, as we got into so many important topics, including the state of children and young adult’s mental health today, demystifying what SEL or social emotional learning actually is, why SEL matters, how it’s best introduced in schools, the limitations in the current educational model for social emotional learning curriculums, what the pushback against SEL is really about, and what it’s at stake if our children aren’t provided with social and emotional learning opportunities. I think this is such an important and timely conversation – I hope that you enjoy it and that you help me amplify this episode by sharing it in your communities.Dr. Joseph Lee, MD., is a Psychiatrist in private practice in Redondo Beach, California. He is also an educator in social and emotional learning (SEL) and provides individual and group supervision to licensed therapists looking to add mental healthiness and SEL principles to their own practices. Dr. Lee has a medical doctorate from University Of California, Los Angeles, School Of Medicine.Things you'll learn from this episodeWhat Joseph Lee is seeing in his practice regarding and his thoughts on the state of children and young adult’s mental health todayWhat SEL or social emotional learning actually isWays that SEL can be weaved into traditional educational curriculum as well as the use of specific SEL curriculumWhat social and emotional learning inside schools looks like in practiceThe “why” behind the pushback against SEL in the recent years and what’s it’s at stake if we lose the ability to teach SEL in classrooms Resources mentioned for SEL or Social and Emotional LearningMental Healthiness / Dr. Joseph Lee’s websiteCollaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional LearningDr. Joseph Lee & Mental Healthiness on FacebookDr. Joseph Lee on TwitterDaniel GolemanEmotional Intelligence: Why it Can Matter More Than IQ by Daniel GolemanSocial Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships by Daniel GolemanU.S. Surgeon General Issues Advisory on Youth Mental Health Crisis Further Exposed by COVID-19 PandemicParenting the New Teen with Dr. John Duffy (Tilt Parenting Podcast episode)Support the show
In this episode of the Tilt Parenting Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Jenna Flowers, a licensed marriage and family therapist, author, and speaker, and the woman behind the fantastic new book, The Conscious Parent’s Guide to Coparenting: A Mindful Approach to Creating a Collaborative, Positive Parenting Plan.Dr. Jenna’s book is aimed at helping parents who are no longer together design a healthy alliance and share their parenting responsibilities in a way that best supports their children. In our conversation, we talk about the extra considerations for those parenting differently-wired kids, kids for whom consistency and support is critical to their healthy emotional development. Dr. Jenna also explains how parents of atypical kids can foster a structured, supportive environment in both homes, as well as shares her advice for things parents can do right now to strengthen their relationship with their co-parent, whether together or apart.  Dr. Jenna Flowers is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Author, and Speaker.  She completed her undergraduate studies at  the University of Michigan.  She then graduated with her MA in Spiritual Psychology from the prestigious University of Santa Monica, and Doctoral Degree in Psychology from the professional psychology school American Behavioral Studies Institute. Upon completing her Marriage and Family Therapy licensing board examinations in 2006, she has been in private practice in Newport Beach, California.  Things you’ll learn from this episodeWhat exactly conscious coparenting isThe importance of repairing hurts from our childhood in order to become more present with our own childrenHow to help a child not take on responsibility or blame for their parents’ breakupWhat to do when both parents aren’t on the same pageWhat a designed alliance with a coparent actually looks like Resources mentioned for conscious coparentingDr. Jenna Flowers’ personal websiteThe Conscious Parent’s Guide to Coparenting by Dr. Jenna FlowersBrene BrownSamantha EttusParenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive by Dr. Dan SiegelConscious Mothering CurriculumHow Positive Discipline Can Help Children Thrive, with Casey O’Roarty of Joyful Courage (Tilt Parenting Podcast)What it Takes to Live a Healthy, Fulfilled Life as Mother to a Differently-Wired Kid, with Samantha Ettus (Tilt Parenting Podcast)The Gottman Institute: Softening Start-UpSupport the show
In this conversation with Outschool co-founder and CEO Amir Nathoo, we discuss alternative education models and why they’re so critical in preparing all kids for the future, as well as get an inside look into the mission and vision for Outschool, learn more about they successfully create community through virtual classes, ways in which classes are designed to support students with different learning styles and much more. If this conversation sparks you to explore and enroll in classs at Outschool classes, be sure to use the code TILT to get a $20 credit towards your first class. Amir Nathoo is CEO of Outschool, a marketplace for live online classes for K-12 learners. Amir worked at Square, leading the development of Square Payroll. Previously, he served as CEO and co-founder of Trigger.io, a development platform for creating native mobile apps. He holds an MEng in Electrical and Information Sciences from The University of Cambridge. Amir lives in San Francisco with his wife Kirsty and their two children.Things you'll learn from this episodeHow Outschool grew through COVID and how online learning has changed in the past 2 yearsHow alternative ways of learning are helping prepare our kids for the futureThe crucial part that community plays into Outschool’s platform and what they offer to familiesHow Outschool supports different types of learners and why it has attracted neurodivergent learners from the startHow Outschool finds and onboards teachers and how they develop their classesAmir’s tips for parents on vetting online learning programs to determine if they are right for your child/renResources mentioned for Outschool and Online LearningOutschoolDr. Joseph Lee Talks About the Importance of SEL / Social and Emotional Learning (podcast episode)Dr. Joseph LeeHow to Prepare Differently Wired Kids for an Uncharted FutureMatt Barnes on Embracing a New 21st Century Learning Model Nurturing Creativity to Help Children Thrive, with Terry Roberts The G Word documentaryFor more info, visit: https://www.tiltparenting.com/session302Support the show
My guest is Jessica Lahey, an educator, writer, and speaker, and the author of one of my favorite parenting books, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed. Jess shares her insights about how we can best prepare our kids for an independent, successful adulthood in the way we practice autonomy supportive parenting versus overparenting, what it means to let our kids “fail” to help them thrive, how we can help our kids learn how to “sit with frustration,” and much more.  Jessica Lahey is an educator, writer, and speaker. She is an English and writing teacher, correspondent for the Atlantic, commentator for Vermont Public Radio, and writes the “Parent-Teacher Conference” column for the New York Times.  Jessica earned a B.A. in Comparative Literature from the University of Massachusetts and a J.D. with a concentration in juvenile and education law from the University of North Carolina School of Law. She lives in New Hampshire with her husband and two sons.  Things you’ll learn from this episodeThe difference between overparenting and “autonomy supportive parenting"How many parents underestimate their kids and might be unknowingly fostering learned helplessness in themHow we can build scaffolding for our kids What Jessica wishes parents of atypical kids knew about teachersJessica’s advice for how we can best advocate for our kids in schoolHow we can foster more of a growth mindset in our children, especially those who are perfectionist, as well as how to NOT foster “learned helplessness” Resources mentioned about the gift of failureJessica Lahey’s websiteThe Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed by Jessica LaheyWhy Parents Need To Let Their Kids Fail (The Atlantic article)Dr. Ross Greene Talks About Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (podcast episode)The Opposite of Spoiled: Raising Kids Who Are Grounded, Generous and Smart About Money by Ron LieberAm Writing (Jessica’s podcast)The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children by Dr. Ross GreeneJessica Lahey’s speaking bibliographyWhen Children Say ‘I Can’t,’ But They Can, and Adults Know It (NY Times article by Jessica Lahey)Support the show
I haven’t done a solocast in a while, but when you talk, I listen, and this topic has been requested by many of you, so I decided to dedicate this episode to talk about navigating big life transitions with differently wired kids. Our family has gone through our fair share of big changes, which you’ll hear all about in this episode, so this is something that I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about. Especially as a parent of a differently wired kid, I know that there are some extra challenges that might come up when their routines, environment, life circumstances, or supports change, and our kids are also more likely to be resistant to changes (even if they are beneficial). So today I’ll be sharing the strategies I’ve personally found helpful while going through big transitions with Asher. In this episode, I talk about key things such as why being honest when communicating with your kid is so important to help them understand and process change, how being vulnerable can be a way to show support, how to validate our kids’ feelings about the changes or transitions, and how to identify their concerns so you can make plans to address them in advance. I also share about what adjustment disorder is and the kind of extra support you might need during transitions. Tilt Parenting Founder & CEO Debbie Reber (MA) is a parenting activist, bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker. A certified Positive Discipline trainer and a regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie’s most recent book is Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. Debbie’s Tilt Parenting Podcast is the top performing podcast for parents, caregivers, educators, and professionals raising and supporting neurodivergent children, and has more than 4 million downloads. In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired. In the summer of 2020, she co-created the Parenting in Place Masterclass series.Things you'll learn from this episodeThe benefits and growth that can come from navigating big changes as a familyWhy honesty is so important when communicating with your child about big changesWhat to share versus what not to share with your child about the transitions you go throughHow to validate the big emotions and thoughts that big transitions can bring up in your childThe importance of doing your own work as a parent to be able to support our kids during transitionsWhat adjustment disorder is and the extra support you might need to help your child through oneHow being vulnerable with your kids can be really supportive for themIdentifying the concerns that our kids have and coming up with plans to address them in advanceCreating new routines to create security for our kids during big transitions For more info, visit: https://www.tiltparenting.com/session301Support the show
In this episode of the TiLT Parenting Podcast, I talk with Samantha Ettus, a renowned work-life balance expert, author, radio show host, and media personality. Sam is passionate about helping people, and especially moms, find create a more fulfilled, healthier, and more satisfying life. She writes about her ideas in her new book The Pie Life: A Guilt Free Recipe for Success and Satisfaction.I was excited to talk with Sam about her new book and ideas behind what she refers to as “embracing the mess and bumps” that come hand-in-hand with living a truly fulfilled life, since messiness and bumps seem to a part of any parent raising a differently-wired kid’s experience. In our conversation, we talk about everything from self-care and intentional parenting to getting our partners up to speed since often moms seem to be the ones holding onto a lot of the information relevant to our kids’ day-to-day life.Samantha Ettus is a work-life expert whose goal is to find the spark within each one of us and turn it into a fire. She is a best-selling author, a writer for Forbes, a sought after speaker, a Harvard MBA, and host of a nationally syndicated call-in radio show. Sam has shared her advice on hundreds of television shows and media outlets including The TODAY Show, Access Hollywood, NBC Nightly News, CNN, The Doctors, and Fox and Friends, and in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times and USA Today. Things you’ll learn from this episodeWhy working moms are, in many ways, set up to failThoughts on being a more intentional parent, embracing empathy, and seeing our kids for who they areWhat’s reasonable to expect when designing a healthy, fulfilled life, and how to find work-life balanceHow to get your parenting partner on-board / up-to-speed on important matters related to our childrenWhy self-care is so critical for mothers and how to build self-care practices into daily lifeSam’s thoughts on juggling work and the unpredictable nature of raising a differently-wired kid Resources mentioned for work-life balance + parentingSamantha Ettus’ websiteThe Pie Life: A Guilt-Free Recipe for Success and Satisfaction by Samantha EttusSam’s Tedx Talk: The Secret to Unlocking a Child’s PotentialWorking Mom’s Lifestyle Radio ShowSupport the show
I wanted to have a frank and honest conversation with my friend, executive function coach, and frequent guest of the pod, Seth Perler, about what is and  is not working in schools right now, especially as we are once again in that back-to-school season. Of course there have been many changes in education since the start of COVID, including the inclusion of technology in almost every aspect of learning and the increased testing that students are being subjected to since returning to campus. And we know that neurodivergent kids tend to be impacted by these changes more than other students. So what can we do as parents? Where should we be putting our energies? That’s what Seth and I get into in this episode.Seth Perler is an Executive Function Coach and Consultant with extensive experience addressing extraordinarily diverse learning needs. Seth was a teacher for 12 years, working with a diverse range of Gifted and Twice Exceptional (2E) students in charter schools for 8 years, and teaching students with ADD, ADHD, Dyslexia and other executive function challenges, as well as students with developmental disabilities. He’s been an Executive Function coach for middle, high school and college students since 2010.Things you'll learn from this episodeSeth’s opinion on what is working and what is not working in schools right nowAdvice on how to push back on the increase in testing that has started since students returned to in-person lessonsWhat Seth would say to parents who have kids with ADHD who are checked out of their school dayIdeas for getting educators on board in shifting the paradigmHow to collaborate with a student who insists executive functioning strategies don’t actually work for themPractical strategies or ideas for parents who are dealing with that challenge of technology being useful but full of distractions and how to tailor the approach if a kid is showing resistanceSeth’s thoughts on school refusal and children’s mental healthResources mentioned for What Is / Isn't Working in SchoolSeth Perler’s websiteSeth Perler’s YouTube ChannelIntroduction to Dr. Stephen Porges’ Polyvagal TheoryA “Masterclass” in Executive Functioning with Seth Perler, Part 1 (podcast episode)A “Masterclass” in Executive Functioning with Seth Perler, Part 2 (podcast episode)A Conversation with Executive Functioning Coach Seth Perler (original podcast episode)Seth Perler Talks to Asher About Resistance (podcast episode)Seth Perler on Helping Kids Work Through Resistance, Part 2 for Parents (podcast episode)A Conversation Between Debbie Reber and Seth Perler for Teachers and School Administrators (podcast episode)For more info, visit: https://www.tiltparenting.com/session300Support the show
My guest is Kayce Stevens Hughlett, a psychotherapist, life coach, spiritual director, and speaker, and the author of three books. Kayce and I have been friends for many years, and she was a compassionate listener and empathetic friend as I was going through some of my most challenging years with Asher. At the time, Kayce was a few years ahead in her journey with her own differently wired son, who was in his early twenties.I wanted to bring Kayce onto the show to talk about what she and her family went through when her son, as a young teen with an ADHD diagnosis, got involved with drugs. I know that this is a possibility many parents with atypical kids fear, and in fact some listeners may be in this very situation today. Hearing Kayce tell her story and share how she not only got through it, but how her family emerged on the other side more engaged and connected, is incredibly powerful. I hope you find her story as inspiring as I do. Kayce Stevens Hughlett started her writing career as a blogger in the early 2000’s and found her voice as a contributor to several collections and online publications. Now she is the author of three varied yet beautifully intertwined and popular books. Her 2012 nonfiction book, As I Lay Pondering: Daily Invitations To Live a Transformed Life, is a lyrical and lucid treasure that invites readers to new awakenings throughout the year. Blue: a novel, an award-winning study of three women in the Pacific Northwest, released September 10, 2015. Her journey memoir, SoulStroller: experiencing the weight, whispers, & wings of the world, was published in November 2018.  Things you’ll learn from this episodeKayce’s story of being the mom of “that kid” in a time when being differently wired was less acceptableThe importance of listening to our gut in conjunction with “experts”Why we want to always choose from a place of love (and not fear) when making parenting decisionsThe power of community to get through difficult times with our childrenWhy Kayce says that parenting Jonathan through their challenges saved her life Resources mentioned for ADHD and drug useKayce Stevens Hughlett’s websiteSoulStroller: Experiencing the Weight, Whispers, & Wings of the World by Kayce Stevens HughlettBlue: A Novel by Kayce Stevens HughlettAs I Lay Pondering: Daily Invitations To Live a Transformed Life by Kayce Stevens HughlettSupport the show
The neuropsych assessment process can be daunting and complicated to navigate, especially in recent years as a result of COVID,  so I’m excited to share my conversation with pediatric and adolescent young adult neuropsychologist, Dr. Jonine Nazar-Biesman. Jonine’s work is about taking into consideration the whole child and the big picture when assessments are being done. In this episode, we talk about what parents should think about when vetting psychologists to assess their child, the difference between a neuropsych, a psychoeducational, and a psychological assessment, and how parents can navigate getting a better assessment if they believe their child got the wrong diagnosis. We also talked about what to do with all the feedback parents get from an evaluation and how that feedback can best be relayed to our kids, and to their schools.Dr. Jonine Nazar-Biesman has over 25 years of experience specializing in assessing and treating children, adolescents, and young adults with neurodevelopmental disorders such as Autism, ADHD, learning differences, and genetic conditions. She works closely with families, treatment teams, schools, and the community to ameliorate social-emotional, behavioral, and educational challenges.  Things you'll learn from this episodeWhat parents should think about when looking for someone to do an assessment for their child, as well as tips for vetting evaluatorsThe difference between a neuropsych, a psychoeducational, and a psychological assessmentHow Jonine works with students and adjusts the evaluation process during the assessment in response to what she’s discoveringHow parents can navigate getting a better assessment if they believe their child got the wrong diagnosisWhether or not a neuropsych evaluation would benefit every neurodivergent childHow feedback is ideally shared with parents, kids, and schools after an assessment has been completedHow the COVID pandemic has impacted the assessment processHow parents can best use the detailed feedback they receive as part of the neuropsych evaluation processResources MentionedJonine Nazar-Biesman’s websiteJonine Nazar-Biesman’s blogBridges AcademyDIR/Floortime Model For more info, visit: https://www.tiltparenting.com/session299Support the show
My guest this week is Steve Silberman, an award-winning science writer who authored the 2015 book NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity, a brilliant book that upends conventional thinking about autism and suggests a broader model for acceptance, understanding, and full participation in society for people who think differently. In our conversation, Steve and I talk about neurodivergence, autism, acceptance, tolerance, changing cultures, systemic change, and so much more.  Steve Silberman is an award-winning science writer whose articles have appeared in Wired, the New York Times, the New Yorker, the Financial Times, the Boston Globe, the MIT Technology Review, and more.and the author of NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity (Avery 2015), which Oliver Sacks called a “sweeping and penetrating history…presented with a rare sympathy and sensitivity.” In April 2016, Silberman gave the keynote speech at the United Nations for World Autism Awareness Day. He has given talks on the history of autism at Yale, Harvard, MIT, Oxford, the National Academy of Sciences, Queen Mary University, Apple, Microsoft, Google, the 92nd Street Y, Imperial College London, the MIND Institute at UC Davis, and many other major institutions. His TED talk, “The Forgotten History of Autism,” has been viewed more than a million times and translated into 25 languages. Things you’ll learn from this episodeThe impetus for Steve’s book NeuroTribesHow and why the anti-vaccine movement has negatively affected the autistic communityThe real impact of language like “epidemic” in relation to neurodifferences like autismHow Steve’s book NeuroTribes has been received by members of the autistic communitySteve’s thoughts on how parents raising neurodiverse kids can best support the neurodiversity movementThe importance of autistic peer mentoring Resources mentioned for Steve Silberman, autism, and neurodiversitySteve Silberman’s websiteNeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity by Steve SilbermanSteve Silberman’s TED TalkThe Geek Syndrome (Steve’s article in Wired Magazine, 12/01/01)AutreatThe Thinking Person’s Guide to AutismThe Real Experts: Readings for Parents of Autistic ChildrenUniquely Human: A Different Way of Seeing Autism by Barry PrizantSupport the show
Parenting a differently wired child can be challenging and as I sat down with my guest, clinical social worker Pat Harvey, to have this conversation, I wanted to acknowledge and validate the experiences we have as parents as much as we do the same for our kids. As you’ll hear from Pat, her work centers around helping parents navigate raising kids who have highly intense emotions …the kind of emotions that can cause big disruptions at home. In this conversation, Pat talks about her book Parenting a Teen Who has Intense Emotions, how she supports families using Dialectical Behavior Therapy or DBT, the three priorities within the DBT framework, some of the critical things to understand to effectively parent emotionally intense kids, and where to start if you are looking for more support for yourself. Pat Harvey, LCSW-C, ACSW, has been a clinical social worker for one 30 years, currently focusing on supporting and guiding parents of kids with emotional challenges using a DBT framework. The co-author of 2 books on parenting, Parenting a Child Who Has Intense Emotions and Parenting a Teen Who has Intense Emotions, a book for siblings and a book for clinicians, she has also spoken nationally and in Canada about DBT and about working with parents.Things you'll learn from this episode:The similarities and differences between cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT)How DBT prioritizes the three core tenets of safety, treatment, and quality of lifeWhy is DBT so effective in helping teens who are engaging in risky behaviors, including self-harm, suicidal ideation, or past suicide attemptsCritical things to be aware of in order to effectively parent emotionally intense kidsThe biggest roadblock for parents that prevent them from leaning into DBTWhere to start and the things to pay attention to if you are parenting an emotionally intense kid Resources mentioned for DBT & Parenting Emotionally Intense Teens:Pat Harvey’s websiteParenting a Teen Who has Intense Emotions: DBT Skills to Help Your Teen Navigate Emotional and Behavioral Challenges by Pat Harvey and Britt RathboneParenting a Child Who Has Intense Emotions: Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Help Your Child Regulate Emotional Outbursts and Aggressive Behaviors by Pat Harvey and Jeanine PenzoHey, I'm Here Too!: A Book for Tween/Teen Siblings of a Young Person With Emotional Issues by Pat Harvey For more info, visit: https://www.tiltparenting.com/session298Support the show
My guest Scott Barry Kaufman PhD, a psychologist, author, and podcaster who is passionate about changing, or perhaps expanding, the way intelligence is defined and measured. In our conversation, we talk about his ideas about intelligence, potential, and what it actually takes for our children to develop into self-actualized adults.  Scott is a cognitive scientist and humanistic psychologist exploring the mind, creativity, and the depths of human potential. He is a professor at Columbia University and founder and director of the Center for the Science of Human Potential. Dr. Kaufman received a B.S. in psychology and human computer interaction from Carnegie Mellon, an M. Phil in experimental psychology from the University of Cambridge under a Gates Cambridge Scholarship, and a Ph.D. in cognitive psychology from Yale University. He is also an Honorary Principal Fellow at the University of Melbourne’s Centre for Wellbeing Science.Dr. Kaufman hosts the The Psychology Podcast, and his writing has appeared in The Atlantic, Scientific American, Psychology Today, and Harvard Business Review. He is the author and editor of 9 books, including his latest book Transcend: The New Science of Self-Actualization. Things you’ll learn from this episodeWhy Scott believes traditional markers of intelligence are missing the markThe problem with assessing for “labels” instead a child’s highest strengthsScott’s thoughts on how we can create a better educational modelWhy potential in our children is a “moving target”How gifted education as a construct has a “fixed mindset”Scott’s ideas for expanding the definition of intelligence through a multiple manifestations of intelligence lensWhy we should focus on self-actualization as opposed to excellenceWhat qualities we should be helping our children develop to become self-actualized Resources mentioned for redefining giftednessScott Barry Kaufman’s websiteScott at Scientific American MagazineScott’s podcast, The Psychology PodcastUngifted: Intelligence Redefined by Scott Barry KaufmanWired to Create: Unraveling the Mysteries of the Creative Mind by Scott Barry KaufmanTwice Exceptional: Supporting and Educating Bright and Creative Students with Learning Difficulties by Scott Barry KaufmanScott’s TEDxZumbroRiver Talk: A New Theory of Human IntelligenceEye to Eye National / Marcus SoutraBridges AcademyScott’s new Characteristics of Self-Actualization ScaleSupport the show
In this conversation with Jennifer Natalya Fink, we explore the nuances of her fascinating new book, All Our Families: Disability Lineage and the Future of Kinship. The premise of Jennifer’s book is that disability is often described as a tragedy, a crisis, or an aberration, even though more than 1 in 5 people worldwide have a disability. She wanted to explore the question: Why is this common human experience rendered exceptional? Instead, Jennifer is advocating for a reclamation of disability as a history, a culture, and an identity. She is pushing for a world where families see disability in the context of a collective sense of belonging, as cause for celebration, and is a call for a radical reimagining of carework and kinship. We went deep into this idea of a disability lineage, and Jennifer shared what’s at stake if we don’t know and claim our family history. We also discussed why getting a disability diagnosis can be traumatic for families and how it’s accentuated by how our society thinks about disability. Lastly, Jennifer shared her thoughts on making the care system more equitable by embracing disability as a collective experience rather than something individual families have to deal with. ***Jennifer Natalya Fink is director of the Program in Disability Studies and a professor of English at Georgetown University. She is the author of 6 books and founder of the Gorilla Press, a nonprofit promoting youth literacy through bookmaking. Fink is the winner of the Dana Award for the Novel and the Catherine Doctorow Prize for Innovative Fiction, as well as a finalist for the Lambda Literary Award. First and foremost, she is a mother; the transformative experience of parenting her autistic daughter is the center of her work. Things you’ll learn from this episodeHow Jennifer’s own family story led her to be interested in researching disability and disability lineageWhat a disability lineage isWhy getting a disability diagnosis can be traumatic for families and how it’s accentuated by our society’s views of disabilityThe importance of understanding that care and disability are woven into the human experienceWhat we are losing out on by not knowing our family disability history as families raising differently wired kidsHow even good-intentioned comments can feed ableist beliefsHow we can work to make the care system more equitable, including seeing disability as a collective experience rather than something families must face on an individual basis Resources mentioned for Disability Lineage — What It Is and How it Impacts FamiliesAll Our Families: Disability Lineage and the Future of KinshipJennifer Natayla Fink’s websiteJennifer on InstagramDisability Studies at Georgetown UniversityMia MingusFor more info, visit: https://www.tiltparenting.com/session297Support the show
My guest is Anders Ronnau, a master coach, hypnotherapist, trainer, and writer, and the ADHD coach behind the Transforming ADHD Movement. Anders is the leading ADHD coach in Denmark, and for the past seven years has been teaching both parenting programs and been an ADHD coach trainer. He recently launched his online community and business, Transforming ADHD.Anders has a unique approach to working with his clients, who are anywhere from six years old to adults, and I was really intrigued to learn more about his work and find out what its implications are for our children. His focus is on development his client’s cognitive skills and behaviors to help them be better at managing their time, focus, and temperament, as well as rebuilding their self-worth. Anders Ronnau is fiercely committed to helping children, teenagers, and adults transform their ADHD through cognitive enhancement, and inspire them to become extra-ordinary with their unique gifts and talents. His focus is on developing his clients’ cognitive skills, in order to help them become better at managing their time, focus and temper, as well as rebuilding their self-worth. He works with clients from 6 years old and up. Only recently has he translated his work into English as articles, videos, and online courses.  Things you’ll learn from this episodeA look at whether or not positive behavior systems work in the long-term for kids with ADHDHow to gain access to the inner world of a childHow “externalization” helps change behavior and leads to transforming ADHDWhy a differently-wired person’s inner negative self-talk is their biggest hurdle as they get olderAnder’s tips for things parents can do at home to help their kidsHow the magic question—What were you trying to do?—allows us to reach out with curiosity instead of blame or anger Resources mentioned for transforming ADHDTransforming ADHD (Ander’s website)Special TiLT page on Transforming ADHDTransforming ADHD on FacebookTransforming ADHD YouTube Channel Support the show
This week I'm talking about nonverbal learning disorder, also known as NLD or NVLD, with Dr. Marcia Eckerd. I learned so much from this conversation, including what NVLD actually is, examples of how it might show up in kids, and why it’s important to recognize if your child has NLD instead of thinking their behavior is the result of something else like ADHD or social anxiety. Marcia also shared how she works with families making sure the child’s self-esteem is taken into account and not making them feel they are less than others because they process things differently. Marcia Eckerd, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist with over 30 years’ experience. As a therapist and provider of neuropsychological evaluations, she identified and worked with many children with Non-Verbal Learning Disability. She serves on the CT Autism Spectrum Disorder Advisory Council and the professional advisory boards of SmartKidsWithLD and NeuroClastic.com, a nonprofit providing creative educational resources on autism. She has a regular blog on Psychology Today, “Everyday Neurodiversity” as well as writing professional articles on autism and articles for multiple websites and magazines on NVLD, autism, evaluations and executive functions, such as SmartKidsWithLD.org, Autism Parenting Magazine and Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism. She’s spoken extensively on NVLD and autism in national conferences for educators, clinical professionals and parents.A former Director of Clinical Programs at the New Learning Therapy Center, she also helped establish the Norwalk Hospital-Yale collaboration Pediatric Development and Therapy Center. She continues to be on the Associate Medical Staff at Norwalk Hospital.Things you’ll learn from this episodeHow Marcia describes her work of being a “translator” between individuals with NVLD and the world around themWhat nonverbal learning disorder is and how it might show up in kidsWhy it’s so important to distinguish NVLD from things like autism, ADHD, or social anxietyWhy prioritizing our kids’ self-esteem is so criticalWhy kids with NVLD might struggle when they get to middle school as their social and school life start to changeThe different executive functions that can be worked on alongside NVLD depending on what your child needs help withHow to support your child with NVLD and the kind of support parents can look for Resources mentioned for What is Nonverbal Learning Disorder (NVLD)Dr. Marcia Eckerd’s websiteDr. Marcia’s blog on Psychology TodayAre We Giving Autistic Children PTSD at School? DSM / Social Communication DisorderAutism Level UpSupport the show
This is a deep dive into the world of gifted and 2e children, with Dr. Mike Postma, a writer, consultant and presenter specializing in the education and well-being of twice exceptional and intellectually gifted students and their families. Mike is also the Executive Director of SENG, which stands for Supporting the Emotional Needs of the Gifted, an organization whose mission it is to empower families and communities to guide gifted and talented individuals to reach their goals: intellectually, physically, emotionally, socially, and spiritually, as well as the author of the new book, The Inconvenient Student: Critical Issues in the Identification and Education of Twice-Exceptional Students.Mike and I talked about the challenges facing gifted and 2e / twice-exceptional students, especially social and emotional challenges, and this is one of those episodes that just might leave you feeling pensive, concerned, and ignited all at the same time. Dr. Michael Postma is an educator, author, speaker, coach and consultant dedicated to the holistic development of the gifted/twice-exceptional (2e) community. Over the last two decades, Dr. Postma has served as a gifted teacher in the classroom, as an administrator and leader of gifted schools – both public and charter schools in multiple states, and was the architect of the Minnetonka Navigator Program, a magnet school in Minnesota specifically designed for highly gifted and twice-exceptional students. He currently is the President and co-founder of Gifted and Thriving, LLC .Things you’ll learn from this episodeMike Postma’s personal story of growing up a gifted and 2e kid with very little supportWhat “holistic development” means in the context of 2e childrenWhy Mike says social emotional development has to be one of the foundations for academic and intellectual potentialWhere society is with regards to understanding asynchronous developmentHow schools can make small accommodations to make school more successful for gifted and 2e studentsMike thoughts on how the educational system needs to be revampedWhy Mike says 2e people are among the most vulnerable populations Resources mentioned for Dr. Mike Postma & Gifted and 2e KidsDr. Michael Postma’s website, Gifted MattersSENG (Supporting the Emotional Needs of the Gifted)SENG Online Support Group ListingsThe Inconvenient Student: Critical Issues in the Identification and Education of Twice-Exceptional Studentsby Dr. Michael PostmaDr. Devon MacEachron on Supporting 2e Learners (podcast episode)The Search for Shangri-La: Finding the Appropriate Educational Environment for Gifted and Twice-Exceptional Children, a Parents’ Guide (article in 2e Learners by Dr. Postma)SENG Annual ConferenceSENG Community and SENG ConnectSupport the show
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Zulema Silvernale

I absolutely love the strengths discussion at the end. My adhd daughter is so creative, witty, and bright ❤️

May 25th
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