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Let’s be real: relationships aren’t always easy. Connect in a more meaningful way to stay engaged and caring with balance and ease.About Pascal Auclair:Pascal Auclair has been immersed in Buddhist practice and study since 1997, sitting retreats in Asia and America with revered monastics and lay teachers. He has been mentored by Joseph Goldstein and Jack Kornfield at the Insight Meditation Society (IMS) in Massachusetts and Spirit Rock Meditation Center in California, where he is now enjoying teaching retreats. Pascal teaches in North America and in Europe. He is a co-founder of True North Insight and one of TNI’s Guiding Teachers.To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Cultivating Balance in Relationships,” or click here: Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
It can be difficult to grasp how much power of persuasion we actually have, or how to wield it wisely. In today’s episode we look at science-based strategies for observing the effect we have on others, and how to better deal with our fear of rejection, and asking for favors. Vanessa Bohns is a social psychologist and a professor of organizational behavior at Cornell University. She is the author of You Have More Influence Than You Think: How We Underestimate Our Power of Persuasion, and Why it Matters.In this episode we talk about:How much we often underestimate our own influence Why it’s so hard to say no Why people are paying attention to us more than we thinkThe impact of asking for things in-person The responsibility that comes with being in a position of powerWhat it means to experience your own influence And how we can be more aware of the influence we haveFull Shownotes: Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
We're sharing a preview of another podcast we love, The Happiness Lab. On The Happiness Lab, Dr. Laurie Santos explores all the ways we get our happiness wrong and what we can to do really feel better. She walks through the latest evidence-based strategies for improving your mental health, sharing practical advice on what will really bring more joy. In her latest New Year season of The Happiness Lab, Laurie tackles how to listen to the inner voice of what we really need in the new year. We're often looking into the future... hunting for the "next big thing." We can get so fixated with these events and the happiness we hope they'll deliver, that we forget to look for joy right now. Actor and author Tony Hale (Veep, The Mysterious Benedict Society, Arrested Development) joins Laurie to discuss how he was always chasing new accomplishments, until he realized he was missing the chance to be happy living in the moment. You can hear more from The Happiness Lab at Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
Today’s guest is the man in charge of the world’s longest scientific study of happiness, a study that has been running since 1983. Dr. Robert Waldinger is a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, the director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development at Massachusetts General Hospital, and co-founder of the Lifespan Research Foundation. He is also a Zen master and teaches meditation in New England and around the world. His TED Talk is one of the most viewed of all time, with over 43 million views. He’s the co-author, along with Dr. Marc Schulz, of The Good Life.In this episode we talk about: What the Harvard Study of Adult Development is and how it got startedHow much of our happiness is really under our controlWhy you can’t you be happy all the timeThe concept of “social fitness” Why you should “never worry alone” How having best friends at work can make you more productiveAnd why, in his words, it’s never too late to be happyFull Shownotes: Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
A busy city is an ideal place to cultivate loving-kindness and powerfully connect to those around you while you’re out and about.About Jay Michaelson:Dr. Jay Michaelson is a Senior Content Strategist at Ten Percent Happier and the author of seven books on meditation, including his newest, Enlightenment by Trial and Error.  Jay is also a columnist for The Daily Beast, and was a professional LGBTQ activist for ten years. Jay is an ordained rabbi and has taught meditation in secular, Buddhist, and Jewish context for eighteen years.To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Loving-Kindness in the City,” or click here: Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
According to guest Adam Grant, excellence does not require perfectionism, and rather than obsessing over the outcome of your work, there are better ways of measuring your own success. Adam Grant is a frequent flier on this show and the #1 New York Times bestselling author of 5 books that have sold millions of copies and have been translated into 35 languages: Think Again, Give and Take, Originals, Option B, and Power Moves. He’s an organizational psychologist who has been the top-rated professor at Wharton for seven years. He’s also the host of a newish podcast, called Re:Thinking with Adam Grant, in addition to his other chart-topping podcast, called WorkLife. In this conversation, we talked about:Adam’s definition of neurotic vs. normal perfectionismWhy he thinks we’re seeing a rise in perfectionism amongst younger peopleStrategies for managing perfectionismA different metric for measuring the quality of our workThe importance of finding the right judges of our workReimagining our relationship to failure by setting a failure budgetThe difference between procrastination vs. what he personally suffers from: “precrastination”Full Shownotes: Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
Our guest today is one of the most prominent happiness researchers in the world, and he has come to the conclusion that living the good life boils down to one thing: finding awe. We’re going to learn what awe does to your body, how it changes your sense of self and your relationship to the world, and why we evolved to feel awe. We’re also going to get eight simple strategies for mainlining awe into our everyday lives. Dacher Keltner is a professor of psychology at the University of California, Berkeley, and the faculty director of UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center. His new book is called, Awe: The New Science of Everyday Wonder and How It Can Transform Your Life.In this conversation we talk about:What awe is exactlyHow awe is different from other primal emotions like fear and appreciation of beautyWhy we are awe-starved in our culture right nowThe connection between awe and moralityHow to get something called “moral beauty” into our lives as an alternative to the outrage served up by social mediaThe importance of something called “collective effervescence”How to use nature, music, and even death as sources of awe How to understand epiphaniesAnd how awe has the potential to get us into trouble sometimesFull Shownotes: Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
Stressed about the strained economy? You’re not alone. Sebene offers tools to help see the abundance we all have in our lives.About Sebene Selassie:Sebene Selassie was born in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia and raised in white neighborhoods in Washington, D.C., she was a tomboy Black girl who loved Monty Python and UB40. She never believed she belonged. Thirty years ago, she began studying Buddhism as an undergraduate at McGill University where she majored in Comparative Religious Studies. Now, Sebene is a teacher, author, and speaker who teaches that meditation can help us remember our inherent sense of belonging, that our individual freedom affects absolutely everyone and everything, and that our collective freedom depends on each and every one of us. To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Money Worries,” or click here: Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
When we think about Buddhism or the dharma, we probably don’t think about money. But when the Buddha laid out guidelines about how to make an ethical livelihood, this didn’t preclude material success. This episode is part two of this week’s series on money, and dives into how we can bring Buddhist principles to an area of our lives that can create so much fear, greed, and dread. Spencer Sherman is the founding CEO of Abacus, a values-driven financial firm, and certified mindfulness teacher.  He teaches the Fearless Finance program and The Mastery of Money program for NYU’s Inner MBA program.  He is also the author of The Cure For Money Madness.In this episode we talk about: How to identify and reframe our potentially harmful beliefs about moneyHow to apply the Four Brahma Viharas to having a healthier relationship with our financesHow to use the RAIN technique when we become anxious about moneySpencer’s ‘Enough Practice’ designed to give us a sense of equanimity How generosity helps us let go and can create a sense of abundance How mindfulness of money can key us into interconnectionAnd whether you can actually be a successful investor if you’re guided by Buddhist valuesFull Shownotes: Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
Money is often a messy and complicated topic that provokes a lot of anxiety. Today’s show is the first episode of a two-part series on managing our relationship to money and understanding what role money really plays when it comes to our happiness. Morgan Housel is the author of The Psychology of Money: Timeless Lessons on Wealth, Greed, and Happiness. Translated into over 50 languages with over two million copies sold, Housel is a two-time winner of the Best in Business Award from the Society of American Business Editors and Writers, winner of the New York Times Sidney Award, and a two-time finalist for the Gerald Loeb Award for Distinguished Business and Financial Journalism. In this conversation we talk about: The difference between happiness and contentmentThe difference between being rich and being wealthyThe elusive but crucial concept of “enough”The importance of not moving the goalposts when it comes to enough-nessWhy financial success is more about behavior than intelligenceHow our lived experiences impact our perspectives on money Full Shownotes: Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
What is the Dalai Lama’s own meditation practice like? In this final episode, the Dalai Lama goes into great detail about the whys and wherefores of meditation, taking us way into the deep end. We cover single-pointed versus analytical meditation, gross and subtle levels of the mind, “true cessation,” and how we can use sleep as practice for the moment of death. Dr. Davidson returns to explain key, esoteric terms and to help us understand how we can apply elements of the Dalai Lama’s practice to our everyday lives.Want more of The Dalai Lama’s Guide to Happiness? Download the Ten Percent Happier app wherever you get your apps.Full Show Notes: Resources Mentioned:Healthy Minds InnovationsThukdamAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
One of the Dalai Lama‘s most challenging teachings, especially for secular western minds, is reincarnation. In this episode, His Holiness describes the Buddhist deity who he believes to be his “boss.” Dan then sits down with Richie again to discuss whether there is any scientific evidence for rebirth. The episode begins and ends with emotional moments, where members of our team respond with tears to being in the presence of the Dalai Lama.Want more of The Dalai Lama’s Guide to Happiness? Download the Ten Percent Happier app wherever you get your apps.Full Show Notes: Resources Mentioned:Healthy Minds InnovationsUVA research on reincarnationAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
How can we get better at selfishness? That’s one of many fascinating topics we cover in this episode, in which we play snippets from Dan’s one-on-one interview with His Holiness, and then unpack it all with Dr. Richard Davidson, neuroscientist and founder of the Center for Healthy Minds. We talk to His Holiness about “wise selfishness,” how to handle our enemies, and whether he ever gets angry. Then Richie recounts a time when His Holiness exhibited a rare flash of anger— towards him, in fact.Want more of The Dalai Lama’s Guide to Happiness? Download the Ten Percent Happier app wherever you get your apps.Full Shownotes: Resources Mentioned:Healthy Minds InnovationsAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
The Dalai Lama makes a risky move. When confronted by a young American woman coping with incredible loss, he does something surprising and counterintuitive. The incident surfaces a question that is more urgent now than ever: As social media, tribalism, individualism, and a global pandemic conspire to keep us separated from each other, how do we maintain what psychologists call “social fitness”?In conversation with Dr. Richard J. Davidson, world renowned neuroscientist and longtime friend and collaborator of the Dalai Lama, we unpack the scientifically demonstrated benefits of the social connection embodied by His Holiness, and give easily accessible strategies to incorporate this wisdom into your everyday life. Also, Dan has a bit of an identity crisis. Want more of The Dalai Lama’s Guide to Happiness? Download the Ten Percent Happier app wherever you get your apps.Full Shownotes: Resources Mentioned:Healthy Minds InnovationsCompassionate Leadership SummitThe Wellbeing ProjectAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
Dan flies to Dharamsala, India to spend two weeks in the orbit of His Holiness the Dalai Lama. This is the first installment of a five-part audio documentary series, something we’ve never done before now. Over the course of the episodes, we talk to His Holiness about practical strategies for thorny dilemmas, including: how to get along with difficult people; whether compassion can cut it in an often brutal world; why there is a self-interested case for not being a jerk; and how to create social connection in an era of disconnection. We also get rare insights from the Dalai Lama into everything from the mechanics of reincarnation to His Holiness’s own personal mediation practice. In this first installment, Dan watches as a young activist directly challenges His Holiness: In a world plagued by climate change, terrorism, and other existential threats, is the Dalia Lama’s message of compassion practical — or even relevant? Full Show Notes: Resources Mentioned:Healthy Minds InnovationsCompassionate Leadership SummitAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
In this practice you'll connect with your values and set an intention for how you want to show up today.About Oren Jay Sofer:Oren has practiced meditation in the early Buddhist tradition since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India with Anagarika Munindra and Godwin Samararatne. He is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and a graduate of the IMS - Spirit Rock Vipassana Teacher Training, and current member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council.Oren is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, a practical guidebook for having more effective, satisfying conversations. To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “A Fresh Start,” or click here:""See Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
Brené Brown has found that most people are only able to identify three emotions: happy, sad and pissed off. In this episode we explore how better understanding the full spectrum of your emotions, rather than drowning in them, can become an upward spiral. Brené Brown is the author of six #1 New York Times bestsellers. Her latest book is Atlas of the Heart, which is also the name of her HBO Max series. Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston and a visiting professor in management at the University of Texas at Austin McCombs School of Business. She has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy. Her TED talk on the Power of Vulnerability is one of the top five most-viewed TED talks in the world, with over 50 million views. In this episode we talk about:Why she decided to map the 87 key emotions and experiencesHow she was deeply influenced by the Buddhist concept of the “near enemy”Why she no longer believes it's possible to read emotions in other people And why meaningful connections require boundariesContent Warning: This episode contains explicit language, but a clean version of the episode is available at and on the Ten Percent Happier app. Full Shownotes: Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
The New Year is approaching and this is a time when many of us think about making and breaking new habits. So today we’re bringing on one of the smartest people when it comes to habits, best-selling author and speaker Gretchen Rubin. Gretchen’s contention is that before you embark on a self-improvement project, it’s crucial to have some self-awareness about what kind of person you are. She has devised a framework called the Four Tendencies, which helps you identify your personality type in order to gain powerful insights into how you make or break habits. Rubin is a lawyer by training and began her career clerking for Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O’Connor. Gretchen then went on to write a series of books that examine small and doable ways to boost our happiness in everyday life. These include: The Happiness Project, which spent two years on the bestseller list and sold over 3.5 million copies worldwide, and Better Than Before. We initially conducted the interview you’re about to hear back in 2017, when Gretchen released a book called The Four Tendencies. In this episode we talk about:How and why Gretchen developed the Four Tendencies frameworkHow Gretchen’s framework can give each of us a recipe for successful habit changeBreaking down the Four Tendencies: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, or RebelsHow these Four Tendencies are an overlapping Venn diagram What “obliger rebellion” is and how to spot it in your relationshipsThe value of forming an accountability groupAnd why Gretchen sometimes calls herself a happiness bully  Full Shownotes: Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
Develop insight into your cravings and find some freedom by observing your thoughts and physical sensations when you are lost in desire.About Alexis Santos:Alexis has practiced and taught Insight Meditation in both the East and West since 2001. He has been a long-time student of Sayadaw U Tejaniya (a well respected meditation teacher in Burma whose teachings have attracted a global audience), and his teaching emphasizes knowing the mind through a natural and relaxed continuity -- a style of practice that's particularly useful during our crazy lives. Alexis has completed the Spirit Rock/IMS Teacher Training, teaches retreats across the globe, and currently lives in Portland, Maine.To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Understanding Desire,” or click here: ""See Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
Today we’re tackling some thorny dharma questions. For example: How do you love someone without attachment? How do you love yourself when the self is allegedly an illusion? Kevin Griffin is both a long time Buddhist practitioner and also a 12 step participant, and in another previous episode we talked to him about the nature of craving and addiction. In this popular episode from the archives, Kevin talks about his semi-skeptical take on loving kindness – that venerable if somewhat misunderstood Buddhist concept and practice. His book is being re-released this month, with a slightly new title Living Kindness: Metta Practice for the Whole of Our Lives. In this conversation, we talk about:Loving kindness versus living kindnessThe dangers of modern loving kindness practice The idea that you don't have to feel love all the timeAnd we talk about a Buddhist text called the Metta Sutta. Content Warning: The interview includes brief references to addiction and other forms of suffering.Full Shownotes: Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at
Comments (202)


Amazing series. When I heard the Cake Incident story, I never once questioned if it was inappropriate. The fact that anyone did shows just how far woke/me too culture has unfortunately permeated society as of late.

Jan 6th

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Dec 24th

miquel neske

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Dec 23rd

Sean Moore

It was pretty good episode but at times i felt i was being served a word salad.

Dec 22nd

Chelle Smith

I really enjoy this Podcast, especially the bonus meditations. 5 stars.

Nov 25th


Excellent discussion on communicating with emotionally immature people.

Oct 13th

mahnaz ramezanpour

I love the podcast, really enjoy listening to all of them. I appreciate all of your efforts to provide such a great podcast.

Sep 2nd

Sharon Anderson

amazing podcast-thought provoking, inspiring. thank you.

Aug 27th

mahnaz ramezanpour

loved it so much, thanks 😊

Aug 9th

Mel Dolly

The author offers a youthful perception of navigating grief.

Jun 21st

Vincent Haver

Starts at 3:15

May 22nd

The Diet of Common Sense Podcast

This is a good concept and indeed, happiness is a skill you can master by practice. It happens in your mind, and if you can master your mind, you can eventually train it to be happier by not letting the negative things bother you and focus on the positives.

May 22nd

Sean Moore

really good..the the sharpening the pencil concept alone ...well done.

May 5th


Really important what she's saying, but don't we know all of this already by words? Namely assertiveness and passive aggression? Why do silikon Valley people always try to steal ideas from other people? We don't need more jargain. Please everyone, give yourself a favour and read Marshall Rosenberg books instead.

Nov 3rd


Maybe stop using the phrase "we are killing the planet" and instead say "we are killing everybody" or "we all die - very soon".

Oct 21st

David Cox

This is one of my favorite talks so far on this podcast. How to be able to apply mindfulness to our daily lives. Thanks Dan for sharing with us all. Keep up the great work.

Oct 14th

Elegy Durge

I love this! Can't wait for the book.

Jul 19th

Justin Bauer

thank you for putting more Buddhist talks :) 10% happier is one of my favorite podcasts. just btw.

Jul 12th

David Cox

one of my favorites, thanks

Jul 4th

Justin Bauer

I'm disappointed with where this podcast is going. what happened to all the Buddhist stuff?

Jun 30th
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