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Kelly loved her dad, then she lost her dad. Kelly loved her grandpa, then she lost her grandpa. Now that Kelly’s a mom herself, she wants to ensure that her son knows he’s loved, no matter what comes. — We still have a few tickets left for our Happyish Holidays live show in Minneapolis Dec 7. Can't make it to Minneapolis? Buy a ticket to get access to the show's livestream! Tickets are $13 apiece, and FREE for our Patrons! (check your email for more information). If you're not a member of our Patreon, now is a great time to join! For less than a ticket price you can virtually attend the show AND get other member benefits you will love. Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Indeed: Start hiring NOW with a $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to upgrade your job post at Indeed.com/TTFA. Offer good for a limited time. Just go to Indeed.com/TTFA and support the show by saying you heard about it on this podcast. Terms and conditions apply. Need to hire? You need Indeed. Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are some stories so plainly horrifying, some crimes so gut wrenching, that it can be hard to imagine the perpetrator as anything other than a villain. A drunk driving accident that killed 6 people does not sound like the beginning of a redemption story. But this episode isn’t about redemption — it’s about learning to live alongside an unthinkable mistake. — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Subscribe within Apple Podcasts for ad-free listening, bonus episodes, and access to our full archive, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app! Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Indeed: Start hiring NOW with a SEVENTY-FIVE DOLLAR SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to upgrade your job post at Indeed.com/TTFA. Offer good for a limited time. Just go to Indeed.com/TTFA and support the show by saying you heard about it on this podcast. Terms and conditions apply. Need to hire? You need Indeed. Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Christina met Thomas as a young adult, their relationship felt different, and right. As time goes on, cracks start to appear in their dynamic, but Christina doesn’t give up on the people she loves. But how many cracks does it take before a dam breaks?  — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Subscribe within Apple Podcasts for ad-free listening, bonus episodes, and access to our full archive, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app! Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — Nora’s new Happyish journal and affirmation deck based on her own journaling practices launches today! We have a special deal for you on these new items:  25% discount for the Em & Friends website. Coupon code: HAPPYISH25. This will only work on the Em & Friends website, not on Amazon. — We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Indeed: Go to indeed.com/TTFA to claim your $75 sponsored job credit to upgrade your job post.  Fordham University: Earn a degree that matters and choose social work. Learn more at fordham.edu/mswjourney. Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Greg was married to his best friend, Anna, for 6 years. He loved and respected her. So the night he told her he was gay was painful because he knew how much he was hurting her. In the ten months since then, Greg has looked hard at his depression and addiction, two things that held him back from admitting his sexuality. This is part 2 of a story about one couple’s divorce. Listen to part 1 of this episode, “Everything, All Of You…” If you need support for addiction, check out these resources: Ben’s Friends- a support group for people in the food and beverage industry Alcoholics Anonymous SAMHSA- a hotline that can connect you to local treatment facilities, support groups, and community-based organizations. If you are struggling with suicidal thoughts (or love someone who does): Text HOME to 741-741 for a free, confidential conversation with a trained counselor any time of day.  If you feel unsafe right now, text or call 988 or use the chat function at 988lifeline.org If you need help figuring out HOW to tell someone that you’re having suicidal thoughts, here are some prompts.  If you suspect someone in your life is having suicidal thoughts, here are some questions you can ask them.  Read the CDC’s Suicide Prevention Resource for Action. If you’re struggling with depression, know some of the tools that can help lift you out of a hard time.  ___ Nora’s new Happyish journal and affirmation deck based on her own journaling practices launches today! We have a special deal for you on these new items:  25% discount for the Em & Friends website. Coupon code: HAPPYISH25. This will only work on the Em & Friends website, not on Amazon. ___ Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Subscribe within Apple Podcasts for ad-free listening, bonus episodes, and access to our full archive, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app! Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. ___ We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Fordham University: More than one in five US adults live with a mental illness, and licensed social workers play a crucial role in their empowerment. Fordham’s top-ranked Master of Social Work program equips students with the clinical training and skills needed to supply these vital mental health services. Their flexible full-time and part-time options cater to your schedule and interests. Earn a degree that matters and choose social work. Learn more at fordham.edu/mswjourney. Indeed: Start hiring NOW with a $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to upgrade your job post at Indeed.com/TTFA. Offer good for a limited time. Just go to Indeed.com/TTFA and support the show by saying you heard about it on this podcast. Terms and conditions apply. Need to hire? You need Indeed. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Anna was a 24 year-old hostess at a restaurant, she fell in love with the chef in the kitchen. Their relationship, and later marriage was filled with love. But Anna could always feel something was off between her and her husband. One night last December, she found out she was right.  — Nora’s new Happyish journal and affirmation deck based on her own journaling practices launches today! We have a special deal for you on these new items:  25% discount for the Em & Friends website. Coupon code: HAPPYISH25. This will only work on the Em & Friends website, not on Amazon. ___ Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Subscribe within Apple Podcasts for ad-free listening, bonus episodes, and access to our full archive, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app! Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Hatch: Right now, Hatch is offering our listeners $20 off your purchase of a Hatch Restore and free shipping at hatch.co/ttfa.  You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jeremy Norton has been a firefighter for over 20 years, a job that’s considered heroic and honorable…a job that sometimes means showing up to a false alarm…and sometimes means soaking up the trauma of the city around you.  Jeremy has been a TTFA listener since day one. His first book — The Trauma Sponges: Dispatches From The Scarred Heart of Emergency Response — is out October 10, 2023.  Link: https://bookshop.org/a/12538/9781517914189 — Nora’s new Happyish journal and affirmation deck based on her own journaling practices launches today! We have a special deal for you on these new items:  25% discount for the Em & Friends website. Coupon code: HAPPYISH25. This will only work on the Em & Friends website, not on Amazon. __ Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Subscribe within Apple Podcasts for ad-free listening, bonus episodes, and access to our full archive, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app! Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Liquid IV: Get 20% off when you go to liquidiv.com and use code TTFA at checkout. BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. Hatch: Right now, Hatch is offering our listeners $20 off your purchase of a Hatch Restore and free shipping at hatch.co/ttfa. Sleep deeply and wake gently with the Restore - go to hatch.co/ttfa to get $20 off and free shipping! Bookshop.org: You can save 10% on your next order when you shop at Bookshop.org/TTFA and use code TERRIBLE at checkout. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Claire was a teenager, she held a lot of big, difficult feelings, and for a while, she saw only one solution for them. Though Claire decides to not act on those feelings, her story gets shared anonymously online — and continues to appear when she needs it most. Note: This episode is about suicide. If you are or someone you know is experiencing thoughts of suicide, there are free resources available to you:  Text HOME to 741-741 for a free, confidential conversation with a trained counselor any time of day.  If you feel unsafe right now, text or call 988 or use the chat function at 988lifeline.org If you need help figuring out HOW to tell someone that you’re having suicidal thoughts, here are some prompts.  If you suspect someone in your life is having suicidal thoughts, here are some questions you can ask them.  Read the CDC’s Suicide Prevention Resource for Action. If you’re struggling with depression, know some of the tools that can help lift you out of a hard time.  __ Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Subscribe within Apple Podcasts for ad-free listening, bonus episodes, and access to our full archive, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app! Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Liquid IV: Get 20% off when you go to liquidiv.com and use code TTFA at checkout. BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Like many teachers, when Kristen started her career at 22, she was hopeful and excited. She loved working with students with special needs, and loved learning how their brains worked. But over the years, the job became harder and harder because of the lack of support she received. Eventually, all of the small moments of feeling left out to dry led to a falling out with the career she loved.  __ Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Subscribe within Apple Podcasts for ad-free listening, bonus episodes, and access to our full archive, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app! Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com/privacy. LiquidIV: Get 20% off when you go to liquidiv.com and use code TTFA at checkout. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Anaya and Dave Lee fell in love, they saw a whole future with each other. Part of that future included being parents. But when they started trying, they learned creating a family was going to be much more challenging than they expected. They eventually had to ask the question, if a baby doesn’t happen, what would our family look like?   Note: this episode talks about pregnancy loss. __ Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Subscribe within Apple Podcasts for ad-free listening, bonus episodes, and access to our full archive, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app! Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com. SquareSpace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Like everyone else in 2020, Grant Khanbalinov downloaded Tik Tok. He wasn't trying to learn dances or find a community- he wanted to learn the platform for his marketing job. To practice using the app, he made videos with his wife and kids. Then a video of his three-year-old daughter went viral, and Grant’s account blew up. He gained millions of followers and eventually made hundreds of thousands of dollars from his videos. It all felt like a dream, until…one night he realized there is a dark side to sharing his kids online. You can follow Grant on Tik Tok @heyelliamfamily.  This week’s bonus episode on TTFA Premium is an interview with Sarah Adams (@mom.uncharted), an advocate for children’s privacy online, and Chris McCarty, a 19-year-old who is working to make policy changes to protect the children of influencers.  Follow our other show, The Terrible Reading Club, to get an upcoming episode featuring Nora and friend of the pod Kate Kennedy, and their conversation around books that explore this idea of "sharenting".  If you want to learn more about sharenting and putting kids on social media, check out these resources:  Surgeon General report on social media’s effects on teens YouTubers Myka and James Stauffer shared every step of their adoption process. Until the last via The Cut A Child’s Tik Tok Stardom Opens Doors. Then A Gunman Arrives via New York Times. 18-year-old sues her parents for sharing childhood photos — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Subscribe within Apple Podcasts for ad-free listening, bonus episodes, and access to our full archive, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app! Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com. SquareSpace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. LiquidIV: Get 20% off when you go to liquidiv.com and use code TTFA at checkout. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our MERCH STORE at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are taking a break this summer (not a vacation!) to produce new stories, so we are sharing some of our favorite episodes while we’re working. This episode was first broadcast in 2018. Remember, our full episode archive, including the follow up to this episode "About Laura," is always available to TTFA Premium members! Join here — or, if you're an Apple Podcast app listener, you can subscribe right in your app! Couldn't be easier! If you are a Premium subscriber, search "About Laura" or scroll back to June 14th 2022 in your TTFA feed to find the follow-up to this episode! — When Laura gets a call from the hospital telling her that her dad has severe frostbite and could die, Laura is shocked. Not because of the whole frostbite part ... but because her dad is alive. She hasn't seen or talked to him in years and honestly assumed he was long dead. This is a story about what happens when we realize our parents are, in fact, real people — and that real people mess up and make mistakes. — Listener support helps make our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bonus content and more.  Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join the club here.  This episode transcript can be found here.  – We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com/privacy. Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. LMNT: Visit DrinkLMNT.com/TERRIBLE to get a free sample pack with any purchase. Hiya: Receive 50% off your first order by visiting hiyahealth.com/TERRIBLE. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and shop our merch at feelingsand.co — Follow TTFA online! Instagram | Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Warning: This episode contains discussions of suicide and suicidal ideation. Nathan always knew he was different growing up. He also knew the LDS church had certain expectations of him: He'd do his mission, find a girl, get married and settle down. Being gay? Not part of that plan. Nathan does everything he can to be straight, including sending himself to "conversion therapy." It, of course, doesn't work. Then ... he starts to uncover his true self. And his true self is beautiful. This episode was originally broadcast in 2018. To hear a recent interview with Nathan, become a TTFA Premium member. Head to Apple Podcasts and sign up for Premium right in our feed. — Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and SHOP OUR MERCH at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jamie Hahn was 29 years old when she was murdered by Jonathan Broyhill — the guy who had been the best man in her wedding to her husband, Nation. The intrigue surrounding Jamie's death and her killer's subsequent murder trial created non-stop news fodder ... and the story quickly became about Broyhill — his lies, his deception, his crimes. Nation wanted to tell his and Jamie's story without putting her murderer at the center of it. And in this episode, he does exactly that. — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bonus content, and more. (Or, if you’re an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!) Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and SHOP OUR MERCH at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are taking a break this summer (not a vacation!) to produce new stories, so we are sharing some of our favorite episodes while we’re working. This episode was first broadcast in 2018. Remember, our full episode archive is always available to TTFA Premium members! Join here — or, if you're an Apple Podcast app listener, you can subscribe right in your app! Couldn't be easier! — Religion often gives people a sense of belonging. It tells them who’s in and sometimes (depending on the faith, or depending on the microcosm of the faith they're raised in) who's out. That's how Patricia grew up — in a faith where leaving your religion meant leaving behind everyone you love. She is a former Jehovah’s Witness who left the church when she was in her mid-20s. This episode looks at what's worse: keeping the people you love at a distance, or showing them your true colors and losing them forever. — Listener support helps make our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bonus content and more.  Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join the club here.  This episode transcript can be found here.  – We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com/privacy. Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. LMNT: Visit DrinkLMNT.com/TERRIBLE to get a free sample pack with any purchase. Hiya: Receive 50% off your first order by visiting hiyahealth.com/TERRIBLE. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and shop our merch at feelingsand.co — Follow TTFA online! Instagram | Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are taking a break this summer (not a vacation!) to produce new stories, so we are sharing some of our favorite episodes while we’re working. This episode was first broadcast in 2018. Remember, our full episode archive is always available to TTFA Premium members! Join here — or, if you're an Apple Podcast app listener, you can subscribe right in your app! Couldn't be easier! — Charlotte’s career is built on theoreticals. As an operating room nurse, she has a protocol for every tragedy — a “then” for every “if.” That all changes one night when, on her way home, Charlotte encounters a teenage girl on the wrong side of a guardrail on an overpass above a highway. Charlotte wasn’t this girl’s mother, or sister, or best friend. She didn’t even know her. But Charlotte was the last person who spoke to the girl before she died. She was THERE. And now, she doesn't know how to get back to the way her life used to be. NOTE: This episode includes discussion and depictions of suicide. — Listener support helps make our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bonus content and more.  Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join the club here.  This episode transcript can be found here.  – We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com/privacy. Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. LMNT: Visit DrinkLMNT.com/TERRIBLE to get a free sample pack with any purchase. Hiya: Receive 50% off your first order by visiting hiyahealth.com/TERRIBLE. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and shop our merch at feelingsand.co — Follow TTFA online! Instagram | Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are taking a break this summer (not a vacation!) to produce new stories, so we are sharing some of our favorite episodes while we’re working. This episode was first broadcast in 2018 and is one of our all-time favorites. Remember, our full episode archive is always available to TTFA Premium members! Join here — or, if you're an Apple Podcast app listener, you can subscribe right in your app! Couldn't be easier! The Achilli siblings would like you to know that if there was a Dead Parent Contest (there's not), they would win the gold medal. In 2008, their dad was murdered by a hitman in a dispute over a girlfriend. Four years after their father's killers are tried and convicted, their mom dies after driving her car off a cliff. This is a story about being orphaned as young adults and the family ties that keep siblings together. — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bonus content, and more. Our TTFA Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Rothy’s: Head to oseamalibu.com and use code TTFA for 10% off. Osea: Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/TERRIBLE. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are taking a break this summer (not a vacation!) to produce new stories, so we are sharing some of our favorite episodes while we’re working. This episode was first broadcast in 2017, the first year we started making this show! Remember, our full episode archive is always available to TTFA Premium members! Join here — or, if you're an Apple Podcast app listener, you can subscribe right in your app! Couldn't be easier! — So many people start off their stories by saying their pain and suffering doesn’t compare to what happened to someone else. But this isn’t a game of Who Has It Worse, so why do we act like there is some sort of imaginary yardstick for struggling? Today’s episode tries to convince you that if you’re feeling pain, it’s painful — no caveats. This episode transcript can be found here. — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bonus content, and more. Our TTFA Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. — We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. Osea: Head to oseamalibu.com and use code TTFA for 10% off. BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com/privacy. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Five years ago, on Mother’s Day, Katie was sitting in prison, far from her kids. She couldn’t hug them, she couldn’t kiss them. It was at that moment she decided she would completely change her life so she could be with them again. But changing her life required a lot of help that didn’t exist in prison. Then one day, she opened a book in the prison library and a brochure fell out. It was for a place called Benevolence Farm, and they could help her change her life. If you want to help Benevolence Farm continue helping formerly incarcerated women in North Carolina, you can shop the Farm’s products here or make a donation to their programs here. — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bonus content, and more. Our TTFA Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Hiya: Receive 50% off your first order by visiting hiyahealth.com/TERRIBLE. Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. Rothy’s: Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/TERRIBLE. Osea: Head to oseamalibu.com and use code TTFA for 10% off. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Xiomara Medina was a teenage girl in Puerto Rico, a quinceañera was all she wanted when she turned 15. She dreamed of a big, sparkly dress and dancing the night away with her friends. But her family couldn’t afford it. So when she grew up and had four daughters, she wanted to give each of her children the party she never had. In this episode, her daughter, Jeyca Maldonado-Medina, brings us along as the family hosts its final quince for Jeyca’s youngest sister. — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bonus content, and more. Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join the club here. The episode transcript can be found here. — Shop Our Sponsors:  LMNT: Visit DrinkLMNT.com/TERRIBLE to get a free sample pack with any purchase. BETTERHELP: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com/privacy. --- Our Social Media: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Courtney Maum is having a midlife crisis. Parenting is taking so much of her time. Her writing career is going well, but that means she’s overwhelmed by deadlines and book deals. Her marriage is in a rough patch, and when she starts asking herself “should I have an affair?” and “should I become an alcoholic?” she recognizes she needs a change in her life.  She dreams of finding an escape that brings her back to her childhood passion of being outside for hours, lost in her thoughts. In this episode, we follow Courtney as she tries to find her Secret Garden.  Courtney is an author, her most recent book The Year of the Horses is a memoir about rediscovering herself through her love of horses. Nora recommends her fiction: I Am Having So Much Fun Here Without You and Touch. __ You can read the episode transcript here. Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bonus content, and more. Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join the club here. — Shop our sponsors:  Rothys: Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/TERRIBLE. Osea: Head to oseamalibu.com and use code TTFA for 10% off. Headspace: Try Headspace FREE for 30 days by going to headspace.com/Nora30Day. Boll and Branch: Get 15% off your first order when you use promo code TTFA at bollandbranch.com. LMNT: Visit DrinkLMNT.com/TERRIBLE to get a free sample pack with any purchase. Foria: Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/TERRIBLE, or use code TERRIBLE at checkout. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices