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Each week on the Bad Girl's Bible podcast, your host Sean Jameson interviews experts and professionals and everyone in between to teach you the tips and techniques you can use to improve your sex life and relationship or marriage. You'll also learn powerful insights on how to improve your dating and love life.
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#34 The Secret To Reaching Orgasm During Sex with Laurie Mintz, Ph.D.
Today on the show I am talking to Dr. Laurie Mintz. She is a professor, author, speaker, and therapist. She teaches psychology of human sexuality to hundreds of undergraduate students annually and she has also authored two books, Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters — And How to Get It, along with A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex. Inside this episode, Laurie shares her findings on the orgasm gap that exists in relationships and why that often starts at the beginning of a sex ed program. We also dive into the importance of self-discovery and understanding what works best for you as an individual, and then communicating that to your partner. Finally, we bust some of society’s myths about sex and Laurie shares her take-home advice that women can implement in their sexual journeys today. So if you want to learn all of Laurie’s incredible secrets to experience orgasms during sex, don’t miss out on today’s episode! Highlights Laurie’s background and how she came to teach psychology of human sexuality. How the orgasm gap inspired Laurie to write Becoming Cliterate. Understanding why there is so much ignorance about female sexual pleasure. The effective strategy of sex education in the Netherlands. First steps a woman can take to increase her “cliteracy”. How to incorporate yourself; a journey of self-discovery. Why sexual communication can really go a long way. Getting rid of the myth that sex should be spontaneous. Approaching your partner about introducing new ideas into your sex life. Advice for women struggling to orgasm or struggling with low sexual desire. Tweetables “It’s truly, truly impossible to have an orgasm while you are worrying about something.” — @DrLaurieMintz [0:17:19] “Mindfulness is putting your mind and body in the same place.” — @DrLaurieMintz [0:17:19] “Communication is the bedrock to make your bed rock.” — @DrLaurieMintz [0:26:17] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode Dr. Laurie Mintz — http://drlauriemintz.com/ Laurie on Twitter — https://twitter.com/drlauriemintz Becoming Cliterate — https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Cliterate-Orgasm-Equality-Matters/dp/0062664557 A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex — https://www.amazon.com/Tired-Womans-Guide-Passionate-Sex/dp/1605501077 OMGYes — https://www.omgyes.com/ Calm — https://www.calm.com/ Head Space — https://www.headspace.com/
#33 Monster-In-Law & Cheating: A Listener Tells Her Story of Relationship Struggle and Success
Today we are doing something a little different, which I think you will find pretty interesting…Instead of our regular guest, I am talking to a listener of the Bad Girls Bible Podcast to bring you a whole new perspective to all things relationships, and real world experiences. So in this episode we welcome listener, Paige, to talk about her relationships and the struggles she’s faced, including dealing with her difficult mother-in-law and even finding out her husband had been texting his ex! Paige then goes on to talk about how she came through these relationship struggles to be in a better, happier place. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, there is a lot to learn from our conversation and hopefully some inspiration too, especially if you’re facing your own relationships struggles. If you’d like to tell your relationship story on the podcast, shoot me an email to sean@badgirlsbible.com Highlights Hear more about who Paige is and how she met her husband. Getting proposed to after only 6 months of dating. What life was like for Paige between the proposal and the marriage. Dealing with the mother in law. Issues of jealousy early on in her marriage. Being a new mother and dealing with the frustrations that come with it. How Paige found out that her husband was talking to one of his exes. Getting on with depression - another baby and 5 years later. Going back to school and doing something for yourself. Finding your own happiness - having a positive mindset. How her marriage changed once she changed her mindset. The importance of developing your mindset. And much more!   Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode Bad Girls Bible — https://badgirlsbible.com/ Bad Girls Bible Facebook Page — https://www.facebook.com/badgirlsbible/
#32 Struggling to Orgasm? Here's the Solution with Vanessa Marin
On the show today we are joined by Vanessa Marin, who is a sex therapist specializing in helping women achieve orgasms. Through her work, in person and online, Vanessa has coached countless clients towards more fulfilling sex and a greater understanding of their bodies. In our conversation we cover Vanessa’s early desire to become a sex coach and the challenges that she faced on her journey towards her current status. We then get into the nitty gritty of the big ‘O’, unpacking different types of desire, the dual control model, common myths on the subject and the helpful concept of curiosity. We also discuss sex toys, menopause, and some of the methods and resources that Vanessa offers. Highlights How Vanessa found herself in the job of orgasm coach. The basis of Vanessa’s program for helping her clients. The strong bond between desire and orgasm. Differences between spontaneous and responsive desire. An explanation of the dual control model. Female orgasms are complex, how can we simplify it? Where to start focussing your efforts when learning how to orgasm. A few of the myths around female orgasm. The courses, steps and guides that Vanessa offers on her website Rethinking orgasm through the idea of curiosity. The use of sex toys in this endeavour. Menopause and orgasm and comparing different perspectives. A more realistic idea of a healthy sex life for couples. And much more! Tweetables “I always knew that female orgasm would be a hot topic in this area but I was definitely surprised by how many women were really desperately seeking some sort of solution.” — @VMTherapy [0:03:38.7] “There’s a really powerful relationship between desire and orgasm and I think that a lot of women tend to neglect that relationship.” — @VMTherapy [0:07:50.3] “I think it’s equally as important to think about what are the things that get in the way of me feeling desire.” — @VMTherapy [0:13:28.8] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode Vanessa Marin — https://vmtherapy.com/ Brown University — https://www.brown.edu/ New York Times — https://www.nytimes.com/ Oprah — http://www.oprah.com/index.html Real Simple — https://www.realsimple.com/ Finishing School — https://vmtherapy.com/how-to-orgasm/ Emily Nagoski  — http://www.emilynagoski.com/ Come As You Are — https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22609341-come-as-you-are
#31 How To Fix A Sexless Marriage & Reignite Fiery Passion with Laurie Watson
On today’s show we welcome Laurie Watson. Laurie is a Certified Sex Therapist and Licensed Couple’s Counselor and author of Wanting Sex Again: How to Rediscover Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage. She is also the co-host of a podcast along with Dr. Adam Matthews called Foreplay: Radio Sex Therapy for Couples, designed to help couples keep it hot. In clinical therapy, she has helped thousands of couples recover sexual passion and make love again in joyful, intimate, creative and exciting ways, sometimes even after years of sexless marriage. Inside this episode we dive into the topic of people wanting to reignite their passion and the desire that’s lost in a marriages or relationships. Laurie shares some incredible strategies to help you get back that fiery passion, today. We also diving into Laurie’s 444 Solution and getting your SEX confidence back! Show Highlights Laurie’s background and how she came to writing Wanting Sex Again. How a good marriage becomes a sexless marriage. The power struggle between the pursuer and the “distancer” in the relationship. Examples of a pursuer and a distant person. Understanding the concept of Attachment theory. Detailed talkers versus bullet point talkers. Importance of secure attachment. Doing a self analysis to understand where you are at personally (and your relationship). Laurie’s 444 Solution and how to use it in your relationship. What birth control can do to a woman’s libido. The Madonna Whore Syndrome. Common issues affecting couples in their sex lives. Getting your self confidence and body confidence back. And so much more! Tweetables “Within two years of marriage, one third of all couples are sexless.” — @asklauriewatson [0:03:31.1] “If there’s no big bang, there’s no big deal.” — @asklauriewatson [0:09:12.1] “We need a talking avenue and we need a physical touching avenue to really have secure attachment.” — @asklauriewatson [0:15:53.1] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode Laurie Watson — http://lauriewatson.com/ Laurie’s Website — https://awakeningscenter.org/ Laurie on Twitter — https://twitter.com/asklauriewatson Laurie on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/foreplayrst/ Laurie on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/foreplay_radiosextherapy/ Laurie on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurie-watson-436b551a/ Wanting Sex Again: How to Rediscover Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage — https://www.amazon.com/Laurie-Watson-Wanting-Sex-Again/dp/B00G4GDCVI/ FOREPLAY: Radio Sex Therapy for Couples — http://foreplayrst.com/ Awakenings Center — https://awakeningscenter.org/ Love and Sex Quiz — https://awakeningscenter.org/love-sex-quiz/ Make Love Not Porn — makelovenotporn.tv
#30 Incredible Sex Techniques & Tips from High Earning Sex Worker, Alice Little
Today on the podcast we are joined by a very special guest, none other than Alice Little from the Bunny Ranch and the Wing Woman Podcast. Alice is one of the most prominent sex workers in America and she is here to give our listeners expert advice and all round insider scoop on great sex and easy tips for increased pleasure and intimacy. In our discussion we cover Alice’s personal history and thoughts on sex work and perceptions around the subject. From there we cover dirty talk, orgasms, oral sex, BDSM and a lot more. Alice also gives some practical advice for body positivity and managing a partner of a different height in the bedroom. For all this amazing information and more from a truly wonderful ambassador for better sex, join us for today’s episode! Show Highlights How Alice found herself at The Bunny Ranch. Why do people visit sex workers? Some of the common misconceptions around sex work. Alice’s advice for those listeners wanting to work on their dirty talk.  Closing the orgasm gap and finding ways to share pleasure. Alice’s advice to listener’s wanting to improve their fellatio skills. The reciprocal advice for cunnilingus. How to go about getting more acquainted with BDSM and sensation play. Use of safe words and aftercare and why they are so important. Clearly defining the BDSM acronym. Some of Alice’s tips for overcoming height difference between partners.  Getting over self doubt and getting on top of your partner. And much more! Tweetables “I believe so strongly in the good that legal sex workers can do for society and I believe so much so that it’s the perfect job for me that I plan to continue to do so.” — @TheAliceLittle [0:05:27.3] “If you can’t talk about sex and intimacy outside of the bedroom, you’re never going to get to the point where you can express yourself openly and comfortably while actually in the bedroom.” —   @TheAliceLittle [0:06:51.9] “It’s the biggest sexual mistake that America is making right now, we’re failing to ask what our partner actually likes.” — @TheAliceLittle [0:10:26.9] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode Alice Little — https://thealicelittle.com Wing Woman Podcast — https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/wing-woman-podcast/id1434992925 Alice Little Twitter — https://twitter.com/TheAliceLittle Alice Little Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/thealicelittleofficial/ Moonlite Bunny Ranch — https://www.bunnyranch.com Alice Little Email — alicelittle@bunnyranch.com Dennis Hof — https://www.dennishof.com/about-dennis/ Ron Jeremy — https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000465/ Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy — https://www.tandfonline.com/toc/usmt20/current Sephora — https://www.sephora.com Ulta — https://www.ulta.com Kink —  https://www.kink.com Kink University — https://www.kink.com/channel/kinkuniversity Adam and Eve — https://www.adameve.com Liberator — https://www.liberator.com Pornhub — https://www.pornhub.com Fleshlight — https://www.fleshlight.com
#29 Squirting Orgasms, Getting Turned On, and Real Foreplay for Women with Female Orgasm Expert, Jason Julius
Jason Julius is a world renowned sex coach and female orgasm expert and his goal is to help as many men, women, and couples achieve the amazing sex lives they deserve. In this episode we are going to discuss everything a man can do to give his partner more intense and satisfying pleasure inside and outside the bedroom. We also dive into how to really get your female partner aroused by communicating with her throughout the day, and building on the fantasy for her ultimate sexual readiness. Jason is very candid and shares all his tips and advice on stimulating your female partner’s G-spot and A-spot, ways to encourage her to let go towards ejaculation, and the real culprits behind premature and delayed ejaculation for men. So if you’re listening and have a male partner, you may want to get him to listen to this episode too! Key Points From This Episode Jason’s background and how he got to where he is today. Advice for getting your female partner aroused. Breaking down the arousal process for men and women. Understanding the concept of “sexy context”. What makes for good foreplay from a guy. The importance of quieting down your female partners’ mind. Simplicity and the general rules of dirty talk. Why it is critical to get to know yourself sexually. Advice for providing clitoral stimulation, manually and orally. How to find the G-spot, and why many people struggle to find it. Why using a lubricant is sometimes a must. Strategy for helping your partner achieve female ejaculation. The dangers of too much porn, and forming the wrong paths in your brain. And much more! Tweetables “I think that there’s a huge misunderstanding about female desire and how female desire actually works.” — @jasonjulius [0:05:37.1] “For guys, we need to understand that we need to be constantly flirting with our woman to create the fantasy that she desires to get her mind engaged.” — @jasonjulius [0:09:10.1] “The purpose of foreplay is to build up the fantasy.” — @jasonjulius [0:13:35.1] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode Jason’s Squirting Tutorial Video - http://www.orgasmarts.com/ Jason Julius — https://www.jasonjulius.com/ Jason’s website — http://www.orgasmarts.com/ Jason on Twitter — https://twitter.com/jasonjulius Jason on YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnJ25wY59ezVT3CXFunkuQQ Come As You Are — https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090
#28 Introduction to Polyamory and Non-monogamy with Poly Anna
Today on the podcast we welcome Poly Anna from the Sexploration with Poly Anna Podcast! In this episode we will be chatting about all things polyamory and getting Poly Anna’s personal and professional ideas, experiences and views on the subject. After a more traditional upbringing and early parts of her adult life, Poly Anna eventually found the strong desire for polyamory within herself and chose to pursue this urge. We get into the social aspects, catching feelings, intimacy and a host of other factors in this largely uncharted world of love. Poly Anna also gives us some great definitions and differentiations between various forms of ethical non-monogamy as well as sharing some positive and negative experiences of her own, navigating multiple partners and relationships. It promises to be a great episode with loads of helpful and juicy information for all of you. Key Points From This Episode Poly Anna’s own experiences and history with monogamy and polyamory. Social expectations of polyamory and taboo acts. How Poly Anna found her kinks and deeper desires. Defining polyamory more clearly. Some other versions of ethical non-monogamy. Catching feelings and managing these in multiple relationships. Is polyamory just an excuse to cheat without getting caught? The initial steps to take in exploring polyamory. Reaching out for help, support and information regarding this. Maintaining intimacy with a primary partner. Some of Poly Anna’s own experiences in polyamorous relationships. Common stumbling blocks for different models of relationships. Lessons for monogamy from polyamory! Should everyone try polyamory? Communication and coming out as polyamorous. And much more! Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode Poly Anna: https://sexplorationwithpo.wixsite.com/website Poly Anna Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/instawithpolyanna/ Poly Anna Twitter: https://twitter.com/polyannatweets Poly Anna Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/instawithpolyanna/ Poly Anna Email: sexplorationwithpolyanna@gmail.com Polyamory: Married and Dating — https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2227610/
#27 Sex and Cancer with Dr. Saketh R. Guntupalli
On today’s show we welcome Dr. Saketh R. Guntupalli who is the Vice Chairman for Clinical Affairs and Quality in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at the University of Colorado School of Medicine in Denver. He is also the author of the book Sex and Cancer: Intimacy, Romance, and Love after Diagnosis and Treatment, and in this episode we chat about exactly that. Dr Guntupalli gives us some background into what inspired him to write the book and then goes onto some great anecdotes and information on the ways that cancer can influence intimacy and sexual relationships. He stresses the key points that partners should always remember in trying to combat these potentially negative effects as well as focusing on some of the beautiful and surprising situations that arise out of something as scary as a cancer diagnosis. For all this and much more, be sure to tune in! Highlights The patient that inspired Dr. Guntupalli to research and write his book. A particular story from the book about reimagining intimate life. The connection between cancer, hair, breasts and sexuality. The gender disparity around anatomical procedures in medicine. A three-pronged approach to overcoming the sexual challenges of a cancer diagnosis. Some pointers for being a helpful partner to someone in treatment. The emotional repercussions that a cancer diagnosis can have on a relationship. And much more! Tweetables “So what I would suggest is not to think about sex as intercourse and orgasm. It is a platter of different things that you choose from.” — Saketh Guntupalli [0:19:53.9] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode Sex and Cancer — https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Cancer-Intimacy-Diagnosis-Treatment/dp/1442275081 Saketh Guntupalli —  saketh.guntupalli@ucdenver.edu University of Colorado School of Medicine — http://www.ucdenver.edu/academics/colleges/medicalschool/Pages/somWelcome.aspx Dammit Doll — https://dammitdolls.com/Home
#26 Discover Your Sexual Blueprint and Learn How To Enjoy Sex More With Xanet Pailet
On the show today we welcome Xanet Pailet, tantra educator, sex coach, and author of Living an Orgasmic Life. Xanet is here tell us all about her work and how accessing your sexual blueprint and core erotic themes can guide you to a more fulfilling sex life and transform your whole world. We discuss Xanet’s own journey and the events in her life that led up to her current vocation before launching into some examples of the difficulties that people can have accessing and communicating their sexual needs. We talk about lowered libido, sexless marriages, shame and how these relate to our early development and socialization. Xanet gives great insight into simple ways to approach these sensitive subjects and shows just what a difference these measures can make. We finish off the chat thinking about some pragmatic solutions to these issues and ways in which individuals and partners can make progress in this regard. Highlights Some of Xanet’s personal and professional background. The experiences that contributed to her pursuing a career in sexual therapy. An anecdote showing the damage an unspoken desire can do to a relationship. Some of the reasons for sexless marriages and lowered libido. The issue of shame and socialization related to pleasure. An example of the crippling effects of shame on our bodies. Core Erotic Themes and our underlying sexual emotions. How to go about communicating sensitive needs or fantasies.  Using games or apps to start the process of communication. Redefining sexuality and finding ways around tricky needs. Explaining Attachment Theory and it’s different formulations. And much more! Tweetables “I think most women have never really had continuous great sex. I know that’s a big statement to make but I think it’s really true.” [0:08:35.9] “And I think that is what people really need to understand and to realize is that they really need to look at sex in a much, much wider spectrum than what we currently talk about it as.” [0:27:21.6] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode Xanet Pailet — https://www.ecstaticliving.com/teachers/xanet-pailet Power of Pleasure — https://powerofpleasure.com/ Living an Orgasmic Life — https://www.amazon.com/Living-Orgasmic-Life-Yourself-Pleasure-ebook/dp/B07BWKTWVT/ OkCupid — https://www.okcupid.com/ Jack Morin — https://www.linkedin.com/in/jack-morin-ph-d-0824851a The Erotic Mind — https://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Mind-Unlocking-Sources-Fulfillment-ebook/dp/B009YJYEKK MojoUpgrade — http://mojoupgrade.com/ John Bowlby — https://www.verywellmind.com/john-bowlby-biography-1907-1990-2795514
#25 The Hard Truth About Divorce-Proofing Your Marriage with Vikki Ziegler
Welcome back to another episode of the Bad Girls Bible Podcast. Today on the show we are talking to Vikki Ziegler, a practicing attorney of matrimonial law and civil litigation. Vikki is also a television personality known for her commentaries on high-profile cases, an active volunteer for women’s and children’s charities, and the innovator of a unique and realistic approach to “divorce management.” In her career, Vikki brings together her insights as a divorce attorney along with her childhood experience of her own parents’ divorce, and years of careful listening to clients and friends to give pragmatic advice to those currently going through divorce. Vikki’s approach seeks to de-stigmatize divorce by allowing its empowering aspects to triumph and her concrete pre-marital tips help couples avoid the pitfalls that can lead to divorce. In today’s episode we are going to talk about the strategies you can use to keep your relationship solid and prevent divorce in the first place. For an incredible conversation with advice you can implement in your own life today, don’t miss out on this episode! Key Points From This Episode: Vikki’s childhood and how it shaped her life to becoming an attorney. The most unique divorce case that Vikki has had. Why divorce can sometimes be a good outcome from a bad situation. The main reasons why people get divorced. Building a strong marital foundation; get emotionally and financially naked. Importance of vulnerability and communication for building trust in relationships. How childhood wounds shape your ability to be a partner. Advice for couples who are on the brink of a breakup or divorce. Why volunteer work and helping other people is key for those going through divorce. Tweetables: “I tell everybody, marriage is just like a job. Whatever you give in, you get back.” — @vikkiziegler [0:08:54.1] “Things change and you have to have a strong marital foundation before you walk down the aisle in order to weather these storms.” — @vikkiziegler [0:10:43.8] “If you're not happy, you can't make someone else happy.” — @vikkiziegler [0:15:44.8] “99% of the time I recommend that everyone should have a prenup, because nobody knows what the future holds.” — @vikkiziegler [0:17:34.8] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: Vikki Ziegler — http://www.vikkiziegler.com Vikki on Twitter — https://twitter.com/vikkiziegler Vikki on Instagram — http://instagram.com/Vikkiziegler Vikki on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/vikki-s-ziegler-payne-1794988/ The Pre-Marital Planner — http://www.vikkiziegler.com/product/pre-marital-planner/
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Lara Stemmer

why isnt there any female imput. if you're talking about a female experience

Jan 7th
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Sonja Jensen

on podcast 4. While I'm enjoying these talks, I can't help but think how it's a bit of mansplaining. Where are the womens voices in the bad "girls" bible? It's an interesting view into men's minds, but curious who the actual intended audience is?

Dec 4th
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Sean Jameson

Sonja Jensen You're right, they do come across as quite prescriptive :/ I'm planning a bunch of future episodes with female perspectives to address this

Dec 4th
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