Nicole Sodoma joins me on the podcast this week! Nicole is a marriage-loving divorce attorney, founder of Sodoma Law, and author of "Please Don't Say You're Sorry." In this episode, Nicole shares empowering advice from her book, offering a unique perspective on gracefully navigating the challenges of divorce.  Discover the thought-provoking concepts and questions that will compel you to lift your head out of the sand, look closely at your relationships, and help guide you as you take the steps toward divorce. Our conversation covers essential topics such as preparation for divorce, understanding the work required for a successful and happy future, and the actions and steps one should take when considering divorce or separation. Tune in to gain a fresh perspective on the complexities of love and separation and learn how humor and introspection can guide you toward a brighter, more informed journey. Featured topics include: What would your partner say is the reason you want a divorce? Uncover the importance of open communication about the motivations behind this life-altering decision. (8:00) Nicole reveals why the safest place to disclose your deepest secrets is with your attorney. Plus, she offers communication tips for interacting effectively with them. (8:32) We discuss thought-provoking concepts and questions designed to help you confront the realities of your relationship. (27:53) Prepare for the unexpected: Contemplate a scenario where your spouse asks for a divorce. Are you prepared? Nicole helps us think further about the mental and emotional preparations needed to navigate this challenging situation. (33:13) Learn more about Nicole Sodoma: As a marriage-loving divorce attorney of 25 years, Nicole Sodoma has pioneered a way through the often- dreaded field of family law with integrity, compassion, and tenacity. Over the years, Nicole has risen to prominence as a national authority on divorce, custody, and co-parenting. However, Nicole never expected to go through a divorce herself. Through her professional and personal learnings, Nicole authored her first book, PLEASE DON’T SAY YOU’RE SORRY in 2022. The book is a witty, honest, and wildly relatable account of the stripped-down realities of marriage, separation, and divorce. While there’s no denying that divorce sucks, PLEASE DON’T SAY YOUR’E SORRY serves as a reminder that although the journey can be wholly overwhelming and emotionally exhausting - it also doesn’t have to be the worst thing that’s ever happened to you. Nicole's new PLEASE DON’T SAY YOU’RE SORRY Workbook is the perfect companion to the book or audiobook, featuring thought-provoking questions, inspirational quotes and must-have relationship worksheets, perfect for anyone navigating marriage, separation or divorce. Resources & Links: Pre-order Kate’s book “The D Word” Nicole’s websitePlease Don’t Say You’re Sorry Book and Workbook Nicole on LinkedIn Nicole on Instagram Nicole on Facebook Episode Link: http://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-243-preparing-for-divorce-with-nicole-sodoma/ TODAY’S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM   An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all.  In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you’ll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go?   DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

I have another solo episode for you this week and maybe a new series. Who knows. As we head into the holiday season, I’m diving into three essential topics—not putting your kids in the middle, creating new holiday traditions, and the concept of “the shifting of primary.”  Tune in to hear me explore the challenges of co-parenting during the holidays and how to avoid inadvertently putting your children in the middle. I also offer a different perspective on establishing traditions after divorce. I provide a creative (and inclusive) approach to deciding new traditions, making the process enjoyable for everyone, especially your kids. Finally, I share insights on the "shifting of primary" concept and how intentional space creation for new relationships is crucial.  This episode helps you navigate these aspects of divorce and co-parenting during the holidays and beyond.  Resources & Links: Pre-order Kate’s book “The D Word” and Grab Your Bonuses!Private Coaching with Kate  Grit & GraceKate's Facebook Group Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-242-kate-unfiltered-important-topics-random-thoughts/   Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you’ll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I’ll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what’s ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

November is Family Court Awareness Month. My friend and colleague, Tina Swithin, has dedicated the month of November to educating people about the family court system: how corrupt it can be, how unfair it is, and how uneducated most people in the family law system are about domestic violence. Tina was a guest on my podcast a few years back to share the truths about the family court system. If you fear you may end up in the family court system, you must listen to this episode. It will help you understand what family court is designed to do and enable you to prepare yourself to battle within the court system, which is not designed to protect you.  Listen to hear (or re-hear) this incredible conversation about family court awareness.    Featured topics include: Family Court Awareness Month is an opportunity for survivors to raise awareness at a community level.  The family court system is abusive. How we can come together to increase awareness.  The disconnect between family court and other judicial systems. There is no regulation or checks and balances. Very few states have required trauma-informed or domestic violence training for family court judges.  We examine how judges become appointed family law judges.  What you can expect when advocating for yourself in the family court system.  Learn more about Tina Swithin: Tina Swithin survived a “Category Five Divorce Hurricane” while acting as her own attorney in a high-conflict custody battle that turned her family’s life upside down for over a decade.  Known for her internationally recognized blog, “One Mom’s Battle” and her book series, “Divorcing a Narcissist,” Tina helps survivors to navigate the family court system against narcissists and other toxic individuals. In 2020, Tina launched two major projects: The High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program and a nationwide campaign, Family Court Awareness Month.   The mission at Family Court Awareness Month is to raise awareness and shine a spotlight on one of the most important branches of our judicial system; the family court system. The very system that was established to govern family law cases and make decisions that are “in the best interest” of children, has some undeniable shortcomings that warrant conversations, solutions and ultimately, change.   The mission at Family Court Awareness Month is fueled by the desire for a family court system that is trauma-informed and educated on domestic violence, coercive control and post separation abuse. To truly act in the best interest of children, our family court system needs to incorporate empirical data and research into their decisions and rulings.  Resources & Links: Links and information may also be found at: kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-241-family-court-awareness-month-with-tina-swithin/ Pre-order Kate’s book “The D Word” and Grab Your Bonuses!Domestic Violence Training: Bridging the Gap in Divorce Law with Kate Anthony on The Divorce and Beyond Podcast #318 Family Court AwarenessOne Mom’s BattleTina on FacebookTina on InstagramTina on LinkedIn TODAY’S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Proof. Protection. Peace of Mind. The Soberlink remote alcohol monitoring system comprises a portable breathalyzer with wireless technology for real-time results. With proven use as the leading choice in child custody cases since 2011, we are the only system that combines: Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Trust the Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to support the best interests of the child in your Family Law cases. DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Solo episode alert!  This is more than any regular solo episode, though, because today I’m super excited to share a chapter from my upcoming book, The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage. The book comes out on December 26th, but in this episode, you’re getting a sneak peek as I read Chapter 3, “Why Are Women so Unhappy in Their Marriages? How Marriage Exhausts Women and Benefits Men.”   This chapter explores how systemic issues and inequalities play a significant role in marriage. The unequal distribution of responsibilities, including domestic labor, emotional labor, and the "mental load," places a substantial burden on women within these partnerships.  No wonder women are exhausted! Also, in this chapter (and episode), I explore one of my favorite topics, Not Your Fucking Job™.  For example, it is not your fucking job to tell a grown-ass human being that the laundry needs to be done or that dinner needs to be made, or that the kids need a bath, or that you're out of toothpaste.  I hope you enjoy this special episode and Chapter Three of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage. There’s so much information that I am passionate about and want you to have, and I’ve tried to cover it all in this book. The D Word is dedicated to my son, but it is also dedicated to women everywhere. It's dedicated to you because you, my love, deserve to be happy.  Resources & Links: Pre-order Kate’s book “The D Word” Information and resources may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-240-introducing-the-d-word-making-the-ultimate-decision-about-your-marriage/   DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Today, we are tackling the daunting barriers that often prevent people from taking the first steps in the divorce process. Heather MacKenzie, President and Chief Content Officer of Hello Divorce joins me for a conversation about the complexities of divorce, including the paperwork, timelines, and policies that vary from state to state. This episode equips you with the knowledge and courage to embrace divorce as an opportunity for personal growth, preparing you to emerge from the process lighter and ready to start a new, fulfilling chapter in your life.  Featured topics include: Navigating divorce paperwork, timelines, and legal protocols in divorce (5:51) Commonalities and roadblocks in divorce procedures across states (6:15) When skipping financial disclosures becomes a consideration (7:14) The empowering role of a certified divorce financial analyst (CDFA) in your divorce journey (11:38) Busting the myth: lawyers and their expertise in financial matters (16:15) Embracing the duration: recognizing that divorce is a journey, not a sprint (20:42) Transitioning from an entitlement mindset to clarity about personal desires (22:37) Serving your spouse with a divorce petition (25:46) Leveraging the marital settlement agreement as a valuable resolution tool (35:01) Learn more about Heather MacKenzie: Heather joined Hello Divorce two months into a planned year-long vacation from the start-up world because she was convinced that the legal world is one of the only things left that truly needed disrupting. Since her expertise (obsession) is making complex, frustrating processes easier – and even enjoyable – for consumers, Heather has taken the lead of the product, customer service, marketing, and content teams to not only cover every touch point consumers have with the company but to create true economies of scale. At Hello Divorce, Heather relentlessly pursues the goal of gaining and keeping consumer trust. In her first year alone, she led the complete digital transformation of the site, implemented scale through technology and systems across teams, added new products and services that extended the company’s reach, and transformed the approach of not only the legal product but the huge amount of consumer content Hello Divorce provides to users. Heather holds a B.A. in History and American Studies from the University of Notre Dame and a M.S. in Digital Media from Northwestern University. In 2017, she was chosen to be a member of the prestigious Council of 100 for executive leadership at Northwestern, where she helps with the philanthropy of the school through mentorship and growth for future women leaders.  Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-239-overcoming-barriers-to-divorce-with-heather-mackenzie-of-hello-divorce/ Pre-order Kate’s book “The D Word” Hello DivorceHello Divorce on Instagram Listeners, get $25 off software to generate a Marital Settlement Agreement (regular cost $100) - Use code SURVIVE25 when checking out.  Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you’ll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I’ll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what’s ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Today, we delve into the world of Point C Divorce. For well-intentioned parents caught in the complexities of family conflicts, Larry and Joni have devised Point C Divorce as a solution. Their goal is clear: to minimize the effects of fiercely contested divorce battles on children, placing kids at the heart of every divorce. Following his tenure on the Superior Court bench in New Jersey, Larry transitioned from public service to academia. He now teaches at two universities and actively participates in mediation and alternative dispute resolution. Joni holds board certification in psychiatric and mental health nursing and is a certified expert in anger management.  Featured topics include: Larry and Joni provide the origins and principles behind Point C Divorce. (3:44) How to protect your children when one spouse manipulates the legal system during divorce and continues to abuse you and your children. (8:18) The concept of heartfelt forgiveness and how it differs from conventional forgiveness. (16:19) Drawing from his extensive experience as a family court judge, Larry shares that children overwhelmingly desire two critical things during their parents’ divorce. (19:33) The long-lasting impacts on children placed in the middle of a contentious divorce. (29:04) We explore the complexities of co-parenting, one of the most intricate relationships one can experience. (40:20) Learn more about Larry and Joni Jones: Larry and Joni are a caring and dynamic couple who have dedicated their lives and professional outreach to helping families navigate the oft-times difficult journey through mental health issues, special needs and family law. After serving on the Superior Court bench in New Jersey, Larry retired from public service, began teaching at two Universities, and became significantly involved in mediation and alternative dispute resolution. Joni is board certified in psychiatric and mental health nursing, and is a certified anger management specialist. She is also a mediator as well. Larry and Joni actively advocate on a variety of issues including, autism and special needs, co-parenting, cultural competency, domestic violence/ IPV issues, and animal-related legal issues. They have recently relocated to New Mexico and are involved in a multitude of online social education projects. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-238-point-c-divorce-with-larry-and-joni-jones/ Pre-order Kate’s book “The D Word”Grit and Grace The Divorce Coalition The Divorce Coalition on Instagram Watch the Point C Divorce Video and visit the website Point C Divorce on FacebookPoint C Divorce on Instagram Point C Divorce on YouTube TODAY’S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Proof. Protection. Peace of Mind. The Soberlink remote alcohol monitoring system comprises a portable breathalyzer with wireless technology for real-time results. With proven use as the leading choice in child custody cases since 2011, we are the only system that combines: Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Trust the Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to support the best interests of the child in your Family Law cases. DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

This week, Patti Handy joins me on the podcast to discuss financial management after divorce and ways to regain financial stability. Patti is a Financial Coach for Women with over 20 years of experience as a Financial Advisor and Mortgage Advisor. Her journey into financial coaching was born out of a passion for teaching and empowering women with money smarts. In this episode, Patti shares practical strategies for paying off debt, the key differences between creating a budget and utilizing a spending tracker, and advice for women navigating the complexities of financing a divorce without accumulating excessive debt. Patti also outlines three essential steps when managing finances post-divorce and guidance on where to begin investing.   Featured topics include: Recommendations for paying off debt (8:12) Creating a budget versus a spending tracker (10:40) Advice for women walking the line between financing divorce and piling on debt (13:13) Three steps divorced women should take when it comes to their money (19:49) When it comes to investing, where should someone start? (26:51) Ideas and inspiration to create your side job to help with finances (39:34) Learn more about Patti Handy: After spending a combined 20 years as a Financial Advisor and Mortgage Advisor, and having countless conversations with women, I decided to pursue my dream of Financial Coaching for Women. I'm a teacher at heart and I love to educate and empower women with money smarts! Understanding that money can be an overwhelming topic for many, I'm audaciously passionate about creating financial confidence when it comes to your well-being. This has been the catalyst to follow my passion of empowering and educating women in their financial journey. I am a Certified Executive Coach, Certified Life Coach, hold a Real Estate Brokers license and published author of four books. Full disclosure, I'm a self-proclaimed chocoholic, I love to read, and the beach is my happy place. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-237-from-divorce-to-debt-freedom-with-patti-handy/ Pre-order Kate’s book “The D Word” The Divorce Coalition The Divorce Coalition on Instagram Patti’s websitePatti on Facebook Patti on LinkedIn Patti on Instagram TODAY’S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM   An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all.  In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you’ll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go?   DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Dr. Alexandra Solomon returns to the podcast this week to discuss her new book, Love Every Day. Part of the book's premise is that love needs to be a daily practice. Dr. Solomon shares her insights and wisdom about how to show up for the relationships in your life.   Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, Ph.D., is internationally recognized as today's most trusted relationship voice. Her Relational Self-Awareness framework has reached millions of people around the globe. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon, hosts the podcast REIMAGINING LOVE and has a new book, LOVE EVERY DAY, on sale this October.  Featured topics include: Why love needs to be a daily practice (5:17) Relational Self-Awareness (RSA) is the key to a healthy relationship (9:31) How to approach relationship and sexual challenges as a team (27:15) How cultural context and identity shape our relationships (36:52) Dr. Solomon answers, “Why is dating so challenging right now?” (47:32) Learn more about Dr. Alexandra Solomon: Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, Ph.D., is internationally recognized as one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the globe. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is a clinician educator and a frequent contributor to academic journals, and she translates her academic and therapeutic experience to the public through her popular Instagram page, which has garnered over 200K followers. She is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, reaches tens of thousands of listeners across the globe each week and features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of two books: Taking Sexy Back and Loving Bravely, which was featured on the TODAY show. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: http://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-236-love-every-day-with-dr-alexandra-solomon/ The Divorce CoalitionThe Divorce Coalition on InstagramDr. Alexandra Solomon’s website Dr. Alexandra Solomon on Instagram Dr. Alexandra Solomon on Facebook Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you’ll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I’ll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what’s ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Wendy Sloane joins me to discuss the importance of slowing down the divorce process. Yes, once we’ve decided to leave and let our decision be known, it’s easy to fall into the “let’s hurry up and get this done” phase.  In this conversation, Wendy and I discuss why taking your time, researching, and finding the right lawyer is the best first step forward. This episode is slightly different than most - we cover many important topics and share some of our personal experiences through divorce. Wendy honed her easy and authentic interview style, producing iconic, groundbreaking TV shows, including The Phil Donahue Show and The Geraldo Rivera Show. She covered some of the biggest news stories of our time, including the O.J. Simpson and JonBenet Ramsey murders. She uses that experience as the Host of two popular podcasts, What’s Up with Wendy and Divorce Doesn’t Suck.   Featured topics include: Know your state's divorce laws, do your research, and find the right attorney for your divorce. (4:50) Why rushing through a divorce is one of the biggest mistakes one can make. (11:37) It’s okay to want more than just existing in a marriage. (14:18) Find your people to help support you during your divorce journey, and be strategic about who those people are. (20:01) Use tools and resources to help you block out the noise. (34:52) Some ways to practice self-care and why you shouldn’t feel guilty about it. (36:59) Learn more about Wendy Sloane: Wendy Lowy Sloane honed her easy and authentic interview style, producing iconic, groundbreaking TV shows, including The Phil Donahue Show and The Geraldo Rivera Show. She covered some of the biggest news stories of our time, including the O.J. Simpson and JonBenet Ramsey murders. She uses that experience as the Host of two popular podcasts, What’s Up with Wendy and Divorce Doesn’t Suck. What's Up with Wendy is a talk series that features conversations you want to hear with A-List Celebrities, Newsmakers, Comedians, CEOs, Musicians, and Fitness & Nutrition Experts, including Dennis Quaid, Angela Bassett, Tony Danza, Billy Bob Thornton, Barbara Corcoran, Gabrielle Union, Kristen Chenoweth, JoJo Fletcher, Ayesha Curry, Melissa Etheridge, and Eric Stonestreet—as well as the country’s most popular authors, athletes, psychic mediums, and more. Divorce Doesn’t Suck is a different kind of divorce podcast. Wendy and her guests explore every aspect of divorce, including kids, finances, dating, sex, starting over, and more. They talk about the rich, rewarding, and happy life that’s possible after divorce, and they share their personal stories, their challenges, and their successes. Divorce Doesn’t Suck focuses on new perspectives and how to move forward and focus on the future—how to restart with a new blank canvas. Wendy connects with her guests on a genuine and personal level. Her refreshing and engaging interviews make listeners feel like they’re part of the conversation and keep her guests coming back. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-235-a-slowed-down-and-strategic-approach-to-divorce-with-wendy-sloane/ Pre-order Kate’s book “The D Word”Divorce Doesn’t Suck Wendy on Instagram OurFamilyWizard app TODAY’S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM   An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all.  In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you’ll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go?   DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Michelle Mays, author of The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst, joins me for an in-depth conversation about healing from betrayal. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She is also the founder of the Center for Relational Recovery in Northern Virginia, outside of DC. “Divorce is common, and cheating is common. Because they are common,  it doesn’t mean they’re not tremendously significant and have enormous ramifications for our mental and physical health,” says Michelle. During our conversation, we discuss the importance of understanding what happened, explore betrayal through the lens of attachment systems, and unravel what happens to us when we experience this enormous injury.   Featured topics include: A new attachment-based model for understanding the impacts of cheating in relationships (8:58) Some of the binds in relationships that we can get stuck in including the shame bind and relational binds (12:01) What gets in the way of leaving when we want or know we need to leave (35:43) Healing and repairing relationships: what it means to stay, and what it takes to repair the fractures betrayal has caused (45:02) The difference between rebuilding emotional connection and rebuilding sexual connection (50:21) Learn more about Michelle Mays: Michelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She's also the author of the new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst. Michelle has created The Braving Hope™ Treatment Model to address the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Supervisor in Virginia and Washington DC, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor. She was trained by Pia Mellody in the Post Induction Therapy model for treating developmental trauma and is currently completing her PhD in Clinical Sexology and certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at:  https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-234-healing-from-relationship-betrayal-with-michelle-mays/ Pre-order Kate’s book “The D Word” Michelle’s websiteMichelle’s book, The Betrayal Bind Michelle on FacebookMichelle on InstagramMichelle on YouTube Facing Codependence, Pia Mellody Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you’ll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I’ll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what’s ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Dr. Amelia Kelley is back! You may remember her from the popular episode about being a highly sensitive person (HSP), strategies for self-care, and how being an HSP can affect relationships. This time, we are talking about healing from gaslighting. In fact, Dr. Kelley has a new book/workbook called, “Gaslighting Recovery for Women.”  She shares some of the book’s insights in this episode.   We talk about how to recover from gaslighting, including the importance of understanding it, and then, later, some steps toward healing. Dr. Kelley’s passion is to equip women who have experienced gaslighting to understand what happened to them, how to protect themselves from potential gaslighting in the future, and how to understand the nuances between medical, relational, societal, and family gaslighting. Featured topics include: Gaslighting: what it is, what it isn’t, and where/how it shows up (8:13) The act of lying is not gaslighting (11:27)  Tactics of gaslighting used by abusers (14:09) The seven stages of gaslighting (21:56) How gaslighting affects women, specifically (36:11) How do you get out of a relationship where gaslighting is occurring? (40:13) Beginning to heal: It is a time to be inquisitive, not a time to blame or shame yourself and enhance your relationship with Self (56:13) Learn more about Dr. Amelia Kelly: Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist who has conducted research on the effects of exercise on adult ADHD symptoms as well as the effects of resiliency on PTSD. She is a trained Hypno-therapist, Art therapist, HSP Therapist, EMDR-informed therapist, meditation teacher, as well as a Certified Yoga instructor integrating therapeutic yoga and psychotherapy. She is a trainer, podcaster and writer in the “science-help” field focusing on; women's issues, empowering survivors of abuse and relationship trauma, Highly Sensitive Persons, motivation, healthy living, and adult ADHD.  Dr. Kelley is an adjunct counseling professor at Yorkville University as well as a nationally recognized relationship expert featured on XM Radio’s Doctor Channel on The Psychiatry Show. She is a coach and trainer for SAS’s Work/Life Program in Cary, NC and a resident trainer for the NC Art Therapy Institute. Her private practice is currently part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute. She is a co-author of What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship and a contributing author for the Highly Sensitive Refuge. You can find out more about her work at her website www.ameliakelley.com or by following her on Instagram @drameliakelley. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-233-gaslighting-recovery-for-women-with-dr-amelia-kelley Pre-order Kate’s book “The D Word” Should I Stay or Should I GoGrit and GracePrivate Coaching with KateDr. Kelley’s websiteGaslighting Recovery for WomenDr Kelley’s Insight TimerDr. Kelley on Instagram What My Bones Know, Stephanie FooCoDA TODAY’S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Proof. Protection. Peace of Mind. The Soberlink remote alcohol monitoring system comprises a portable breathalyzer with wireless technology for real-time results. With proven use as the leading choice in child custody cases since 2011, we are the only system that combines: Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Trust the Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to support the best interests of the child in your Family Law cases. DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Vanessa Bennett returns to the show this week! A highly regarded licensed holistic psychotherapist, clinical entrepreneur, mental health content creator, and the author of the best-selling relationship book, "It's Not Me, It's You," Vanessa brings a wealth of expertise. Her unique perspective on fostering healthy relationships and navigating codependency provides valuable insights.  In this episode, Vanessa and I delve into the intricacies of codependency and its impact on relationships and self-identity. Vanessa guides us in understanding the concept of codependence and sheds light on how it influences our behaviors and choices. Vanessa's profound wisdom on this subject promises to be enlightening and transformative, making this episode a must-listen for anyone seeking to improve their mental and emotional well-being.  Featured topics: You can’t talk about the individual without talking about the collective: Codependency, patriarchy, and white supremacy are intertwined—and should all be talked about within the realm of mental health (6:46) How codependency manifests in relationships (11:25) What to do to reclaim your sense of self (16:28) Evaluating (all) relationships is normal—if it no longer works for you, that’s okay! (22:45) Can you ever eradicate codependency in your life? (24:01) Micromoments and self-identity: ”Whenever you do the hard thing, you are laying a brick on the foundation of the sense of Self.” (34:27) How mindful practices can help you sit with your emotions and recover from codependency (37:13) Learn more about Vanessa Bennett: After over a decade of grinding in the New York City corporate world, Vanessa Bennett realized her work, her relationships, and honestly, her life felt…off. She didn’t see it at first, but her path was finding her — and the journey she started to help herself ended up being her path to helping others. Cue the montage of her moving across the country, having a few breakdowns, heartbreaks, setbacks, taking hundreds of hours of trainings and workshops in yoga, yoga therapy, nutrition, somatic therapy, and reading lots and lots of books. Oh yeah, all while becoming a licensed therapist. It turns out that this passion paired well with her unique background in telling stories through marketing and corporate strategy, a longtime practice of meditation and yoga, and the fact that she’s a New Yorker who cuts to the point. Today, Vanessa lives in Los Angeles and puts all of this to work as an Author, Licensed Holistic Psychotherapist, clinical entrepreneur and mental health content creator. She co-hosts the Cheaper Than Therapy Podcast, leads soul based retreats and workshops, and creates and facilitates curriculum for non-profit and corporate trainings, events, and conferences. Resources & Links: Links and information may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-232-breaking-free-from-codependency-with-vanessa-bennett Pre-order Kate’s book “The D Word”  Vanessa’s websiteVanessa on InstagramVanessa on TikTok ============================================================== Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you’ll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I’ll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what’s ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE ============================================================== DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

This week, I am doing something on the podcast I don’t normally do—featuring a story of someone within my community.  My guest, L, joins me for a conversation about how her ex-husband contested their custody agreement after he learned of L’s postings of adult content online. The case and the subsequent judgment ended up being a huge step for women and women's sexual liberation in divorce.  Along with her attorney, Jonathan, L discusses why it may have been easier to concede and take down the explicit online content, yet chose to fight the allegations (and ensuing custody battle) instead. Plus, Jonathan explains how this case can be used as legal precedent for future cases.  L, who is using an alias for this podcast, is a long-time member of the Should I Stay or Should I Go Facebook group and worked through my program while going through her divorce in 2021. She’s a successful career executive, mom to a 7-year-old daughter, and an advocate for sexual freedom, having been a member of her local BDSM and kink communities for two years. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-231-the-legal-battle-for-womens-sexual-freedom/ Pre-order Kate’s book “The D Word”  National Coalition for Sexual FreedomJD Lane LawRedacted Judge Ruling from L’s custody modification case TODAY’S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM   An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all.  In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you’ll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go?   DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Your relationship with money is important to know and understand. Yet, most of us were not taught how to be in relationship with money. Throw in divorce, financial trauma, or abuse, and how do you begin again? My guest, Bari Tessler, teaches how to have a healthy, safe, savvy, and creative relationship with money.  In this episode she offers her unique perspective on restarting your financial journey following divorce or any life change.  Bari Tessler, M.A. is a Financial Therapist and Founder of The Art of Money, a year-long money school and a Mentor program for therapists, coaches, and financial professionals. Bari trained as a Somatic Therapist and received her Masters degree from Naropa University in 1998. She then ran a bookkeeping business for therapists and artists. In 2001, she merged all her training and created a somatic-based Financial Therapy methodology that she has been teaching for 20+ years. Featured topics include: What is a financial therapist (5:35) We all make money mistakes, and we must be kind and gentle to ourselves when we do. There are a few things we are doing well and we need to claim for ourselves. (14:15)  How to feel more grounded and at ease when making decisions around money, such as body and emotions check-ins (18:42) How our money stories are formed (42:05) Rebuilding your relationship with money after financial trauma or abuse (43:20) Why it is important to find a financial professional of whom you feel safe (44:40) Learn more about Bari Tessler: Bari Tessler, M.A. is a Financial Therapist and Founder of The Art of Money, a year-long money school and a Mentor program for therapists, coaches and financial professionals. Bari trained as a Somatic Therapist and received her Masters degree from Naropa University in 1998. She then ran a bookkeeping business for therapists and artists. In 2001, she merged all her training and created a somatic-based Financial Therapy methodology that she has been teaching for 20+ years. Bari is the Author of The Art of Money: A Life-Changing Guide to Financial Happiness and The Art of Money Workbook. Her work has been featured on Oprah.com, Inc.com, US News & World Report, Reuters Money, The Fiscal Times, USA Today, The Cut, Girlboss, Nerd Wallet, Real Simple, MindBodyGreen, and REDBOOK. She has also been featured on the cover of Experience Life and Mindful. Bari loves to read, dance and enjoy dark chocolate. She lives in Boulder, CO with her husband, son, many cats + a big puppy. You can find her here: baritessler.com Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-230-the-art-of-money-with-bari-tessler Pre-order Kate’s book “The D Word”  Bari’s websiteBari’s booksBari on Instagram Bari on Facebook Bari on LinkedIn ============================================================== DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

I am incredibly honored to be joined by Dr. Emma Katz this week on the podcast. Dr. Katz is a world-leading expert on coercive control. She is the author of Coercive Control in Children’s and Mothers’ Lives. She is an award-winning expert in domestic abuse and coercive control whose work has influenced policy and professional practice in the UK and globally. During our conversation, we discuss how to know if you are a victim of coercive control, the common forms of post-separation abuse, and understanding the orange, red, and green flag behaviors in relationships.  Dr. Emma Katz is an amazing source of information on coercive control. Our conversation aims to help you break free from coercive control, establish a realistic lens of what is happening, and plan how to move forward. Featured topics include: What we mean when we talk about coercive control (4:14) How to know if you are being coercively controlled (6:46) Why Dr. Katz says coercive control is a global health crisis (8:49) Coercive control can happen to anyone, and women are often disproportionately the victims/survivors of it (17:46) The orange/red/green flag behaviors of relationships (27:26) “The person you fell in love with was not real. The sooner you come to understand that, the better. You can then begin to take back your power.” (33:28) The five most common forms of post-separation abuse (46:59) The difficulties of criminalization of coercive control (50:28) Learn more about Dr. Emma Katz Dr. Emma Katz is Associate Professor at Durham University. She is an award-winning expert in domestic abuse and coercive control whose work has influenced policy and professional practice in the UK and globally. Dr. Katz’s book, Coercive Control in Children’s and Mothers’ Lives (published in 2022 by Oxford University Press), is described by Professor Evan Stark as a ‘pioneering work that will change how we understand and respond to children’s experience of domestic abuse.’ Follow Dr. Katz on Substack to receive her popular blog Decoding Coercive Control with Dr. Emma Katz. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-229-understanding-coercive-control-with-dr-emma-katz/ Pre-order Kate’s book “The D Word”  Dr. Katz’s website Dr. Katz’s Substack “Decoding Coercive Control” Dr. Katz on Instagram Dr. Katz on LinkedInDr. Katz on FacebookDr. Katz on YouTube Dr. Katz’s Research Publications TODAY’S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Proof. Protection. Peace of Mind. The Soberlink remote alcohol monitoring system comprises a portable breathalyzer with wireless technology for real-time results. With proven use as the leading choice in child custody cases since 2011, we are the only system that combines: Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Trust the Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to support the best interests of the child in your Family Law cases. DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

In today's episode, I'm thrilled to introduce Grant Wyeth, a talented writer based in Melbourne and occasionally Sweden. He joined me to discuss the intricacies of family court and share his knowledge about parental alienation. Grant wears many hats – he's a columnist for the prestigious Asia Pacific Affairs publication, The Diplomat, an editor at Asia Pacific Development, Diplomacy, and Defense Dialogue, and the creator of the Substack newsletter, International Blue. While Grant's main focus has been on foreign affairs, in recent years, he's taken a deep dive into a different subject – the behavior of family courts. One particular Substack piece Grant wrote caught my attention. He delved into the complex issue of parental alienation within the family court system. Grant shares his research, experiences, and thoughts on these important issues in this episode.   Featured topics include: How family court systems are failing to address abuse (4:17)  The global significance of child custody cases and violence against women and its reflection on societal health (6:36) The history of parental alienation (14:18) Family court judges often lack training in recognizing signs of domestic violence, which leads to dangerous rulings (22:56) Abusers use institutions like courts, mediation, and social services as weapons to maintain control (33:43) The danger and harm of reunification camps (27:09) We discuss the father's rights movement and gender bias (45:35) Debunking parental alienation (46:46) Learn more about Grant Wyeth: Grant Wyeth is a Melbourne (and occasionally Sweden) based writer. He is currently a columnist for the Asia-Pacific affairs publication The Diplomat, is an editor at Asia-Pacific Development, Diplomacy and Defence Dialogue, and writes the Substack newsletter International Blue. Although his work primarily focuses on issues of foreign affairs, over the past few years he has taken a keen interest in the behaviour of family courts and has written extensively on these issues, as well as spoken at a number of public forums.   Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-228-exposing-parental-alienation-in-family-courts-with-grant-wyeth Grant’s Substack newsletter International Blue. Grant on Twitter Grant’s Substack article: The Best Interests Of The Abuser ============================================================== DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. TODAY’S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM   An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all.  In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you’ll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go?   DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

I have yet to see an online divorce platform that is as in-depth as the award-winning platform Hello Divorce. Founder, attorney, and CEO, Erin Levine, joins me in a conversation about revolutionizing the broken divorce system and how Hello Divorce helps couples divorce in a way that feels fair, reduces conflict, and facilitates peace.   Erin’s mission is to help separating couples empower a better life ahead, and she has helped thousands of Americans reorganize their lives and families through a framework that levels the playing field between spouses so they can sort things out fairly, avoid missteps, and reimagine their next (best) chapter.    Featured topics include: The state of divorce in the media and the world today (3:13) How to invite the person you are divorcing to utilize a platform such as Hello Divorce (7:36) Even if your divorce does not go how you planned, so much of what matters is how you feel during it (14:40) Things to not forget in your settlement and post-divorce checklists (28:06) Divorce should always empower a better life ahead (34:39) Learn more about Erin Levine: Erin Levine is not your typical attorney. With over a decade of experience in litigating complex family matters, she saw the need for a kinder, easier and more affordable pathway out of marriage and into the next chapter of life. To achieve this, Erin set out to revolutionize the broken divorce system and founded Hello Divorce, a venture capital backed, tech-enabled platform, that combines self-service online tools with integrated expert advice, making it easier for everyone to navigate their lives and finances with less stress and mess.  Erin’s innovative approach to the divorce process has earned her media mentions from the legal industry and beyond, with recent features in Vice, Forbes, American Bar Association Journal, Business Insider and TechCrunch. Ultimately, Erin is on a mission to help separating couples empower a better life ahead and has helped thousands of Americans reorganize their lives and families through a framework that levels the playing field between spouses so they can sort things out fairly, avoid missteps and reimagine their next (best) chapter.   Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-227-hello-divorce-redefining-the-divorce-process-with-erin-levine/ Hello Divorce Hello Divorce’s Equity Split Calculator Hello Divorce on InstagramErin on Instagram Hello Divorce on Facebook   Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you’ll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I’ll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what’s ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Every so often, I meet someone in my field with whom I hit it off amazingly. This week’s guest, Tony Overbay, is an example of when that happens. Tony joins me to discuss emotional immaturity, narcissism, and raising your emotional baseline.  Tony is a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified mindful habit coach, writer, speaker, husband, father of 4, and Host of the award-winning podcast “The Virtual Couch” and another chart-topping podcast “Waking up To Narcissism.” He has spoken to audiences worldwide about marriage, parenting, navigating a faith crisis, anxiety, depression, ADHD, narcissism, and emotional immaturity.  I am certain this conversation is just the first of many. I hope you enjoy this week’s episode!  Featured topics include: The difference between emotional immaturity and narcissism (2:48) A framework to help someone with emotional immaturity or narcissistic traits (20:35) Your emotional baseline: When your baseline of emotions is low, you can't reach the tools you need to interact with the world, so raising your emotional baseline could help you get traction to use the tools you’ve learned (34:05) Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) (44:23) Learn more about Tony Overbay: Tony Overbay is a licensed marriage and family therapist, speaker, author, and podcast host. Tony spent ten years working in the software industry before returning to school in his early 30s to get his master's in counseling, and he has been working as a therapist for the past 18 years. Tony’s first book, “He’s A Porn Addict, Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions,” has been a best-seller in the Sexual Health and Recovery category since its December 2019 debut. Tony recently released the “Magnetic Marriage” couples communication course and is the creator of The Path Back, an online pornography recovery program that has helped hundreds of individuals turn away from using pornography as a coping mechanism. Tony released the award-winning “The Virtual Couch” podcast in August of 2017, and he has over 350 episodes and 5 million downloads and counting. Tony launched “Waking Up to Narcissism” in October of 2021, and it has regularly found its way into the top 50 podcasts in the “Mental Health” category on the Apple Podcast charts. Tony’s latest podcast venture is an enhanced audio podcast of his best-selling book “He’s a Porn Addict,” with his co-author, Joshua Shea, joining him as co-host.   Tony has spoken to audiences worldwide on topics ranging from marriage, parenting, navigating a faith crisis, anxiety, depression, ADHD, narcissism, and emotional immaturity. Tony has testified in several court cases on narcissism. He is currently working on two books, one on his “Emotional Baseline” theory and one on navigating a relationship with a narcissist/emotionally immature person in one's life.  Tony has been married to his high school sweetheart for 32 years, and he has four adult children, ages 18, 20, 22, and 24. Tony is an avid runner, and he has completed over 150 marathons and ultramarathons, including over a dozen races of 100 miles or more. You can find out more about Tony at http://tonyoverbay.com.   Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-226-emotional-immaturity-vs-narcissism-with-tony-overbay/ Tony’s websiteLinks to connect with Tony ============================================================== DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.  

The divorce experience isn’t a cookie-cutter one for everyone. Sure, the process might look the same, but economics, culture, and race can impact how different people experience divorce. Kimberly Cook’s Grown Girl Divorce platform seeks to educate and empower Black women through divorce, as their divorce experience can be very specific and different from that of white women. I am pleased to welcome Kimberly as a guest on the podcast this week! During our conversation, Kimberly helps highlight Black women's experiences and challenges during divorce. Kimberly A. Cook, Esq. is a divorce attorney, mediator, and founder of Grown Girl Divorce, LLC, a divorce resource company. She is known for successfully negotiating complex financial and custody matters while helping her clients navigate their next steps forward. Featured topics include: Why and when Kimberly created Grown Girl Divorce (4:47) Kimberly helps unpack divorce rate (41%) and marriage rate (17%) stats for Black women (13:20) How come staying in a marriage “for your children” isn’t good for them (22:03) There is strength in community, and being a part of a community reminds you that you are not alone in both challenging and great times (41:49) The ploy of creating a “unified front” in co-parenting and divorce (46:11) Learn more about Kimberly A. Cook, Esq.: Kimberly A. Cook, Esq. is a divorce attorney, Mediator, and founder of Grown Girl Divorce, LLC, a divorce resource company. She is known for successfully negotiating complex financial and custody matters while helping her clients navigate their next steps forward.  Kimberly’s expertise and her unique ability to disseminate complex information in a relatable way has made her a sought-after divorce coach, speaker, and podcaster. She truly believes that everyone deserves to be in healthy and happy relationships and is on a mission to educate and empower others to make that happen.   Kimberly earned her B.A. from Spelman College and her law degree from The Catholic University of America. She is a Fellow of the Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, the country’s premier organization for family law practitioners, and an active member of American Bar Association, Jack and Jill of America, Inc., Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, and the Economic Club of Chicago. Kimberly also serves on several boards including, The Lilac Tree, the DePaul Schiller DuCanto & Fleck Family Law Center, and Old St. Mary’s Catholic School.   She has been featured in various publications including, The Chicago Daily Law Bulletin, Chicago Lawyer Magazine, Crain’s Chicago, Black Enterprise, Thrive Global, and Business Insider. In recognition of her hard work and dedication to the practice, Kimberly is the recipient of several notable awards including Crain’s Chicago Notable Minorities in Law,    Super Lawyers, and Best Lawyers In America. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-225-grown-girl-divorce-empowering-black-women-through-divorce-with-kimberly-a-cook-esq Download The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Curated Podcast Playlist Kimberly’s websiteKimberly on InstagramGrown Girl Divorce Podcast TODAY’S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Proof. Protection. Peace of Mind. The Soberlink remote alcohol monitoring system comprises a portable breathalyzer with wireless technology for real-time results. With proven use as the leading choice in child custody cases since 2011, we are the only system that combines: Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Trust the Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to support the best interests of the child in your Family Law cases. DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

My good friend and colleague, Michelle Dempsey-Multack, returns for a conversation about the challenges with divorce litigation and the best interest of children, co-parenting do’s and don’ts, and raising a healthy child post-divorce. Michelle's unique perspective on divorce and co-parenting has helped thousands of women find the permission to move on confidently after divorce and move towards a more intentional and holistic co-parenting experience, and she brings all the wisdom to this episode. Michelle Dempsey-Multack, MS, CDS is a Certified Divorce and Co-Parenting Specialist, bestselling author, educator for divorce coaches and top 1% podcaster known for her ability to inspire and empower moms through their divorce and co-parenting journeys. Featured topics include: The issues with “in the best interest of the children” in divorce litigation (2:41) Why it is important to know how to determine what is in the best interest of the children (7:13) When equal shared parenting isn’t something to jump right into, instead, take a step-up approach to shared parenting (8:39)  Addressing abuse in divorce—including spousal abuse, post-separation abuse, and abuse perpetrated by the courts (14:06) The impact of talking negatively about the other co-parent to your children (18:46) Age-appropriate truth in co-parenting is healthy (23:15) Some co-parenting do’s and don’ts to follow (38:22) Learn more about Michelle Dempsey-Multack: Michelle Dempsey-Multack, MS, CDS is a Certified Divorce and Co-Parenting Specialist, bestselling author, educator for divorce coaches. and top 1% podcaster known for her ability to inspire and empower moms through their divorce and co-parenting journeys.  Michelle's passion for "putting the child first" in the divorce process while helping everyone she reaches feel supported and empowered, makes her a sought after coach by clients as well as divorce industry professionals from around the globe. Michelle's unique perspective on divorce and co-parenting has helped thousands of women find the permission to move on confidently after divorce as they move towards a more intentional and holistic co-parenting experience - one that their kids can be proud of one day. Michelle solidified her place as a thought leader in the divorce space with the recent publication of her bestselling book, Moms Moving On: Real Life Advice on Conquering Divorce, Co-Parenting Through Conflict, and Becoming Your Best Self from Simon and Schuster.  Resources & Links: Information and resources may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-224-the-best-interest-of-the-children-unraveling-divorce-litigation-with-michelle-dempsey-multack/ Grit and Grace Coaching with Kate Michelle’s websiteMichelle on InstagramEpisode 211: Walking an Impossible Line: Talking Honestly with Your Kids About Their Other Parent ========= Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you’ll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I’ll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what’s ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE! ============================================================== DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.