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The Healing Trauma Podcast

The Healing Trauma Podcast

Author: Monique Koven

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The Healing Trauma Podcast brings you conversations around the journey trauma healing. Disclaimer: The information is not intended as a replacement for medical and mental health advice. Follow the advice of your licensed mental health professional.
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With Mother's Day approaching I'm re-releasing a special episode with psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Arielle Schwartz. In this episode, Monique Koven and Dr. Arielle Schwartz discuss the complexities of Mother's Day and the impact it can have on individuals with trauma. They explore the range of emotions that can arise, including happiness, sadness, guilt, and shame. They emphasize the importance of self-compassion and attending to the sacred wounds of the past. They also discuss the role of attachment and how our experiences with our mothers shape our sense of self. The conversation highlights the healing potential of acknowledging and validating our feelings and offering love and compassion to ourselves. Keywords Mother's Day, trauma, emotions, self-compassion, attachment Mother's Day can bring up a range of complex emotions for individuals with trauma, including happiness, sadness, guilt, and shame. It is important to practice self-compassion and attend to the sacred wounds of the past. Our experiences with our mothers shape our sense of self and can lead to feelings of responsibility and confusion. Acknowledging and validating our feelings is essential for healing and creating space for self-love and compassion. Attachment plays a significant role in our relationship with our mothers and our ability to offer love and compassion to ourselves. The Range of Emotions on Mother's Day Practicing Self-Compassion and Healing Sacred Wounds "Mother's Day is approaching, we start to feel this almost as countdown of a complexity of feelings." "We learn to push down our authentic feelings because somebody else gave us this message that they couldn't handle our feelings." "What is true for you is welcome here now." Grateful for Dr. Arielle Schwartz enormous contribution to the work of Trauma Recovery and Healing. Check out her website for details on her books and resources.https://drarielleschwartz.com/ Support the Podcast: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TheHealingtraumapodcast Meet with Monique for a consult to talk about the healing journey.https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/
Reclaiming "YOU"

Reclaiming "YOU"

2024-02-0638:551

Come join my guest Amy Nordhues and I as we talk about the journey of rediscovering the truth about who we really are after surviving childhood trauma. Amy Nordhues is a survivor of both childhood sexual abuse and sexual abuse as an adult at the hands of a mental health professional. She is the author of her memoir Prayed Upon. ... Support this podcast and get exclusive content in return. https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe Amy's Website https://www.amynordhues.comAmy’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Prayed-Upon-Br...
Welcome to the very first episode of the new season of The Healing Trauma Podcast - Faith Edition I am delighted and so very grateful to be able to share this conversation with therapist, podcast host, author and psychiatrist Dr. Curt Thompson. We talked about healing, safety and connection and the formation of embodied hope. And so much more. I absolutely loved it! This is a video episode. https://youtu.be/CHmkWbitCsE?si=GxaCJ8UO2GmxlUSN Hope you find it helpful 🕊️ BUY ME A COFFEE https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TheHealingtraumapodcast SUPPORT this podcast and in return receive bonus content. https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe Find out more about Curt's work here: https://curtthompsonmd.com/https://www.instagram.com/curtthompso...https://twitter.com/curt_thompsonmdhttps://www.facebook.com/CurtThompsonMD/https://www.youtube.com/c/BeingKnownP.. Monique's website www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com
This is the final episode of the *faith edition* of the Healing Trauma Podcast. We do plan to be back with a new season of The Healing Trauma Podcast. For those of you who support the HTP podcast, content will continue to be shared through your Spotify subscription feed. You are also invited to join me in an upcoming Zoom call so I can have the chance to meet you. The details and zoom link will be found in the in the next podcast episode. I look forward to meeting you! In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host & trauma therapist Dr. Mark McNear interviews trauma therapist and author Sam Jolen. They discuss the importance of addressing sexual trauma and the challenges survivors face in opening up about their experiences. Sam shares his own journey of healing and how therapy helped him connect with his story. They also explore the concept of trauma and the role of play in the healing process. Sam emphasizes the importance of kindness and self-compassion in the journey of healing from trauma. Takeaways Sexual trauma survivors often hold their trauma as shame and may struggle to open up about their experiences. Therapy can provide a safe space for survivors to connect with their stories and begin the healing process. Trauma is a wound that overwhelms with negative felt experience and lacks a source of love or comfort. Play can be a healing tool that allows survivors to reconnect with joy and pleasure. Kindness and self-compassion are essential in the journey of healing from trauma. You can watch this as a video podcast on Spotify or on youtube https://youtu.be/-mOc-mApHOo Sam's website https://www.samjolman.com/ Dr. Mark McNear's Website https://markmcnear.com/ Support:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TheHealingtraumapodcast Become a friend of the podcast and in return for your support you will have access to bonus content. Your support helps to cover the practical costs of keeping things running. https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe Monique's Website https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/
In this conversation, Monique interviews Heather Stringer, a licensed therapist, about her work with trauma and rituals. Heather shares her experience of using rituals as a form of processing trauma and making it known and significant. She describes a ritual she created for a woman who was reclaiming her femininity and how it helped her embody a new story. Heather emphasizes the importance of involving the body in the healing process and the power of community in supporting and witnessing the ritual. She also discusses the possibility of conducting rituals online and the significance of incorporating simple rituals into daily life.Keywordstrauma, rituals, processing, significance, embodiment, community, healing, online, daily lifeTakeaways Rituals can be a powerful tool for processing trauma and making it known and significant. Involving the body in the healing process is essential, as trauma is a full-body experience. Community support and witnessing are crucial in the ritual process. Rituals can be conducted online, allowing for participation from different locations. Simple rituals can be incorporated into daily life to bring meaning and intentionality. Conducting Rituals Online The Power of Embodiment in Healing "We're capable of entering into the really dark places and calling forth our goodness and our glory." "Ritual interrupts old stories and patterns, allowing for new possibilities." "Rituals provide a tangible reminder of who we are and what we have overcome." Watch this episode video on Spotify or youtube https://youtu.be/nbtAVnjBWjc Learn more about Heather https://www.lifeinritual.com/ Support :Buy Me A Coffee https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TheHealingtraumapodcast Become a friend of the podcast & you will have access to bonus content that may include early access, extended and or additional episodes. Your support helps to cover the practical costs of keeping things running. https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe Meet with Monique https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/work-with-monique/
This healing conversation delves into the author's book, 'It Wasn't Roaring, It Was Weeping,' and explores themes of family, trauma and transformation. Lisa Jo shares her emotional response to the book and engages in a deep discussion about her personal journey and the impact of generational trauma. The conversation offers insights into the complexity of parent-child relationships, and the potential for healing and transformation. Takeaways The power of forgiveness and its impact on personal healing and transformation The complexity of parent-child relationships and the potential for repair and growth The impact of generational trauma and the importance of self-reflection and change The emotional response to the author's book and the deep connection it fosters with readersThe power of forgiveness and its impact on personal healing and transformation Watch the video recording on Spotify or Youtube https://youtu.be/6pakEcXK4kI Lisa-Jo Resources and Website https://outoftheordinarypodcast.com/ https://lisajobaker.com/books/ https://lisajobaker.com/ Support the podcast Become a friend of the podcast! Your support goes directly towards keeping the healing conversation going. Get access to extended or bonus episodes. podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe Buy Me A Coffee https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TheHealingtraumapodcast Monique's Website Meet with Monique for a 1/1 consult https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/
In this conversation, Monique Koven and Alison Cook discuss the importance of acknowledging and embracing our emotions rather than brushing them aside or numbing them. They explore the concept of naming our emotions as a way to bring order and relief to our inner world. They emphasize the need for self-compassion and curiosity when it comes to our emotions, and the importance of pausing and reflecting before taking action. The conversation also touches on the healing journey of trauma survivors and the role of framing our emotions in a healthy way. Overall, the conversation highlights the practices of naming, awareness, framing, and braving as essential tools for emotional well-being. Key words emotions, naming, order, relief, self-compassion, curiosity, pausing, reflecting, trauma, healing, framing, braving, emotional. The conversation is based on themes in Alision’s new book “ I Shouldn’t Feel This Way.” Takeaways Acknowledging and embracing our emotions is important for our emotional well-being. Naming our emotions brings order and relief to our inner world. Self-compassion and curiosity are key in dealing with our emotions. Pausing and reflecting before taking action allows for wiser decision-making. The healing journey of trauma survivors involves learning to name and honor their emotions. Framing our emotions in a healthy way helps us understand and respond to them effectively. Braving involves taking action based on our emotional awareness and understanding. Embracing Our Emotions: The Key to Emotional Well-being Healing Trauma: Learning to Name and Honor Our Emotions "I shouldn't feel this way has become for me a little bit of a, oh, I feel something. I feel something I don't want to feel." "The truth sets us free. This is what I feel. I'm not gaslighting myself. I'm not trying to dupe myself into not feeling what I really feel." "Numbing is to try to keep those emotions outside of our conscious awareness. Naming is bringing them up into the surface and looking at them." Dr. Alison Cook's Website & Resources dralisoncook.com Support: Buy me a coffee. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TheHealingtraumapodcast Become a friend of the podcast. Your $ 2.99 support goes directly towards keeping the healing conversation going. Get access to extended and or bonus episodes. podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe Meet with Monique https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/work-with-monique/
This episode is a recent recording from psychologist Dr. Alison Cook's podcast "The Best Of You' where I was a guest. Taken from her podcast description 'Today’s episode is just so special and so deeply personal. If you’ve experienced trauma, please listen. If you love someone, please listen. Trauma touches so many lives, and it’s so often misunderstood. In today’s episode, Monique Koven, host of The Healing Trauma podcast, shares her powerful story of healing from trauma. There is absolute gold in this episode for everyone." Support the podcast. Become a friend of the podcast and in return for your support you will have access to bonus content that may include extended and or additional episodes or early access releases. Your support helps to cover the practical costs of keeping things running. Subscriber Bonus Ep: Title: Managing The Past In The Present https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe Buy Me A Coffee https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TheHealingtraumapodcast The Best Of You Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-best-of-you/id1620059010 You Are Safe Now: A Survivor's Guide to Listening to Your Gut, Healing from Abuse, and Living in Freedom. https://hubs.la/Q02jwKsh0 Healing Trauma Podcast website https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/
In this trauma healing conversation, I am joined with Tricia Lott Williford & Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, authors of the book, You Are Safe Now: A Survivor's Guide to Listening to Your Gut, Healing from Abuse, and Living in Freedom. This conversation is so unique as you will hear from both sides of the Trauma healing journey. Tricia shares from her perspective of feeling stuck in overwhelm & PTSD, and how she was able to slowly move through with the gentle support and guidance of her skilled therapist. Jana shares what it was like working with Tricia and what really helped and supported her through. They talk about the process of untangling the trauma and coming to the understanding of grooming, manipulation and sexual and spiritual abuse by a person of trust. This episode is available to watch on Spotify or on Youtube https://youtu.be/gbGys_jRHCw About The book You Are Safe Now offers a survivor’s first hand story of abuse in the church, including an explanation of the nature of abusers and their common tactics; a compassionate, nuanced discussion of trauma responses; research, examples, and statistics to identify abusive dynamics, predation, grooming, and psychological manipulation; and practical tools and resources to facilitate recovery. For survivors of abuse, counselors, therapists, pastors who treat survivors, and those who support survivors in their healing, You Are Safe Now is an indispensable resource. Get the book herehttps://hubs.la/Q02jwKsh0 About The Guests & Authors Tricia Lott Williford is a writer, blogger, teacher, and co-host of the podcast Let’s Talk Soon with her brother Rob. A prolific writer and ghostwriter, Tricia is the author of many books. She lives in Colorado with her family. Connect with her and follow her writing at https://www.tricialottwilliford.com/. Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, and trained in EMDR, is a seasoned therapist with decades of expertise in counseling victims of trauma, grief, and addiction. Jana has presented internationally as a mental health educator with an emphasis in oncology. Jana lives in Colorado with her family. BUY ME A COFFEE https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TheHealingtraumapodcast ⁠
It was an absolute pleasure to be joined by psychologist Dr. Dan Allender and therapist Cathy Loerzel for an incredible conversation about the journey of healing Trauma. Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel are the authors of the book Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling. They are also the founders of The Allender Center. I really excited to sit down with them after reading the book and participating in story work. This episode is available to watch on Spotify or you listen on any of your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch the episode on video on youtube.YOUTUBE :www.youtube.com/@Thehealingtraumapodcast⁠ Paid Subscribers {FRIENDS OF THE PODCAST} Can enjoy the extended version of this episode which includes a conversation with Dr. Dan Allender where he shares some of his own story of childhood heachache and trauma and how he got into this healing work of over forty years. Subscribe here: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe Your support goes directly towards keeping the healing conversation going. Get access to extended and or bonus episodes. Coffee support: buy me a coffeehttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/TheHealingtraumapodcast  Dr. Dan Allender has pioneered a unique therapy centered around his innovative theory and training in transforming betrayal, ambivalence, and powerlessness into faith, hope, and love. He is a professor of counseling psychology at The Seattle School and founder of The Allender Center, speaking on trauma, sexual abuse recovery, love and forgiveness, and intimacy. He’s a popular podcaster on The  Allender Center Podcast and the author of  multiple books, Health the Wondered Heart,The Wounded Heart, The Healing Path, To Be Told and God Loves Sex. Connect with Dr. Allender on Facebook or Instagram The Allender Center  Cathy Loerzel received her MA in Counseling Psychology in 2007 is the Co-Founder of The Allender Center at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology and co-author of Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Your True Calling. She has spent the last 15 years developing the theory and methodology of a popular new coaching and therapeutic approach called Story Work that moves people through their past stories of heartache to heal and discover healthier ways of being in the world.  You can find her here. https://www.cathyloerzel.com
Learning To Trust Friends & Others Bonus subscriber & get access to bonus content https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe
On Today's healing conversation you are going to get compassionate validation as well as some understanding around the impact of childhood trauma on the body and the brain. I am joined once again with my friend, Dr. Mark McNear. Mark is a survivor and a therapist that shares openly about the healing journey. I loved our conversation and think you will too. Mark shares his personal journey to help others in theirs in his book, Finding My Words, A Ruthless Commitment To Healing Gently After Trauma. Youtube: https://youtu.be/YaMyG2KR5OA Buy Me A Coffee https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TheHealingtraumapodcast To listen or watch the video episode of the extended version of this episode where Mark guides us slowly through some regulating tools that he uses in his own private practice with his clients and uses himself. You can follow along and add them to your own tool box of self care. Regulating Tools are a very important to use as work to support your nervous system to feel more present and grounded. LINK BELOW Become a friend of the podcast! Your support goes directly towards keeping the healing conversation going. Get access to extended and or bonus episodes. podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe Mark McNear's website: https://markmcnear.com/ "Finding My Words" book: https://www.amazon.com/Finding-My-Wor...
Why A "Faith Edition?"

Why A "Faith Edition?"

2024-02-0914:27

Monique shares a little bit more about why this season of The Healing Trauma Podcast is including Faith in the conversation.*This is a video episode on Spotify Faith Communities need to be safe places and trauma-informed. How essential it is to understand that trauma lives in the body and is not just in the mind and how it shows up in relationships and in daily living. How Healing happens Some ideas on upcoming episodes. Expert guests trauma and faith informed authors, therapists, psychologists, coaches, faith leaders and more. Support this podcast and get bonus content including extra episodes only available to subscribers. https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe
A little conversation about The Healing Trauma Podcast *Faith -Informed Edition coming soon.
Tamara McClintock Greenberg, Psy.D., M.S., a beloved returning guest joins me on the podcast today. She is the author of six books including The Complex PTSD Coping Skills Workbook & Treating Complex Trauma. Tamara is a clinical psychologist in private practice in San Francisco, CA, where she specializes in treating adults with depression, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma, and those who are coping with medical illness, either as a patient or affected family member. She also has extensive experience with older adults and their children regarding coping with dementia or other medical illnesses. In addition, Tamara treats couples, as well as families with adult children. Her therapeutic approach is active and engaging and she uses a variety of evidence-based techniques that focus on reducing symptoms and feeling more connected to others. She has been practicing psychology in San Francisco since 1997. As a Volunteer Full Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the University of California, San Francisco, Tamara spent over 12 years seeing medical patients and their families in the UCSF hospitals and clinics and has spent the last 25 years supervising psychiatry residents, psychology interns and students in a number of different training centers. Watch here: Youtube https://youtu.be/5RH3D_RTZPA?si=62pjkLIxttCExYiO Tamara’s Latest Book: https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-C... Her Website:https://www.tamara-greenberg.com/
We are joined again with therapist Dr. Mark McNear to discuss what spiritual bypassing is and how important it is to understand the whole person. Dr. Mark McNear, a licensed clinical social worker, and author of the book Finding My words, A Ruthless Commitment To Healing Gently After Trauma. Mark shares his personal journey of healing from childhood trauma and finding his words. Dr. Mark McNear's website: https://markmcnear.com/ "Finding My Words" book: https://www.amazon.com/Finding-My-Wor... Meet with Monique https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/ Thank you Mark for sponsoring the episode.
Trigger warning: Childhood sexual abuse. On today's episode I am joined with Dr. Mark McNear, a licensed clinical social worker, and author of the book Finding My words, A Ruthless Commitment To Healing Gently After Trauma. Mark shares his personal journey of healing from childhood trauma and finding his words. To learn more or to purchase Dr. Marks book, head to the link below: Get his book here: https://www.amazon.com/Finding-My-Wor... Mark's website:https://markmcnear.com⁠ This episode was sponsored by Mark M.McNear LCSW. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com
On today's episode I am joined with Michelle Mays. Michelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She's also the author of the book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst.  She reveals the depth of the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect with, yet connection is the key to healing. Michelle looks at betrayal through the lens of attachment, as our attachment system is the very thing that connects us with anyone in our lives, and how betrayal causes a break in the attachment bond to the person we are closest with, shattering trust, and leaving a betrayed partner feeling unsafe and violated. This was a very informative and rich conversation. If you can't see the video here, watch and subscribe to my youtube channel https://youtu.be/YEq9BNBD9zs Michelle's Website & Resources www.michellemays.com https://michellemays.com/braving-hope-coaching-program/ Her Book⁠ can be found here: https://www.amazon.com/Betrayal-Bind-Heal-Person-Worst/dp/1949481778/Thank you to PartnerHope LLC for sponsoring this episode Consult with Monique https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/
*Trigger warning: Talk of Sexual abuse On today's episode I sat down with Amy Nordhues, author and survivor of both childhood sexual abuse and sexual abuse as an adult at the hands of a mental health professional. Her story is detailed in her book “Prayed Upon, Breaking Free From Therapist Abuse.” During our conversation Amy touches on some of the following: The inner workings of the abuse process of adult victims  -How past childhood trauma can make an adult vulnerable to predators -Understanding how an otherwise functional adult can be duped provides much needed healing for the victim and aides loved ones in providing support -Recognizing and bringing “into the light” the defective beliefs that are causing victims to doubt their own realities and become ensnared by abusers and more. Thank you so much Amy for sharing your vulnerable and personal experiences with the world in hopes of helping others feel less alone and more empowered. Watch the episode on video on YouTube https://youtu.be/pp4WMClu7eM Thank you for your sponsorship as it helps to keep this podcast going. Link to purchase Amy's book https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09HR9TN3N Amy's website: www.amynordhues.com Monique’s website www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com
I am still in vacation mode and have taken a little break from recording and sharing, however I was inspired to record a short video after I shared a post over on IG which says "Feeling Safe is Essential To Healing." I realized a little video may be helpful to elaborate just a tiny bit. Should be back to recording sometime in August. https://youtu.be/PayC5jfGKvQ
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Lori Lavender Luz

I really loved listening to Emma Steven's story of healing from trauma. I've got her book in hand and I can't wait to read it. Thanks, Monique, for a wonderful interview.

Jul 23rd
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Michelle Barbieri Bailey

great episode and topic! that was a discussion that was so needed!

Jun 29th
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Lauren

Monique you are such an inspiration! Thank you for all that you do.

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Moriah Jule

Thank you so much Monique!!! your podcast episodes help me so much! If you're thinking about working with Monique one on one you definitely should. I've worked with her and she has helped me so much. she's so compassionate, insightful, and thoughtful!!

Nov 30th
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Moriah Jule

you have such a gift Monique!! thank you for sharing your gifts with the world!!!

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Discernment Queen

Better audio please. Very low on my end. Love your content. Thanks!

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Moriah Jule

I really enjoy listening to these podcasts! Monique is so compassionate, you can hear it through her voice. I got a lot of insights and support through these podcasts, thanks Monique!!

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