Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Where did everyone go?? At some point, many/most adults look up one day to realize that all their old friends have either moved to Austin or are completely buried in #babylife or never-ending home improvement projects… and they have nobody to spontaneously get a beer with on a Tuesday night. Can you relate? It's not just you. Did you know that, on average, most people lose more friends every year than they gain? Over time, your life can become increasingly lonely unless you’re actively working to build and maintain friendships. But here’s the thing: making new friends as an adult is harder than it sounds. 😅 In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, we dive deep into the complexities of adult friendships with journalist Kelly Stout, who spent a month trying to make just one new friend… and learned some important things that she’s sharing with YOU.  From the unexpected emotional hurdles to the surprising lessons about vulnerability and connection, we explore what it really takes to form meaningful relationships in adulthood. 💛 If you’ve ever struggled with loneliness, wondered why your social circle shrinks as the years go by, or just feel stuck when it comes to making new friends, this episode is for you. 🙌 Chapters 00:00 Can Happiness Really Be Found Through Friendships? 00:19 Why Your Friendships Are More Important Than You Think 00:58 Meet Kelly Stout: Her One-Month Quest to Make a New Friend 02:30 What Happens When You Set a Deadline to Make a Friend? 04:58 The Hidden Challenges of Building Friendships as an Adult 12:55 What Actually Defines a True Friendship? 15:40 Friendship Experiments: What Works and What Doesn’t 18:32 Why Opening Up to Others Feels So Scary—And Necessary 22:33 The Biggest Lessons We Learned About Friendship 25:01 When Friendships Feel Fleeting: Why It Happens 25:45 Vulnerability Hangover: Ever Felt It? Here’s Why It Happens 25:56 Turning Points: When You Realize You’re Doing Friendship All Wrong 26:33 Can You Fast-Track Emotional Intimacy? Let’s Find Out 27:18 Why We Gravitate Toward People Just Like Us—And What to Do About It 27:45 Discovering the Power of Friendships with People Who Are Different 28:19 The Comfort and Complexity of Long-Term Friendships 29:53 Bumble for Friends: Can You Really Make Friends on an App? 32:01 How Internalized Shame is Holding You Back from Friendship 34:03 The Reality of Keeping Friendships Alive as an Adult 43:57 Why We Crave Community—and How to Build One 47:01 Modern Loneliness: Why Life is Designed to Keep Us Isolated 53:44 Final Reflections: How to Create Real Friendships That Last 💡 Learn how to overcome the struggles of making friends as an adult and build a community that brings joy and connection back into your life. xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby PS: I think you and I should be friends! Come hang out with me on a Thursday live stream! Mark your calendar right now, it's at 12pm MT / 2pm ET on my Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook. This week we're talking about friendships. If you have a question or conundrum related to this, here's the link to ask in advance: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. Be sure to subscribe/follow so you get updates and recaps! P.P.S. As promised in this podcast, here's the link to grab your totally free and VAST collection of all my best articles and podcasts on the subject of healthy relationships. I made it for YOU.     

Could you be accidentally and unintentionally DESTROYING your relationship? Pro tip from a marriage counselor: Many, many people are... and literally have no idea.  I think I know why. Everyone with an Instagram account is posting things about what they think you should do to have a great relationship—communication tips, romantic date ideas, etc.—but let’s be real... sometimes, it's more important to know what NOT to do! And nobody talks about that!!  That’s why today, we’re flipping the script on the usual relationship advice you hear. 💥 In this episode, we’re breaking down the 12 Most Effective Ways to Destroy Your Relationship (so you can avoid them like the plague). Trust me, as a marriage counselor, I’ve seen it all. Whether it’s neglecting your partner or constantly blaming your “issues” when you behave badly, even the strongest couples can unknowingly make these mistakes. But don’t worry, I’m not here to throw shade—I'm here to help you laugh, learn, and most importantly, grow! 🌱 By the end of this, you’ll not only recognize these pitfalls, but also walk away with actionable tips to make sure you’re NOT sabotaging your love life. 🙌 Here's what you'll learn: ⏱️ 00:00 Intro: The 12 Biggest Relationship Mistakes 02:36 Mistake #12: Making the Relationship ALL About You 04:36 Mistake #11: Blaming Everything on Your Issues 08:26 Mistake #10: Neglecting Your Partner (The Silent Killer) 11:20 Mistake #9: Too Much Togetherness (Yikes!) And all the way down... to the number one biggest relationship killer!  💬 Let’s talk: Have you fallen into any of these traps? What’s one mistake you’re guilty of? Drop a comment on Instagram @drlisamariebobby —I’d love to hear from you! AND if you want to get my perspective on some not-so-fantastic things that might be happening in your relationship (and how to make it stop) join me on Thursday for a live stream on this topic! Use this link to ask your Q and get reminders to join on Thursday at 12 pm MT / 2pm ET. https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa If you're feeling like, "uh oh" after hearing this... you're not alone! I’ve helped thousands of couples turn things around, and you can too. 🌟 Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 💡 PS: If you're ready to start working on some positive new communication tools after hearing about the not great ones, check out my FREE training, “Communication That Connects” — it’s packed with tools to help you strengthen your connection and communicate like a pro!

🎧 Forget Everything You Knew About Anxiety – This Changes Everything! 🎧 Ever feel like anxiety has a grip on your life? Here’s the game-changing truth: You can heal anxietyy, not just manage the symptoms. 💥 In this transformative episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Nicole Cain, a holistic anxiety expert and author of the upcoming book Panic Proof, to discuss a revolutionary approach to healing anxiety from the inside out. 🌱 👉 Imagine freeing yourself from anxiety by nurturing your body, mind, and soul. Together, we dive into practical strategies that blend psychology and holistic medicine to uncover the root causes of anxiety and address them at the deepest level. We even explore how anxiety shows up in relationships and, yes, even in the bedroom! 💡 What You'll Learn Today:  00:00 The Truth About Healing Anxiety, Naturally  00:18 Dr. Nicole's Story 12:28 Understanding Anxiety and Its Roots  19:22 Esme’s Story: A Powerful Case Study  33:54 Anxiety in Relationships & Sexuality  42:43 Dr. Nicole's Three-Minute Hack for Instant Anxiety Relief  50:39 How the Salience Network Impacts Anxiety  54:30 VERY Generous Offer from Dr. Nicole! ✨ And... I'm so thrilled to share that Dr. Nicole will be my guest host on this week's live stream, and available to answer YOUR questions. Join us Thursday 9/5 at 12 PM MT on my YouTube, Instagram, or Facebook. Want a reminder or to ask a Q in advance? Get that set up right here: www.growingself.com/dear-lisa.  🙌 If you missed the chance to hop on with us LIVE you can catch the recap video right here starting 9/6: https://www.growingself.com/natural-anxiety-relief 🎥 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with anyone you know who’s struggling with anxiety—this could be the breakthrough they’ve been waiting for! Your partner in growth,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com  

Wondering why your therapist acts a little... strange? What are all those long, awkward silences about? Why won't they follow you on social media? You made DIRECT EYE CONTACT with them at the grocery store but they didn't acknowledge your presence. Why?? In this episode, we’re diving into the surprising truth behind therapist boundaries and why they matter for your personal growth.  In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I’m pulling back the curtain on some of the “weird” things therapists do (like, why won’t they just give you a hug already?!), and why those boundaries are actually super important for your healing journey. We’ll also break down the difference between therapy and coaching, why therapists never give direct advice, and how these boundaries create a safe, effective space for you to thrive. Plus, I’m sharing insights that will help you build a strong, healthy relationship with your therapist. If you're in therapy, you’ll walk away with some major a-ha moments! Timestamps: 00:00 - Let’s Get Real: Why Do Therapists Have Such Weird Boundaries? 02:25 - The Surprising Power of Therapist Boundaries 06:43 - Why Your Therapist Won’t Steer the Conversation (Hint: It’s for YOU) 09:10 - Therapist vs. Coach: Which One Do You Really Need? 12:35 - The Ethics Behind the Scenes: How Good Therapists Keep You Safe 24:25 - Why Your Therapist Stays Neutral (Even When It Feels Weird) 31:55 - Session Time Limits & Contact Rules—What’s Up with That? 35:51 - The Secret to a Healthy Therapist-Client Relationship 45:44 - Wrap Up: Final Thoughts and Takeaways Wanna Learn More? Signs You Have a Bad Therapist How to Find a Good Therapist Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the bell so you never miss an episode on all things therapy, coaching, and personal growth! Let’s keep this conversation going! 💖

Ready to shake off low self esteem for good, and grow into the confident, competent person you want to be? Good news: Confidence isn't born, it's BUILT, meaning you have more control over how you feel about yourself than you might think. On today’s podcast you’ll learn the essence of authentic self-worth, and how to grow into the kind of person that exudes confidence (in a good way). As a licensed psychologist, marriage and family therapist, and board-certified coach, I’m sharing why confidence isn’t just a feeling you magically have—it’s something you build through consistent, value-driven actions.  Together, we’ll explore practical ways to develop self-respect, trust your judgment, and foster a deep-rooted belief in your worth. Whether you're looking to overcome self-doubt or grow into the confident person you aspire to be, this episode offers steps you can start taking today. Here’s what you’ll learn: 00:00 Introduction to Authentic Confidence 01:43 Understanding Authentic Confidence 04:23 Building Confidence Through Actions 06:12 Overcoming Misconceptions About Confidence 07:53 Identifying and Aligning with Your Values 13:26 Personal Story: The Journey to Self-Respect 17:10 Developing a Growth Mindset 34:50 Practical Tips for Exuding Confidence 44:42 Conclusion and Free Resources Want more guidance? Join me LIVE on Thursday for a Q&A, where I’ll answer your questions about building confidence and self-esteem. Submit your questions in advance through https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa for personalized advice! Don’t forget to take our free "How Healthy Is Your Self-Esteem?" quiz at https://www.growingself.com/self-esteem-test/ to see where you stand and discover next steps for boosting your self-worth. See you there! 👏💪 #Confidence #SelfEsteem #ExudeConfidence #PersonalGrowth #LiveQandA #GrowingSelf  

Anger can destroy a relationship, but it can also be the doorway to deeper connections and the emotional intimacy you want and deserve.  In this episode of 'Love, Happiness, and Success,' we’re not just talking about managing anger in relationships—we’re transforming it into a tool for deepening emotional intimacy and strengthening your connection. Join me, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, as we explore the roots of anger, its impact, and practical strategies to use it constructively. Learn how to manage anger, communicate effectively, build emotional intelligence, and turn conflict into meaningful connection. Plus, I’ve got some incredible free resources for you! 00:00 Introduction  01:58 Roots of Anger  08:36 Communication Strategies  18:23 Problem Solving & Emotional Intelligence  28:34 Free Resources & Final Thoughts   Ready to transform your relationship? Tune in now! 💬❤️ #LoveHappinessSuccess #EmotionalIntimacy #RelationshipGoals #TransformYourLove Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby   PS: Grab that FREE two part “Communication That Connects”  training right here!  P.P.S. I’m going LIVE this Thursday to answer your relationship questions. Want to submit your question in advance and/or get a recap of this video? Here’s the link: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa Otherwise, set a reminder and I’ll see you soon!

Feeling trapped in a high-paying job you hate? 😔💸 Welcome to the golden handcuffs dilemma, where financial success comes at the expense of your happiness and mental well-being.  In today's episode, we dive deep into the emotional and practical challenges of breaking free from a lucrative but unfulfilling career. You'll learn how to reclaim your freedom, reignite your passion, and find true fulfillment without sacrificing financial security. 🚀✨  Specifically, we’re discussing:  00:00 Breaking the Chains: Intro to Escaping Golden Handcuffs 00:20 The Golden Cage: Understanding Why High Pay Can Trap You 05:08 Real Stories, Real Struggles: Listener Questions and Insights 08:02 The Silent Suffering: Emotional and Psychological Costs 14:26 Conquering Fears: How to Tackle Anxiety and Doubt 32:06 Roadmap to Freedom: Practical Steps for a Career Transition 46:36 Your Next Chapter: Actionable Takeaways and Final Thoughts  It's time to escape the golden cage and design a life that truly makes you happy! Don't miss this transformative journey—hit play now! 🎥🔓 #GoldenHandcuffs #CareerChange #FindYourPassion #WorkLifeBalance   Xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com    P.S. Want MORE expert career advice to help you move forward with clarity and confidence? I have so much for you! Sign up to get access to my ENTIRE “Career Clarity” content collection, full of articles and a curated podcast playlist featuring the best advice from the world-class career counselors of Growing Self. Totally free, all for you! Get it here...

7 WEIRD Things That Will Improve Your Relationship Are you wondering, "How can I improve my relationship?" 🤔 You're in the right place! In this episode of "Love, Happiness, and Success," I’m sharing the most surprising and counterintuitive tips to dramatically enhance your relationship. From giving each other more space to embracing healthy anxiety, these strategies are strange - but they are based on research… and they are game-changers! 🌟 What we’re discussing:  00:00 Introduction: Improving Your Relationship  02:00 Counterintuitive Tip #1: Give Each Other Space  04:07 Counterintuitive Tip #2: Embrace Healthy Anxiety  05:53 Counterintuitive Tip #3: Embrace the Daily Grind  07:45 Counterintuitive Tip #4: Focus on Yourself  11:58 Counterintuitive Tip #5: Prioritize Sexuality  14:30 Additional Tips: Shared Mission and Empathy  17:20 Be an Activist for Your Relationship  21:18 Conclusion and Free Resources 🔗 But wait, there’s more! Join my community and start transforming your relationship today! 👉 FREE Communication Skills Training: Master the art of healthy communication and avoid common pitfalls with my 100% free two-part communication skills training, which Includes a 30-page workbook packed with exercises to help you and your partner connect on a deeper level. Sign up for FREE right now at https://www.growingself.com/communication. 👉 Book a Free Consultation: Ready for personalized help? Schedule a free consultation with one of our expert relationship coaches. We’re here to support you every step of the way. Visit growingself.com to book your first meeting, to discuss your hopes and goals for your relationship and how we can help. 📅 Live Stream: Have questions or need advice? Just want to say hi? I’m here! Join me for a live stream this Thursday (and every Thursday) at 12 p.m. Mountain, 2 p.m. Eastern. Submit your questions in advance at https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa and get personalized tips to improve your relationship. Let's create love, happiness, and success together! 💖✨ #HowToImproveYourRelationship #RelationshipAdvice #LoveHappinessSuccess #DrLisaMarieBobby #GrowingSelf #CouplesCounseling #RelationshipTips #HealthyRelationships #FreeCommunicationTraining #RelationshipCoaching After you tune in and learn about these WEIRD strategie to improve your relationship, be sure to let me know in the comments which strategy you'll try first! (Or which one you’ll NEVER do - it’s all good! I’d also love to hear how this goes for you. Stay in tuch with me!  Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe! 💬💞 Xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com  

Was your marriage a MISTAKE? Today we’re diving into a question I hear a lot: "Did I marry the wrong person?" If your relationship feels hard and you're starting to wonder if you made the right choice, you’re in the right place. We’ll tackle four essential areas to help you gain clarity: compatibility, communication, alignment, and growth opportunities. By the end of this episode, you’ll have some fresh ideas, free resources, and a clear plan to create positive change, whether with your partner or on your own. Specifically, we’re discussing: 0:00 Introduction: Are You Married to the Wrong Person? 00:39 Understanding Relationship Challenges 06:46 The Importance of Compatibility 14:02 Communication: The Key to Connection 17:46 Emotional Connection and Alignment 22:27 Steps to Clarity and Growth 29:03 Discernment Counseling: Finding the Right Path 33:21 Free Resources and Final Thoughts Thanks for tuning in!  Until next week, take care — and keep growing. Xo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S.To take advantage of that free two-part communication skills training I mentioned in this episode, head over to growingself.com/communication. P.P.S. And don’t forget, if you’re listening to this the week it’s released, join me this Thursday at 12 PM Mountain, 2 PM Eastern on Instagram and YouTube for a live stream where I’ll be answering your questions about whether you married the wrong person. Submit your questions in advance at growingself.com/dear-lisa.  

🔥 STOP PLAYING SMALL! 🔥 Discover the secrets to growing more confident and comfortable with putting yourself out there. 🌟 Are you constantly minimizing yourself, feeling guilty for setting boundaries, or believing that good things are meant for others but not for you? If so, it's time to break free from these limiting beliefs and start living unapologetically! In this powerful episode, we dive deep into why we play small and how to overcome it, empowering you to step into your greatness. Today I'm sharing actionable strategies and inspiring insights to help you become your own hero. Whether it's in your relationships, career, or personal growth, it's crucial to stop playing small and start believing in your worth. Today's episode will help you do that! 💪✨ Xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com PS: Is this an issue for you? Want to talk about it?? Join me on this week’s livestream to share your story and get advice for how to STOP feeling guilty about being your awesome self. Jump in at 12 pm MT on 7/18, or submit your question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa #StopPlayingSmall #SelfEmpowerment #Confidence #SelfLove #PersonalGrowth #GrowingSelf     Timestamps / Chapters 02:15 – Signs You’re Playing Small 10:45 – Overcoming Limiting Beliefs 20:30 – Strategies for Self-Empowerment 30:00 – Free Resources and Next Steps  

One of my listeners wrote in saying, "Dear Lisa,  https://www.growingself.com/feeling-unheard-in-relationship right now. I try to talk about how I feel, but I'm just not getting through. It seems like my partner is either not hearing me or not understanding me, and I feel so lonely. How do I change this situation?" Honestly: This is one of the most common issues I hear about as a marriage counselor. In today’s podcast, I’m diving into why you might feel unheard in your relationship and sharing practical strategies to change that dynamic. If this resonates with you, stick around because here’s what you’ll learn today: The common reasons behind feeling unheard. The impact of emotionally invalidating communication. How to engage in communication that fosters emotional intimacy. Practical tips and strategies to improve listening and being heard. For even more insights, read the full article here. 💬 Also, Join the Conversation! Let's talk about YOU! 💬 I’m hosting a live Q&A session every Thursday at 12 PM Mountain (2 PM Eastern) where I'll answer your questions about feeling heard in your relationship. Join me live on YouTube, Facebook, or Instagram. You can submit your questions in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa 📘 Free Resource Alert! 📘 As I discussed in this episode, to help you even more, I’ve created a free two-part training series called “Communication that Connects.” This series includes: Two 45-minute training sessions A 30-page workbook filled with exercises and activities Sign up for FREE at growingself.com/communication I made this for you! Thank you so much for tuning in today. If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe. I look forward to helping you create more love, happiness, and success in your life! xo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  

Is your relationship emotionally enmeshed? If it is... you probably don't realize it! So how can you know? And what can you do about it? Tune into this one to find out! On this episode, we're talking about what emotional enmeshment is, and how you can untangle your heart strings and create a better relationship in the process.  When couples are struggling with communication or conflict, emotional enmeshment is often the root issue. Once you address the enmeshment, your entire relationship can feel lighter and more enjoyable. But first you have to recognize enmeshment for what it is, and this episode will show you the way! Tune in to learn:  What an emotionally enmeshed relationship looks like (the answer may surprise you!) The difference between emotional enmeshment and emotional intimacy Why emotional enmeshment is a big problem in relationships How to fix an enmeshed relationship and build a healthier connection. And more!  If you're wondering about enmeshment in your relationship, you can take my free "How Healthy Is Your Relationship Quiz" and learn more: https://www.growingself.com/relationship-quiz/  I hope you'll join me! xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  P.S. There is NO Thursday live stream on this topic this week. But I'll be back LIVE on Thursday 7/11 to address your questions about next week's podcast topic: What to do if you're feeling unheard in your relationship. Have questions already? Let me know and we'll discuss IRL on 7/11! 

Traveling with your partner can be so fun, but it can also be stressful and lead to conflict. Whether you're wondering why vacations sometimes lead to arguments or how to navigate different travel styles, this episode is packed with insights and practical strategies to help you have a great time adventuring with your partner — or apart! Main Takeaways: Understand the common conflicts that arise on trips and how to address them constructively. Learn how to appreciate and respect your partner's travel preferences. Discover how to plan trips that satisfy both you and your partner. Explore the benefits of solo travel for a healthy relationship. Gain tools to turn travel challenges into opportunities for growth and connection. Tune in, learn, and let's make your next trip the best one yet. xo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com PS: After listening, I invite you to join the conversation live this Thursday at 12 PM Mountain Time (2 PM Eastern) on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook. Bring your questions about travel and relationships, and let's dive deeper into creating harmony and fun in your journeys together. Submit your questions in advance at growingself.com/dear-lisa and get reminders about the live stream so you won't miss a thing. If you can't make it, you can check out the recap at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2y1LGVrpRfY&t=687s  

Have you ever listened to an episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast and thought, "I wish I could talk to Dr. Lisa about this"? Now you can! When: Every Thursday at 12:00 PM Mountain Time (2:00 PM Eastern Time) Where: Live on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook Each week, after dropping a new podcast episode on Monday, I'll host a live stream on Thursday to discuss that week's topic, answer your questions, and give you personalized advice. How to Participate: Live: Tune in on any of my social channels: YouTube, Instagram, Facebook. Submit Questions in Advance: Visit growingself.com/dear-lisa to ask questions ahead of time and get a reminder before the live stream starts. Recap: If you can't make it live, sign up through the link to receive a recap video via email. I love making the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast for you, but live streaming adds a special touch by allowing me to interact with you directly. I can't wait to chat about your life and your unique situation. Mark Your Calendar: Every Thursday at 12:00 PM Mountain Time (2:00 PM Eastern Time). See you there! xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Have you been thinking about getting back together with your ex? It's completely natural to wonder if getting back together with an ex is a mistake, or if it might be the beginning of a beautiful new chapter in your relationship. In this episode, I'm here to offer you the clarity you need. We'll walk through FOUR ESSENTIAL QUESTIONS that you must ask yourself and your ex before getting back together. These questions are designed to help you understand whether giving your relationship another chance is the right move. Doing this introspective work will either set you up for a successful reunion or save you from investing time and energy into a relationship that may not have a future. So, make yourself a cup of tea, grab your journal, and let's dive deep into these pivotal questions together. By the end of this episode, you'll feel empowered and equipped with the insights needed to make the best decision for your heart and your future. Let's get started! 🌟 xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com P.S. Let's talk! Every week on Thursdays at 12pm MT / 2pm ET I'm hosting a live stream on Monday's podcast topic to answer YOUR questions. If you're wrestling with this "should we get back together or not" dilemma, I hope you join me!! Submit your question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa, and then tune in on the socials: Instagram, YouTube or Facebook. See you Thursday! P.P.S. In the meantime, take advantage of the free resources I mentioned on today's show including tons of insightful articles and a curated podcast playlist all about how to get "relationship clarity." They're all for you! https://www.growingself.com/stay-or-go  

One of the most difficult things about a breakup is the way it can leave you feeling disempowered. Getting your heart smashed by the one you love most sends you on a journey you never wanted to go on... but taking charge of your life in the aftermath of a breakup helps you emerge from the experience better than ever.  Today, we're talking about how you can take your power back after a breakup, rebuild your self-esteem, and use your heartbreak to fuel powerful personal growth. As a couples counselor who has seen my fair share of breakups and divorces, I know that heartbreak is brutal. But I also know it can be the doorway to a better life. There are things you only learn about yourself when it feels like your life is falling apart. And there are opportunities to discover strengths inside of you that you never knew were there.  Tune in to learn:  04:23 Why We Feel Disempowered After a Breakup 06:18 Reconnecting with Your Sense of Agency 10:37 How to Focus on What You Can Control 15:48 Practicing Self-Love and Kindness 20:31 Taking Charge of Your Narrative 23:56 Embracing Growth in Heartbreak 28:25 How to Create a Positive Vision for Your Future And much more! I hope you'll join me.    xoxo,    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby    P.S. — If you are going through this right now, you should take my free breakup quiz. It will tell you where you are in your healing process and what you need to do to begin moving forward. 

Will you be single forever? If you've been dating for a while and struggling to find your person, then I'll bet this thought has crossed your mind at some point. Maybe it's something you think about a lot.  And the prospect of being single forever can be scary! We all crave deep connection and true, enduring love. The possiblity of never finding the relationship we desire is daunting, especially if your dating experiences have been grinding you down. But facing the fear of being alone may just be the key to not only loving your life as a single person, but also dating successfully.  On this episode, we're talking about the fear of being single, how it holds you back, and how you can stop feeling afraid and choose to love your life — no matter what.  Tune in to learn:  03:11 Understanding the Fear 05:28 Working on Healthy Relationships 06:28 Impact of Fear on Relationships 09:17 Impact on Mental and Emotional Wellbeing 10:43 Behaviors Driven by Fear 13:31 Overcoming the Fear 14:01 Making Peace with Being Single 15:02 Shifting Mindset 16:00 Growth Mindset and Personal Development 17:24 Identifying Obstacles and Making Changes 22:36 Challenging Core Beliefs 25:01 Developing Meaningful Connections 27:46 Finding Fulfillment in Other Areas of Life 29:34 Building a Fulfilling Life 31:22 How Authenticity Makes You Attractive All of that and more on this episode for you. I hope you'll join me!   xoxo,    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby    P.S. — Ready to stop spinning your wheels and start dating with intention? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/   

How do you have a healthy sexual relationship with your partner after the trauma of infidelity? It's possible, and in fact, going through the process of healing your relationship together can bring you closer in unexpected ways.  But the road to recovery is not an easy one, especially when it comes to sex. Many couples struggle to heal, reconnect, and feel safe again after feeling violated by an affair. But there is a path to repair — for your relationship and your sex life — and that's what we're talking about on today's episode.  Tune in to learn about:  04:32 The Mental and Emotional Well-being of the Injured Party 06:00 Moving Through a Structured Healing Process 07:51 Stages of Sex After Infidelity 12:34 Managing Trauma Triggers During Sexual Encounters 19:16 The Desire for Detailed Sexual Information 29:45 Positive Growth and Conversations About Sexuality 34:37 Educating Yourself and Making Informed Decisions And more. If you are struggling with sex after infidelity, I hope this episode gives you hope and direction. You deserve it.    xoxo,    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby    P.S. — Want support with healing from infidelity? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

Are you tired of all the drama that surrounds money conversations in your relationship? This is an issue that so many couples deal with. Money is a highly emotional topic, and it can be very triggering, especially when we don't feel respected or understood.  It takes a high degree of empathy and intention to communicate about a hot-button topic like money and create a financial plan with your partner that both of you can feel good about. But that is a key to long-term success and satisfaction in your relationship.  On today's episode, I'm going to tell you how to talk about money without fighting, so you and your partner can get on the same page and grow together in both money and love. Tune in to learn about:  01:30 The Root Cause of Money Fights in Relationships 03:26 Money as a Symbol of Deeper Problems 04:47 The Emotional Significance of Money 07:39 Respecting Differences Around Money 08:05 The Limitations of Standard Advice 12:50 The Rider and the Elephant Metaphor 16:33 The Structured Process of Financial Counseling 18:39 Unpacking the History and Family Culture Around Money 19:37 Understanding the Value Systems Attached to Money 24:22 Creating a Shared Vision for Managing Finances 26:44 Talking About Finances Productively And more! I hope you'll join me, and that you'll find this episode helpful.  xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  P.S. — If you'd like support from an expert couples counselor specializing in financial counseling for couples, schedule a free consultation.   

Introverts are the unsung heroes of the workplace. They're thoughtful, analytical, and they excel at working independently. Still, if you have an introverted personality type, getting ahead at work can be a challenge. This podcast episode is going to tell you how to leverage your introvert superpowers (because I promise, you have them) and WIN in the workplace as an introvert.  Although introverts can be assets to a team, they struggle with visibility. They may hesitate to speak up in meetings and spend lunch hours munching a salad in their car rather than socializing with coworkers. Unfortunately, upper management might mistake your introverted personality for disengagement or even disagreeableness. But there are steps you can take to make your voice heard, highlight your accomplishments, and connect with your colleagues, all while staying true to YOU.  Tune in to learn about: 05:42 Career Paths for Introverts 09:21 Tapping into Your Introvert Superpower 12:09 Signs of a Mismatched Career 16:23 The Impact of Negative Feedback  21:40 Finding Balance as an Introvert 24:19 Why Introverts Kick a$$ in the Workplace 26:30 The Value of Introverted Leaders 30:05 How to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone 31:29 Self-Acceptance vs. Functioning in the World 38:23 Normalizing the Introvert Experience And more! I hope you'll join me and my Growing Self colleague Susan for this conversation! She's an experienced career counselor and she has so many excellent career tips for introverts that you won't want to miss!  All of that and more on today's show! xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  P.S. — If you want support building a thriving career, schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/