The Momset Podcast

Listen to episode 130 for Part One "Be Quiet" before you jump into asking great questions! "To answer before listening—that is folly and shame." Proverbs 18:13Get better at seeing the real problem because behavior is a symptom of a problem. When you’re quiet and ask a few good questions, you can let the problem reveal itself to you. This episode gets into WHY we are asking questions, WHAT the benefit is and HOW to do it- the words to avoid and use! Buckle up buttercup and let's dig in! :) Click here to get personal coaching from me and my team inside of our fantastic membership full of moms ready for skills, tools, healing and ownership.

Podcast Episode 130: Be Quiet - A Mindset Tool to Improve CommunicationJoin my coaching membership for personalized coaching through your circumstances. You CAN have a positive mindset during this time and it IS the way through whatever it is you're going through. Let us help! ✨In this episode of Be Quiet, I’m teaching you a mindset tool that’s too easy not to implement, and I encourage you to use it in your marriage too! This tool—simply being quiet—can quickly reshape your mindset and communication skills, especially when dealing with challenging situations.I’ll break down why, when, and how to “be quiet” and show you how Scripture supports this approach. We’ll dive into the power of pausing, listening, and thinking before responding. Plus, I’ll answer questions from listeners about how to effectively use this tool with kids and loved ones, address emotional triggers, and handle situations where silence feels uncomfortable.If you’ve ever found yourself reacting before thinking or struggling with emotional responses, this episode is for you. Join me as I teach you how being quiet can help you build emotional maturity, strengthen your communication, and model healthy behaviors for your family.Stay tuned for next week’s episode, where we’ll talk about asking effective questions after being quiet.For more support, check out the MOMSET membership !

Do you ever think that things are just going different than what you would choose for yourself?! Of course you do because we are humans living a big LIFE. This episode is expanding your mentality to be able to have a greater capacity to accept what you are given, even when it is different than what you want or would choose for yourself. This is YOUR life. YOU get to decide what you think about it. Is it happening for you, to you or just happening and has nothing to do with you? Let's get your mindset serving you. I'll coach you in my membership. You can see my free content here.

"If I forgive then they'll be let off the hook..." "Tessa, I want to forgive them but I can't just let them back into my life after everything they've done." Gosh, do I relate and have some good news for you. I like to think I have gotten really good at forgiving because I also invite in a crucial piece that keeps me in charge of my seasons. This episode is deeply connected to the way I coach women, just like you, through the journey and throws of becoming who you want to be no matter where you go or who you're with. Join our membership to receive coaching with me! I'll teach you the tools and show you the way they work even in YOUR unique circumstances and relationships. All my love, Tessa Romero

Ever notice how when things go wrong, you blame others, and when things go right, you chalk it up to luck? I’m here to remind you that your hard work and intention deserve recognition. By breaking free from old patterns of blame and victim mentalities, you can claim ownership of your successes and learn from your challenges. Tune in, shift your perspective, and discover how to flip your mindset—celebrating every victory and lesson on your journey to becoming the best version of you. This is your chance to reclaim your power and rewrite your narrative. Join me and begin.Ready for more? Let me coach you inside of my membership. We'll be the ones to challenge you and treat you as who we believe you can be. Join our March Challenge to adopt the 5 daily habits that change the game in your energy levels!

I was walking on a beautiful beach in Maui and three older women collectively sighed "poor mom." Only, I know I am a lucky mom. Are you ready to know that too? Click here if you want to be a source of joy in your motherhood and KNOW who you are while you do it. My coaching membership is full of powerful tools and community that completely transform your everyday life. Your mindset is shaping your motherhood more than you realize. In this episode, we dive into the power of perspective and how the way you frame your experiences will make a difference for you. Are you focusing on lack and hardship, or are you seeing the opportunities, growth, and joy in your journey? Tune in to discover how shifting your mindset can completely transform the way you experience motherhood—because the difference between a “poor mom” and a “lucky mom” is all in how you choose to see it. 🎧 Listen now and step into a more empowered, fulfilling motherhood.

YES, the MOMSET Community App is officially launched and buzzing with excitement from moms around the world. Come join us in daily community discussions, a weekly coaching session and access to my three courses! Get the details and sign up for the coaching membership. Founding members locked in rate of $67/month is for January ONLY. The price is $97/month starting in February. Join us in this heartfelt episode as we explore the two things moms must know to inspire and motivate their kids by truly understanding their unique visions for the future. Learn how to uncover what excites your child, provide the right support, and encourage their dreams without pressure and stress. From active listening to celebrating small wins, this episode is packed with actionable tips to help moms nurture a positive connection and guide their children toward a bright future. Tune in and discover the power of understanding your child’s dreams.

In this episode, we’re diving into a powerful practice: writing a letter to your future self to read at the end of 2025. This is your chance to put into words who you want to become—before it even happens. This will give you direction and intention for the entire year to come. Creating a clear vision for yourself activates the brain’s Reticular Activating System (RAS), which helps you focus on opportunities and actions aligned with your goals. When you know what you want, your mind naturally works to make it happen. The real trick is to actually know what you want and that is where a lot of women struggle. We’ll guide you through: ✨ Envisioning the person you want to be and the life you want to create in 2025. ✨ Writing about your personal, professional, physical, and spiritual growth. ✨ Reflecting on how it feels to live as the version of yourself you’ve always dreamed of becoming. ✨ Setting your intentions and grounding them in gratitude for the journey ahead. Start your letter with “Dear [Your Name]” and let your vision for the year come alive on the page. This is more than just a letter—it’s your declaration of what’s possible for you in the year ahead. Let’s create a 2025 worth celebrating. 💖 p.s. My NEW Coaching Membership launches on our own app the MOMSET Community on January 7th. You can click here to have all of the details sent to you and lock in your membership saving $30 a month!

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the powerful phrase “They watch them, they study me” and what it means for moms striving to strengthen their mindset and hold themselves accountable as role models for their children. While outside influences—peers, media, and even family members—may play a role in shaping our kids, it’s our actions, attitudes, and reactions that leave the most lasting impact. Join me as we explore how to embrace this truth, even when it feels overwhelming, and how to use it as a guiding principle to set a strong, positive example for your kids. Understanding that while peers and media might capture their attention, your example shapes their character. How to focus on what you can control and let go of what you can’t. Using the phrase “They watch them, they study me” as a grounding mantra to respond with intention. Kids may watch others around them, but it’s your actions they truly study and emulate. Ready to Strengthen Your Mindset? Tune in now to hear how “They watch them, they study me” can empower you to show up as the mom you want to be—even in a world full of strong influences. Let’s Stay Connected: Instagram: @TessaRomero_ Email: support@momset.com Please subscribe, rate, and review! Let’s spread the message of empowered, intentional motherhood. 💖

In this episode, I’m sharing a simple practice that transformed my perspective and strengthened my marriage during one of the most full times of my life: writing a daily letter of appreciation to my husband. When preparing to welcome our fourth baby, I wanted to prioritize grace and connection in our marriage. This daily habit became my anchor and a tool to focus on gratitude rather than victim thoughts and unmet expectations. Tune in to learn: The science behind appreciation: How gratitude boosts happiness and connection by rewiring your brain. Why this is for YOU: Shift your mindset, see the good, and show up as the wife you aspire to be. What to appreciate: Practical examples to notice and honor what your spouse is doing right. The ripple effect: How this practice not only transforms your mindset but can also inspire more positive behaviors in your marriage. Whether you keep this journal as a personal tool or surprise your spouse with it as a heartfelt gift, this simple challenge can transform the way you see your marriage. Ready to take the appreciation challenge? Let’s dive in!

In this episode, I share a raw and honest moment we commonly find ourselves in as moms. I talk about a challenging experience where I put myself in a dark room to help my baby fall asleep, only to find myself overwhelmed by the situation. As I reflect, I realize how I resisted help, even when it’s offered, and how the victim mindset took me under for a few moments. Explore the importance of recognizing when we’re stuck, learning to regulate our emotions, and accepting support when we need it. Join me as I talk about the power of resetting, self-compassion, and the choices we can make to empower ourselves on this journey of motherhood and personal growth. Follow along for daily mindset in motherhood on Instagram

Have you ever felt persecuted at a doctors office because the physician does not agree with your life choices and priorities? How about feeling persecuted by a family member for the way you are choosing to raise your kids? Maybe you've felt persecuted by your spouse when you expressed an opinion or desire. The truth is, we are GOING to get persecuted in most every area of our life. The magic is in the way you handle it. Do you become aggressive? Do you hide your hurt? Do you "one up them?" My recent experience at a doctors office was exactly what I didn't know I needed (and certainly wouldn't have chosen for myself at the time) to help me step further into who I really am. A wonderful woman that can feel hurt and be kind. I can show my hurt, rather than hiding it and be human and be kind. It really was so healing for me to experience that hurtful moment AND claim my opportunity. I hope this episode inspires you to treat people differently, even if you are being persecuted. We have a new Mindset Course coming out in October that will help you surrender the negativity you have previously used so you can pick up the empowered tools that you need. I am so thrilled and want you to be the first to know when this powerful course is ready for you!! Click here to be the first to know!! Follow along on IG for daily mindset encouragement and tools. love you dearly, Tessa Romero

From one mama to another, I get it. I get the tantrums, night time wake ups, craving a quiet moment to yourself and feeling overstimulated in the daily details. I also know that even with all of that, you want to BE the mama you envisioned yourself being. You want to see progress in the intentional direction of your choosing and feel proud of who you are. I have two steps to break down for you that will help you do that! Along with these two steps you will find what to avoid along the way and direct examples of what this looks like in action! I love that you are here and we get to do this work together, Let's get started! Tessa Romero Start journaling to calm your mind. Follow along on IG for daily examples and inspiration!

I feel so grateful to have friends in my life that share their unique and bold perspectives with me so that I may be blessed with them, too. That's what I want to share with you today, too. It can feel really hard to heal when life continues to look the same way and we continue to think the same way about our experiences. A friend of mine shared a bold perspective with me earlier this year and I believe it can help you make shifts like it did for me, too. Consider the writing exercise at the end of this episode because pen to paper is MAGIC for your mind. Love you dearly and thank you for being here!

If I were to ask a mother who she wants to be, I would likely hear "capable" in that statement somewhere. I have been coaching my sweet mama friends like you for five years now and it's clear as day why we'd want to feel capable. Life would be easier if we knew we were capable, right?! I am bringing a new perspective to the party on this, after a dear client of mine who we will call "sarah" shared this exact statement with us and we were able to unpack why it was hurting her progress so much and actually taking her AWAY from who she wanted to be. Mama, it's a beautiful thing to choose who you are and I want to help you live life like her because you deserve it. Deep breath and let's get started. p.s. I am bringing an excited change to the podcast soon and I didn't want episodes to pause in the process, so I removed the intro for now. Stay tuned!! Make sure you are growing your identity through daily writing using my proven alignment journaling method. Email connect@momset.com for coaching with Tessa and our powerful team of certified coaches in this work!

It's time we agreed on one thing, that we ARE influenced. Who you choose to allow into your head space will influence you for better or worse and the mind is such a fascinating place. The subconscious mind has no sense of humor so all of the "dark humor of motherhood" and little gabs at spouses and "jokes" about kids, are taken literally in your mind. I want you to intentionally choose who is in your mind. Are they living their rent free- taking up space without giving you anything in return? Clean up your influences today and see how your mind shifts! I've been working really hard on myself this year and I want you to have the same clarity and vision for your life to be beautiful, joyful and pleasant to be in mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Lets stay connected on IG so I can keep the mindset flowing your way! Put pen to paper before you join me back here next week! I'll teach you step by step how to journal for lasting change.

My sweet angel five year old boy is an early riser. Really, always has been and while I will say it is MUCH better than his 4:45 am wakings of his younger years, he still starts his day between 6:00 am and 6:30 am. Which is what it is as I have learned. Only, I used to think it's just who he is. He wakes up early because he is a morning person and I am grateful that Liam has taught me how to become a morning person, too. There was just a HUGE part of his morning wakings that I was oblivious to until a few days ago. Everything about his early mornings changed for me because of one simple shift in mindset. That is what I am sharing with you today :) You can grab your journaling course and join me in creating a BRIGHT, brilliant and loving mindset. You'll never regret time on the paper enriching your mind and I'll teach you step by step how to do it, as well as encourage you with prompts and examples every week because we are in this together. I love you with all I've got and I know the world needs our light and positivity NOW more than ever. Tessa Romero p.s. please pray, donate and support Lahaina, Maui in every way you can.

In my newbie beginner ways of doing life over here, I am thrilled to find little ways to continue to share with you and encourage you to BE A BEGINNER and embrace the "one step at a time" point in life. If you're in a place to change something in your life and work on yourself, (aren't we all???) then it is time to condition your mindset to support that. This episode is full of my favorite quote, a proverb I found and how we can choose the hard we are willing to experience and endure in life, with great purpose and fulfillment. Tessa Romero Remember to put pen to paper if you really want to change the way you think :) I can teach you how!

Okay, I love audio books a lot AND I'm noticing my love for them actually comes from a limiting belief that "I am a slow reader" and "I am not good at reading." So, here I am. Devoted to reading everyday instead of just listening on Audible. I finished two books in the last three weeks and I AM SO PROUD OF MYSELF!!! Which brings us to this episode! You've heard "if you don't use it, you lose it" in many examples. Think about it with muscles and playing an instrument. Muscles need to be used if you want them to stick around, and music skills need to be practiced to keep them. I was reading the book "Hunt, Gather, Parent" recently and there was a specific part that stood out to me about cultivating awe to help parents and children feel angry less often. Then it hit me... if I don't spend more intentional time creating good feelings of joy, gratitude, awe, love and excitement, then it would make sense that I would lose the ease of creating them. It makes sense why anger, frustration, irritability, shame and insecurity are so easy when we've been using them SO MUCH. I am unpacking this shift with you in the hopes that by the end of this episode, you are clear on what you'd like to lose and how you can begin doing so. Find the journaling course here if you'd like my help rewriting the story in your mind and increasing the ease of feeling GOOD! Remember, God loves you and you are already forgiven. It's okay to give yourself a fresh perspective and chance at life. With love, Tessa Romero

My coach, Natty, is a gift and the four questions she asked me as I sat puzzled with what my "next step should be" completely shifted my focus and perspective in one swift whirlwind. I am sharing these questions with you in the hopes that you use them to gain clarity and shift focus when and where it is needed in your life. My hope is that if you, like me, want to feel like someone that can talk to God like you hear other people do, you can. And you can use these four questions to get started. If you're interested in one on one coaching with me, please email me at info@bodybymommy.com with the subject "coaching" It feels messy sharing about my faith here and to be honest, I am learning so much and changing my mind in an ongoing way- which feels so freeing. You are loved. You are forgiven. You can move forward. Let's keep working on the story in your mind with good ol' fashioned pen to paper journaling. There's a reason that writing is so relieving and healing and I want you to know exactly how to do it! www.alignmentjouranling.com to learn with me.