The Momset Podcast

If why you do what you do is too strongly focused on the ideal outcome, weight loss, obedient children, a new home ... then you're missing the best part and will likely feel like a failure in the process. This episode teaches you to put your attention on who you're becoming in the process of pursuing goals and dreams.Follow along on InstagramGet more resources here

In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of my actual morning. There's mess, noise, interruptions and all. I'm sharing how I protect the dreams in my heart while meeting the very real needs of my family. Enjoy this raw and honest conversation about the choices I make to anchor my day in joy through it all.If you’ve ever wondered how to hold onto your vision while serving your home, or how to stay emotionally present without losing yourself in the demands of motherhood—this episode is for you.Come take a peak at my sacred mess and let it spark gratitude for your own.Follow along on Instagram Get more resources here.

This episode is taking you through the foundation of your identity in these moments and to be mindful of the "IF" that limits you in the hard moments. Your entire internal atmosphere changes when you move like God is watching you. Suddenly there's peace and surrender in the places you wrestled with perfection, people pleasing and approval of others. Imagine you're in the room with your close family and friends and "everyone else's" kids were playing, using manners and doing the "right" behavior for the room. Then you hear your child screaming, pushing a cousin over and saying "no" to grandma. Oh, boy... what happens IN YOU next?Well, that depends on what your focus is on. "What does Jesus think of how I handle this?""What does (friend, family, stranger) think of how I handle this?"With a mind set on Jesus you experience peace and a guided hand to help you through. With a mind set on man you experience pressure- perfect, perform and please. Which do you want and which do you have? Let's make forward progress here, together.

I used to see "God-fearing" often referenced, especially in 2020 during heightened fear and stress in the world, and I'd wonder "why would you want to believe in a God you feel afraid of?"Little did I know, that's a beautiful thing. Years later I'm here to share why "God-fearing" is a power word for me and what you can do to rise above the focus of man and the fears of the world. The Alignment Journaling Course is having a black Friday sale and it's the only time it has been discounted this year! Save $20 off the course and check out our NEEEEW (incredible) Daily Prompt Vault that is full of follow along video journaling sessions with me, 2 min inspiration and of course, written prompts and examples. This ends soon so come save a little money and an enormous amount of time you would have spent feeling negative.

Teaching regulation to my children feels incredibly difficult at times. It challenges me, stretches my patience and requires more attention than I knew I had to give. AND, seeing them take deep breaths when they feel upset, guide their brother to breathe and start doing 20 burpees without me even asking- IS WELL WORTH IT. Today I'm sharing what has worked exceptionally well in my home with high energy big feeling boys, which is BURPEES. I'm breaking down why I diligently emphasize regulation, what we do and how you can incorporate a plan like this, too. Side note: Christmas is coming quick. Get the 25 Days of Christ Advent Kit if you want to stay focused on Jesus and His teachings this holiday season. Use code TESSA for 20% off

There are times in life we hear one little line that changes the trajectory for us. I was attending a funeral while six months pregnant with my first son when one little line did that for me. I hope this episode gives you hope and encouragement to bring more positive communication into your home and daily life. Even if you've said "no" right in line with the average of 400 times a day that children hear it. Even if you grew up with negative communication being the norm. You get to decide what you do next, my friend. This holiday season is a great time to bring the story of Jesus into your home, with a guided story telling advent experience!This has been a favorite of ours for three years! 25 Days of Christ Ornament SetCode TESSA to save 20% off

This is a topic I have strong personal conviction and passion on and I'm sure you will feel that in this episode. After receiving criticism about a reel I made on IG that involved me waiting 90 seconds for my son to make the right choice and sharing that it takes 90 seconds to properly feel an emotion, I decided this podcast episode is the best way to respond. Discipline, boundaries and expectations are powerful in our parenting and they are a foundation for our kids to thrive. We can use each of those tools effectively, arguably more effectively, when we use them with kindness, calm authority and self-discipline. This episode has four key points in the heart of a disciple of Jesus Christ that is using discipline in parenting. I strive to be a loyal disciple of Jesus Christ and that means doing what is right even when it is hard and committing to parenting with faith over fear. All of the "what if..." theories thrown by others are fear based and I have resounding faith in following Jesus today in my parenting is the best possible outcome for our future.

Well, wouldn't you know it that the Bible is in full support of Yes Language?! Let's go through some scripture together and see where the meaning connects to our home life. Here are the links to Bibles I mentioned for any other beginners out there that want to start reading truth!Jesus Story Book Bible (I LOVE this one with my kids)Hosanna Revival NLT Bible (My first Bible I read for two years and appreciated the easy to understand language!)Study Bible ESV (My new Bible I am loving. The language is the right amount of challenge for me right now. I can still understand what it is saying and it reflects more of the traditional writings.)

I've been sharing a lot of the Yes Language I use with my kids and a top question I receive regularly is "does your husband do this too?!" Well- let's ask my sweet hubs if he uses it and what his take is on this communication style with our kids. We are two parents doing the best we can- just like you! This is what we have found works really well for us to feel our best as the parents we want to be. Truly love how open Marcus is and my goal is that you feel encouraged to start using Yes Language no matter who is or is not using it, too. I've crafted out an entire Yes Mom Campus inside of my coaching membership. It's 21 lessons to teach you how to love what you say and how you say it- saving yourself time and energy. If you're ready to start using Yes Language and ditch a whole lot of "no, no, no" then join us!

Okay, guards are down. I've been watering down my passion and mission to try and keep myself out of the "heat"- all while seeing moms drowning in the consequences of negativity. All done- welcome to my new ERA! Starting with 5 reasons to stop saying no to your kids. I'm talking about NO, CAN'T, DON'T, WON'T, SHOULDN'T... reactivity, negativity and disconnection from your kids. I mentioned my 21 day YES MOM CHALLENGE available in my membership (access it anytime) to learn the TOOLS of Yes Language. This will decrease the time spent yelling, criticizing, arguing and breaking boundaries.⁠ Sign up here! ⁠Learn from my ⁠free "Yes Mom" content⁠ .

Oh wowza, we need to have a heart to heart. Writing negative thoughts just to "get them out" does NOT validate an emotion. Thoughts are not feelings and feelings are not thoughts. THIS is the writing exercise you want to do to process through negative thoughts without getting stuck in them, so you can create empowering thoughts that serve you through ANY emotion and circumstance.Turn to a blank page, friend. I'll teach you how to do it. All my best, Tessa Romero p.s. I have this free email group where I send you word-for-word journaling examples.

I have butterflies posting this episode, it was SO fun to make! If you'd like to submit a "write with me" request for a future episode, simply send it to connect@momset.com Grab your journal and turn to a blank page so we can fill it up together. This episode is perfect for building your confidence as a writer, while instilling an empowered mindset along the way. We are taking two sections from Proverbs 31 to practice Alignment Journaling as the wife we want to be. You have full creative freedom to take my inspiration and run with it or write what I am writing word for word. Ah, this is SO great and exactly what I want to be doing. Thank you for being here! Tessa Romerop.s. If you haven't grabbed the Alignment Journaling course yet, this Black Friday is your chance to get it 20% off! Join my email list so you don't miss out!

Are you rushing through the day just trying to get the "to-do" list checked off and get to bed "on time"? You're probably feeling disconnected, unavailable and resentful in the process.I understand this to my core. Which is how and why I came up with my new life mantra "Hands like Martha, Heart like Mary" to help me remain available to the Lord and my family, while also serving in ways that light me up. This small shift in perspective has delivered the most wonderful results as I've been able to see how I can have BOTH. I know that you can, too. The power is in what we choose to think. I hope this one slips right in to your heart and your mind gives up the idea of your value being tied to your productivity. I adore you, I really do. Tessa Romero Connect with me on IG Is my mindset membership a good fit for you?

Giving less than your best is a betrayal to yourself. Yet, with perfectionism and the bags of tendencies that come with it, there seems to be an unspoken fear of striving for excellence and doing all that you can every single day. You'll be told "that's too much." "you shouldn't expect so much from yourself." "it's not realistic." Even if you enjoy waking up to a clean kitchen that reminds you of fresh starts and new days... someone will tell you that the pressure to clean it every night before bed is just too much. This is why understanding the difference between a mentality of Excellence and a mentality of Perfection will set you free. This episode takes a look at why we use perfectionism, how you can practically condition your mind out of it and what it looks like to strive for excellence AND fall short. I hope you enjoy it! Details for my coaching membership where this episode was inspired are right here. Huge thanks to Danielle for being a light and someone we can learn alongside. Tessa Romero

Today Ralphie Jacobs is joining the MOMSET Community to empower us to be a safe parent that sees the good in her children. You can look forward to learning about positive parenting, "junk behavior," inconsequential behavior (this blew my mind) and remarkable perspective that keeps you going even when it feels really, really difficult. Look at us- breaking cycles. "We are one generation from the "that's permissive" mentality..." "Parenting is not a societal matter. It's personal, it's spiritual and it's emotional, but it's not societal..." - Ralphie JacobsSign up for Ralphie's "Teach Me How" subscription and check out her fantastic IG account for more tools and light.

Choose quiet observations and follow it with quick, intentional corrections.A few years ago, I realized that explaining every decision to my kids—why they couldn’t have something, what I didn’t like about their behavior—only made things worse. It fueled conflict, invited pushback, and exhausted me emotionally. So I made a change.I started quietly noticing the behavior, keeping my thoughts to myself, and then making a swift correction without fanfare. Whether it was about food dyes, screen time, or behavior after movies, this shift brought peace to our home and confidence to my parenting.You'll want to get a pen and piece of paper ready for the writing exercise in the last part of this episode. It will help you experience a huge shift in mindset and self-empowerment! More details on my coaching membership are right here. I'm excited to hear about your implementation of "quiet observations and quick corrections" to your daily parenting triumphs!

It's interesting that moms are being told how good and admirable it is to ask for help, then in the same breath we are told not to help our kids when they ask for it. "They're old enough to do it themselves." "They're big enough to do it themselves." "That's not mine, they should do it.""If I don't do it no one else will." I'm big enough, old enough and perfectly capable of simple tasks and sometimes those are the ones I feel are too big when I have so much else going on. I want my kids to know they can always ask for my help. Even when it's a problem or task to face on their own, I'll be there with them as a listening ear and word of guidance. Why would my kids ask for help with the big stuff if I instilled a "do it yourself" belief with the small stuff? This is my perspective that nurtures my willingness to serve seamlessly, say "yes" to helping and instilling lifelong beliefs. This is the Instagram reel I mentioned in the episode. Click here to learn about my coaching membership if you struggle with your mindset in motherhood and want to be free of your own thoughts.

Listen to episode 130 for Part One "Be Quiet" before you jump into asking great questions! "To answer before listening—that is folly and shame." Proverbs 18:13Get better at seeing the real problem because behavior is a symptom of a problem. When you’re quiet and ask a few good questions, you can let the problem reveal itself to you. This episode gets into WHY we are asking questions, WHAT the benefit is and HOW to do it- the words to avoid and use! Buckle up buttercup and let's dig in! :) Click here to get personal coaching from me and my team inside of our fantastic membership full of moms ready for skills, tools, healing and ownership.

Podcast Episode 130: Be Quiet - A Mindset Tool to Improve CommunicationJoin my coaching membership for personalized coaching through your circumstances. You CAN have a positive mindset during this time and it IS the way through whatever it is you're going through. Let us help! ✨In this episode of Be Quiet, I’m teaching you a mindset tool that’s too easy not to implement, and I encourage you to use it in your marriage too! This tool—simply being quiet—can quickly reshape your mindset and communication skills, especially when dealing with challenging situations.I’ll break down why, when, and how to “be quiet” and show you how Scripture supports this approach. We’ll dive into the power of pausing, listening, and thinking before responding. Plus, I’ll answer questions from listeners about how to effectively use this tool with kids and loved ones, address emotional triggers, and handle situations where silence feels uncomfortable.If you’ve ever found yourself reacting before thinking or struggling with emotional responses, this episode is for you. Join me as I teach you how being quiet can help you build emotional maturity, strengthen your communication, and model healthy behaviors for your family.Stay tuned for next week’s episode, where we’ll talk about asking effective questions after being quiet.For more support, check out the MOMSET membership !

Do you ever think that things are just going different than what you would choose for yourself?! Of course you do because we are humans living a big LIFE. This episode is expanding your mentality to be able to have a greater capacity to accept what you are given, even when it is different than what you want or would choose for yourself. This is YOUR life. YOU get to decide what you think about it. Is it happening for you, to you or just happening and has nothing to do with you? Let's get your mindset serving you. I'll coach you in my membership. You can see my free content here.