The One You Feed | Personal Growth, Emotional Resilience & Purpose

In this episode, Jefferson Fisher discusses how to have better conversations by learning to argue less and listen more. Jefferson emphasizes that winning arguments is counterproductive, as it damages relationships and breeds contempt. Instead, he advocates for approaching conversations with curiosity and a goal of mutual understanding. Key strategies include proper timing, emotional self-awareness, creating conversational “frames” to set clear expectations, and avoiding over-explanation. Fisher also highlights the importance of acknowledging your emotional state and traveling light by addressing lingering issues calmly rather than carrying unnecessary emotional baggage. If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or frustrated by your inability to follow through, this episode offers a grounded, actionable path forward, one small step at a time. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: The concept that winning an argument is not the goal; understanding is more important. Viewing arguments as knots to be untangled rather than battles to be won. Strategies for effectively handling difficult conversations, including timing and emotional awareness. The importance of acknowledging and validating feelings during discussions. The role of patience in resolving complex issues over time. The significance of timing in initiating difficult conversations. The impact of over-explaining and the importance of being succinct in communication. The three rules for better conversations: control, confidence, and connection. The concept of creating a “frame” for conversations to set clear expectations and reduce anxiety. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Jefferson Fisher, check out these other episodes: How We Can Improve Communication in Polarized Times with Charles Duhigg How to Unlock the Power of Deeper Connections with David Brooks By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: Rocket Money Let Rocket Money help you reach your financial goals faster. Join at rocketmoney.com/feed. Pebl – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at hipebl.ai Hello Fresh – Get 10 free meals + a FREE Zwilling Knife (a $144.99 value) on your third box. Offer valid while supplies last. David Protein bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to www.davidprotein.com/FEED Brodo Broth: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo.  Head to Brodo.com/TOYF for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special solo episode, Eric Zimmer shares five powerful insights from his book How a Little Becomes a Lot. Rather than offering quick fixes or surface-level advice, Eric explores the deeper mechanics of real, lasting change. He unpacks why small, consistent actions outperform bursts of motivation… how to shift from self-judgment to skill-building… and why the stories we tell ourselves shape everything from our habits to our happiness. You’ll also learn a practical, compassionate approach to working with your inner critic, not by silencing it, but by understanding it. If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or frustrated by your inability to follow through, this episode offers a grounded, actionable path forward, one small step at a time. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Small actions create big change; if they’re low resistance and consistent. Real transformation isn’t about intensity. It’s about doing what you can actually sustain over time. Change is not a character trait, it’s a skill. If something isn’t working, it’s not because you’re broken. It’s because you haven’t found the right strategy yet. Most of our struggles happen at “choice points.” The tension between what we want now and what we want most determines the direction of our lives. Your mind is constantly creating meaning, and it’s often wrong. Learning to question your interpretations can dramatically reduce unnecessary suffering. The inner critic isn’t the enemy, it’s a misguided protector. When you learn to relate to it with curiosity instead of resistance, it loses its power. The language you use shapes your emotional reality. Extreme language (“always,” “never,” “this is unbearable”) intensifies distress more than the situation itself. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Eric Zimmer, check out these other episodes: Why Willpower Isn’t Enough: The Tiny Habits Method Explained with Dr. BJ Fogg How to Make Lasting Changes with John Norcross By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: Rocket Money Let Rocket Money help you reach your financial goals faster. Join at rocketmoney.com/feed. Pebl – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at hipebl.ai David Protein bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to www.davidprotein.com/FEED Brodo Broth: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo.  Head to Brodo.com/TOYF for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dorie Clark explains her long-game playbook about persistence, patience, and purpose in a fast-paced world. She explores the challenges of prioritizing long-term goals over daily distractions, the cultural obsession with busyness, and strategies for sustained motivation. Dorie also shares things that include saying no to good opportunities, embracing failure as a delay rather than a dead end, and breaking big goals into manageable steps. Exciting News!! My new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life, is now available!!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: The contrast between short-term thinking and long-term goals. The cultural perception of busyness as a status symbol. Strategies for managing time and prioritizing meaningful work. The parable of two wolves representing good and bad impulses. The importance of making conscious choices in life and work. The challenge of saying no to good opportunities. Goal-setting techniques and the value of pursuing interesting choices. The role of persistence and resilience in achieving long-term objectives. Learning from failure and viewing setbacks as temporary. The significance of maintaining motivation through small, actionable steps. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Dorie Clark, check out these other episodes: The Search for Meaningful Work with Bruce Feiler Purposeful Living: Strategies to Align Your Values and Actions with Victor Strecher By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: David Protein bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to www.davidprotein.com/FEED Shopify – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. Pebl – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at hipebl.ai Brodo Broth: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo.  Head to Brodo.com/TOYF for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special episode, Eric Zimmer is interviewed by Sahil Bloom, as they discuss Eric’s new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life. Their conversation explores how small, consistent actions, not dramatic moments, lead to lasting transformation. Eric shares personal stories of addiction and recovery, discusses the complexity of motivation, and introduces practical frameworks like the SPAR method. They emphasize self-compassion, resilience, and the importance of aligning actions with values, while critiquing the pressure to be extraordinary. The episode offers actionable strategies and thoughtful insights for building positive habits and embracing change with kindness. Exciting News!!!  My new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life, is out now! Key Takeaways: Behavior change and its complexities The role of motivation and willpower in personal transformation The significance of small, consistent actions leading to meaningful change The distinction between values and desires in decision-making The importance of self-compassion in the process of change Practical frameworks for behavior change, including the SPA method The impact of social media and comparison culture on self-perception Strategies for visualizing consequences to aid in decision-making The concept of “still points” for cultivating new habits of thought The balance between striving for improvement and practicing acceptance in life For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Eric Zimmer and Sahil Bloom, check out these other episodes: Redefining Wealth: The Truth About Money & Happiness with Sahil Bloom Why Willpower Isn’t Enough: The Tiny Habits Method Explained with Dr. BJ Fogg By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠David Protein bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to www.davidprotein.com/FEED Shopify – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. Pebl – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at hipebl.ai Brodo Broth: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo.  Head to Brodo.com/TOYF for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. Alma is on a mission to simplify access to high-quality, affordable mental health care. Visit helloalma.com to learn more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special episode, Eric coaches a listener named Birgit as she rebuilds her daily routine after a long-term illness and her children leaving home. Together, they explore practical strategies for habit formation, focusing on starting with a consistent healthy habits. Using frameworks like SPAR and RENEW, they discuss breaking habits into small steps, planning ahead, and responding compassionately to setbacks. The conversation highlights the importance of structure, self-kindness, and progress over perfection, offering listeners actionable advice for building sustainable routines during life transitions. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Rebuilding life after a long-term illness and navigating changes in daily structure. Establishing a consistent morning routine, focusing on a healthy breakfast habit. The importance of specificity and simplicity in habit formation. Strategies for reducing decision fatigue and avoiding procrastination. The SPA framework: Specificity, Prompts, Alignment, and Resilience for habit building. The RENEW framework for resetting habits after setbacks: Recognize, Embrace your Why, Neutralize emotional drama, Extract the lesson, and Walk forward. The role of self-compassion and positive self-talk in maintaining habits. The significance of small, manageable actions to overcome resistance. The impact of environmental setup on habit formation and behavior. Emphasizing progress over perfection in the journey of habit change. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this episode, check out these other episodes: Why Willpower Isn’t Enough: The Tiny Habits Method Explained with Dr. BJ Fogg How to Create Elastic Habits that Adapt to Your Day with Stephen Guise By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠Shopify⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. ⁠Pebl⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠hipebl.ai⁠ ⁠Brodo Broth⁠: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo.  Head to ⁠Brodo.com/TOYF⁠ for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. ⁠Alma⁠ is on a mission to simplify access to high-quality, affordable mental health care. Visit ⁠helloalma.com⁠ to learn more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Alex Hutchinson discusses moving from comfort zones to adventure zones and the journey of personal exploration. He delves into the human nature of exploration and fulfillment. Alex also explains how to find the balance between contentment and the drive to seek new experiences, the psychological benefits of embracing challenge, and the explore-exploit dilemma. He shares insights from his book “The Explorer’s Gene,” offering practical rules for meaningful exploration and emphasizing the importance of risk, effort, and play in leading a fulfilling life. The conversation encourages listeners to actively pursue novelty and growth, regardless of age or circumstance. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Exploration as a theme in both physical and metaphorical contexts. The balance between contentment and the desire for new experiences. The concept of the “explore-exploit dilemma” in decision-making. The impact of age on the tendency to explore and seek novelty. The importance of meaningful exploration and active engagement. The psychological benefits of effortful and challenging activities. The role of environmental factors in shaping attitudes toward risk and exploration. The significance of play in fostering creativity and exploration. Strategies for minimizing regret in decision-making. The influence of personal experiences and choices on the capacity for exploration. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Alex Hutchinson, check out these other episodes: Navigating Life’s Disruptions: Insights on Adapting and Thriving with James Patterson How To Cultivate Excellence in a Chaotic World with Brad Stulberg By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: Shopify – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. Pebl – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at hipebl.ai Brodo Broth: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo.  Head to Brodo.com/TOYF for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. Alma is on a mission to simplify access to high-quality, affordable mental health care. Visit helloalma.com to learn more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Laura McKowen discusses embracing emotional sobriety and small choices for big healing from heartbreak and anxiety. Laura talks about her 11-year sobriety journey and her personal journal of navigating heartbreak. She delves into the daily choices that foster healing and emotional well-being. Laura also shares insights on the non-linear nature of recovery, the importance of small, consistent practices, and the role of relationships and self-compassion in emotional sobriety. Together, they explore how healing is an ongoing process, shaped by vulnerability, connection, and the willingness to embrace both pain and growth. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Personal journey of sobriety and its challenges Managing anxiety and heartbreak after a significant relationship The non-linear nature of emotional healing and recovery The parable of the two wolves and its relevance to personal choices Importance of daily practices for mental health maintenance Concept of emotional sobriety and its distinction from mere survival The role of relationships in emotional well-being and healing Understanding attachment dynamics and their impact on relationships The interplay between trauma, addiction, and relational patterns Emphasizing self-forgiveness, compassion, and community support in healing processes For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Laura McKowen, check out these other episodes: Why Community and Courage Matter More Than Ever with Laura McKowen A Journey to Self-Discovery and Sobriety with Matthew Quick By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠Pebl⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠hipebl.ai⁠ ⁠Brodo Broth⁠: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo.  Head to ⁠Brodo.com/TOYF⁠ for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. ⁠Alma⁠ is on a mission to simplify access to high-quality, affordable mental health care. Visit ⁠helloalma.com⁠ to learn more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, James Patterson discusses navigating life’s disruptions and shares insights on adapting and thriving in life.. He also discusses managing negative thoughts and balancing ambition with contentment. James shares insights from his writing career, co-authoring experiences, and personal life, including parenting and the importance of prioritizing family, health, friends, and spirit. The conversation blends practical advice, engaging stories, and reflections on adapting to change, offering listeners inspiration and tools for navigating both personal and professional challenges. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Discussion of James Patterson’s new book, Disrupt Everything and Win: Take Control of Your Future. Exploration of how individuals and organizations can adapt to change and leverage disruption. The metaphor of the “two wolves” representing positive and negative qualities within individuals. Insights into Patterson’s writing process and creative journey. Reflections on co-writing experiences with various collaborators. The balance between ambition and contentment in personal and professional life. The importance of storytelling and practical tools in business and self-help contexts. Patterson’s early career in advertising and its influence on his writing and approach to disruption. The significance of maintaining balance in life, using the metaphor of juggling five balls. Personal anecdotes and reflections on travel, parenting, and life philosophy. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with James Patterson, check out these other episodes: How to Find Real Life in Stories with George Saunders Life Transitions with Bruce Feiler By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: Pebl – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at hipebl.ai Brodo Broth: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo.  Head to Brodo.com/TOYF for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. Alma is on a mission to simplify access to high-quality, affordable mental health care. Visit helloalma.com to learn more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Light Watkins explores the best path to authentic happiness and embracing spiritual minimalism. Light defines spiritual minimalism and delves into the importance of leaving every place better than you found it. The conversation explores authenticity, happiness, stress, embracing discomfort, and the value of consistent, small actions. Light also shares personal stories and practical wisdom on finding freedom in limitations, giving what you want to receive, and focusing on process over outcomes to create a more meaningful, present, and fulfilled life. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: The parable of the two wolves and the importance of choosing the “good wolf” or authentic self. The concept of spiritual minimalism and its principles, including leaving places better than found. The significance of final impressions in interactions and their lasting impact. The relationship between happiness, income, and stress, emphasizing internal versus external sources of fulfillment. The paradox of motivation and the importance of consistent effort for personal growth. The idea of finding freedom within limitations and the power of acceptance in challenging situations. The principle of “give what you want to receive” and its role in fostering community and connection. The importance of embracing discomfort for personal growth and stepping outside comfort zones. The value of being process-oriented and focusing on the journey rather than just outcomes. The significance of consistent effort and incremental change in achieving lasting transformation. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Light Watkins, check out these other episodes: How to Embrace Mindfulness on the Path to Personal Growth with Dan Harris How to Let Go of Expectations and Transform Disappointment into Growth with Christine Hassler By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠⁠Hello Fresh⁠⁠⁠ – Get 10 free meals + a FREE Zwilling Knife (a $144.99 value) on your third box. Offer valid while supplies last. ⁠⁠⁠David Protein⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Shopify⁠⁠⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. ⁠⁠⁠Pebl⁠⁠⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠⁠⁠hipebl.ai⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Nir Eyal, author of Beyond Belief explores procrastination and the hidden pain behind your limiting beliefs. He explains how beliefs shape our perception of reality, motivation, and behavior.. He also shares how beliefs are flexible tools, not absolute truths, and that changing limiting beliefs can reduce suffering and unlock personal growth. The conversation covers the brain’s filtering of reality, the motivational triangle (behavior, desire, belief), and practical strategies for reframing beliefs to overcome procrastination, manage discomfort, and foster well-being. Nir emphasizes using science-backed methods to intentionally choose beliefs that empower and support lasting change. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: The nature of beliefs and their impact on perception and reality. The distinction between beliefs as flexible tools versus absolute truths. The role of beliefs in motivation and behavior change. The motivational triangle: behavior, desire, and belief. The influence of beliefs on health, longevity, and personal growth. The concept of pain versus suffering and how beliefs affect this distinction. The importance of exposure therapy in overcoming limiting beliefs. The relationship between beliefs and procrastination as a pain management issue. Strategies for identifying and changing limiting beliefs. The significance of adopting empowering beliefs to enhance well-being and life satisfaction. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠click here⁠⁠!⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Nir Eyal, check out these other episodes: How to Master Internal Triggers and Regain Control of Your Attention with Nir Eyal How to Overcome Procrastination with Tim Pychyl By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠David Protein⁠⁠⁠ bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠⁠⁠www.davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Hello Fresh⁠⁠ – Get 10 free meals + a FREE Zwilling Knife (a $144.99 value) on your third box. Offer valid while supplies last. ⁠⁠Shopify⁠⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. ⁠⁠Pebl⁠⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠⁠hipebl.ai⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Elisha Goldstein talks about how to go from overwhelm to empowerment by harnessing tiny shifts for emotional resilience. He explains how small, consistent changes, or “tiny shifts”, can break negative emotional loops and improve stress, relationships, and longevity. He shares personal stories, practical tools like the “four R’s” (Recognize, Release, Refocus, Reinforce), and emphasizes emotional awareness over willpower. The conversation offers accessible strategies for managing overwhelm and building resilience, encouraging listeners to make manageable changes that support emotional health in everyday life. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: The concept of “tiny shifts” in emotional health and well-being. The impact of modern life on emotional loops and chronic stress responses. The importance of emotional awareness in breaking negative patterns. The biological and psychological effects of “bracing” in response to perceived threats. Strategies for interrupting emotional loops and fostering recovery. The “four R’s” framework: Recognize, Release, Refocus, and Reinforce. The role of self-compassion and supportive questioning in emotional management. The significance of reinforcing positive emotional experiences for lasting change. Practical applications and limitations of the discussed methods. The relationship between emotional health, stress management, and longevity. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠click here⁠!⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Elisha Goldstein, check out these other episodes: Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D-Mindfulness and Depression Jonathan Rottenberg Florence Williams By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠Hello Fresh⁠ – Get 10 free meals + a FREE Zwilling Knife (a $144.99 value) on your third box. Offer valid while supplies last. ⁠David Protein⁠ bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠www.davidprotein.com/FEED⁠ ⁠Shopify⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. ⁠Pebl⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠hipebl.ai⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Catherine Gray discusses her new book about “little addictions” and the big impact of transforming your habits for a healthier life. She explores how everyday compulsions like excessive screen time, snacking, or people pleasing are driven by ancient brain wiring and dopamine. Catherine shares practical strategies for managing these habits, emphasizing environmental changes, self-compassion, and shifting reward systems. The conversation highlights the importance of awareness, reframing language, and building mental strength, offering listeners actionable tools to regain control over their “tiny but mighty” compulsions and make more intentional choices. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Exploration of “little addictions” and their impact on daily life. Discussion on the neuroscience of addiction, particularly the role of dopamine. Examination of the difference between “little addictions” and clinical addictions. Strategies for managing compulsive behaviors and creating healthier habits. The importance of environmental factors in shaping behavior and habits. Insights on the internal conflict between the impulsive limbic system and the self-regulating prefrontal cortex. The concept of “dopamine shifting” to redirect reward systems toward healthier activities. Personal anecdotes illustrating the challenges and successes in overcoming compulsions. The significance of language in framing choices around habits and self-control. Practical tools and apps to help manage technology and behavioral addictions. For full show notes:⁠⁠ click here!⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Catherine Gray, check out these other episodes: Understanding Identity and How Our Past Shapes Who We Become with Catherine Gray Rethinking Addiction and Identity with Catherine Gray By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: Hello Fresh – Get 10 free meals + a FREE Zwilling Knife (a $144.99 value) on your third box. Offer valid while supplies last. David Protein bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to www.davidprotein.com/FEED Shopify – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. Pebl – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at hipebl.ai Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Rohan Gunatillake discusses how to unlock the power of mindfulness and transform your life one story at a time. He explores how stories can shift perspectives, the challenges and opportunities in mindfulness apps, and shares ways to integrate meditation into daily life. He also shares insights on making mindfulness accessible, playful, and adaptable, emphasizing community, creativity, and the importance of small, consistent practices for personal growth. The conversation highlights the evolving landscape of modern mindfulness and the value of finding meaning through both story and meditation. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Mindfulness and its role in personal growth. The transformative power of storytelling in meditation. The mechanics of storytelling as a tool for insight and perspective shifts. The challenges and opportunities within the mindfulness app industry. The concept of mobile mindfulness and integrating meditation into daily life. The importance of community in sustaining mindfulness practice. The “time problem” and accessibility of mindfulness for busy individuals. The relationship between mindfulness and technology in modern life. The significance of playful and creative approaches to mindfulness practice. Understanding the core techniques of mindfulness to foster flexibility and creativity in practice. For full show notes:⁠ click here!⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Rohan Gunatillake, check out these other episodes: Inner Freedom Through Mindfulness with Jack Kornfield Effortless Mindfulness with Loch Kelly By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠Shopify⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. ⁠Pebl⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠hipebl.ai Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Chris Bailey discusses how to be intentional and finish what you start. He explores how intentionality, values, and motivation shape our ability to set and achieve meaningful goals. Chris also introduces concepts like the “intention stack” and “sepia-toned goals,” emphasizing the importance of aligning actions with core values. The conversation offers practical tools for editing goals, balancing planning with action, and cultivating both deliberate and default intentions to create a more purposeful, fulfilling life. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Importance of intentionality in achieving goals Challenges of goal-setting and the concept of "sepia toned goals" The "intention stack" framework connecting daily actions to broader values Understanding and identifying personal values and their polarities The role of desire and aversion in goal pursuit The concept of "goal editing" to align goals with personal values Distinction between outcome goals and process goals The significance of the learning phase in goal attainment Balancing planning and action to avoid productivity traps Cultivating a positive relationship with goals to enhance motivation and fulfillment For full show notes: click here! If you enjoyed this conversation with Chris Bailey, check out these other episodes: How to Break Free from the ‘More’ Trap and Find Balance in a Busy Life with Chris Bailey Chris Bailey on Focus, Productivity, and Meditation (2018) Getting Things Done with Charlie Gilkey David Kadavy on Getting Started By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: Shopify – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. Pebl – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at hipebl.ai Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Chris Duffy, author of Humor Me: How Laughing More Can Make You Present, Creative, Connected, and Happy, discusses how humor can transform our relationship with life’s challenges, connect with others, and shift our perspective on difficult situations. He shares personal stories and practical tips for cultivating humor, emphasizing laughter’s role in resilience and well-being. The conversation covers the social power of humor, taking risks, and learning to laugh at ourselves. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠⁠⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠⁠⁠⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: The role of humor in coping with life's challenges. The concept of shifting perspectives through laughter. The parable of the two wolves and its implications for personal growth. Distinctions between comedy, humor, and levity. Humor as a spiritual virtue and its importance in connecting with others. The social function of laughter and its role in building relationships. Practical strategies for cultivating humor in daily life. The therapeutic benefits of humor during difficult times. The idea of taking social risks to foster genuine connections. The transformative power of humor in reframing experiences and enhancing well-being. For full show notes: ⁠click here⁠! If you enjoyed this conversation with Chris Duffy, check out these other episodes: Humor and Healing with Josh Johnson Pete Holmes Paul Gilmartin By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠David Protein ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Try David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Hungry Root⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.hungryroot.com/feed ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Faith Salie, CBS Sunday Morning correspondent and comedian, explores the complex nature of envy and how to harness it for personal growth. Drawing from Faith’s Audible series “Envy Enlightened,” they discuss the different types of envy, how it can be both destructive and motivating, and the importance of acknowledging and transforming it. Through personal stories and expert insights, they emphasize gratitude, self-awareness, and compassion, encouraging listeners to view envy as a natural feeling that, when understood, can guide personal growth and deepen appreciation for one’s own life. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠⁠⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Exploration of the nature and complexities of envy as an emotion. Discussion of the parable of the two wolves and its relation to emotions like envy. Differentiation between benign (positive) and malicious (negative) forms of envy. The impact of modern culture and social media on feelings of envy. Personal experiences and reflections on envy, including its evolution over time. The importance of recognizing the whole lives of those we envy, not just their successes. The role of gratitude as a tool to counteract feelings of envy. Distinction between envy and jealousy, and their emotional implications. The neuroscience of envy and the concept of "envy grooves" in the brain. Strategies for managing and transforming envy into positive action and self-awareness For full show notes: click here! If you enjoyed this conversation with Faith Salie, check out these other episodes: The Age of Magical Overthinking: Why Our Minds Keep Doubling Down with Amanda Montell How to Turn Life’s Pain into a Path of Meaning and Joy with Danielle LaPorte Are Your Desires Really Yours? How to Recognize and Reclaim What You Truly Want with Luke Burgis By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠David Protein ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Try David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Hungry Root⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.hungryroot.com/feed ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Ross Gay talks about embracing the messiness of life and finding joy in every day moments. He explores the complexities of joy, delight, and sorrow, emphasizing how attention and human connection shape a meaningful life. Ross also discusses the practice of noticing small moments, the interplay of joy and grief, and the importance of caring for others. The conversation also touches on societal challenges, the role of comedy, and the creative process, offering listeners thoughtful insights on living with compassion, devotion, and openness to everyday wonders. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Exploration of joy as a complex emotion intertwined with sorrow and human connection. Discussion of the importance of attention and devotion in cultivating joy and meaning in life. The relationship between joy and societal challenges, including systemic injustice and hardship. The concept of "feeding the good wolf" and focusing on what we love rather than negativity. The significance of small moments of beauty and connection in the face of suffering. The role of poetry and writing in enhancing attention and understanding of joy and delight. The idea of joy as a precursor to solidarity and collective care. Reflections on personal experiences of loss and the search for meaning in grief. The impact of societal machinery on human connection and daily acts of care. The process of writing as a means of self-discovery and understanding one's relationships and emotions. For full show notes: click here! If you enjoyed this conversation with Ross Gay, check out these other episodes: How to Feel Lighter with Yung Pueblo How to Turn Life’s Pain into a Path of Meaning and Joy with Danielle LaPorte Finding Hope When Life Isn’t Okay and the Power of Micro Joys with Cyndie Spiegel By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠⁠⁠David Protein ⁠⁠⁠⁠Try David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Hungry Root⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.hungryroot.com/feed ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Guy Winch discusses the concept of mind over grind along with practical tips to manage work stress and enhance your well-being. He explains the pervasive impact of work-related stress, the cultural glorification of overwork, and how chronic stress leads to burnout. Guy also shares strategies for reframing stress, breaking the cycle of rumination, and intentionally recovering from mental fatigue. The conversation emphasizes the importance of conscious effort, mindset shifts, and small daily actions to restore work-life balance and protect mental health in a world where work often hijacks our lives. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Impact of work-related stress on personal life and mental health Imbalance between work life and personal life leading to burnout Chronic nature of modern work stress and its effects Psychological framing of stress: “challenge state” vs. “threat state” Cultural romanticization of overwork and hustle culture Importance of conscious effort to maintain work-life balance Strategies for managing stress and avoiding burnout The role of mindset in stress perception and performance Techniques to interrupt rumination and intrusive thoughts Importance of engaging in meaningful activities for mental recovery For full show notes: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! If you enjoyed this conversation with Guy Winch, check out these other episodes: Emotional First Aid with Guy Winch How to Recognize the Hidden Signs of Burnout with Leah Weiss How to Deal with Burnout Through Self-Compassion with Kristin Neff By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠⁠David Protein ⁠⁠⁠Try David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠⁠⁠davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Hungry Root⁠⁠⁠⁠: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.hungryroot.com/feed ⁠⁠⁠⁠and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Jonathan Goodman discusses defines unhinged habits and how to transform your life by doing less. He shares how selling his software company led him to focus on writing and living intentionally. Jonathan also explores the importance of prioritizing money, health, and relationships, embracing life’s natural seasons, and making conscious trade-offs. He explains how intense focus can transform habits, the value of childhood passions, and the difference between meaningful and vacant activities. The episode encourages listeners to nurture what matters, let go of what doesn’t, and periodically reset for a more fulfilling life. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: oneyoufeed.net/survey Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Discussion of the importance of prioritizing life’s triad: money, health, and relationships. Exploration of the concept of life seasons and the need to focus on different priorities at different times. Insights on habit formation and the necessity of making trade-offs to avoid burnout. The metaphor of the “good wolf” and the importance of nurturing positive qualities within oneself. The significance of recognizing when a season ends to allow for rest and reflection. The idea of maintaining balance in life and the dangers of comparing oneself to others. The role of intentional living and making deliberate decisions about time and energy investment. The benefits of an exploratory mindset and trying new activities to discover what fits best. Discussion on the social and physical benefits of engaging in inclusive activities like games. The impact of modern life on natural rhythms and the importance of consciously ending seasons for personal growth. For full show notes: ⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠! If you enjoyed this conversation with Jonathan Goodman, check out these other episodes: How to Create Elastic Habits that Adapt to Your Day with Stephen Guise Behavior Change with John Norcross Tiny Habits for Behavior Change with BJ Fogg By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠David Protein ⁠⁠Try David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠⁠davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Hungry Root⁠⁠⁠: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to ⁠⁠⁠www.hungryroot.com/feed ⁠⁠⁠and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Ingrid Clayton explains how to start moving from people pleasing to self-trust and breaking the cycle of fawning, which is the compulsion to appease others to stay safe. She shares her personal and clinical insights on how fawning develops, its impact on self-identity, and the challenges of healing. Dr. Clayton also discusses therapy approaches, the importance of self-trust, and practical steps for breaking the fawning pattern, emphasizing the value of curiosity, self-compassion, and gradual, body-based healing in reclaiming one’s authentic voice and boundaries. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Discussion of the trauma response known as “fawning” as a coping mechanism. Exploration of the challenges of setting boundaries for individuals who fawn. Examination of the differences between fawning and other trauma responses like fight, flight, and freeze. Personal stories illustrating the impact of fawning in childhood and adulthood. The importance of nervous system regulation in healing from trauma. Clarification of the distinctions between fawning, people pleasing, and codependency. The role of self-awareness and body-based practices in recognizing and addressing fawning. Discussion on the complexities of healing and the individual nature of recovery journeys. Critique of common therapeutic advice and the need for trauma-informed approaches. Emphasis on the importance of self-trust and curiosity in the healing process. For full show notes: ⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠! If you enjoyed this conversation with Ingrid Clayton, check out these other episodes: How to Break the People-Pleasing Cycle and Set Healthy Boundaries with Terri Cole How to Set Boundaries with Nedra Glover Tawwab Conversations for Radical Alignment with Alex Jamieson and Bob Gower By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠David Protein ⁠Try David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠.⁠ ⁠⁠Hungry Root⁠⁠: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to ⁠⁠www.hungryroot.com/feed ⁠⁠and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices