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1The up and down, or high and low, of any relationship or circumstance can wear you down until you are worn out completely. But can we get addicted to the ups and downs? Can our desire for the next high point keep us in a situation that makes us unhappy? That's the subject I explore today.
Changing how you respond to and cope with challenges can improve your relationships and life overall. When you're getting the same, bad results over and over again, it might be time for a new perspective to help you create better outcomes.
Asserting yourself is an act of self-love, not aggression. It's about recognizing your worth and preventing future conflicts. Don't let guilt from past experiences hold you back from showing that you are worthy of standing up for.
What happens when you can't get along with someone because no matter how much patching up you think you've done, it's still not enough? Is there an end to this process? Will they ever want to forgive and forget?
When you get a therapist, coach, or healer, you can run into what might be called a "human" experience - the kind of experience where the people-helpers in our life might have some of their own stuff to deal with, and they intentionally or unintentionally bring that stuff into the professional environment. When that happens, can their help still be effective? Should you continue working with them? Is there a point where you need to move on? It's a great question and is definitely worth exploring.
Life brings us huge lessons. We can learn and grow from them, or we can allow them to hold us back. Some lessons, however, were definitely worth the hardship - especially ones that change life for the better.
I once called judgment "the ultimate relationship destroyer." Judgmental and critical behavior toward those you love will make them love you less. It's a fact. It's undeniable. And if you want to keep people in your life, it's important to understand what breaks down what could be a great connection to someone you love.
Dwelling on an event in the past can keep you there. It can occupy your brain every day until you can think of nothing else, causing you to miss what's right in front of you. This kind of obsessive thinking can make life pass by, and you may not even realize it.
A friend or family member does behavior that you find immoral or maybe even illegal. Do you keep the connection because they are a great person otherwise, or do you move on staying in alignment with yourself? It can be a tricky thing to navigate such a challenge.
What is your responsibility when it comes to your emotional state? Can others control how you feel? Do they have that power? We're told that we can choose our emotional state, but I just don't think it's that easy when we're dealing with people that know exactly how we operate.
Just how can we navigate through life's challenges and overcome overwhelm? The path to overcoming overwhelm can sometimes look a lot different than you think. Addressing the weight of negative emotions can begin the process and perhaps even resolve the conflict you're holding on to.
When you compromise your wants and needs, especially because you believe it will benefit others, you erode your deeper sense of self and happiness. Do that for years, and you can dig yourself a hole so deep, it may feel impossible to crawl out and find happiness again.
What do you do when someone you care about withdraws and simply can't cope with [you, work, life, etc,]? Do you let them be? Do you try to talk them through it, acting like their therapist or coach? Sometimes it's difficult to communicate with someone who didn't learn how to express themselves or deal with stress. Sometimes you just have to take a different path to connect.
Direct communication can save you a lot of time. But most people don't use it. Instead, they focus on what they can say to keep things "safe" and non-confrontational. But that tactic can sometimes lead to an unforeseen, unwanted outcome. Can honesty and transparency lead to stronger bonds even at the risk of the relationship?
Trying to accept people as they are can be challenging. The old adage about good people can do bad things certainly applies to many of us. But what about bad people who do bad things? Sometimes people are bad and won't change. It's up to us to be very aware of who those people are so we don't get stuck waiting for someone to change that never will.
When you feel judgmental and critical toward someone you love, it might be time to reflect and figure out if you've lost the emotional connection with yourself. Emotions can help us to nurture relationships or erode them. The path you choose can often depend on just how deep you let yourself go.
Feeling stuck, like really stuck, sucks. And when you feel like you have no other options but to accept your circumstances, it can feel sad. And sometimes, you can even become depressed, making you wish you could at least feel sad again!
Where is confidence when you need it? Today I share five unorthodox strategies for increasing confidence in life that you may not have ever heard of.
Sometimes we fall in love before listening to our instincts and then get into a relationship that is definitely not healthy for us. There is a deeper part of us that we're supposed to listen to, but sometimes we don't. Things don't always work as planned when your heart leads the way.
Just how far are you willing to go to feel comfortable or even be HAPPY in your life? Are you willing to do whatever it takes? What if whatever it takes means facing fears or even losing those you want to keep in your life? Happiness is only a few leaps of faith away.
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I'm so grateful for your marvelous episodes. The only thing that I can say to improve it is this: please change the music that plays during the show. It makes strong bad feelings like nervousness, anxiety, and fear. This podcast is a spot to relax, get rid of wrong beliefs, and gain more knowledge. These things wouldn't happen when you feel bad and uncomfortable. Thanks a bunch for reading my comment and for your perfect content.🌿
I'm so happy to reach out to your channel by searching the "psychology" term on the Castbox app. I've listened to 3 episodes of your channel yet and I can say they're terrific! Even though I'm not a native English listener I can understand 95% of your words. Your speaking style is fantastic enough to make me stay tuned during the whole episode. Thanks a bunch for your effort to make this channel. keep going and generate more useful podcasts. Be always safe.🌿 I wish you the best.🌱
Excellent advice. I am in the "thick of it", and you've certainly echoed many of my thoughts and sentiments. I just discovered your site last night while reading about deep loss. Teen daughter died a few years ago, unexpectedly, and my brain has certainly been overwhelmed ever since. Your podcast is already a breath of fresh air and a beacon of light for finally working on rediscovering me apart from the toxic F&F who've been unable to support me these past few years since my child loss. I have a lot of people I'm no longer "trying" with, and just- This episode could have specifically been for me. 100% Thank you for your writing, sharing, and this podcast. You've reminded me of my worth.
This episode felt like a friendly pat on the back 'cause in order to move, my husband and I have to literally give up all of our stuff, including books that I had kept from my childhood. A friend told me that it would be a pity to loose them and thx to your show, I answered, my head held high, that it would be a pity to loose my chance of being a better person. She thought I was nuts but I feel the turtle inside me has turned into a bird. So thanks for all the efforts you're putting into this show.
There is no defending a cheater no matter what. You can't blame the person you cheated on. Why is this hard to understand for some people???
Hey much better pronunciation 😁 btw, since you get listeners all over the world, (I'm making sure about it in Iran😉) you can check forvo.com whenever you're in doubt. Sorry, the mom side of me is back🤣
no. everyone is on a journey and they have to be the best version of themselves.
The sense of ever growing and improvement is established when the host genuinely has the same spirit. Immensely greatful for keeping life fresh all over.🙏🙏🙏
Excellent episode Paul! I love the idea you put forth regarding seeing your future self at the grocery store and being overcome with joy--you knew life was going to be alright at that point. It runs parallel to the concept, 'change your thoughts, change your life,' in that all one must do is believe and heavy burdens can be genuinely lifted from your shoulders. If you can believe it and perceive it, then it truly becomes your reality. Perception is reality and that truly matters if you want to change your outlook on life. I can see how someone might try to say the concept is too cheesy and superficial, but it's really not. If internalized deeply, you can change your life for the good by understanding and utilizing this. Thanks Paul! 💯 💛JamieTheOverwhelmedBrain
What I absolutely love about this show is that Paul doesn't deceive his listeners claiming he has the ultimate solution and leaves the decisions to those who should make them for their own improvement. That I believe is the meaning of Liberty.
very timely podcast! Thanks again!
Yet more seriously, what proof is needed to say that this show and your helping hand is nothing short of wonder since you have avid listeners from literally the other side of the planet?
psst, you ARE a superstar 😁
I feel like fears are much different when we have children. Our thoughts as parents are mostly based around our fears For our kids. What will happen to them if something happens to me?
What an excellent & thoughtful episode, Paul! 💯 I am so thankful for your podcast--I cannot thank you enough! I find myself at a loss of words when I try to articulate the profound impact your podcast has had on my life. You are appreciated, Paul! 💛
Great episode and that closing thought was totally relevant to me! 👍
Another incredibly helpful episode today. Practical and insightful as always. 👍
A really, REALLY useful episode for me today! 👍
I love the podcast apart from the introduction which reminds me of a tele marketing advertisement.
I understand letting go and it's given me a lot of peace