The Psychology of your 20s

Confidence truly is the secret to a better life: better friendships, better self esteem, better dates, better romance, better career success. Today, we are joined by the iconic, Tiff Baira known best for her show "Street Hearts NYC", her role as a matchmaker and model, as we explore how having certainty in your worth is the key to your dream life.  We break down the equation for true, undeniable confidence, treating confidence as a skill you can strengthen and train, the truth behind "fake it till you make it", learning to reject those who aren't capable of seeing your value and the changes you will begin to notice in your life. Listen now!  Follow Tiff on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiffbaira/?hl=en  Follow Tiff on Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tiffbaira?lang=en  Follow The Psychology of your 20s: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/       See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In 2021, Ellie Middelton received a diagnosis of ADHD and autism at the age of 23. It was one of the best things that happened to her. Today, she joins us to discuss why neurodivergence is typically overlooked in women, the misconceptions we have about ADHD and autism, unmasking and how to navigate a diagnosis later in life. She also discusses how to manage neurodivergence in our 20s, why self diagnosis is valid, and why the path people want you to take, may not always be the one for you. Listen now!  Follow Ellie here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemidds/?hl=en  Purchase Ellie's book, Unmasked: https://www.amazon.com.au/Unmasked-Ultimate-Guide-Autism-Neurodivergence/dp/0241651980  Follow The Psychology of your 20s here: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

So you’re thinking quitting your full-time job and working for yourself. Or maybe you’ve already decided that the corporate life isn’t for you and you have a passion project that could become a full-fledged business. What do you need to consider before you walk away from your corporate career? Have you thought about the financial risks, how you’ll find community or mentorship, or what your future would look like with less of a roadmap? This week on New Here, we follow Jemma Sbeg as she leaves her successful consulting career to pursue her passion project—her now-hit podcast, The Psychology of your 20s. Host Elainy Mata interviews Jemma on her first day of working for herself—to learn how she made the decision to leave her full-time job and what her hopes and fears are for her new work life. Then Elainy and Jemma have a second conversation after Jemma’s been working on her own for five months. You’ll learn which of Jemma’s fears were warranted, how she battled loneliness, managed her money, and whether or not she is actually happier working for herself. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you ever feel like you need to be perfect, that you are responsible for the emotions of others, you’re the organiser in the friendship group, highly self reliant, an overachiever, constantly being told your mature for your age? I would make a good guess that you are the eldest daughter.  In today's episode we break down the psychology behind 'eldest daughter syndrome' and how birth order and gender combines to create a certain personality profile and way of behaving and seeing the world. We explore ideas around:  Birth order theory Parentification  The mental load  Friendships between first borns and last borns Delayed teenage rebellion  Role modelling theory  Daughtering  We also share tips for healing and taking care of yourself as the eldest daughter, especially in our 20s. Listen now.  Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast  Follow me on Instagram: @jemmasbeg  For business enquiries: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Living in sharehouses in our 20s are like their own weird, social experiment. We put together a group of people with different upbringings, personalities, lifestyles and standards under one roof and expect it to work out. Sometimes it does, other times it doesn't and we see social harmony break down. In today's episode we discuss:  The four styles of roommates The Cinderella Roommate  The psychology of freeloading  The influence of personality Living with friends  The role of communication  Conflict, stonewalling and the silent treatment  When its time to move out!  Listen now as we break down the psychology of roommates and sharehouses. And don't forget to share your horror roommate stories!    Follow us on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast  Follow me on Instagram: @jemmasbeg For business enquiries: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Attractiveness and beauty is something we all inevitably find ourselves considering. We question whether we would be happier if we lost weight, would find love if our skin was better, would be more successful if we looked more like her or him. Our obsession with beauty is psychological and deeply rooted in our biology and evolution as a species. In today's episode we break down the existence of pretty privilege and beauty standards in our 20s and how they are impacting our mental wellbeing, sense of self worth and even our financial decisions. Listen now!    Follow us on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast  Follow me on Instagram: @jemmasbeg  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In our 20s there are four things we worry about more than anything else: love, money, the future, and our friendships. As we grow and change, the relationships around us will also naturally change and we may begin to notice how we are seeing our friends less and less, watching certain friendships fizzle out or completely outgrowing each other. It's not the same as it once was. This can cause a lot of panic. But underneath the fear of our changing friendships is a more primal fear of being alone.  In today's episode we break down the psychology behind our evolving friendships, the four types of friendship breakup, and how to adapt to these new kinds of relationship in our 20s, alongside the biggest friendship misconceptions that keep us in unfulfilling situations. All of that and more. Listen now!    Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/  For business enquiries: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever had the experience of leaving a conversation and feeling like something you said was off, you sounded weird, you were awkward, worrying about what this person may think of you? This experience is much more common than we think and in today’s episode we break down the psychology behind why we replay conversations, exploring: Rumination The illusion of control Social approval Hypervigilance Rejection sensitivity dysphoria Social anxiety, and more We often place the perceptions and opinions of others on a pedestal and try to closely manage their judgements of us, but that may not always be helpful. We also explore ways you can break out of the thought spiral and regain control. Listen now!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We all know the feeling of wanting desperately to move on from someone - an ex, a past love, situationship, someone we know we shouldn't be with - but being unable to stop obsessively thinking about them. In this episode we explore the psychology behind why that is, but also how to get to the next stage of healing where you are free of the past memories, thoughts and your feelings for this person. We discuss:  The psychological need for emotional closure and how to provide YOURSELF closure  The Polyanna principle and positive bias for the past The chemical reason for obsession and unrequited  Anxious attachment and overthinking  The excuses that keep us invested in the wrong people  How to emotionally detach  The science of no-contact 10 tips for getting over someone you can't stop thinking about  If you are struggling to move on, even though you've tried and are ready, this one is for you as we unpack how to move on from someone you can't stop thinking about.    Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/  Follow Jemma on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Envy is ingrained into our human psyche, each and every one of us has, at times, compared ourselves to someone who has more, or possesses a quality or a level of success that we don't, and felt that familiar spike of pain. In today's episode we break down the psychology behind envy, and why it reflects a deeper insecurity in ourselves we are not ready to recognise. We explore:  The prevalence of envy in our 20s The primal origins of envy Envy vs. Jealousy vs. Greed  How envy shows up in our behaviour  How to stop comparing ourselves to others How to be satisfied with what we have  If you want to become friends with that green-eyed monster, this episode is for you. Listen now!    Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr David Rosmarin is an Associate Professor at Harvard Medical School and the founder of the Centre for Anxiety. Today he joins us on the podcast to discuss how we are getting anxiety WRONG as we break down a new approach to managing our anxiety, rather than approaching it with fear. For anyone who is anxious or has battled anxiety in their 20s and beyond, join us for a vulnerable conversation of how anxiety may actually be your superpower and how it has even created stronger relationships for me, personally. Listen now.  Buy Thriving With Anxiety, Dr Rosmarin's new book: https://www.amazon.com/Thriving-Anxiety-Tools-Make-Your/dp/1400327857/ref=sr_1_1?qid=1698370899&refinements=p_27%3ADavid+H.+Rosmarin&s=books&sr=1-1  Follow Dr Rosmarin: https://www.instagram.com/dhrosmarin/  Follow The Psychology of your 20s: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today we're having a candid chat about how I'm going. How I'm really going! We discuss imposter syndrome, why I've been putting way too much pressure on myself as of late and in the lead up to 2024 and why that has manifested in some serious burnout and illness (don't mind my Covid voice). I also break down my struggles with being disliked, particularly online and how we can manage and redirect the opinions of others to ensure they do not interrupt our journey to being our most authentic selves. Listen now for a candid catch up, all my love, Jem x  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Putting off a task to the last minute might feel good in the moment, but it often leads to a lot of long term consequences and stress. In today's episode we discuss the psychology behind why we procrastinate. Procrastination is often confused with laziness and poor time management, but its so much more than that. Many of us are chronic procrastinators because of factors like:  Boredom Perfectionism and overthinking  Poor impulse control  The pleasure principle Anxiety regulation Enjoying the urgency, adrenaline and pressure of doing things last minute  We break down all those causes of procrastination, alongside my SIX crucial tips for managing your chronic procrastination, from chunking, to the 80/20 rule, self imposed deadlines and using social accountability. Listen now!  Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/  Follow Jemma on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our relationship with food is so much more psychological then it appears to be, and the evidence for that can be seen with emotional eating. Sometimes we eat as a way to process or regulate our emotions, rather than from actual hunger. This can disrupt our relationship with food and lead us to develop unhealthy coping mechanisms. In today's episode, we discuss:  The psychology behind emotional eating Why we emotionally eat The impact of our hormones and stress response  How diet culture is putting food in control  The truth about intuitive eating  Tips to manage your emotional eating And more!  I also share my own journey with emotional eating and how my relationship with food has evolved in my 20s. Listen now. Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/  Follow me on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/ThePsychologyofyour20s  For help: https://butterfly.org.au/?gclid=CjwKCAjwvrOpBhBdEiwAR58-3AO4fboC3MOLarMlVv5a-GZOaOwWQVSLDtvuPrq4qOLM0zJwFiWt2xoCsHQQAvD_BwE       See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You're dating someone new and suddenly, they show up to a date wearing crocs, or wear goggles to the beach and you get the ick. You immediately lose all attraction to them, you feel the immediate need to end the relationship, why is that? In this episode we break down some of the surprising psychology behind the ick, including the links to our intuition, emotional unavailability, rejection sensitivity and more, but also why the ick isn't always a death sentence. We also discuss why we voluntarily give ourselves the ick towards the people we're interested in and how we can use it to detach from people who may not be good for us. All of that and more! Listen now.  Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/  Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/ThePsychologyofyour20s   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The post graduation blues can leave us feeling incredibly anxious, aimless and stuck, battling with the question of 'what next'? We are faced with a number of significant changes and transitions such as increasing distance between us and our friends, financial anxiety and having to make significant career decisions. All of this can culminate is a sense of choice overload and paralysis, but also a overwhelming sense of nostalgia to return back to the 'good old days'. In this episode, we break down exactly why you may be feeling lost after university and how to find a sense of meaning and purpose when it comes to post graduation life, and manage the career anxiety that comes with our 20s. Listen now!  Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/  Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/ThePsychologyofyour20s     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Taylor Swift is possibly the most famous person in the world right now, beloved by millions, streamed by billions, her eras tour may have even saved the US economy. What is it about her as an artist, a celebrity and a person that is so uniquely captivating? How has she continued to reach new heights, new fans and achieve such career longevity? And why do so many of us feel an emotional connection to her and her music, despite never having met her?  In this episode we discuss all of the underlying psychology behind the success and obsession with Taylor Swift; not just as a musician, but as a brand and a business, maybe even a friend, including:  Parasocial relationships and celebrity worship syndrome The power of escapism and story telling  The psychology behind our music preferences  The formula for celebrity relatability and authenticity  In group and out groups  The impact of her 'eras' and use of easter eggs for creating novelty and newness for her fans, and Why we are so obsessed with celebrity gossip Taylor Swift is more than an artist. For many swifities, she is a lifestyle and an idol whose music has been a part of our lives since we were kids or teenagers, bookmarking certain chapters and milestones as we have grown up alongside her. Today, let's break down the psychology behind everything we love, and sometimes dislike about Taylor Swift.  Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/  Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/  Support my Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/ThePsychologyofyour20s   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We have all had that experience of feeling bored with our everyday life, whereby we look around and our daily experiences have lost some of the colour and excitement. Why is that the case? Psychology can provide some explanations including:  A lack of novelty and new experiences Seasonal affective disorder  Overstimulation from our phones and social media  Social comparison  The benefits of a dopamine detox We discuss all these reasons and more, as well as what we can do to change that! How can we break out of this boredom cycle and feel like our lives and everyday experiences are meaningful by embracing the beauty of an anti-routine, challenging ourselves to try new things once a week, keeping ourselves open to opportunities (even ones that are scary) or even trying a dopamine detox. Listen now for when life feels boring! Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/  Our Patreon if you want to support the show: https://www.patreon.com/ThePsychologyofyour20s     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We all know the feeling of oversharing at a party or work function and feeling the sting of embarrassment and shame the next day. So why do we feel the need to overshare with others, even though it has emotional and mental consequences? In this episode we explore the psychology of oversharing, from the difference between trauma dumping and authenticity, why oversharing soothes our social anxiety or can be used subconsciously to fast-track a relationship. We also discuss the links to ADHD and the emotional aftermath, particularly the experience of a 'vulnerability hangover', as well as my 5 key tips to stop oversharing. Listen now.  Support me on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/ThePsychologyofyour20s Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

One of the hardest dilemmas we have to face is when it's time to walk away from someone you still love because you know the relationship isn’t right for you. We can often find ourselves stuck in a constant battle between knowing what is right, and what our heart wants us to do. In this episode we break down the five key signs its time to walk away, particularly for those of us in our 20s, and why these reasons matter the most, exploring ideas of:  Fatal Attraction Theory The biology behind our 'gut instinct'  The Reciprocity Principle  Equity Theory  Sunk costs  Expectant thinking  Fear of being lonely or of the unknown We also explore why we find it so difficult, the reasons that hold us back, including as the stigma around being the one to initiate the breakup and feeling like a failure for your relationship not working out.  You should not be with someone who is not adding to your life in your 20s. This is your time to be your own person, to prioritise exactly what is going to make YOU happy, not stay out of obligation or because of fear, family pressure or expectations. Is this the life you want, with this person? Are they making you the best version of yourself? Are they making you happy? Why don’t you deserve someone who does, even if it takes a while and is a bit scary.  Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/ThePsychologyofyour20s  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/  Resources:  https://www.whiteribbon.org.au/helplines/  https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.