Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

Fan favorite guest Mark Groves is back! This time he’s joined by his wife Kylie McBeath, to discuss their amazing new book Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire. In this interview they get to the root of codependency and offer ways to heal trauma and date intentionally. The dating dish story is: The Downside of Are We Dating the Same Guy Facebook groups. In Dear Damona a listener asks: Why are there so many fake profiles and how can you avoid getting frustrated with them? Follow Mark @createthelove and Kylie @beingisbeautiful and pick up your copy of Liberated Love (https://read.macmillan.com/lp/liberated-love/) today! Speaking of books - F the Fairy Tale is currently on sale at Amazon. Leave a review on Amazon to have a chance at getting thanked personally on the show! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Keishorne Scott, author and relationship & heartbreak coach, shares his strategies for healing after a breakup and setting boundaries. Plus, he’ll tell you which matches to avoid and which ones are safe to date. The Dating Dish this week is: Speed dating is making a comeback as Gen Z ditches dating apps. USA Today says, we shouldn't be surprised. The Dear Damona question is: What’s the etiquette for messaging a new match? Follow Keishorne on Instagram @KeishorneScott and learn more about his work and books at KeishorneScott.com! Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and take advantage of the discounted rate. Then leave a review and Damona may thank you live on-air! TIMESTAMPS (00:01:04) Spring cleaning and new beginnings - Damona discusses the positive aspects of spring and new relationship beginnings. (00:02:37) Speed dating resurgence - Damona discusses the resurgence of speed dating and its comparison to dating apps. (00:08:07) Preparing for speed dating - Damona host provides advice on preparing for speed dating events and engaging in meaningful conversations. (00:12:55) Managing expectations in dating - Damona emphasizes the importance of managing expectations and having a positive mindset in dating. 00:16:15) Introduction to Keishorne Scott - Damona introduces Keishorne Scott, a relationship and heartbreak coach, and discusses his work. (00:16:57) Overcoming heartbreak - Keishorne shares his personal experience with heartbreak and the journey to self-love and healing. (00:18:01) Self Work and Understanding Love - Keishorne discusses the self-work needed before marriage and understanding love. (00:20:00) Masculine and Feminine Gender Roles - Keishorne and Damona debate traditional gender roles in relationships and personal expression. (00:21:18) Types of Men to Avoid - Keishorne explains the "mouse," "bird," "dog," and "lion" archetypes and why to avoid them. (00:23:29) Recognizing Relationship Red Flags - Keishorne and Damona discuss the importance of communication and addressing personal issues in relationships. (00:28:03) Knowing When to Move On - Keishorne shares insights on recognizing when a relationship has run its course and the importance of mental health. (00:31:20) Healing from Heartbreak - Keishorne discusses the individual nature of healing from heartbreak and the non-negotiable aspect of self-healing. (00:32:49) Dealing with heartbreak and self-love - Keishorne Scott advises taking time to focus on oneself after a breakup. 00:33:40 Overcoming heartbreak and reconnecting with oneself - Damona Hoffman discusses the process of healing and reestablishing one's identity. 00:35:03 The discomfort of healing - Keishorne and Damona explore the discomfort that comes with healing and the importance of seeking support. 00:36:42 Maintaining boundaries - Keishorne and Damona discuss the importance of setting and maintaining personal boundaries in relationships. 00:39:08 Parting words and gratitude - Keishorne expresses gratitude for the discussion and shares insight on the importance of boundaries for personal protection. 00:40:22 Advice for a listener's dating situation - Damona addresses a listener's concerns about texting frequency and dating intentions. 00:47:56 Upcoming episode preview and book promotion - Damona promotes an upcoming episode and a book deal for "F the Fairytale." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In Damona’s anniversary episode, her daughter Addie shares what she’s learned about dating and relationships from her parents 17 years of marriage. Then, Addie takes over the Dear Damona segment with dating questions from the next generation of daters that are surprisingly relatable to people of all ages, like: Is it okay to tell a friend that you think the person they are dating isn't a good fit? What are the signs that someone is attracted to you? How do you break up with someone kindly? What’s more important, looks or compatibility? And the Dating Dish of the week is “Lessons Learned: They Married, Divorced and Then Married Their Ex-Spouses Again”. Read the complete article from The New York Times: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/03/09/style/ex-spouse-divorced-remarried.html Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode! TIMECODES 00:00:00 Introduction 00:01:09 F The Fairy Tale - Think of a Relationship Like a Table 00:03:18 Episode Preview - The Future of Dating, Insights on Dating & Relationships from Damona's Daughter, Addie. 00:04:26 Dating Dish - New York Times: Discussion on couples who married, divorced, and remarried each other. 00:05:40 Story of Leslie and Val navigating religious differences in their relationship. 00:08:11 Story of Jean and Ronnie marrying and divorcing multiple times, and their lessons learned about the importance of being a team in a relationship. 00:10:33 Final take away from the article emphasizes the importance of not overdoing intense emotional conversations in relationships. 00:11:33 Addie Introduction 00:12:35 Addie discusses the current state of dating from a teenager's perspective. 00:13:13 Addie's perspective on the challenges of finding and meeting potential partners outside of school. 00:14:42 Addie's insights on different stages of dating and where people in her class are meeting potential partners. 00:15:45 Addie shares her observations of Damona and Seth's relationship and the importance of humor in relationships. 00:17:45 Addie's thoughts on wanting marriage and kids in the future, and the freedom to design her own dating destiny. 00:20:34 Discussion on the appropriateness of commenting on a friend's relationship and the potential impact on the friendship. 00:23:50 Signs of attraction, including body language, changes in behavior, and the importance of face-to-face interaction. 00:28:50 The importance of honest communication and creating a safe space for sharing feelings during a breakup. 00:33:17 The value of connection, shared experiences, and shared values in deepening chemistry, and the impact of instant attraction in modern dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu, the hosts of the Dateable podcast, discuss the true meaning of dating intentionally and how some daters may need to reframe their approach. Our Dating Dish this week is: From swiping to sexting, here is what's really driving Americans in dating today. The Dear Damona question is: What are the signs that it’s time to take a break from dating? Follow Yue and Julie on Instagram @DateablePodcast and be sure to check out Dateable wherever you listen to Dates & Mates! Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dan Savage, author and host of The Savage Lovecast, joins Damona in a very special 500th episode to talk about dating trends and predictions for 2024. Then he and Damona take on a spicy Dear Damona & Dan segment with questions like:  - My girlfriend wants to switch things up in the bedroom, but I’m feeling shy. Where do we start?  - And, I don’t want a relationship, but I don’t want a one-night stand. What are my options? Follow Dan on Instagram @DanSavage and check out The Savage Lovecast wherever you listen to Dates & Mates! Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode! TIMESTAMPS The 500th episode (00:00:00) Damona Hoffman reflects on the history of the podcast and celebrates the 500th episode with special guest Dan Savage. Dating trends and predictions for 2024 (00:01:07) Dan Savage discusses 2024 dating trends and shares his newest dating term. The impact of societal developments on dating (00:02:25) Damona reads a portion of her book, "F the Fairy Tale," discussing the impact of societal developments on dating and relationships. The trend of ghosting and flaking (00:08:08) Damona and Dan discuss the increasing trend of ghosting and flaking in dating, and its potential reasons. The influence of politics on dating (00:14:45) Damona and Dan analyze the growing influence of politics on dating and relationships, particularly in the context of an election year. The growing political divide (00:16:07) Discussion on the increasing influence of politics on dating and relationships, particularly regarding women's rights and equality. Polyamory trends and definitions (00:20:32) Exploring the trends and definitions of polyamorous relationships, including statistics and Dan Savage's personal experience. Defining monogamy (00:29:39) Dan Savage's perspective on the definition of monogamy and how it can encompass a range of relationship dynamics, including acknowledging attraction to others. Challenging traditional monogamous norms (00:32:17) Discussion on the flexibility of monogamous relationships and the importance of maintaining intimacy, security, and openness within a partnership. Pegging and Tolley Amory (00:33:53) Dan Savage introduces the term "tolley amory" and discusses the concept of putting up with a partner's infidelity. Advice on Dominance in Sex (00:37:47) Dan Savage provides tips on becoming more dominant in sexual relationships and discusses the psychological aspects of dominance. Initiating Group Sex with Friends (00:47:29) A listener seeks advice on how to hint at the possibility of group sex with a couple they are friends with. The friend zone and hanging out (00:50:08) Discussion about navigating the friend zone and hanging out with someone of interest. Starting fresh after a long-term marriage (00:53:15) Advice for someone who wants to start dating after a 15-year marriage and is unsure about casual dating. Exploring casual relationships and dating apps (00:54:41) Encouragement for exploring casual relationships, using dating apps, and finding the right platform for dating. Getting out of the house and meeting new people (01:00:11) Encouragement to engage in activities outside the house to meet new people and potentially find romantic connections. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Madeleine Reeves, Deputy Editor of Cosmopolitan Magazine, shares key data from their AI & Dating survey, plus tips to navigate the intersection of technology and love. This week’s Dating Dish is: Debunking the Love Languages: A New Look at Romance and Science. And, our Dear Damona question this week is: I’d like to be set up by a friend, but mine say they don’t have matches for me. What should I do? Read the article by visiting: https://neurosciencenews.com/love-relationships-psychology-25556/ Find Madeleine on Instagram @madeleinefrankreeves, Cosmopolitan on Instagram @Cosmopolitan and check out Cosmo & Bumble’s AI & Dating Study for yourself by visiting: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a46574186/ai-dating/ REVIEWS WANTED: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jennifer Cook, the autism and dating expert on Netflix’s Love on the Spectrum, tells us what to expect if you’re dating someone on the spectrum or if you have a hunch that you might be on the spectrum yourself. Plus, she gives practical exercises for building the skills of dating, even if you’re neurotypical. The Dating Dish this week is: Wanted, True Love. Reward, $100,000. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: What do I do if my date keeps talking about their spouse who passed on? Follow Jennifer on IG @JenniferCook_Author and check out “Love On The Spectrum US” on Netflix! Read the full New York Times article at nytimes.com/2024/02/13/business/dating-bounty-roy-zaslavskiy.html Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Scott Evans, host of Access Hollywood & Peacock’s Couple to Throuple, shares what he’s learned after hosting this unique show and gives the hot goss on his own experiences with polyamory. The Dating Dish is: Is a dog a dealbreaker in dating. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: Should I pay for upgrades on my dating profile? Follow Scott on Instagram @IAmScottEvans and check out Couple To Throuple on Peacock! If you’re looking for help with dating apps, look out for Damona’s Profile Starter Kit at DamonaHoffman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lane Moore, bestselling author and host of the comedy event, “Tinder Live”, talks about her new book “You’re Not the Only One F*cking Up: Breaking the Endless Cycle of Dating Mistakes.” The Dating Dish is: Can talking about finances unlock successful relationships? The Dear Damona this week is: Does Healthy=Boring in a relationship? Show dates for Lane’s Tinder Live tour are listed at LaneMoore.com! And grab a copy of her book by visiting try.everand.com/moore/ Read the full Dating Dish article, written by Damona herself, by visiting wise.com/us/blog/damona-hoffman-on-love-and-money F the Fairy Tale is an Amazon #1 Bestseller! Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format and then SHARE THE LOVE - leave a review of the book on Amazon so Damona can heal more hearts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Helen Fisher, author and Chief Science Advisor to Match Group, shares the latest insights from the annual Singles In America study just in time for Valentine’s Day. This week’s Dear Damona question is: How do I get my match to stop talking about his exes? Be sure to check out Helen’s work on her website at HelenFisher.com and take a look at the Match Singles In America study by visiting singlesinamerica.com F the Fairy Tale is an Amazon #1 Bestseller! Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

MJ Harris, international speaker and author of “Get The F*ck Out Your Own Way”, shares his secrets to empowering your relationships - personal, platonic or romantic. Plus he explains why there’s nothing wrong with ghosting and as a world traveler, he breaks down The Tinder Rule. This week’s Dating Dish is: Avoid this trend if you're swiping to find a partner before Valentine’s Day! The Dear Damona question is: How do I respond to dating app candidates I’ve already dated or even slept with? Be sure to follow MJ on Instagram @MJHarrisSpeaks and pickup a copy of his book wherever they are sold! Read the Stylist piece for yourself by visiting: https://www.stylist.co.uk/relationships/dating-love/what-is-the-avalanching-dating-trend/855404 The Dating Accelerator Program is back! Break free from the 5 dating loops and finally find the relationship you imagine for yourself through this self-paced online program. Join in the monthly live Q&A for students only starting Wednesday, Feb. 7th! DamonaHoffman.com/course Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

F the Fairy Tale is an Amazon #1 Bestseller! Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format.  In this special all Dear Damona episode, Damona is answering your questions just in time for Valentine’s Day. Questions include: How do I date younger men? What is proper dating etiquette when preparing for a big move? What do I do when I feel like my matches are trying to date a stereotype? Should I be concerned by my date’s frequent compliments? And, what are some tips for choosing good photos for my dating profile? The Dating Accelerator Program is back! Break free from the 5 dating loops and finally find the relationship you imagine for yourself through this self-paced online program. For a limited time, add on one-on-one coaching too at DamonaHoffman.com/course Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

F the Fairy Tale is an Amazon #1 Bestseller! Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format.  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, marriage and family therapist, joins Damona for National Breakup Month to normalize the stages of a breakup and help you overcome heartbreak. In an exciting twist, she’s brought her own Dear Damona questions! The Dating Dish this week is: Dating News Reveals New Study For the Best Places to Meet New People.  Follow Dr. Lisa on Instagram @DrLisaMarieBobby and check out her Breakup Recovery Program by visiting growingself.com/divorce-counseling-breakup-recovery/ The Dating Accelerator Program is back! Break free from the 5 dating loops and to finally find the relationship you imagine for yourself through this self-paced online program. For a limited time, add on one-on-one coaching too at DamonaHoffman.com/course Read the DatingNews.com article for yourself by visiting: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1oU9_Ihv_J_fmA6Xw4gyLCxjc9FeGgqgM3ruuBoTKElw/edit#heading=h.9k0gcldkjk0g Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

F the Fairy Tale is an Amazon #1 Bestseller! Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format.  In this episode, Rainie Howard, speaker and bestselling author, outlines the steps to creating change and points out the signs that you may be in need of a shift yourself. The Dating Dish this week is: The hottest new dating site is here… And you know it as LinkedIn! And the Dear Damona question is: How do you know when you’ve been ghosted and what do you do about it?! Be sure to follow Rainie on Instagram @RainieHoward and check out The Rainie Howard Show wherever you listen to Dates & Mates! Read the Business Insider article, “The hottest new dating site: LinkedIn”, by visiting: businessinsider.com/linkedin-is-a-dating-app-remote-work-online-romance-2024-1 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

F the Fairy Tale is out now! Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format.  Carol Allen, Vedic astrologer and relationship coach, shares her annual astrological forecast in life and love! The Dating Dish headline this week is: Does Your Dating Life Need Decluttering? And the Dear Damona question is: My match wants to be exclusive immediately. What should I do?  Be sure to follow Carol on Instagram @CarolAllenAstrologer and for a limited time you can get your Personal Success Calendar at a huge discount. Just visit DamonaHoffman.com/MyCalendar Start tracking your dating progress with Damona’s Date Tracker by visiting DamonaHoffman.com/DateTracker Declutter your dating life and update that dating profile with Damona’s Profile Starter Kit. Just visit the “Work with Me” tab at DamonaHoffman.com Read the New York Times article for yourself by visiting nytimes.com/2024/01/03/well/live/love-dating-romance.html Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

F the Fairy Tale is out today! Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format. In this episode, Damona is kicking off the new year with a Master Class in celebration of the release of her new book “F The Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story”. She’s breaking down the 4 dating myths and outlining their fix in the 4 pillars of long term compatibility and ending the episode with her hottest tip for dating in 2024! Follow Damona @DamonaHoffman on IG, FB, and TikTok and submit your dating or relationship questions now for the next Dear Damona segment. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Robin, a long-time listener, shares her journey in love and her 180 transformation from when she began listening to the show, and gives inspiration for writing your incredible love story for 2024. Last Call for the Pre-order Giveaway!! F the Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story, Damona’s new book, will be released on 1/2/24.  Pre-order F the Fairy Tale now and enter to win 2 tickets to see The Drew Barrymore Show, a $500 wardrobe from Democracy Clothing, a $500 travel voucher courtesy of New Leaf Literary, or an OkCupid Premium membership at DamonaHoffman.com/giveaway  Tertulia, a new curated online bookstore, is  giving a 20% off discount to listeners of Dates & Mates! Just use the code DATING at checkout and you can even get 50% off plus free shipping when you take a free trial of their membership. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pre-order F the Fairy Tale from your favorite bookseller and enter to win 2 tickets to see The Drew Barrymore Show live and in person in NYC along with a $500 wardrobe makeover from Democracy clothing, a $500 travel voucher courtesy of New Leaf Literary, or an OkCupid Premium membership at DamonaHoffman.com/giveaway  Paul Keable, the chief strategy officer for Ashley Madison, breaks down the company's recently published study, “Decoding Gen Z: A global report on non-monogamy, sex, and the desire for discretion”. The Dating Dish is: What secrets are people keeping in their relationships? WalletHub announces the Financial Secrets Survey. The Dear Damona question is: How do I move on completely from my ex? Read the WalletHub survey on Financial Secrets by visiting https://wallethub.com/blog/financial-secrets-survey/131537 Check out the Ashley Madison study on decoding Gen Z by visiting AshleyMadison.com/insights Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona’s new book F the Fairy Tale is available for pre-order NOW! In this special all Dear Damona episode, Damona is answering your questions to get dating with confidence for the new year ahead Questions include: How do I know when to say I love you to my partner? How do I deal with matches that do not carry their side of the conversation?  How do I tell if my much younger match is a good fit long term? How do I remain optimistic when finding my person seems to be taking longer than expected?  Pre-order your copy of “F The Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story” now and enter the giveaway for a chance to win 2 VIP tickets to The Drew Barrymore Show, a $500 travel voucher from New Leaf Literary, a $500 shopping spree from Democracy Clothing, or OkCupid Premium membership! Check out the rules and deets at DamonaHoffman.com/giveaway Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Damona and top dating experts on Thursday for the F the Fairy Tale Forum - Register free at DamonaHoffman.com/Forum  Dr. Tara, award-winning sex researcher and host of the Luvbites by Dr. Tara podcast,, shares her secrets to improved conflict resolution and empathetic listening. Plus she reveals whether jealousy is truly bad in a relationship. The Dating Dish is: Introducing the official current dating app etiquette!! The Dear Damona question is: How do I get my boyfriend to be honest with me? Dr. Tara gives amazing love and sex advice on Instagram @Luvbites.co and her podcast, Luv Bites by Dr. Tara. Pre-order F the Fairy Tale from your favorite bookseller and enter to win 2 tickets to see The Drew Barrymore Show live and in person in NYC along with a $500 wardrobe makeover from Democracy clothing, a $500 travel voucher courtesy of New Leaf Literary, or an OkCupid Premium membership at DamonaHoffman.com/giveaway Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices