This Changes Everything

Okay, so last week’s foray into the world of physical fitness podcasting was admittedly short-lived. BUT Therepy Jeff and Sarah Rice are back with something even more exciting. We're answering your sex questions. Here's what was on your mind this week: - How can I work on increasing my sex drive? - Is enjoying rough sex a trauma response? - Is it okay to leave someone with erectile dysfunction? - What do you think of sex tapes? - How do I ask for better aftercare? - How do you adress STIs and have a "normal" (heavy air quotes) sex life with herpes? Also, Sarah shares a very cool and fun experience she had at a ropelay class, which ended up being way more emotional and empowering than she ever expected. Give your skin the protection it deserves with Native’s mineral Sunscreens! Go to NativeDeo.com/tce, or use promo code TCE at checkout, to get twenty percent off your first order. Upgrade your CBD. Go to NextEvo.com/CHANGES to get 20% off your first order of $40 or more. give Firstleaf a try – head over to Try Firstleaf.com/TCE to sign up and save 50% on your first SIX hand-curated bottles plus free shipping. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426  

Welcome to This Changes Everything, the only running podcast hosted by two mental health professionals–just kidding! But Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice do happen to have some stories about their recent journeys into physical movement that have some real tie-ins with some of the topics they’ve talked about on the show. They also answer plenty of your questions, of course. This week, they focus on questions about emotion: emotional regulation, availability, vulnerability, all of the stuff we know is good for us but can sometimes struggle to access.  Sarah recommends a trio of books this weeks: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D. (Jeff highly recommends getting this one as an audiobook.) Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Dr. Kristin Neff. (And the accompanying TEDTalk) Therapy Jeff recommends Eckhart Tolle’s absolutely iconic work, The Power of Now. But be warned, it did make Jeff want to become a monk. Give your skin the protection it deserves with Native’s mineral Sunscreens! Go to NativeDeo.com/tce or use promo code TCE at checkout, to get twenty percent off your first order. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426  

Sarah Rice and Therapy Jeff are back and answering all of your questions! This week, we’re covering a little bit of everything. From feeling anxiety about seeing a new therapist FOR anxiety, to feeling uncomfortable if your queer partner is being affectionate with their friends of the same gender, to struggling to make eye contact during intimate moments, Therapy Jeff and Sarah are weighing in on everything you wanted to know this week!  For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter code thischanges50 Right now, Nuts.com is offering new customers a free gift with purchase and free shipping on orders of $29 or more at Nuts.com/tce For a limited time, all of you can try Headspace FREE for 60 days by going to Headspace.com/TCE60DAY. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426  

This week, Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are letting romantic relationships take a backseat to friendship and self-love! What do you do when you realize you’ve been putting in all the effort and energy to keep a friendship going? How do you believe in yourself and feel confident if you’re feeling anxious about where you’re at in life? Do people deserve a second chance when they haven’t been good to you in the past? And maybe more importantly than all of those other questions, should Jeff try out for Survivor? Your hosts are answering all of those questions, and more this week on This Changes Everything! Go to GreenChef.com/tce60 and use code tce60 to get 60% off plus free shipping. Right now, when you purchase a 3-month Babbel subscription, you’ll get an additional 3 months for FREE. That’s 6 months, for the price of 3! Just go to Babbel.com and use promo code TCE. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426  

Our listeners have come through big time with questions lately, and Sarah Rice and Therapy are coming through right back with answers. This week, you wanted to know what your This Changes Everything hosts thought about: - Why am I single, if everyone says I'm "such a great catch"? - How do I get my parents to respect me as an adult? - How can I heal my relationship after my partner has cheated? - How do I "Let it go"? - How do I decide between my current partner and someone who might be a better fit? Sarah referenced The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel in this episode. Here is the article Esther Perel wrote about infidelity that was also referenced in this episode. Give your skin the protection it deserves with Native’s mineral Sunscreens! Go to NativeDeo.com/tce, or use promo code TCE at checkout, to get twenty percent off your first order. You can grow thicker, healthier hair AND support our show by going to Nutrafol.com and entering the promo code CHANGES to save ten dollars off your first month’s subscription – this offer is only available to US customers for a limited time. Upgrade your CBD. Go to NextEvo.com/CHANGES to get 20% off your first order of $40 or more. Plus, for a limited time, you can get $30 off the first box - PLUS free Croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/TCE to start your subscription. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426    

We asked for more questions, and folks, you delivered! Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are answering even more of your most thoughtful questions. We love getting to hear what’s on your mind. Are we the new Loveline for the podcast crowd? Could be! Here’s a taste of what we’re talking about today: - What can I do about texting anxiety? - Do I have to be friends with my ex in order to be a good coparent? - Should I be upset that I’m not my boyfriend’s body type? Right now, Nuts.com is offering new customers a free gift with purchase and free shipping on orders of $29 or more at Nuts.com/tce We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426  

Listener questions! You slid into our DMs with lots of really thoughtful questions, and Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are responding to them with equally thoughtful answers. Here’s a taste of what we get into this week: - How do I navigate my own feelings when dating someone of the same gender for the first time? - Is it okay to flirt with someone who is dating someone else? - Should I tell my new partner if I can’t stop thinking about my ex? - Is it possible to date someone whose world views or values are different from mine? Hear our answers to all of those and tons more in this episode. And keep the questions coming! For a limited time, try Headspace FREE for 30 days by going to Headspace.com/TCE30DAY. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426    

John and Julie Gottman are two long-practicing psychologists and the founders of the aptly named Gottman Institute. Even if you aren’t familiar with their names, you’re likely familiar with the work they’ve done on relationships, including their groundbreaking relationship assessment tool, The Love Lab. (The Gottmans aren’t sponsoring this episode. We’re just fans.) Today, your hosts Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are breaking down Six Stages of Relationship Growth as outlined by the Gottmans–from falling in love to keeping that love alive years down the line (and how to avoid what the Gottmans call the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” in your relationship along the way). Whether you’re still looking for your person or you’ve been married for decades, this list is such a helpful resource for folks in all stages of relationship. Let us know what you think! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/tce  You can grow thicker, healthier hair AND support our show by going to Nutrafol.com and entering the promo code CHANGES to save ten dollars off your first month’s subscription plus FREE shipping on EVERY order. This offer is only available to US customers for a limited time. Give your skin the protection it deserves with Native’s mineral Sunscreens! Go to NativeDeo.com/tce, or use promo code tce at checkout, to get twenty percent off your first order.

In today's episode, Sarah Rice and Therapy Jeff are tackling a topic that is difficult, but one that many of us have gone through or will go through at some point in our lives: breakups. Breaking up can be a really tough decision to make, and sometimes it's hard to know if you're acting in the heat of the moment or if you've really considered the choice you're about to make. To help you sort through how you're feeling, Sarah and Jeff are sharing twelve questions you should ask yourself before you decide once and for all to breakup. Some of these might be uncomfortable because they'll require taking a long, hard look in the mirror, and we all know how much fun that isn't. But hopefully these questions will help you find the focus and clarity you need to help you decide if you're going to stick it out or if it's time to say goodbye. For a limited time, you can get $30 off the first box - PLUS free Croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/TCE to start your subscription. Go to GreenChef.com/tce60 and use code tce60 to get 60% off plus free shipping. For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter code thischanges50. Upgrade your CBD. Go to NextEvo.com/CHANGES to get 20% off your first order of $40 or more. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426

Our last few episodes have been pretty intense, so Therapy Jeff and Sarah have decided to lighten things up with something else our listeners have been asking for. This week, it's all about the apps. Whether you're out there looking for a good time or a long time, we've got 10 great tips to help you get the most out of your dating profile. We cover everything from your profile picture, to how to write a fantastic bio, to just how honest you should be in your profile. Sarah and Jeff are at odds when it comes to grammar and punctuation, so you'll have to listen to see whose side you're on there. Let us know if our tips help you find true love–or whatever else you might be looking for! We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426  

It's time for another round of one of our favorite show topics: Therapy Jeff and Sarah asked you are answering your questions! Some of the questions addresssed in this episode include: - How do I ask him to be exclusive without seeming needy? - Can a long distance relationship work? - How do you feel about your partner checking out other people? - How do I get over "the ick" in small things? - How do I keep the spark going in a longterm relationship? (Jeff shares some really thoughtful questions you can ask  to get deeper with and learn more about your partner.) - What do I do when my partner says objectionable or borderline sexist things? - How do I begin to repair trust after infidelity? - Go to GreenChef.com/tce60 and use code tce60 to get 60% off plus free shipping - Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/tce - For a limited time, try Headspace FREE for 30 days by going to Headspace.com/TCE30DAY We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426

Listeners, you've been asking us to cover this one. Today, Sarah and Theraphy Jeff are talking divorce. They're talking about the messages we all got about divorce growing up, being children of divorce, their own divorces, and a lot more. They talk about coping with grief, guilt, anger, sadnesss, and all of the tough emotions that are attached to such an intense life event. Sarah discusses why it's so important to set boundaries and get some space. They commiserate over the uniquely modern problem of detangling all of the shared streaming service logins. Jeff suggests letting your friends know what kind of support you need at any given moment. ("I just need to vent" vs "Can we just play video games?") They also talk about all the feelings that come along with dating after divorce and how to know when it's time to start dating again. Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/tce. It’s time to get your health in check with iHerb. Our listeners get 22% off your first order when you us code TCE22 at iherb.com. That’s 22% off your first order at iherb.com, promo code TCE22. Choose iHerb - because wellness matters. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426

Therapy Jeff and Sarah asked you to slide into their DMs with your therapy-related questions, and you all delivered. Some of the questions they tackle this week: - Should I give my ex a second chance? - When should I move in with my partner? - What do you do when the person you're breaking up with says you've ruined their life? - How do you know if your therapist is a good fit for you? - How do you deal with the fading of new relationship energy? - When do you know you're ready to start dating again? - How should I feel about my partner following Instagram models? - Is it okay to keep thinking about your ex? - What should you expect at a first therapy session? - And lots more! We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426  

Sarah and Therapy Jeff are back with the second half of this listener-suggested episode. Last week, we focused on what grief looks like and the ways it can show up in your life that you might not instantly recognize. This week, Jeff and Sarah are talking about what to do when you are grieving: how to accept grief, how to give yourself permission to feel what you need to feel. They talk about the ways a therapist can help you work through what you're feeling, and how it doesn't always look like having a huge meltdown. Sometimes it does though, and that's fine, too! For a limited time, you can get $30 off the first box - PLUS free Croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/TCE to start your subscription. Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/tce We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426  

This week, Therapy Jeff and Sarah are covering grief, so you might want to have your happiest movies and softest blankets ready to go after this one. When we think of grief, we usually think of grieving the death of a loved one, and that’s definitely one kind of grief. But we can grieve for so many reasons. Whether due to death, the end of a relationship, or leaving a job, any kind of loss can lead to grief, and it’s important to recognize this. We can even experience grief when something good happens. Moving in with a partner or getting married, for example, can lead to a feeling of loss that deserves to be felt and processed. To help with this process, Sarah walks us through Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s famous stages of grief. Most people are familiar with her early model, which outlined five stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, but she eventually added two additional stages, shock and testing, which helped to create a more accurate and nuanced model. Understanding these stages may be helpful when it comes to identifying grief and its associated feelings and behaviors. But once you’ve identified the fact that you’re grieving someone or something, what should you do? Sarah and Jeff have some suggestions in this episode, but of course, everyone is different, so if you are someone who’s going through it right now, try to show yourself some compassion and remember that there’s no single right or wrong way to grieve. Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/TCE. Go to HelloFresh.com/tce65 and use code TCE65 for 65% off plus free shipping! We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426  

We’re starting this episode off with an update from Sarah on the relationship question she asked Therapy Jeff last week. Then we’re picking up on the conversation we started last week. Last time we were talking about red flags that look like green flags. This time, we’re talking about green flags that might, at first glance, look like red flags. A lot of these are the healthy side of habits that can be problematic. For example, last week we talked about the fact that wanting to spend every single second with a new partner might be a red flag. This week, we’re saying that making yourself available is a green flag. As always, there’s nuance here. It’s all about balance, and it’s important to recognize when a behavior is veering from green flag to red flag. Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/TCE. For a limited time, you can get $30 off the first box - PLUS free Croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/TCE to start your subscription. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426  

This week, Sarah starts this one off with a personal relationship question for Therapy Jeff, and he really flips it on her. Then they get into the heart of the episode, red flags that look like green flags. It might seem pretty obvious, but so many of our favorite love stories are deeply problematic when you think about them for, say, 10 seconds? Jeff blames The Princess Bride for his “As you wish” behaviors and Sarah explains her own complicated relationship with The Neverending Story’s Childlike Empress. How do we see these tropes playing out in our real adult relationships? Therapy Jeff and Sarah are pointing out a few things that seem positive at first but might warrant a second look. Come back next week for part two: Green flags that look like red flags. - For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter code thischanges50 - Get $30 off your first Wildgrain box - PLUS free Croissants in every box -when you go to Wildgrain.com/TCE to start your subscription. - Go to NextEvo.com/podcast and use promo code CHANGES to get 20% off your first order of $40 or more. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426  

Last week, Therapy Jeff and Sarah focused on breaking up. This week, they're talking about staying together. Specifically, they're talking about marriage. Sarah asks Jeff to break down his "Four Things a Relationship Therapist Wants You to Keep in Mind Before Getting Married" video. First, they're talking about the fact that when you say yes to one person, you are, in a way, saying no to the possibility of anyone else. Second, Jeff reminds us that when you settle down, you're settling for a person who can't possibly meet all your needs (and you shouldn't expect them to). Third, you're going to get triggered by your spouse, but the important thing to remember is that's not necessarily a bad thing. Fourth, when you get married, you're going to have conflict with your spouse. So be prepared to take a break and get some space. These are all realities of being in a long term relationship that might seem negative at first glance, but they all provide opportunities to learn more about yourself, your partner, and the relationship you're building together. And that's a good thing. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426

Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are talking about something that’s always hard to deal with and not always fun to talk about–the dreaded breakup. Whether you’re the one being broken up with or the one doing the breaking up, it’s never a good time. But Sarah and Jeff are offering their thoughts on the best way to deal, no matter what side of it you’re on. If you’re the breaker-upper, what do you say? How do you say it? When do you say it? Jeff makes the distinction between ending things after just a few dates, and Sarah makes a good point, that this avoidance falls into the camp of good old procrastination. It’s a little different than breaking up with someone you’ve been dating for a little while. Or what about when you’re in a long term relationship? What if you’re married? Things definitely get more complicated then. There’s no totally right or completely wrong way to do it, but Sarah and Jeff have some ideas that can help both people in the relationship come out better on the other side of their breakup. Go to GreenChef.com/tce60 and use code tce60 to get 60% off plus free shipping. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426  

Sarah and Therapy Jeff are back to answer another round of your thoughtful, candid questions about sex! You asked about erectile dysfunction, using protection, sex with a therapist, having sex after a breakup, and so much more. Sarah and Jeff are doing their best to answer your questions, or at least to help you think through them productively! Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/TCE For a limited time, you can get $30 off the first box - PLUS free Croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/TCE to start your subscription. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426