It's time for another round of one of our favorite show topics: Therapy Jeff and Sarah asked you are answering your questions! Some of the questions addresssed in this episode include: - How do I ask him to be exclusive without seeming needy? - Can a long distance relationship work? - How do you feel about your partner checking out other people? - How do I get over "the ick" in small things? - How do I keep the spark going in a longterm relationship? (Jeff shares some really thoughtful questions you can ask  to get deeper with and learn more about your partner.) - What do I do when my partner says objectionable or borderline sexist things? - How do I begin to repair trust after infidelity? - Go to GreenChef.com/tce60 and use code tce60 to get 60% off plus free shipping - Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/tce - For a limited time, try Headspace FREE for 30 days by going to Headspace.com/TCE30DAY We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426

Listeners, you've been asking us to cover this one. Today, Sarah and Theraphy Jeff are talking divorce. They're talking about the messages we all got about divorce growing up, being children of divorce, their own divorces, and a lot more. They talk about coping with grief, guilt, anger, sadnesss, and all of the tough emotions that are attached to such an intense life event. Sarah discusses why it's so important to set boundaries and get some space. They commiserate over the uniquely modern problem of detangling all of the shared streaming service logins. Jeff suggests letting your friends know what kind of support you need at any given moment. ("I just need to vent" vs "Can we just play video games?") They also talk about all the feelings that come along with dating after divorce and how to know when it's time to start dating again. Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/tce. It’s time to get your health in check with iHerb. Our listeners get 22% off your first order when you us code TCE22 at iherb.com. That’s 22% off your first order at iherb.com, promo code TCE22. Choose iHerb - because wellness matters. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426

Therapy Jeff and Sarah asked you to slide into their DMs with your therapy-related questions, and you all delivered. Some of the questions they tackle this week: - Should I give my ex a second chance? - When should I move in with my partner? - What do you do when the person you're breaking up with says you've ruined their life? - How do you know if your therapist is a good fit for you? - How do you deal with the fading of new relationship energy? - When do you know you're ready to start dating again? - How should I feel about my partner following Instagram models? - Is it okay to keep thinking about your ex? - What should you expect at a first therapy session? - And lots more! We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426  

Sarah and Therapy Jeff are back with the second half of this listener-suggested episode. Last week, we focused on what grief looks like and the ways it can show up in your life that you might not instantly recognize. This week, Jeff and Sarah are talking about what to do when you are grieving: how to accept grief, how to give yourself permission to feel what you need to feel. They talk about the ways a therapist can help you work through what you're feeling, and how it doesn't always look like having a huge meltdown. Sometimes it does though, and that's fine, too! For a limited time, you can get $30 off the first box - PLUS free Croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/TCE to start your subscription. Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/tce We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426  

This week, Therapy Jeff and Sarah are covering grief, so you might want to have your happiest movies and softest blankets ready to go after this one. When we think of grief, we usually think of grieving the death of a loved one, and that’s definitely one kind of grief. But we can grieve for so many reasons. Whether due to death, the end of a relationship, or leaving a job, any kind of loss can lead to grief, and it’s important to recognize this. We can even experience grief when something good happens. Moving in with a partner or getting married, for example, can lead to a feeling of loss that deserves to be felt and processed. To help with this process, Sarah walks us through Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s famous stages of grief. Most people are familiar with her early model, which outlined five stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, but she eventually added two additional stages, shock and testing, which helped to create a more accurate and nuanced model. Understanding these stages may be helpful when it comes to identifying grief and its associated feelings and behaviors. But once you’ve identified the fact that you’re grieving someone or something, what should you do? Sarah and Jeff have some suggestions in this episode, but of course, everyone is different, so if you are someone who’s going through it right now, try to show yourself some compassion and remember that there’s no single right or wrong way to grieve. Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/TCE. Go to HelloFresh.com/tce65 and use code TCE65 for 65% off plus free shipping! We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426  

We’re starting this episode off with an update from Sarah on the relationship question she asked Therapy Jeff last week. Then we’re picking up on the conversation we started last week. Last time we were talking about red flags that look like green flags. This time, we’re talking about green flags that might, at first glance, look like red flags. A lot of these are the healthy side of habits that can be problematic. For example, last week we talked about the fact that wanting to spend every single second with a new partner might be a red flag. This week, we’re saying that making yourself available is a green flag. As always, there’s nuance here. It’s all about balance, and it’s important to recognize when a behavior is veering from green flag to red flag. Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/TCE. For a limited time, you can get $30 off the first box - PLUS free Croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/TCE to start your subscription. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426  

This week, Sarah starts this one off with a personal relationship question for Therapy Jeff, and he really flips it on her. Then they get into the heart of the episode, red flags that look like green flags. It might seem pretty obvious, but so many of our favorite love stories are deeply problematic when you think about them for, say, 10 seconds? Jeff blames The Princess Bride for his “As you wish” behaviors and Sarah explains her own complicated relationship with The Neverending Story’s Childlike Empress. How do we see these tropes playing out in our real adult relationships? Therapy Jeff and Sarah are pointing out a few things that seem positive at first but might warrant a second look. Come back next week for part two: Green flags that look like red flags. - For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter code thischanges50 - Get $30 off your first Wildgrain box - PLUS free Croissants in every box -when you go to Wildgrain.com/TCE to start your subscription. - Go to NextEvo.com/podcast and use promo code CHANGES to get 20% off your first order of $40 or more. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426  

Last week, Therapy Jeff and Sarah focused on breaking up. This week, they're talking about staying together. Specifically, they're talking about marriage. Sarah asks Jeff to break down his "Four Things a Relationship Therapist Wants You to Keep in Mind Before Getting Married" video. First, they're talking about the fact that when you say yes to one person, you are, in a way, saying no to the possibility of anyone else. Second, Jeff reminds us that when you settle down, you're settling for a person who can't possibly meet all your needs (and you shouldn't expect them to). Third, you're going to get triggered by your spouse, but the important thing to remember is that's not necessarily a bad thing. Fourth, when you get married, you're going to have conflict with your spouse. So be prepared to take a break and get some space. These are all realities of being in a long term relationship that might seem negative at first glance, but they all provide opportunities to learn more about yourself, your partner, and the relationship you're building together. And that's a good thing. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426

Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are talking about something that’s always hard to deal with and not always fun to talk about–the dreaded breakup. Whether you’re the one being broken up with or the one doing the breaking up, it’s never a good time. But Sarah and Jeff are offering their thoughts on the best way to deal, no matter what side of it you’re on. If you’re the breaker-upper, what do you say? How do you say it? When do you say it? Jeff makes the distinction between ending things after just a few dates, and Sarah makes a good point, that this avoidance falls into the camp of good old procrastination. It’s a little different than breaking up with someone you’ve been dating for a little while. Or what about when you’re in a long term relationship? What if you’re married? Things definitely get more complicated then. There’s no totally right or completely wrong way to do it, but Sarah and Jeff have some ideas that can help both people in the relationship come out better on the other side of their breakup. Go to GreenChef.com/tce60 and use code tce60 to get 60% off plus free shipping. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426  

Sarah and Therapy Jeff are back to answer another round of your thoughtful, candid questions about sex! You asked about erectile dysfunction, using protection, sex with a therapist, having sex after a breakup, and so much more. Sarah and Jeff are doing their best to answer your questions, or at least to help you think through them productively! Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/TCE For a limited time, you can get $30 off the first box - PLUS free Croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/TCE to start your subscription. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426

As we enter the post-holidays, post-New Year part of winter, people may be dealing with bigger, heavier feelings of sadness. This week, Sarah Rice and Therapy Jeff are here to help you recognize and identify those feelings, to break down the difference between general sadness and depression, and to tell you about a few of their own strategies for dealing with sadness. Sometimes, it means laying on the floor and listening to the most angsty emo you can find; other times, it might mean being as gentle with yourself as you would a child, and sometimes, you have to start simple and do what Sarah’s mom says: “Chop wood. Carry water.” Here's an article about the differences between sympathy, empathy, and compassion Sarah referenced: And here’s Brené Brown’s talk on the subject. Go to NextEvo.com/podcast and use promo code CHANGES to get 20% off your first order of $40 or more. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426

It's 2023, and we're back, baby! Everyone's talking about New Year's resolutions, and Sarah and Therapy Jeff have some thoughts of their own to share. Despite the fact that so many of us make them, New Year's Resolutions are notorious for being unsuccessful. Why is that? And why do we bother making them in the first place? As Sarah explains, there's nothing inherently wrong with wanting to start out the New Year with some goals in mind, but having unrealistic expectations can lead to feelings of failure, disappointment, and self-judgement. So Sarah and Jeff are here to talk about what makes for successful goals and resolutions in the New Year. Sarah explains why it's so important to look at the difference between resolutions we make for the person we think we should be versus the person we really want to be. And Jeff talks about setting goals that are based in inspired versus anxious action. Sarah walks us through a really useful exercise that starts with examining your current self-story and envisioning the best version of you that you want to work toward in the coming year, and Jeff has some really useful tips for how to start enacting that story in actionable ways. We hope you all had a healthy and restful holiday. We're excited to kick off 2023 with you all! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way - by going to RocketMoney.com/TCE We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426

Sarah and Therapy Jeff are continuing last week's conversation about ending relationships. Dealing with the end of a relationship is hard, no matter the circumstances. Do we need closure? How do we get closure? What do we even mean by "closure' in the first place? We often think getting closure means understanding exactly why a relationship has ended in the hopes that this will save us from heartache, but Sarah talks about the importance of closure in terms of allowing yourself to grieve the end of a relationship. Jeff asks us to consider why we feel like we need closure in the first place. Sometimes it's a healthy and healing experience. Other times, we're just looking for ways to retread old wounds, and maybe that's when it's time to think about having a conversation with a therapist instead of your ex. If you are struggling with letting go, Jeff's got some questions you can ask yourself to help you think through moving forward from the end of a relationship, and Sarah's got some concrete suggestions for things you can do to get back in touch with who you are when you're not in relationship. Take yourself out on a date. Eat the spicy food your partner couldn't stand. Remember, you aren't alone because you're always with yourself, and this is a great time to put you first! Get your first EveryPlate box for just $1.49 per meal by going to EveryPlate.com/PODCAST and entering code; change149. Get smarter CBD from NextEvo Naturals, and get up to 25% off subscription orders of $40 or more at NextEvo.com/podcast, promo code CHANGES. Go to Nutrafol.com and enter the promo code CHANGES to save fifteen dollars off your first month’s subscription. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426

Relationships aren't always easy, and every relationship has its ups and downs. But how do we know when a rough patch is more than a rough patch? How can you know for sure that something isn't quite right in your relationship, and what should you do about it? The best answer is probably the most obvious one: talk to your partner. But there are some signs you can be on the lookout for that might mean it's time to priotize talking with your partner in the first place. So here they are. Seven sins your partner might be feeling done with your relationship. **DISCLAIMER** Therapy Jeff and Sarah are not saying that if any of these signs resonate with you that your relationship is doomed. If anything we talk about today sounds familiar to you, it might be time to sit down and have a conversation with your partner about what you both want from your relationship. And if it turns out your relationship is ending, that's okay! The important thing is that you're taking care of yourself, in whatever way is best for you. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com For up to 25% off subscription orders of $50 or more, use promo code: CHANGES at https://nextevo.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426

Well, it's the so-called "cuffing season," which means folks may be feeling the pressure to find someone to snuggle up with or to lock things down with that cutie they've already found. It's a fitting time of year to wrap up our mini-series on attachment styles because Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are breaking down all the ways different attachment styles interact with one another. For example, what happens when two anxiously attached people get together? Fireworks! Maybe some inadvertent love bombing? Sarah and Jeff are breaking down the tendencies that can lead to stress or roadblocks in your relationship and offering ways you can address those issues to make sure your relationship is as strong and healthy as you want it to be! Jeff shares the story of his first kiss. It's very sweet. Got a good one, yourself? We'd love to hear it!   Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426

Sarah Rice and Therapy Jeff are breaking down a topic that listeners have been asking for: relationship attachment styles. Attachment styles are established with our earliest relationships, so they can be deeply ingrained and take a lot of work to recognize and work through. Jeff tells us why the securely attached might seem boring, but really they're #goals. Sarah tells us what secure attachment has in common with The Four Agreements. They also outline dismissive/avoidant, anxious, and disorganized attachment styles. Then, they outline some useful ways to think about your own attachment style and how it interacts with the attachment style of your partner(s). Sarah and Jeff each suggest a few ways to work on becoming more secure in your own attachment style, and Sarah provides a delicious metaphor in the process.  We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426

The holidays can be a really wonderful time to connect with the people you care about, but that doesn't mean they aren't also a really stressful time. Whether it's as simple as feeling like you have to wrap the presents exactly right, or the more complicated aspects of going home for the holidays, especially when home doesn't always feel like the safest place, Sarah and Therapy Jeff are sharing their best strategies for making it through the holidays, no matter what you're dealing with. Sarah talks about the importance of making your own traditions. Jeff shares what it was like the first time he decided he wasn't going home for the holidays. If you think you might need to skip out on the family celebrations this year, that's okay. And remember, you're not going to fix your childhood trauma over Thanksgiving dinner. The most important thing is that you take care of yourself, no matter the time of year. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com For up to 25% off subscription orders of $40 or more, use promo code: CHANGES at https://nextevo.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426

Sarah Rice and Therapy Jeff are talking about that old classic, anxiety. Jeff provides a useful explanation of the actual science behind how anxiety works in your brain and what you can do to help yourself work through it when it feels like anxiety is really taking over. Sarah breaks down the ways that physiological, cognitive, and emotional responses can feed and be fed by anxiety. Jeff has some strategies for recognizing early subtle signs of oncoming anxiety. Sarah talks about grounding as a really helpful way to manage anxiety in the moment. Jeff and Sarah trade their favorite grounding exercises, from doing semi-complicated mental math to five-finger breathing. Remember though, no matter how you get there, when it comes to anxiety, your main goal is to convince your brain that it's safe. This episode is chock full of great ways to think through and about anxiety. Sarah recommends Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey's book What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing. The audiobook is especially good!  We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426

Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are back, and they're answering even more of your sex-related questions. This week, they tackle tricky questions like: -How important is sexual chemistry? -Is it okay if my partner thinks about someone else when they masturbate? -Are kinks a dealbreaker? -How do I talk to a potential partner about having an STI? -How to manage high and low desire discrepancies in a relationship? Hint: the answer is almost always, "it depends," and/or "just say the thing." Plus, Sarah tells us how she took some advice she and Jeff shared last week and applied it to her own relationship. There's also plenty of talk in this episode about what makes Halloween the sexiest holiday and why Jeff has wet dream envy. So, you know, it's a totally typical episode of This Changes Everything. Thank you all so much for your fun and thoughtful questions! We'll be doing this again sometime, so keep them coming. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426

You and me baby ain't nothin' but mammals, so Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are answering all of your sex-related questions. How do you stop worrying about how much energy your partner is putting out when you're having sex? What are some good ways to communicate your wants and desires without making your partner feel like they've been doing everything wrong? What's the nicest way to tell your partner their after-gym scent just isn't doing it for you? Sarah and Jeff share their thoughts, experiences, and some advice to help you live your best sex life. They also weigh in on whether or not music has a place in the bedroom and what some good lighting can do to help set the mood. Come back next week for part two! We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426