Thrive Like A Parent

EP:56 It is ok for you to be an individual. It's okay to not have the same opinions. It's okay to feel things that others don’t.It's okay to be a quote sensitive human. It's okay when others tell you to get over it and are not ready, and it affected me and that's okay. All of our brains function differently. And if you're trying to model someone else or a generation or you're trying to keep up with something that was taught to you that you quote should be keeping up with but deep down you're you feel empty… Listen to that!

EP:55 A question I get asked all the time… When do you know you are finally healed from trauma? The truth is… It's not about when is the healing over. It's about gaining awareness to understand that you actually do have control over how you feel in the midst of a trigger. It is the ability to say, I know that I can support myself through this. I know I have the capacity to do it. I've done it before. And I know I'm going to feel okay on the other side. And that is what it's about.   The healing and work always continues. Am I more healed now than I was a year or two ago or five years ago, you bet. But I also love the person that I am here today. And I also look forward to the person I will be in a year. Like I look forward to that. And it's okay to accept it all. Healing can happen, but it does happen very slowly. And I do believe that we become wiser as we get older, we become more comfortable within our skin and more comfortable with the choices we're making and who we are and how we choose to lead our lives and not caring about what others think as much like all that happens with with time, right and experience, but also healing. So best of luck on your healing journey and know that it's okay to go slow.

EP:54 Although being sensory seeking can be difficult at times.. You're feeling, hearing, seeing and tasting everything that most others are not. The stimuli can be overwhelming...But it can also be a beautiful benefit, personality trait and neurological trait that can support you and your life and help you find your magic, help you find what you're best at and your strengths. Your sensory sensitivity is not a weakness friend, it’s your superpower! After you listen to this podcast, if you have any more questions on this or are interested in working with myself or my team and get support in truly understanding how to support your brain please reach out. Let's chat, because you deserve to live a full life that support your individual nervous system and you absolutely CAN HAVE THAT.

EP:53 It has officially been one year since I've started my Thrive Like a Parent podcast!!! I am so grateful that you have chosen to trust me. That's why I push so hard to make sure that this is done the correct way. Thank you for trusting me in supporting you and giving you the knowledge to understand how your brain functions, how your children's brain functions and how to support both. I can't thank you enough for your love and support for myself, my family and my children. #thrivelikeaparent #podcast #newepisode #threads #parentlife #1yearoldpodcast #anniversary #thrivelikeamother #sensoryregulation #brainstimulation #sensoryregulation #emotionalregulation #nervoussystem #nervoussystemhealing #stimulation #brainhealth

EP:52 On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast, I was fortunate to be joined by Dr. Morgan to discuss her book coming out called Love Your Kids Without Loosing Yourself in the Process. I was very lucky, I got a little preview. We will discuss a few things in it and a little teaser for all of you listening to my podcast to hear kind of what to expect. I personally cannot tell you enough positive things about this book and I would love for all of you to grab yourself a copy because Dr. Morgan could not be more on the money with this book. #thrivelikeaparent #podcast #newepisode #threads #parentlife #parentwithoutfear #techandchildhood #thrivelikeamother #sensoryregulation #brainstimulation #technologydetox #enoughisenough #livinginreality #sensoryregulation #emotionalregulation #nervoussystem #nervoussystemhealing #stimulation #brainhealth

EP:51 On this weeks episode of Thrive like a Parent podcast we will talk steps and signs of what happens when you finally begin the process of feeling your body come out of fight or flight. And it is so crucially important to understand this because you it's going to feel not as good as you want it to feel. is so crucially important to have this knowledge so that you don't spiral. That you don't think you're in a deep dark depression so that you don't think it's never going to end so that you know that your brain is doing exactly what it needs to do.

EP:50 This week I decided to do something a little different on my Thrive Like a Parent podcast. I want to say thank you to each and every one of you who trust me to support you through this crazy journey of life and dm me your questions. I know I don’t have the time to answer all of your questions but I will do the best I can to do that in these podcast episodes. Tell us how you're liking the podcast in the comments below, ask questions here! This will be the easiest place for me to see them. -> If you have any requests on specific topics let me know in the comments below.

EP:49 We can support our brain into rewiring. We can support our brain into healing. We can support our brain into gaining more fluency within each different portion of our brain. Your brain might push and resist away from saying the hard emotional things because your brains not used to it NOT because it can't. It's just that muscle has not been flexed enough. That is why it is so important to teach our children how to understand feelings, what they are and how to verbalize them. It is our responsibility as parents to teach our children this consistentely within the safely of our home so they can continue to do the same out in the world. Join me on this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent to learn how to teach your children feelings.

EP:48 I have officially been diagnosed with Hashimotos. It's an autoimmune disease, where your thyroid can bounce into hypothyroidism and hyperthyroidism. It's been a hard one, it's been a real hard one to swallow. But this will now be part of my story that I share with you and hopefully share my healing journey of what this looks like and how I am stepping in to supporting myself even more. And at the end of the day. It first and foremost starts with me on apologetically, taking care of myself. So I choose to move forward with the awareness, with more knowledge, more grace, more understanding, more self love, and more healing. Because at the end of the day, health is the most important thing. Mental and physical. So take this today as a reminder to slow down. Take care of yourself.

EP:47 Technology is sucking the money out of the world. It's absolutely crazy. And so many are going along with it. It's so upsetting to me. It's so upsetting for our future generations and our children. This is not what I signed up for when I decided to have a family and have kids. we've got to start living in reality and teaching our children that reality exists. And what that reality looks like is up to you to decide. You get to decide what this life looks like for your children, what you have them engage in and what you have them not engaged in. On this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast, we will dive deep into how our choices will help dictate the next generation.

EP:46 The first number one step to taking care of yourself within the exhaustion of parenthood is awareness, and acceptance. Ask yourself… How do I feel? It is ok for the answer to be I feel exhausted. You get to feel that feeling. Exhausted does not mean you're weak. Feeling exhausted does not mean that you're a bad parent. Feeling exhausted means you're probably doing a phenomenal job. When you accept how your brain and body is feeling, you are then allowed to go after the mental health that your brain and body is craving deserves and longs for. But in order to truly support ourselves, not only do we have to have the awareness and acceptance, but we have to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. We have to learn how to regulate ourselves. You are so worthy of finding that self care, you are so worthy of gaining support, no matter who it is. You are so worthy of finding a community, you're so worthy of asking someone for support, you're so worthy of having a moment of silence or just to stretch before you go to bed. You are so so worthy of that. But I cannot give that to you. You have to decide for yourself. This week on the Thrive Like a Parent podcast, we are going to discuss owning your exhaustion in parenthood and steps to take care of yourself through it without any guilt or shame.

EP:45 When there is a transition, your brain is feeling discomfort. We as parents have to support a child's brain into helping them become aware of the discomfort. We have to guide them through the process of helping them BECOME AWARE, having lots of conversations. There's no cure here. There's support. We cannot fix immediately, we have to support over the long haul. And consistency is key. On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent, I dive deep into how to support your child through transitions, teach them to continue allowing their brain to say, I'm going to keep going despite the discomfort, I'm going to keep going despite the fear, I'm going to keep going despite the lack of knowledge of where the where the heck this is leading me to and set them up for success.

EP:44 On his week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast… we're going to talk about why it's so damn hard to take time for yourself away from your kids. I believe that we get in this state of only focusing in on our children that we totally forget that we too exist. I promise you, it doesn’t have to be that way.. In fact it SHOULDN’T be that way! What I'm telling you is there is an incredible ability for you to become the captain of your own ship, despite the feelings discomfort, guilt, shame. It might be wildly uncomfortable. But is it worth it? You better fucking believe it's worth it. It's worth every ounce of moments away and self care and self love and you better believe it. Because when you come back, it's magic. Because you have given yourself what you need to then show up for your children, to show up for your partnership, show up for yourself. You have gifted yourself the gift of honor and mental health. Join me to dive deep into how you too can enjoy time away from your kids without any guilt or shame. XOXO, Dr. B

EP:43 Our children have feelings and they are in there. They may not understand or be able to identify the word but they sure as hell have them and it is up to us to help them feel the safety and comfort of pulling it out of their body and to be able to verbalize it. So crucially important. We don't want to minimize, we don't want to belittle, we don't want to overshadow… We just want to validate that's it. Just be present that's it just be present to the vulnerability of our children. That will get you so much farther in trust with them and connection with them. And the ability to know that they are okay. And that they have the tools to spread their wings and fly. Join me on this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast for tools, actionable steps into how to help your children find the feelings themselves, how to help your children learn how to communicate their own feelings, rather than us giving it to them.

EP:42 This week on the Thrive Like a Parent podcast we are talking about a topic that was requested by YOU the listeners, which is postpartum, rage and dysregulation within postpartum. In order to understand how we get to that place of postpartum rage and dysregulation, we have to take a step back in terms of how we've gotten to that place. We have these expectations of I've always wanted to be a parent. But the true question is... Do I really understand what that will look like when the baby finally comes out? Most of us don't realize that dysregulation and rage and sadness and postpartum depression is a form of grief, you are grieving your old life. Because within a blink of an eye, you, your body, your entire life has changed forever. The dysregulation is coming out because you're living in a state of survival from the moment you start having contractions and we are neglecting the amount of physical, mental and emotional effort it takes to actually deliver these humans. Knowing how to take care of your body. Give yourself what it needs. That's the ultimate parenting guide one on one. This and so much more on this week's episode..

EP:41 What most don't quite understand is that emotional eating is not psychological. It's neurological. And on this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast, I am going to give you the tools you need to break that cycle through regulation! You absolutely can have an intuitive and healthy relationship with food. Without any shame. Recognition Awareness Trust Create awareness behind how you're feeling and why you might feel dysregulated or heightened or overstimulated. Why is your brain seeking regulation? I urge you to BE CURIOUS, listen to your body and what it wants.. Go slow. Tune in with your body and your brain. Building new patterns takes time. Be kind and loving to yourself through the process. Join me to dive deep into the steps to break the cycle of emotional eating, trust yourself and create a healthy and intuitive relationship with food on this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast.

EP:40 In today's world it has become incredibly hard for humans to slow down. People are now glorifying hustling and bustling and we seem to be in a constant race against time in juggling numerous responsibilities, roles and keeping up with the daily demands of life. These days, the busier you are, the more relevant you become and more jobs mean more food on the table. But what happens when we start contemplating the idea of hitting the brakes and taking things a little slower? Well, that's when this fear creeps in. Why? Because slowing down in our society could mean insufficiency, failure, or stagnation. For most of us, slowing down means less income, missed promotions, and less money for our family's needs. Deciding to slow down means something important has to be given up.And we don't want that because our brains thrive on structure, stability, and control.Because of this fear,  we keep going, we normalize multi-tasking, and we keep on pushing ourselves harder to our limits until we get exhausted, irritable, burnt out, and dysregulated! But what if I told you that there's another side of that fear that could unlock the door to a happy, confident, satisfied, and joyful living? -- where it's ok to chew slower and walk slower;  where it's safe to ride the waves, smell the flowers, and feel settled; where it's guiltless to comfortably lie down on the couch, enjoy, and REST! So in this week's Thrive Like A Parent podcast episode, let's talk about one of society's most intriguing topics -- The Fear of Slowing Down and Why it's the Key to Enjoying Your Life. Join me as we start to learn about creating new patterns to slow down your brains and live the life that you truly want for you and your family at a pace that's good for you and that works for you! Yes! You can do that!

EP:39 For this week's episode, join me as I talk about one of the things that usually happens at homes that no one really talks about--It's the feeling of being like roommates with your partner. This situation is so inevitable in every relationship as time goes by. It easily happens;  it's somehow bound to happen; and it's absolutely normal.However, it's like a  super taboo issue that nobody can comfortably bring up without the fear of being shamed or judged! Why??  Because we all want to put our best faces in everything, especially with what's happening inside the four corners of our homes! We always want to project that we are so in control at home, especially in front of others. Right?? What usually causes the drift?? Overfamiliarity, too much comfortability, overwhelming tasks, and routines, piled up work, new responsibilities, raising kids, insecurities, lack of intimacy, fear, resentment, and so much more. While this is a common phenomenon among partnerships, it takes a lot of effort to change this shift. This takes brain rewiring and so much decision making.As we know, matters like this  never changes overnight. It needs the key elements of time, communication, and enough vulnerability to be able to see that spark and joy in the relationship again! All these and more on the Thrive Like A Parent podcast.

EP:38 On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent I am so excited to be joined by Lolo to discuss my grief journey through another lens. Lolo has been my rock and partner in crime through every step of this. Lolo has supported me and my boys through an unimaginably tragic time of our lives. I can not be express into words how incredibly grateful I am to Lolo and her husband Chris. I am so thankful for the choice they made to unconditionally support us through this wild ride. We all need support. We are not meant to go through this journey alone and there is no shame in admitting, seeking and getting what you need, what your brain needs and what you body needs. Join us as we dive deep into the last three years of our lives.

EP:37 On this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast we are getting real about parenthood because the truth is... This shit is hard! We crave that control and structure and stability within parenthood. That structure stability and control is an illusion, it is not reality, and it does not exist. Waving the white flag and admitting that this just is what it is. It's going to be ups and downs and highs and lows and that is ok! There are hard moments, that doesn't mean that you don't love parenting. It doesn't make you a bad parent. Hard moments are just that.. A hard moment. When you finally accept that it's just a moment and release the guilt and shame... Happiness, joy, peace, calm and acceptance will start flooding in. And you can have that. You are worthy of that!