Thrive Like A Parent

EP:30 I am so excited to dive deep into what it means to be a sensory avoider on this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast.  A true sensory avoider means that you experience sensory stimuli or input into your brain more intensely than the average human, which means you then avoid it because it's so overwhelming. Here are some signs that you may be a sensory avoider: You startle easily with sounds You avoid bright lights You zone out on your phone to escape the chaos You prefer more bland food You need the house to be clean and in order You crave calm, quiet, peaceful environments You are upset by unexpected touch Often times I find that you humans with sensory avoiding tendencies place sooo much guilt and shame on themselves. Guilt to the point of anxiety and depression. Everyone else is going after it.. Why can’t I?? So they push and push and push. Doing the complete opposite from what their body and their brain actually wants and needs.  Therefore awareness is KEY. You must understand how your brain functions, how your children's brain functions and how to support that brain, that will lead to the most beneficial, healthy, joyful life you could ever imagine. Because you're supporting the brain in a way that suits your own individual brain.

EP:29 A transition means that your body and your brain is moving from one state to the next with different stimuli and different surroundings. On this week’s episode of the Thrive Like a Parent podcast, let’s discuss transitioning into motherhood and what that means for your body and your brain. No books, no courses, no classes, literally nothing. Nothing can prepare you for parenthood. But if you understand your brain and your body from a sensory level, you can support your brain and body from the beginning through this transition into a new and beautiful phase of your life. You get to decide what this transition looks like for you. You get to decide what you want your life to be like. You get to be a human outside of parenthood. And you get to figure out what that means for you.

EP:28 Do you often wonder have I absolutely failed my children? And the damage is done? Have I damaged them for good? And luckily, I get to tell you now, the damage is NOT just simply done. My goal with this week's episode of THRIVE Like a Parent podcast is to help you understand and go to sleep, trusting that you are doing enough that you're a great parent, you love your kids, and to stop shaming that brain. Everything leads back to sensory and emotional regulation. Neurologically supporting the brain affects your children in a very beautiful repair healthy way. If you learn to regulate your nervous system, what ends up happening is you learn to have a much healthier co regulation with your children. Because if you can support your brain in your body into repairing your own emotional state and repairing your own sensory state, then you can support your child as well... Join me on this week's episode of THRIVE Like a Parent podcast to dive deep into how to release the guilt and repair the relationship with your child.

EP:27 It's time to rip the band aid off. We just need to accept and understand our brains and support our brains. And we need to accept and understand that the world functions probably 10 times faster than it did when our parents were raising us. And that's what we're up against with our kids. The rat race and the hamster wheel we live in is pushing your brain to its breaking point. There's such a crisis of depression, anxiety and dysregulation. A mental health crisis. AND everything leads back to regulation. How you interact with humans and most importantly your children when you are dysregulated vs regulated. There is a difference. And if you're aware of it, and you EXPERIENCE it, and LEARN how to feel the difference. You CAN GET BACK IN THE DRIVER'S SEAT. That's exactly why Dr. B created my Battling Burnout course. It is her absolute desire to be able to teach alll of you this information in the most cost effective way and make it accessible to every human. Want more details about this course? -> https://drbrookeweinstein.com/battling-burnout/ Join Dr. B on this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast to dive deep into how ADHD relates to sensory and emotional regulation.

EP:26 There are no conversations about dads struggling or how to support them or what to do about it. We need to BREAK that silence. The silence that dads experience in terms of just letting them know it's okay to struggle and letting them know it's okay to feel burnt out and exhausted and depleted. Not only do men have a hard time saying "hey, I think I'm struggling over here." Men have a hard time finding what language to use, how to feel what they're feeling, or how to process it. That portion of the male brain is not flexed. It's literally like going to the gym, working out and feeling that burn? That's what we need to do in the male brain to increase the fluency for you, Dads, to be able to flex that muscle of your brain to share your feelings. It's is so important on a societal level, not just for parents, not just for dads, but for the male brain to understand the male brain. We've been led to believe psychologically, that we are broken, we are the ones that need to be fixed. And we need to be able to fit in with societal norms, it is not the case. That's literally what Dr. B's entire platform and message is about. Join Dr. B on this week's episode of THRIVE Like a Parent podcast to dive into the unspoken truths about the male brain.

EP:25 Parenting from a place of fear stems from wounds we feel from our own childhood. We want different for our children. However, there is an ability to find a balance between conscious and gentle parenting versus fearless parenting versus owning your boundaries, taking the time to teach our children how to communicate in a beautiful, supportive, healthy manner. Parenting is HARD. It is hard to show up. I 100000% know how hard this is to make sure that our children are taken care of emotionally, financially, in extracurriculars and allll the things. We are all doing the best we can. That deserves some level of mutual respect. We can teach our children how to stand up for themselves. But do it with tact and respect. And that is possible through FEARLESS Parenting. Join Dr. B on this week's episode of THRIVE Like a Parent Podcast to dive deep into how we got to this place of fearful parenting and how to make the shift into fearless parenting while still showing up in a conscious and loving way.

EP:24 Join Dr. B on this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast to dive deep into the danger in perfectionism and how to release it in parenthood. A lot of times perfectionism comes from the guilt and shame that we place on ourselves. And when you do that self-talk... You are creating a pattern within your brain. You're bashing yourself. You're telling yourself, I need to do more. So then you push harder, and you push harder, and you push harder. And when you push harder, you shove everything else down, that you really need to get out or you shove everything down that is really affecting you to the point of losing your marbles with your kids. Join Dr. B to learn how to stop shaming yourself and instead accept that simple phrase of it's okay. If you want to be able to begin the process of releasing that perfectionism... Tune in!

EP:23 Today on the THRIVE Like a Parent Podcast Dr. B is going to be talking about sibling rivalry. She's been about this topic countless times and what seems very clear is that most have literally no idea what to do, how to do this and where to start. So join Dr. B to dive deep into: WHY it happens? WHEN do we intervene? The SHIFT between sibling rivalry to best friends. HOW to set non-negotiable boundaries. How to take care of YOU in the midst of chaos. Dr. B will talk through a routine that will help your children build resilience. It will help them build an awareness and understanding that they can figure this out on their own. They are strong enough and brave enough and capable enough to figure this out and communicate. And when they're not. That's when you step in.

EP:22 Dr. B is joined by Emily Vondracheck on this episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast to talk about the world of social media and what it's like, as a mom doing this. Of course it's fun, and they get to get all of their creative juices out. But the truth is this is also a way for them to bring in finances into their home. That means it's a job, which requires time and energy and effort and what's behind all that. So if you are someone who also has a quote, side hustle or trying to build your career through social media, stay tuned and listen up, because Dr. B and Emily are going to dive into all of that.

EP:21 On this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast Dr. B talks about what it means to be a sensory seeker. Think of your brain as a car. There is the accelerator and the brake. And if you're in a manual, the throttle. If you are a sensory seeker, you're a gas pedal! Sensory seekers crave a lot of stimuli. Constant movement High energy Go from task to task to task. Can't sit still at a desk Brain constantly going. Love strong strong flavors Enjoy being close to people who wear perfume Like constantant physical touch and intercourse tons. This is a gas pedal. This is a sensory seeker. When you live in a constant state of gas pedal, your brain will pattern itself to stay there. You will expend so much energy and deplete your gas tank to E. NEXT COMES THE CRASH AND BURN.... Therefore we MUST create new patterns within your brain. We have to help your brain feel safe when throttling. We have to help your brain feel safe when stepping on the gas and stepping on the brake right like you have to be able to do that for yourself and feel that in figure out what you need and how to take care of your brain and body. Listen until the very end for some tips that Dr. B has to start regulating your body today!

EP: 20 On this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast Dr. B will discuss the myths of gentle parenting and conscious parenting. Dr. B will discuss the differences between the neurosensory based parenting method that she teaches versus principles of gentle parenting and conscious parenting. Dr. B focuses on helping you understand what needs, support and guidance  your child requires to help them learn how to long term INDEPENDENTLY, support and regulate their nervous system. That's where parenthood needs to get to. The bottom line is understanding your child's brain and understanding your brain will help you feel less burnt out and exhausted and depleted. Support your brain and your body to truly THRIVE in parenthood.

EP:19 What does guilt mean? Guilt in a noun form is the fact of having committed a specified or implied offense or crime. Guilty in a verb form is to make someone feel guilty, especially in order to induce them to do something. We as parents rip ourselves apart with guilt and shame. This creates that narrative or pattern within your brain, it's not going to do any positive. If you are feeling that guilt every single day, ask yourself: Is that guilt serving me? Is it allowing me to see all the beautiful parts of me and what I am doing? Is it allowing me to show up as my best self for my children and for myself in parenthood? And change the narrative within your brain because the guilt and shame is causing anxiety, it's causing depression, it's causing a lot of mental health because you're ripping yourself apart. Dr. B has gone through so much guilt through her own parenthood and had to learn how to release that through understanding sensory and emotional regulation, doing this on herself and doing this WITH her kids. Join Dr. b on this week's episode of THRIVE Like a Parent podcast to dive into the work of releasing guilt in parenthood.

EP:18 One of the biggest reasons Dr. B did this work for herself and one of the biggest reasons that she now unapologetically owns her voice in parenthood is because she wants to teach her children how to own their own voices. The number one reason people stop themselves is because they say this feels selfish. The discomfort that shows up within their brain in their body stops them from allowing themselves to go after and get the thing that they know they most desperately need, want and longed for, which is support to figure out how to do this. If you can start requesting your needs and allow your partner to also request their needs, you will find your voice, you will be able to show up for yourself, you will be able to support your brain and your body in a way that it truly needs. This shift will allow you to give so much more back to your partnership and to your children. Join Dr. B on this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast to dive into her journey of finding her voice and unapologetically and authentically showing up for herself and her children.

EP:17 Join Dr. B on this week's episode of the THRIVE Like a Parent Podcast as she shares another layer of her grief story. If you yourself are struggling, if you are a caretaker, or a support to anyone who is not doing well, mentally, emotionally, physically this episode is for you. Join Dr. B as she shares some of her personal stories about what it looks like to support a loved one through mental illness. Dr. B believes that TALKING IS PROCESSING. You get to talk about the things that matter most, you get to talk about your deep, dark, and hidden. Tune in with Dr. B as she looks back at what it was like supporting her husband while he battled severe depression and anxiety in hiding from the world outside their home.

EP:16 On this episode of THRIVE Like a Parent podcast Dr. B will dive deep into why it's hard for us to set healthy boundaries with our children. Why is it important? How to support yourself when setting a boundary with your child? And the emotional brain benefits of what it means to set boundaries with your children. The hard part comes when they begin to show up as individual humans! Dr. B personally believes that is the work of our PARENTHOOD Life. Helping our children understand how to have boundaries for themselves and you recognize how to step away, inch by inch, very slowly. Your child's brain needs to learn that they can sit in discomfort and still be safe. And that's how we learn. Join Dr. B on this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast to learn exactly HOW TO set healthy boundaries with our children AND support them through the discomfort of stepping into being a self-sufficient human.

EP:15 Join Dr. B on this episode of the Thrive Like a Parent podcast to discuss the journey of parenting in widowhood. On this episode she will be joined by Emily Toledo, a fellow widow sister and a Thrive Certified Coach. There is no Hall Pass for grief. We still have to get out of bed and show up for our children, there is NOT A HALL PASS so we have  to be able to step into looking at our children and sharing. I feel sad today or just crying in front of them or saying I just feel frustrated. Allow it, let it out and show your children how to truly feel emotions. Dr. B's hope is that this will help a lot of moms and dads and anyone who's listening to be able to know that it's okay to talk about and it's okay to have highs and lows and all the in between. All of our stories matter, ALL OF THEM MATTER. XOXO, Dr. B

EP:14 On this episode of THRIVE Like a Parent podcast Dr. B is going to talk to you about judgment and cyber bullies and how that affects us as HUMANS and how that affects our children and the concerns that she has. Social media has become a very influential part of the world we live in today. It especially affects our children and their particular generation. There is so much hate and cruelty that Dr. B herself has experienced in the last few years as she slowly began to share her story. This is very concerning ESPECIALLY for our children. The world they are growing up in is NOT the world that we grew up in. We didn't have likes, dms, comments that could traumatically impact the rest of our lives. There is no doubt that your child will one day want a social media page. Therefore it's okay to have boundaries with that for your children because we don't know what our children do on their phones behind the closed doors of their bedrooms. The only solution Dr. B sees in supporting our children through this, and making changes and shifts, is to support our children first and learning how to do that on a sensory level and supporting their mental health. Making sure that our connections with our children are strong. If we help our children understand how to connect emotionally with others, the hate and the ripping apart of others and the judgment will slow down. Focus on that, the rest will fade away and pan itself out. Join Dr. B as she talks through her own experiences with cyberbullying and judgement through social media.

EP:13 Today Dr. B is going to talk to you about why your kiddos snack so much, why they request snacks so much AND how to stop all the snacking. Dr. B herself,  used to allow this in her home, way, way, way, way, way back in the day, because it was a simple, easy fix to get your kiddos to stop nagging you right when you're exhausted and simply done and they want something to be able to occupy themselves, right? Dr. B will give you tons of information today about WHY they are doing that. And then how you can support them as well as what to do in those circumstances. We want our children to have really beautiful healthy intake, and understand a really great balance of what it looks like to have a relationship with food. Dr. B always says your body and your brain is your compass... This 100% implies to constant snacking for kids AND adults. Tune in with Dr. B on this week's episode of THRIVE Like a Parent Podcast to learn how you can use neuroscience-based strategies to help guide your children to a healthy relationship with food that will create a foundation for the rest of their life.

EP:12 On this episode of the Thrive Like a Parent podcast Dr. B is going to be discussing how to slow the F down in parenthood. We go from task to task to task where we feel like we're on a hamster wheel that never ends, right? That little ball that you think of when hamsters run around all over the place, it just NEVER ENDS. So how do we figure out how to slow down? And how do we figure out how to enjoy our life in parenthood? The hardest part about slowing down is recognizing that you need to. Most of the time you're just on autopilot. Slowing down may not even seem like an option. You continue to go through the motions. Pushing your body and your brain to a breaking point. You get stuck on the cycle of burnout! AND there is a very special guest on this episode. Her name is Brittany Wood. Brittany has worked with Dr. B for a very long time. She now mentors other women in Dr. B's community. Brittany is an absolute bundle of energy. Tune in to this week's episode with us to dive deep into what it takes to SLOW THE F DOWN in parenthood!

EP:11 Join Dr. B on this episode to talk about having the hard conversations with our children about the uncomfortable things. Dr. B first had to tell her children and use the word divorce. Mommy and daddy are getting a divorce. That wasn't so easy. Then she had to navigate having to tell her children that daddy died. Daddy's gone. There are so many other difficult conversations that come up for us as parents, that is why it is so important for you as a parent to understand how to approach those conversations. We don't give their little brains enough credit for all the resiliency and all the unimaginable strength that they have as little humans, it's my biggest belief that our brain needs time to heal. The reason Dr.B created the model of how she teaches you sensory neuro based parenting is because she wants your child's whole brain to be taken care of, on the logic and emotional brain side. Which means she wants our children to know boundaries, see them, understand them, respect them, and also be able to have them themselves. Dr. B wants her children to know that no matter what, they can ALWAYS talk to her. And if we don't share the discomfort and show and model to our children that uncomfortable conversations are okay, they can take place and we are going to survive through them. It allows their brain at a very early age to find that resiliency within their brain to get through hard conversations. Tune in with Dr. B as she shares personal stories about some heartbreakingly hard conversations she's had with her own kids.