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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram.

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What Counts As Cheating?

What Counts As Cheating?

2023-02-0101:22:591

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are joined by Maddy (AKA the person reading all your emails) to talk about what 25 year olds do on their birthdays, and Jared recaps his brother’s engagement. The first emailer asks if it takes longer to “click” with someone when you’re in your 30s. Is it actually harder to settle as you get older? The Awkward Sexual Encounter was a hookah bar hookup. Later, a listener asks if she’s a cheater after a steamy dance floor moment on vacation. Does she need to tell her boyfriend about it? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about mid-date haircuts and pizza syllabi. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by a real listener to break down her break up LIVE for our first U Up? SOS episode. Jess was blindsided by a breakup after a solid start to her new relationship, and then 2 days later, he tried to take the breakup back. Was the excuse he gave the real reason for the breakup? Jared explains the spiral he probably went through, and they advise her on what to do if he reaches out again. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about how girls' trips evolve as you grow up and a TikTok poking fun at men who say they want someone who “doesn’t take life too seriously” on the dating apps. The first emailer asks if her boyfriend is a deadbeat or if she’s being too hard on him. Are lifestyle differences a deal breaker? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a repeat offense. Later, a listener asks if she has to justify her texting style to guys who interpret her slow responses as lack of interest. J&J finish the episode with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about expensive tabs, dog behavior, and fart etiquette. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Don't miss this special crossover episode between Oversharing and the U Up? podcast. To hear the full episode and enjoy more great Oversharing content go to: https://betches.co/jared In an Oversharing first, Jordana invites her Jared on for a dating therapy session with her sister, Dr. Naomi. They walk through Jared’s dating challenges, including why it’s so hard to get past the first few dates, and where his mind goes to when it’s time to end things. Plus, they talk about his dating habits and history, how his role as a podcast host affects his decision-making, and whether or not people are as upset about ending things after 3 dates as they are after 3 months.  Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
We love a Sunday Special, and this week, Jared is in his Samantha Jones era. This week’s email comes from a guy getting mixed signals from a barista. She keeps saying they should hang out, but when he tries to make plans, she flakes. Why even bring it up in the first place? Plus, J&J talk about the problem with being a people pleaser in dating. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
J&J are back in the studio for this week’s new episode, and they’re starting with a conversation about Jared’s recent spa experience and Jordana’s upcoming girls trip. The first emailer asks how she can revive some of her old dating app matches since her chat archives are full of guys with potential. Is it desperate to message someone on the apps months after the conversation ended? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a series of unfortunate events in Jared’s least favorite place. Later, an emailer asks how to get her husband to improve his hygiene. They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about familiar faces, coupons, and “breast friends.” Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared gives his weekly dispatch from Boca. Then, J&J read an email from a Pilates instructor who went on a few great dates with a client before getting a text saying he wasn’t in the right mindset to date. She accepted the break up, so why did he reach out again a few weeks later? How much does his relationship history factor into this behavior? Plus, Jordana explains the most annoying parts of what he’s doing. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a recap of Jared’s big week on the dating apps before NYE, including a date he went on in Boca. The first emailer asks if she should let her guy best friend out of the friend zone. They’ve been going on dates and expressed romantic interest, but she just can’t imagine having sex with him. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a surprising discovery. Later, a male listener who keeps getting the “you’re so great, but I’m not feeling a romantic connection” text after first dates writes in to ask what he’s doing wrong. Is his problem that he’s actually being *too* romantic? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about shower frequency, middle names, and date plans (or lack thereof). Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about Jared’s struggle to get to the fifth date. The emailer asks how to set boundaries with a friend she tried to date but ultimately decided wasn’t the match. She was really upset by their breakup, but she’s trying to play it cool which ended in them drunkenly making out (shocker). How can she set a boundary with this guy without making it weird for their friend group? Plus, J&J explain the problem with being the “cool girl.” Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
How To Be More Charming

How To Be More Charming

2023-01-0401:13:03

On this week’s episode, J&J start with a detailed discussion about ice luges and Jordana’s most recent fan interactions. The first emailer writes in asking if “cute if you’re into it, creepy if you aren’t” is valid in all situations after she saw this explanation all over the comments section of a woman’s TikTok about a bad date. Is it really men thinking about it this way or just men on the internet? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very oblivious emailer. Later, an emailer asks how to handle taking out her Invisalign liners on first date. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about the Batmobile, subtle insults, and bad cooking. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
J&J are back with the first episode of 2023, so they start by reflecting on 2022 and making resolutions for 2023. Then, they dive into the Deal Reveal about a miscommunication early in a relationship. The emailer explains that the guy she’s been seeing stopped communicating with her after she made a joke about having another date. When she calls him out on it, he comes back with a lot of excuses, including misunderstanding her joke. How much do his excuses matter? Was her joke really the problem here? Plus, Jared and Jordana critique her original call out text. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Australia and a conversation about the magic of December in NYC. Then, they talk about why it’s so hard to keep dating momentum going during the holidays. The first email asks how to get to a first date when you’re not on the apps. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a broken table and an attempted robbery. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about happy places, cousins, and ferrets. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start with a full rundown of Jared’s sushi order (just what you wanted for Christmas, we know). This week’s emailer asks how soon is too soon to talk about mental health in dating after a guy asked to reschedule their second date due to an episode of depression. Is she wrong to be turned off? Plus, Jared and Jordana talk about what real emotional availability and vulnerability looks like. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about Santacon in NYC and a follow up from the Awkward Sexual Encounter from our 12/7 episode. The first emailer asks if men are getting cheaper after more of her recent first dates accepted her offer to split it. Are these guys into equality or just not that into her? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves sisters with a lot in common. Later, a listener asks J&J’s opinion on a Curb Your Enthusiasm theory about non-single people “safely” flirting with other non-single people when their significant others aren’t around. Is this type of interaction as harmless as it seems? They finish the episode with a round of holiday-themed Red Flag or Deal Breaker about dog holiday cards, ugly Christmas sweaters, and NYE kisses. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start with special instructions for shouting them out in public and a story about how Jordana doesn’t “respect sleep.” This week’s email is from a woman asking if her situationship ended because she doesn’t play games in dating. Did time apart over Thanksgiving get in the way or was the breakup text coming either way? Plus, Jared breaks down how men see the “men are like cabs” analogy from Sex and the City. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a boutique coffee shop cautionary tale. The first emailer asks how to make her new relationship more romantic now that they’ve gone from just friends to dating. Is this the right relationship for her to begin with? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very amateur diagnosis. Later, an emailer asks J&J what they find appealing about the “marriage to suburbs pipeline.” They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about nicknames, sexting, and dad-speak. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
J&J are back with another bite-sized Sunday Spesh, and after a brief sidebar about TJ Maxx’s slogan, they’re jumping right into the episode. The emailer writes in about a situation going back 5 years that started with a first date that turned into a platonic relationship until last year when they both expressed romantic feelings. Once she got invested in the idea of them being together, he called it off, blaming the 4 hours distance between them. Is that the real reason he backed off? Plus, they ask the listener to think about whether or not she actually wants to date this guy. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On this week’s episode of the podcast, Jared and Jordana start with a Thanksgiving recap and Jordana’s belated anniversary gift to Jared. The first emailer asks why a woman who didn’t want to go on a date with him is now responding to his stories on Instagram. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing tampon. Later, a listener asks if she’s setting her expectations too high when making her list of traits she wants in a partner (inspired by Jordana’s list). How specific do you need to be on your list? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about kids' toys, sharing beers, and roommate situations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Emily Nagoski, sex researcher, educator, and author of Come As You Are. They start with a discussion about spontaneous vs. responsive desire, and Emily explains why she believes we need to center pleasure in your sex life instead of desire. Then, they answer an email from a listener who says she can’t have an orgasm and feels like she can’t ask for things in the bedroom because she won’t come anyway. Emily breaks down all the stories the emailer is telling herself and advises her on how to have a conversation with her boyfriend about it. Plus, they talk about how the cultural scripts we’re given based on gender are getting in the way of our sex lives. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week’s episode is coming to you virtually from Jordana’s apartment and Jared’s parent’s pool house. Jared gives a breakdown of his experience being the main character of his family’s Thanksgiving. Then, J&J dive into Bumble’s dating trend report for 2023. They compare Bumble’s statistics to the results from our Instagram polls and talk about why this whole survey feels a little bit like propaganda to keep people on the apps. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a marina makeout gone wrong. Later, an emailer asks how she’s supposed to date while living in the suburbs. Should she lie about her location on the app to get more matches? Is she better off trying to meet people IRL? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about mixing up dates, changing the subject, and bathroom talk in a relationship. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Comments (57)

Carson McDonnell

the loud singing makes me want to gouge my eyes out, plz, for the love of God, stop...other than that, love ❤️

Jan 2nd
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Aleja Yepes

I see nothing wrong with the "are we dating the same guy?" groups. it's basically a review. who wouldn't like to have a review about the person they are potentially dating.

Aug 25th
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Lisa Lisa

Judging yourself during a date will probably not please anyone, although any form of revelation will certainly be of interest to the interlocutor and lover, but it is probably best to refrain from such conversations. By the way, how do you feel about lesbian romances on a dating site here https://www.lesbiemates.com/sugar-mama-dating.html . Young lesbians very often want to find the patronage of a lesbian sugar mommy and this is the most successful option for this purpose.

Jun 5th
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Carina Leash

boring

Mar 24th
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Lauren Brady

sang along with the Boston commercials 😄

Mar 13th
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dee4frlyfe

ONG AWESOME BOOK LOL IT TOOK ME A FEW MINUTES TO REALIZE IT EVEN AFTER I WROTE IT DOWN ABD IT LOOKED FAMILIAR LOL . LOVE YOU GUYS. YOUR BOTH SO AWESOME AND AMAZING PLUS SOOO FUNNY !!!KEEP KILLING IT GRRR LOL THANK YOU FIR HELPING ME DURING BAD AND GOOD TIMES !!! CAN I SAY PODCAST #1!!!!

Jul 16th
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lynn

lmao girl if he says he doesn't want kids and marriage and thats what you want that's a deal breaker, it's so easy

Mar 23rd
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lynn

wtf I had no idea people put pots and pans in the fridge instead of using Tupperware?!?!

Mar 13th
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lynn

lmao Meconium is the baby's first stool and it is black and tar like and does cause problems if aspirated in the womb. Jared was pretty much right!

Mar 13th
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lynn

Happy 10 years Betches!! 🥳

Mar 13th
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KrisS73

Oh no -- you guys are really underestimating women older than you. I am 47 and part of a generation that was part of the explosion of the internet. Careful, don't alienate a group of women who are internet savvy and have a host of material you could really take advantage of like dating as a single parent, or while in pre menopause, etc. Such much needed dialogue in that realm!

Jul 20th
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Srishti Bose

Seriously disappointed in these two. They, as two white peoples talking about the Karen videos, come across as so fucking ignorant it’s disgusting.

Jul 20th
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Srishti Bose

Okay but how would he get your Instagram ID unless you gave it to him? Especially if you’re private.

May 23rd
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Sam Burke

This is the funniest podcast I've listened to! they literally hit the nail on the forehead with modern dating 😂

Jan 5th
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Srishti Bose

“I do things ! I do things.”

Sep 7th
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Srishti Bose

“Hard and Wet isn’t a one size fits all proposition” lmao

Aug 8th
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Calvin Thomas

Fantastic discussions, one of the best dating podcasts out there! Thank you J&J!

Jul 12th
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Giga Guns

yep... he has BPD...

Jul 6th
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Srishti Bose

A lot of you have been asking lmfao

Jul 1st
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Giga Guns

she discovered warm water in the 21.st century. 🤦

Jun 24th
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