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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com


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Jordana and Jared talk about the strange week between Christmas and New Year when time feels fake, routines disappear, and the pressure to reinvent your life creeps in too late. Jordana’s growing baby countdown is upon us and Jared reacts to becoming an uncle and jokes about parenting prep and unrealistic TV labor scenes! Next, they react to a viral dating influencer who claims his high standards are why he is single, breaking down why the take feels insecure, manipulative, and driven by rage bait. Finally, they debate an icky or picky email about a date who joked that his dog was his child and why the timing made it more uncomfortable than funny. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Merry Christmas Eve from your friendly elf and what seems to be Jared as sexy Santa? Jared talks about a potential gym flirting moment that leads into a deeper conversation about dating burnout, emotional self protection, and why avoiding risk can start to feel safe but sad, with comparisons to Leonardo DiCaprio style dating rules. They break down listener emails about bringing a boyfriend of two years to a family Christmas party, asking when it is actually the right time to include your significant other in family holiday gatherings. J&J read a petty or prudent about getting Christmas ornaments back, an email about a gifting fight over a valuable sentimental book, and multiple fed flag or deal breaker stories involving Christmas cheer, cultural gift rules, and whether believing in Santa at 21 is sweet or concerning. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana and Jared celebrate the holidays by sharing gift ideas, including Jared’s new book, Walking Red Flag, which we suggest pre-ordering! Next, a listener asks J&J to weigh in on whether her date’s bragging about delaying climax is an icky moment or just being picky. They answer a question about giving a boudoir photo shoot as a Christmas gift and how it can boost confidence. Would you do a sexy photo shoot for your loved one?? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jared and Jordana kick things off with a little holiday gift exchange powered by Uber Eats, proving last minute gifting doesn’t have to be stressful! Then they tackle a big dating etiquette question: you book a trip together, break up, and suddenly you’re stuck with the bill - do you still split the bill? They then get into an icky or picky where a listener asks if her boyfriend’s top Spotify song of the year being his own, cringe or just a harmless quirk? Lastly, they get into some red flags: a married grown man sharing an Amazon account with his mom, and a boyfriend who still won’t show his apartment after four months of dating! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week on U Up?, Jared asks Jordana if when seeing an ex posting on social media can still hit harder than it should. They celebrate being named to Spotify’s Best Podcasts list, share Jared’s upcoming stand-up plans, and unpack his tradition of spending New Year’s alone. They dive into listener emails, including one about a gifting dilemma with someone who doesn’t celebrate the holidays, sparking a debate on what’s appropriate when you’re casually dating, in a segment sponsored by Uber Eats. Also, they unpack an icky or picky” email that asks whether nonstop talking and essay-length texts are a real ick or just part of modern dating? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jared shares a hilarious story about being approached by Hannah Berner’s cousin, including a moment where he is told to look less “miserable” during a mid-Florida night out. They share fun family memories, and Jordana recalls Lindsay Lohan’s BETCHES cameo that was a highlight this year. They then get into listener questions and debate how old is too old to play video games and why it is frustrating when your partner hides their hobby. Next, they tackle an “icky or picky” scenario about a date who brought an overnight bag, which is thoughtful but a little presumptuous. J&J also weigh in on red flags versus dealbreakers, including staying friends with an ex, unsolicited critiques about your apartment, and being asked to pay for a date at the last minute. It is a fun episode you do not want to miss! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
J&J break down the most unhinged celeb “Jump Scare Couples” of 2025. From Jeff Bezos & Lauren Sánchez to Sydney Sweeney & Scooter Braun to Katy Perry & Justin Trudeau. They also dive into the chaotic romance of JoJo Siwa & Chris Hughes and the age-gap spectacle that is Bill Belichick & Jordon Hudson, predicting which pairs will fizzle, which will last, and which should come with a warning label? Then they answer a listener’s email about the weirdest question ever: “Which picture do you actually look like?” Be sure to vote for BETCH of the Year, judge freely, and relive the wildest celeb couple moments of the year 👉 https://betches.com/betch-of-the-year-nominees/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
J&J start off this episode on which TV shows you should binge and the answer is The Sopranos! They get into listener questions quick and debate whether it’s a dealbreaker when a guy sends too many selfies or if someone can come back from an ick. They talk about first-date boundaries and what’s too much to ask before meeting someone: handshake or hug. Then, they discuss whether it’s petty or prudent to call an ex’s job after he cheated. Finally, they close with a wild Red Flag or Dealbreaker about a match who reveals a kink before the first date even happens! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
J&J are here the day after Thanksgiving! The hosts talk holiday shopping and gift-exchange fun. They debate an icky or picky scenario with childhood artwork and give advice on ending a long-term relationship before the holidays. Do you think you should wait to break up or do it after the holidays? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
With the holidays here, Jordana & Jared help listeners handle the nosy “Why are you single?” questions from family! They also share survival tips for the biggest drinking night of the year and explain what ladder statements to use to lock in a first date. They also answer a listener’s questions on whether six weeks is too soon to meet someone’s family over Thanksgiving? It’s a fun, relatable episode you don’t want to miss! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
J&J sit down with a former producer of U Up? podcast, Sean! Sean just got out of a 22 year relationship and went on a journey of doing what he missed in his 20s, casually date! Through casually dating, Sean found himself dating a woman who is in a non-monogamous relationship herself. But they fall in love! In this SOS ep, the three explore this rollercoaster Sean has found himself on, monogamy vs. non-monogamy, and the anxiety that comes with choosing stability over excitement. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana Abraham and Jared Fried dive into the hot debate over “Did you get home safe?” texts, sharing their personal rules and listener poll results on whether these messages are gentlemanly or misleading. Jordana then recalls hearing The hosts also dive into celebrity secrets, including Jennifer Lawrence’s rumored burner TikTok account, with Jordana asking Jared, “Would you date someone who’s an internet troll?” They get into listener questions about who should contribute to the wedding gift, pretending you’re bald, and hooking up with a twin in college, but years later pursuing the other twin! We hear about it all and from a very positive J&J! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana and Jared celebrate 8 years of the U Up? podcast in this special anniversary episode! They reflect on memorable moments, listener favorites, and their funniest dating stories over the years. They revisit memorable moments like the infamous ‘poop story’, RFDB milk family, and Jordana choking with laughter because of a naughty Santa joke. =The hosts also reflect on awkward celebrity encounters, including their chat with Mel Robbins, and explore how humor and vulnerability shape dating conversations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
J&J start off the ep breaking down a sketchy message from a guy claiming to be a pro hockey player and question if he is flirting or scamming? The two then read a listener email about feeling like having a boyfriend is suddenly embarrassing and how to stay independent in a new relationship. They then play a game of what is the best way to tell a neighbor their fun may be a little too loud and keep it down. Finally, they play Red Flag or Dealbreaker with pet poop, witch curses, and a guy who lies about his age. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana and Jared kick off this Friday Feels episode by sharing their love for Thanksgiving, recalling quirky family traditions, and how holidays should be spent by the beach! They are debating whether being exclusive is really different from being boyfriend and girlfriend and sharing the hilarious pitfalls of modern relationships. They give advice on confronting ghosters, teasing listeners about age quirks, and imagining ultimate revenge scenarios, like introducing “my husband, Dwayne the Rock Johnson.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode, we check in with Jordana’s pregnancy journey and she shares that its going well and how mentally it can feel like a relationship you’re not sure is going to work out. J&J question dating a woman who likes energy drinks in the morning and if it's a red flag? A listener writes in about being ghosted after a first date when she asked for drinks instead of dinner. They read a story about an eight-month connection and ask, ‘What is a situationship?’ They then discuss a listener who is confused by a coworker saying, ‘Let’s start out as friends.' Finally, they share advice on moving in with a partner, with Jared reflecting on his past experience moving in with a past girlfriend! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Happy Halloween! Jared and Jordana are revealing their costumes for the first time, so be sure to check it out on YouTube! Jordana admits she tested hers by barking at her dog to see his reaction, while Jared strutted around the office eating pizza in full owl gear. The two debate what’s dorkier, dressing up like your dog or going to the gym for a Halloween party? They get into rating celeb couple costumes like Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco, Justin & Hailey Bieber, Jessica Biel & Justin Timberlake, and Joe Jonas & Sophie Turner. We get to a listener’s question about whether you should still go for a “hot girl costume” when you’re in a relationship! Be sure to write in and tell us your favorite Halloween couples costumes this year. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana shares the exciting news that she’s expecting two babies this winter, one through her own pregnancy and one via surrogate, she’s having “twiblings!” Jared and Jordana dive into Halloween week, talking about how the holiday reveals your relationship status and whether it’s too soon to invite a new fling to a party. They also analyze Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard’s latest anniversary post to see if it is creepy or cute? Lastly they get into red flag deal breakers and discuss a listener’s dilemma about her girlfriend planning a couple’s costume with her cat. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana and Jared dive into a hilarious lightning round of dating trends, from Labubus to belly button rings, revealing what is a turn on or turn off lately. They break down the funny celebrity lookalikes they’ve been compared to, from Matt LeBlanc to Emily Ratajkowski, and share which comparisons are flattering, or just random. J&J read a listener’s icky Instagram encounter where the guy’s bios mentions his dead dog. Total turn-off. They go on to analyze Instagram bios, emojis, and quirky details, giving their expert takes on what attracts or repels potential matches when looking at instagram profiles. Plus, they tackle a listener's question about VR porn, discussing when immersive experiences cross the line and if it’s not so different from normal spicy browsing? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mom Kisses Son, Major Ick

Mom Kisses Son, Major Ick

2025-10-2201:28:501

Jared is ignoring the TikTok trend of divorcing your parents and as he’s looking to buy a house, he’s bringing his parents along to help showing why you still need them as an adult. A listener shares being accused of posting about her date in the “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook group, sparking a meltdown from her soon to be Bravo famous ex. J&J react to a mom kissing her adult son on the lips, debate red flags, and rank relationship quirks. They also cover wingwoman tips and why forgetting a birthday is a red flag for effort and commitment! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Comments (66)

Bobby Lopez

she said he jumped into the bed naked. how often have you woken up in a place you don't know? you can not know you peed. also his second divorce at 40 unless green card 🚩.

Jul 26th
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Megan Duffy

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Jun 9th
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Megan Duffy

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Jun 9th
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Kristie Macdonald

Talk about the allegations!!!!

Apr 18th
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Dec 3rd
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Mona Peterson

I absolutely love 'U Up?'! The hosts bring such a refreshing and relatable perspective on modern dating. Their insights and humor make every episode a joy to listen to. I always come away with new tips and a smile on my face. Keep up the fantastic work! https://castbox.fm/episode/Wax-Paper-in-the-Kitchen-Tips-and-Tricks-for-Everyday-Use-id6232545-id721902105?country=us

Aug 3rd
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Kate Carey

"South Asian" means Indian, Pakistani, etc. lol not South Korean. 🤦‍♀️

May 29th
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Carson McDonnell

listening to this through headphones is awful. Jared's constant screaming and "singing" is awful. being louder doesn't make it funnier.

Oct 4th
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Carson McDonnell

love the pod but sick of hearing Jared sing or do his Renaissance voice rants.

Apr 26th
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Carson McDonnell

the loud singing makes me want to gouge my eyes out, plz, for the love of God, stop...other than that, love ❤️

Jan 2nd
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Aleja Yepes

I see nothing wrong with the "are we dating the same guy?" groups. it's basically a review. who wouldn't like to have a review about the person they are potentially dating.

Aug 25th
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Lisa Lisa

Judging yourself during a date will probably not please anyone, although any form of revelation will certainly be of interest to the interlocutor and lover, but it is probably best to refrain from such conversations. By the way, how do you feel about lesbian romances on a dating site here https://www.lesbiemates.com/sugar-mama-dating.html . Young lesbians very often want to find the patronage of a lesbian sugar mommy and this is the most successful option for this purpose.

Jun 5th
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Carina Leash

boring

Mar 24th
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Lauren Brady

sang along with the Boston commercials 😄

Mar 13th
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dee4frlyfe

ONG AWESOME BOOK LOL IT TOOK ME A FEW MINUTES TO REALIZE IT EVEN AFTER I WROTE IT DOWN ABD IT LOOKED FAMILIAR LOL . LOVE YOU GUYS. YOUR BOTH SO AWESOME AND AMAZING PLUS SOOO FUNNY !!!KEEP KILLING IT GRRR LOL THANK YOU FIR HELPING ME DURING BAD AND GOOD TIMES !!! CAN I SAY PODCAST #1!!!!

Jul 16th
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lynn

lmao girl if he says he doesn't want kids and marriage and thats what you want that's a deal breaker, it's so easy

Mar 23rd
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lynn

wtf I had no idea people put pots and pans in the fridge instead of using Tupperware?!?!

Mar 13th
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lynn

lmao Meconium is the baby's first stool and it is black and tar like and does cause problems if aspirated in the womb. Jared was pretty much right!

Mar 13th
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lynn

Happy 10 years Betches!! 🥳

Mar 13th
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KrisS73

Oh no -- you guys are really underestimating women older than you. I am 47 and part of a generation that was part of the explosion of the internet. Careful, don't alienate a group of women who are internet savvy and have a host of material you could really take advantage of like dating as a single parent, or while in pre menopause, etc. Such much needed dialogue in that realm!

Jul 20th
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