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Some of you know that I was a reproductive rights activist, advocate, litigator, and academic before I became a coach. So I am sadly not surprised by this decision as the writing has long been on the wall. But here's what I have to say as a coach: The Supreme Court has overturned Roe v. Wade. How do we meet this kind of challenge, from a coaching/thought work perspective? Today is a day of mourning for anyone who cares about human autonomy and freedom. This ruling is a violation of the rights of anyone who can get pregnant, and in keeping with a long history of patriarchal control over women/childbearing bodies. As usual, the burden will be worse for people of color, disabled people, poor people, and anyone else living in a marginalized identity or a retrogressive state. Thought work is not about finding a “silver lining” in human rights violations. It is not about seeing oppression as “perfect” because it exists. It is about equipping ourselves to return to the fight. It is about increasing our own resilience, to show up for what we believe, even when we seem to be losing. It is about reclaiming our own ability to make meaning of our struggles and our lives, no matter what circumstances we live in. It is about power in the one place that no one else can control: The inside of our own minds. This work is about liberating ourselves from the inside out, so that we can continue to work to liberate the world. So allow those emotions today. Anger, sadness, fear. Cry, grieve, scream, howl. And when you’re ready, manage your mind. Choose what you want to believe – about this decision, about this world, about yourself, about your capacity to hold your experience, to find joy, to create change, to help others. Many terrible Supreme Court decisions have been overturned in time. It is worth continuing the fight. If we give up in our own minds, we are giving up on the world. That's how the patriarchy wins. Don’t give up. P.S. If you want more guidance: I recommend Episode 31, What About Sexism, and Episode 70, Clean v. Dirty Pain. P.P.S. The quickest thing you can do to help equalize abortion access in a post-Roe world is to donate to local and state abortion funds that will pay for women to travel to states where abortion is still available. You can google to find one close to home or you can donate to the National Network of Abortion Funds here: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/supportabortionfunds?refcode=nnafwebsite Here is another list: https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-news/abortion-funds-to-donate-to-how-to-help-1351451/ 
While it would be nice if we could sit back and wait for our incredible intelligence and value to be recognized and rewarded, that unfortunately isn’t the way things work, especially for people socialized as women.   My guest on the podcast this week, founder and CEO of Squad Isa Watson, has masterfully navigated the white male landscapes of science, tech, and now startup, as a Woman of Color, and has used managing her mind to succeed in each of them.   Tune in to learn how creating opportunities for yourself and discomfort go hand in hand, why learning to be your own hype person is so important, how managing your mind can help when going through proper institutional channels (like HR) fails, and the difference between mentorship and sponsorship (and why you should intentionally cultivate the latter).   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/243
Listen in as Kara answers questions like "Is the Clutch a cult?" and more in this bonus Q+A episode. Get more info here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/bonus-clutch-qa/
Doors to the Clutch are now open! They've been closed since last year, but you can join now through Tuesday, June 21. Listen to learn what kind of transformation is waiting for you when you join the incredible Clutch community. Get more info here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/theclutch
Have you ever wondered if we (or the entire human race) would enter into total anarchy and violence in the absence of self-judgment, worry over other people’s feelings, or agreement on ethics or morality? More importantly, have you ever wondered *why* you think that would be the case? It all boils down to whether or not you think humans are inherently good or inherently bad - to what you believe the nature of humans is.   Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn why it’s so critical to examine and intentionally choose your beliefs about human nature, how women’s socialization adds an additional complicated layer to the way we view human nature, and the role our beliefs about human nature play into how we motivate ourselves.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/242
Annual mile markers, like birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays prompt us to reflect on the past year. The act of reflection helps us to cultivate appreciation and enjoyment from our past experiences, but doing it in thoughtful ways is actually a really effective way we can work to create our future intentionally.   I recently celebrated my 41st birthday, a milestone in my business, and my anniversary with my partner, and took time to do my own little ritual of reflection by answering just four simple questions. Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn what the four questions are and how the answers can help you create a future so good, you can’t even imagine it right now.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/241
People socialized as women are particularly susceptible to suffering from the burnout our entire country seems to be dealing with. That’s because they’re taught from an extremely young age that they have to take care of everyone else before they take care of themselves.   This week I’m joined by two of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Ali Ryan and Marissa McKool, as we look closely at how we define burnout and uncover the roles patriarchy and productivity play in it.   Tune in to learn how you can begin to heal your burnout by figuring out what your unconscious commitments are and by identifying thought patterns about your to-do list at home, and how changing your thoughts around rest (while it may feel terrible at first) can help you prevent future burnout.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/240
It would be nice to think we can leave capitalism at the office when we go home for the day. But the truth is, its reach goes far beyond just the way we make, sell, and buy stuff. It can affect the ways we place value on the actual human beings who do the work, which in turn can lead to burnout, hustle culture, and even ableism.    In this episode I’m joined by two of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching Students, Tina Koch and Rachèle Summers, as we discuss the tricky triad of internalized ableism, productivity culture, and capitalism.   Listen in to learn how you can begin changing productivity-related tendencies by examining the ‘shoulds’ in your life, how the first step in changing your internalized ableism is to approach your thoughts around it with compassion, and how you can begin pushing back on hustle culture and build emotional resilience by learning to sit with cognitive dissonance.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/239
There’s been a lot of talk about the invisible load the last few years (especially through Covid when women were literally trying to do it all). Pushing back against the invisible load can look like “dropping the ball.” But “dropping the ball” isn’t always safe for those socialized as women who also belong to other marginalized identities.   Listen to this interview with two of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Amelia Pleasant Kennedy and Shawna Saumel, to learn how the invisible load is connected to your emotional and physical energy, the importance of negotiation in a relationship, and how living in other marginalized identities can exacerbate a woman’s drive to achieve and do more.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/238
It’s natural to want to stay in our comfort zones, to hang out or work with people who think like we do, to feel like we belong. But if you feel called to be a change maker in this world, you may find that you’ll have your greatest impact by stepping out of your insular world and into one where people don’t believe the same things you do. You may also find that fear of rejection will kick in full force when you think about striking out on your own.   Listen to this podcast episode to learn the truth about seeking out belonging, how belonging can keep us stuck, and how to navigate the tension between belonging and making change.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/237
Our brains think they can predict the future. They’ll take one instance, generalize it into a pattern, and try to convince us that one of our fleeting thoughts or a fleeting thought that others have about us is a constant state (and rarely is it a pleasant one!).   So, if your brain is hung up on what other people are thinking about you, what can you do to get some relief? Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn the very thought I recently coached one of my colleagues on that can help you give less of a sh*t about what other people are thinking about you.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/236
Marriage and money. Opinions on these two topics certainly run the gamut. But whether you’re currently married, planning to get married, or marriage is the furthest thing from your mind, women’s relationship to money can be a tricky thing to unpack. And there’s good reason for this: the patriarchy has had its hands in women’s relationship to money since humans have roamed the earth.   So, how do we begin to understand some of the thoughts we’ve long held when it comes to money, and shift them if we want to? Tune in to this week’s episode as board-certified dermatologist and wealth coach Dr. Bonnie Koo and I take a look at prenups, the twofold reason women tend to make less money than men, the importance of contracts in marriage and money, and more.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/235
Ever notice how when someone points out that you’re getting defensive, you tend to get more defensive?   Defensiveness can be difficult to shift because of this very reason! But it also blocks our growth, so it’s worth examining. It doesn’t come naturally and can take time to learn, but defensiveness IS a quality you can shift if you’d like.   Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how to identify defensiveness, what defensiveness has to teach us about our relationship with ourselves, and questions you can ask yourself to begin diffusing defensiveness now.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/234
UnF*ck Your Brain is looking to add a Director of Programming and a full-time Clutch Coach to its growing team!   Listen to this episode to learn more about the Director of Programming and Clutch Coach positions, or head straight to unfuckyourbrain.com/hiring for details on how to apply!
We’ve heard the word trauma used liberally the past few years, both in relation to shared global events (like the pandemic) and in relation to more trivial things (like someone cutting in line at Starbucks).   When a psychological concept goes mainstream, it’s bound to be understood differently by different people. So, what IS trauma? What is NOT trauma? And if we want to change the relationship with our trauma and the way it makes us feel, how can we guide ourselves to think differently about it?   Tune in to this week’s episode as podcast host, New York Times best-selling author, speaker, and spiritual leader, Gabby Bernstein shares about her own trauma treatment story and the role curiosity and compassion have played in it.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/233
We all have personal preferences. Do we like a partner who’s tall or short? Do we prefer friendships with people who have similar jobs to ours? Do we like a house in the suburbs or a condo in the middle of the city?   And there’s nothing wrong with preferring one thing to another, whether it’s in dating, friendship, or where we live and work. But it is always worth examining the reasons behind our preferences and, if we want to, working to dismantle any thinking that’s causing us to have them.   Tune in to this week’s episode as celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman and I talk about changing biased preferences in dating or in any other area of your life.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/232
We often hear platitudes like “if it’s meant to be, it will be easy,” or “if it feels hard, maybe it’s not meant for you.” And while these phrases are usually said to make us feel better about work, relationships, or whatever the situation is at hand, there’s a danger in them, too.    The truth is, emotional growth often feels TERRIBLE, so if we find ourselves constantly shying away from resistance or difficulty, we may also miss out on opportunities for BIG growth. Tune in to learn how to discern what’s worth emotional difficulty and what’s not.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/231
What is the difference between therapy and life coaching? Are the two modalities at odds with each other? When might you want to seek a therapist vs a coach to support you?   In this week’s podcast episode, therapist and life coach Mollie Birney joins me for an exploration of these questions and more. Tune in to learn more about both therapy AND coaching, and how both modalities can support your own mental health journey.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/230
Coaching is about more than affirmations and good vibes. If you’ve ever wondered about the neurochemistry of thought work, this episode is for you. In it, I will interview Dr. Caroline Leaf, a cognitive neuroscientist and bestselling author who can speak directly to why cognitive coaching tools are so effective - and how they can transform your brain and life.   Tune in as we discuss how to use cognitive neuroscience to tackle internalized oppression and create the life (and world) you want to be in.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/229
Are you a feminist who is sick of feeling burdened with an invisible workload in your relationships? In this special interview with Master Certified Life Coach and bestselling author Susan Hyatt, you will learn how to reconcile your feminist ideals with your real-world relationship dynamics… without feeling frustrated or bitter. Tune in to learn how to use coaching tools to liberate yourself from both patriarchy AND resentment in your relationships.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/228
Comments (94)

Amber Weekley

I totally needed this 💕💕

Apr 2nd
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Tobin Prowant

I listen to these 2 women for more than 10 minute. And I have absolutely no idea what the h*** they're talking about!!! Their idiotic use of buzzwords was insane!!!!

Mar 29th
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Maxine

POWERFUL. SO POWERFUL 🖤

Mar 3rd
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Maxine

I would love for you to do a podcast about feeling safe! defo need to talk more about this 🖤👌🏾🙏🏾 love your work. I will work with you one day soon. I'm on the waitlist x

Mar 1st
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Amber Weekley

I love The Clutch & this podcast!! tysm!😍

Feb 22nd
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Maxine

very good. I will say having a solid foundation in yourself - having the good self- esteem and confidence and knowing your value and belief in yourself is really the key to being brave enough to handle rejection and not making it about you. 🖤

Feb 13th
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Maxine

you were talking right at me!!! EVERYTHIGN 🖤🖤🖤🖤

Feb 8th
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Maxine

this. THIS was all the things. so much made sense to me. this was so helpful 🖤

Feb 8th
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mozhgan

thanks for your perfect podcast😉I will use this instructions from now on but I couldn’t reach your website so if you are seeing this please send me that worksheet ❣️

Jan 14th
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Sweet Creature

Great!

Jan 5th
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Phoenix Coolbaugh

I realize this is old and maybe you've had a change of opinion since then but as a poor and physically disabled person, I encourage you to reconsider whether or not we all really do have the same 24 hours. We don't and it's a privileged oversight to believe otherwise. For example, it takes me an hour to shower with the amount of chronic pain I deal with and how slow moving my body is. It also takes me longer to dress and brush my teeth than that of an able-bodied person. so if I have to go somewhere, I have to wake up earlier, and as a result I either lose sleep or have to go to bed earlier the night before, which shortens my usable hours in the previous day. often when I have morning appointments, I have to skip breakfast because I just don't have the time. it's physically not there. I could have planned better but that steals away time from the previous evening or sleep and I can't always predict my pain levels so on a bad day, a shower might take longer than anticipated throwing a well planned agenda out the window. yesterday, my fatigue stole time I needed to do my college math assignment so now I'm behind. I've been doing nothing but math all day and am now behind in English as a result. I've had no time to do anything else. I'm poor so I have to spend a lot of time that financially stable people don't, jumping through hoops to get assistance and to make ends meet. that reduces the number of usable hours I have. the number of doctors appointments I have limits my useable hours as well. the amount of available time I have to complete tasks is significantly less compared to someone without these disadvantages. they can just get up and do things, they can just complete tasks without fatigue forcing sudden naps, they can maybe hire people to do things for them that I must do myself because of being poor, etc. for people that have to use public transit, their usable hours in a day dramatically decrease as well. Trans people that must drop what we're doing to go find a safe bathroom while out in public have less usable time. lbgtqia people, people of color, or women that have to walk alternate routes because the shorter route isn't well lit have less usable time, the list goes on. marginalized and disadvantaged people have less time than others. You and I, for example, do not have the same 24 hours.

Jan 5th
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Yuka

I loooved it thank you

Jan 4th
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Nikki Brogden

WOW!!! I'm a complete procrastinator - Of all the self help courses/webinar etc. I've taken, I've Never heard procrastination/deadline pressure explained SO WELL!!! This Totally made perfect sense to me - This last 10 days I've been avoiding making calls to two companies that owe me money, hopefully tomorrow I can kick my Lizard Brain in to touch and pick up that phone!!! Thank you SO much 💜

Dec 3rd
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Vanessa Leigh

This is one of the worst podcasts I've listened to. I've listened to over 10 episodes and wasted hours of my life with the hope that she would give actuall solutions rather than talk about the problem and then say that you can find the solution to your issue by paying money and joining her 'clutch' group. This podcast is just a marketing ploy to drive business to her paid subscriber program. there is next to no value added by the pod. All of the good reviews are from years ago. There are hardly any recent reviews. I'll try listening to one of the original episodes before de-subscribing. The concept is great but there's no value add. It's just marketing. Also, her voice is grating.

Nov 25th
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Dawn Wilkinson Evans

Definitely one of the best episodes. I think many listeners can relate go some or all of it.

Nov 22nd
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Amber Weekley

it's amazing how this podcast can get me out of a negative headspace. I love it! Thanks Kara! xx

Nov 10th
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Maribel Castaneda

Thank you for this ❤️

Oct 30th
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Erika Wood

so helpful opened my eyes to ways I can help what I'm experiencing ♡

Sep 9th
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Ritah Marley

this one really got me! am officially a Kara Lowentheil fan!

Jun 29th
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Amber Weekley

hello my chickens 🐓😁 I love this podcast & I listen to it every morning while drinking my morning coffee. best way to start off the day positively. tysm Kara.

Apr 21st
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