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UnF*ck Your Brain is the podcast for high-achieving feminist women who struggle with anxiety, self-doubt, and imposter syndrome. If you know you’ve accomplished a lot professionally but still secretly feel like you’re unqualified….if you want to feel confident but you worry about what everyone else thinks about you...if you want to succeed but fear failure...this podcast is for you. In each episode Master Certified Confidence Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., will teach you how to overcome social conditioning and your own self-critical thoughts so that you can reduce your anxiety and insecurity, boost your self-confidence, and get what you want in life. Download a free guide to creating confidence at www.unfckyourbrain.com/podcastconfidence.
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Money can bring up a lot of tricky feelings - especially for women. But no matter where you are in your money story, here’s the good news: you can rewrite it if you choose. Join me, and money speaker and educator Tori Dunlap, in this episode as we explore our money mindsets and the social conditioning that comes along with them. We talk financial feminism, learning to navigate living in a capitalist society while doing the least harm, and common misconceptions about investing. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/282
This week I tackle listener questions including whether or not everything that happens to you is your fault because of your thoughts, how to coach yourself through anger, the right questions to ask yourself when self-coaching and more (including my thoughts about pineapple on pizza). Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/281
When you have goals and aspirations it’s normal to look for someone that can help you reach them. Having a mentor to help guide you can be a great thing. But sometimes as mentees, we put our mentors up on a pedestal. And when we believe our mentors —and not ourselves — have the answer to our success, we strip ourselves of our own authority and power. The same thing goes for coaches. Tune in to learn how to take the hierarchy out of your mentor and coaching relationships and how the most important mentorship relationship is the one you have with yourself. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/280
1What if there were one question you could ask yourself that immediately put you in touch with your highest priorities, your deepest values, and how you want to live in the world? In this episode, you will learn the question I ask myself to instantly gain perspective and clarity on what matters most to me. Tune in to learn how this question can change your life, too. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/279
Whether we’re at the top of a corporation, running our own business, or working as an employee, we’ll often find a million different ways to outsource our leadership to others. But if we can do the hard work of learning to trust ourselves as the ultimate authority over our own lives, that’s where the magic happens. This week I’m joined by online business legend, Amy Porterfield. Tune is as we dismantle some of the myths about starting your own business and discuss developing a CEO mindset, how socialization affects female entrepreneurs in particular, and the biggest mistake Amy made in her first year of business (so you can avoid it too - whether you have a business or not). Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/278
I am Jewish, but I don’t consider myself to be particularly religious or spiritual. I know that may seem strange or like there’s a disconnect there, but Judaism is more than just a religion. So it doesn’t fit into the westernized ideal of what a religion is or should look like. This week on the podcast I share three ways Judaism has shaped my work in the world and I take a look at how the things that you learn as part of being in a religious community or any other kind of community impact how you think about the world. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/277
Emotional growth doesn’t always feel great. But it doesn’t have to feel terrible, either. You get to choose whether or not you put the time and energy into changing a certain aspect of your life. The key is being able to recognize the difference between giving up on something because you think it’s too hard, and choosing to pursue something else that is more interesting and important to you. This week we’ll revisit a very important topic: How to know when emotional difficulty is worth it. I’ll teach you why the hardest things are not always the most worthwhile. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/276
I truly believe self-love is the antidote to a lot of our self-created mental and emotional suffering — life sucks when you’re going through it hating yourself — but self-love is also often misunderstood. Tune in this week as I break down three common myths about self love. I’ll talk about why self-love is not selfish (and what it really is), how self-love will not get rid of all of your negative thoughts about yourself, and why self-love is a journey, not a destination. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/275
No matter how much love you do or do not feel on February 14, Valentine’s Day is just a made up ‘holiday.’ Yet we’ve been socialized to believe that a woman’s worth is dependent on having a certain type of romantic relationship. This week on the podcast I’m going to break down some common misconceptions about love. Join me as I discuss why love is not a state of being you simply arrive at, the real reason why you do (or don’t) feel loved, and why we think that love is an obligation. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/274
The workplace can be challenging for a lot of people, but women and those socialized as women face a further set of challenges. This week on the podcast I’m joined by Jenn Deal, Annie Framand, and Jamie Lee (three of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students) to discuss what ambition is and why women have trouble identifying with it, how to advocate for yourself in the workplace, and the right way to negotiate. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/273
This week on the podcast, I’m joined by three of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Deb Malkin, Jill Angie, and Sarah Shiozawa as we discuss exercise — its risks, rewards, and morality. Tune is as we offer our definitions of exercise, unpack the “why” behind our exercising, and discuss the power of choosing for yourself what you do with your body. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/272
I hear from clients all the time how hard it is to build new friendships in adulthood. But is that actually true? Or are we making that be true by holding onto outdated beliefs about friendship? If you desire more friendships in your life, you won’t want to miss my discussion with Dr. Marisa G. Franco. Tune into this week’s episode as Dr. Franco and I discuss how outdated ideas about friendship can make it harder to form new ones in adulthood, how looking to friends to make you feel good about yourself can be a recipe for disaster, and the role that romance plays in friendships. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/271
I like to call this the most delusional time of the year because many of us use this time to make goals and resolutions for the coming year that are completely unrealistic for the people we are right now. No wonder many resolutions go unfulfilled; our goals are out of touch with reality. Tune in to this week’s podcast episode to learn one simple concept that will change your habit-making life, how this concept can keep your goal alive even when all hell breaks loose, and how you can tell whether or not your goal is really just a fantasy you’re chasing. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/270
I love the way I dress, but lately I feel like there’s been some disconnect in my style. I’ve changed, and so has my business, and I want my style to evolve as well. But I found myself not really knowing how to get my outward style to match my inward expression and where I’m at currently in my life. Tune in as one of my friends and style coach, Judith Gaton, helps me hone my style and we discuss how to mesh different aspects of your personality into your style, how you can use your thoughts and your style to create the person you want to be, and how it’s never really about the clothes — it’s your thoughts about yourself in them. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/269
This week on the podcast, I’m joined by three of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Sade Curry, Candice Toone, and Karen C.L. Anderson as we break down how patriarchal conditioning affects the way our mothers parent us. Tune is as we discuss mothers and mothering, how socialization impacts what we expect from mothers, and what work you can do (even on your own) to repair a mother or parental relationship in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/268
Why is it so hard for us to believe that we’re the authority? It’s because as women, we were socialized to think that way (shocking, right?) — to feel like we’re not quite adults and we’re just faking it till we make it. In this special podcast episode, you’ll hear an interview I did with Sarah Nicole on The Papaya Podcast. We’ll discuss how our socialization affects why we don’t see ourselves as adults, how women are taught to believe that our value fluctuates, and the conflict and tension inherent in being a working mom. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/267
How do you treat yourself when you don’t get the result you want? Or when you’re wrong about something? Or when you act in a way that you don’t like? Do you have your own back in these situations or do you make it mean there’s something wrong with you as a person? Listen in as I discuss the difference between doing wrong and being wrong, how thinking you’re wrong can actually make you less likely to fix what went wrong in the first place, and how shame from being wrong keeps you from going after what you want in life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/266
We often think romantic relationships have a natural progression, right? You meet the perfect partner, you start dating, and as things get serious you start talking about your future together — which usually involves moving in together, marriage, and maybe even kids. But the truth is, you and your partner always get to decide what your relationship looks like - even if it’s different from society’s expectations. This week on the podcast, in the conclusion of a 2-part series, the Gentleman Consort and I discuss getting to decide what our relationship looks like, how we’ve grown since we began dating, and what we love most about each other. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/265
This week, my partner, the Gentleman Consort (GC for short), is making his podcast debut and you’re going to get a behind-the-scenes peek at our relationship! In part 1 of this 2-part series, we cover the gamut from first impressions and first dates, to the GC’s introduction to thought work, to feeling disappointment in a relationship, to how perfectionism and communication affect your relationships. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/264
Just a few weeks ago we closed out our last Clutch College Live for a while. Over the course of the 3-day, live, in-person and virtual event, minds were blown and breakthroughs were made. A lot of what I coached on had to do with goals — and I want to share some of the amazing takeaways that came out of that weekend. Tune in to find out the real reason you don’t set goals, what we’re actually afraid of when we’re agonizing over a decision, how to be prepared for the inevitability of your brain offering you an old thought that will not help you reach your goal, and how life is always 50/50, no matter what. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/263
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I listen to these 2 women for more than 10 minute. And I have absolutely no idea what the h*** they're talking about!!! Their idiotic use of buzzwords was insane!!!!
POWERFUL. SO POWERFUL 🖤
I would love for you to do a podcast about feeling safe! defo need to talk more about this 🖤👌🏾🙏🏾 love your work. I will work with you one day soon. I'm on the waitlist x
I love The Clutch & this podcast!! tysm!😍
very good. I will say having a solid foundation in yourself - having the good self- esteem and confidence and knowing your value and belief in yourself is really the key to being brave enough to handle rejection and not making it about you. 🖤
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this. THIS was all the things. so much made sense to me. this was so helpful 🖤
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I realize this is old and maybe you've had a change of opinion since then but as a poor and physically disabled person, I encourage you to reconsider whether or not we all really do have the same 24 hours. We don't and it's a privileged oversight to believe otherwise. For example, it takes me an hour to shower with the amount of chronic pain I deal with and how slow moving my body is. It also takes me longer to dress and brush my teeth than that of an able-bodied person. so if I have to go somewhere, I have to wake up earlier, and as a result I either lose sleep or have to go to bed earlier the night before, which shortens my usable hours in the previous day. often when I have morning appointments, I have to skip breakfast because I just don't have the time. it's physically not there. I could have planned better but that steals away time from the previous evening or sleep and I can't always predict my pain levels so on a bad day, a shower might take longer than anticipated throwing a well planned agenda out the window. yesterday, my fatigue stole time I needed to do my college math assignment so now I'm behind. I've been doing nothing but math all day and am now behind in English as a result. I've had no time to do anything else. I'm poor so I have to spend a lot of time that financially stable people don't, jumping through hoops to get assistance and to make ends meet. that reduces the number of usable hours I have. the number of doctors appointments I have limits my useable hours as well. the amount of available time I have to complete tasks is significantly less compared to someone without these disadvantages. they can just get up and do things, they can just complete tasks without fatigue forcing sudden naps, they can maybe hire people to do things for them that I must do myself because of being poor, etc. for people that have to use public transit, their usable hours in a day dramatically decrease as well. Trans people that must drop what we're doing to go find a safe bathroom while out in public have less usable time. lbgtqia people, people of color, or women that have to walk alternate routes because the shorter route isn't well lit have less usable time, the list goes on. marginalized and disadvantaged people have less time than others. You and I, for example, do not have the same 24 hours.
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WOW!!! I'm a complete procrastinator - Of all the self help courses/webinar etc. I've taken, I've Never heard procrastination/deadline pressure explained SO WELL!!! This Totally made perfect sense to me - This last 10 days I've been avoiding making calls to two companies that owe me money, hopefully tomorrow I can kick my Lizard Brain in to touch and pick up that phone!!! Thank you SO much 💜
This is one of the worst podcasts I've listened to. I've listened to over 10 episodes and wasted hours of my life with the hope that she would give actuall solutions rather than talk about the problem and then say that you can find the solution to your issue by paying money and joining her 'clutch' group. This podcast is just a marketing ploy to drive business to her paid subscriber program. there is next to no value added by the pod. All of the good reviews are from years ago. There are hardly any recent reviews. I'll try listening to one of the original episodes before de-subscribing. The concept is great but there's no value add. It's just marketing. Also, her voice is grating.
Definitely one of the best episodes. I think many listeners can relate go some or all of it.
it's amazing how this podcast can get me out of a negative headspace. I love it! Thanks Kara! xx
Thank you for this ❤️