What happens when women in long-term relationships with straight men realize they're bi, and why are they less likely to come out? Writer Maggie Zhou shares her own reckoning with the "Bittersweet Privilege of Straight-Passing in Queer Communities," queer imposterism and bisexual erasure. Maggie and Cristen also offer advice to two married unladies feeling stuck in the bisexual closet. Episode mixed and mastered by Multitude. Want to directly support Unladylike? Join the Patreon Interested in advertising on the podcast? Contact Multitude Keep in touch? Follow @unladylikemedia on IG, Twitter, TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you empower nonbinary and trans kids struggling with their changing bodies? Gender Spectrum executive director Cameron Van Fossen shares their expert advice on distinguishing gender congruence from beauty norms, checking in with kids about their mental and emotional wellbeing and responding to critics who don't get it. But first, Cristen has a question for nonbinary unladies listening. Episode mixed and mastered by Multitude. Want to directly support Unladylike? Join the Patreon Interested in advertising on the podcast? Contact Multitude Keep in touch? Follow @unladylikemedia on IG, Twitter, TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when women are the primary or sole earners? Is it only stigmatized if they're coupled up with men? Maya Lau, Journalist and host of Other People's Pockets, helps unpack the gender baggage around breadwinning, household finances and divorcing unsupportive husbands. Plus, Cristen tracks down the origins of the male breadwinner ideal and how it got SO baked into domestic life.  Episode mixed and mastered by Multitude. Want to directly support Unladylike? Join le Patreon Interested in advertising on the podcast? Contact Multitude Keep in touch? Follow @unladylikemedia on IG, Twitter, TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Special correspondent to the Met Ball / Unladylike intern Anuli debriefs Cristen on the “Super Bowl of Fashion in this Unladies Room (aka the Patreon) bonus. Why is the Met Gala such a big deal? What’s its history? Who‘s Karl? How is AOC under congressional investigation for attending in 2021?? Like Rihanna in her Valentino cape, we cover it all!  Listen to the full episode (and support an indie Unladylike!) by joining the Unladies Room.    PS: The Maintenance Phase episode Anuli mentions is Diet Book Deep Dive: The Karl Lagerfeld Diet. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Unladies, have y'all hear the Love Letters podcast? Love Letters tells stories about romance, marriage, partnership, sex, loss, and the human heart. Served with a side of advice. On the new season, host Meredith Goldstein explores all the ways money plays into love, dating, and relationships. Like: What happens when two partners come from different wealth backgrounds? What if someone is harboring secret debt? Who should pay for drinks on a first date? How do couples decide whose “turn” it is to pursue a career dream? Find out on the new season of Love Letters. Listen on Apple | Spotify. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you solve a problem like an adrift niece who won't add you on Snapchat? Intern Anuli helps Cristen advise an unlady trying to get through to a distant 14-year-old, a 16-year-old unsure how to tell her mom she wants an IUD, and a job-seeker feeling hopeless about finding a meaningful career path. Do YOU want some advice? We're all ears! Send requests and voice memos to hello@unladylike.co. Episode mixed and mastered by Multitude. Want to directly support Unladylike? Join le Patreon Interested in advertising on the podcast? Contact Multitude Keep in touch? Follow @unladylikemedia on IG, Twitter, TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is—and isn't—feminist porn, and why even make it? Emerging feminist porn director Bea Blue shares how she got started in Berlin, what feminist porn means behind the scenes and why she embraces radical consent and performer criticism. Cristen also touches down on the infamous "Porn Wars" of the 1980s that ironically allied radical feminists and right-wing evangelicals. Want to support Unladylike? Join le Patreon Interested in advertising on the podcast? Contact Multitude Keep in touch? Follow @unladylikemedia on IG, Twitter, TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From #FreetheNipple to Naked Athena, public nudity is likely THE oldest, most widespread form of protest. Unladylike intern Anuli Ononye investigates why naked and topless protests remain so popular and pop culturally appealing today. Then, she assesses their complex powers and perils with Cornell University professor Naminata Diabate, author of the award-winning book Naked Agency: Genital Cursing and Biopolitics in Africa. SUPPORT UNLADYLIKE ON PATREON Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever feel like 'I love you' expectations are higher than ever in romantic relationships? Is there a right time to say it, and does it matter who declares it first? Love to See It co-hosts Emma Gray and Claire Fallon help Cristen decipher what those three magic words do and don't signify and advise an unlady who's in love and too nervous to say it out loud. SAVE UNLADYLIKE. JOIN THE PATREON. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How did 'self-care' become synonymous with skincare routines and beauty treatments, and what does it actually mean? Dr. Pooja Lakshmin reclaims the buzzword in her debut book, Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included). She tells Cristen about the existential crisis that led her to the Black, queer origins of self-care; the faux self-care sold to women; and why it's essential for taking better care of ourselves and others. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you square the circle of recreational pole dancing for pleasure and strip club pole to get paid? Strippers United president Selena the Stripper confronts the tension between the polefit and sex worker communities and reclaims their pole space. Plus, we go deeper on strippers' decades-long labor movement and why some are going on strike. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Unladies lead Whatthe way in this important follow-up to The Ozempic Weight-Loss Craze, sharing the less talked about reasons for taking the meds, including autism, IBS and polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS). Along the way, Cristen questions the feminist taboo of intentional weight loss and her own body-positive blindspots. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does recreational pole dancing reveal about sex work stigma, from social media to strip clubs? Dr. Carolina Are unpacks why and how pole dancers dodge shadowbans and deplatforming. Then, writer and activist Selena the Stripper pulls focus to the overlooked realities that's got strippers unionizing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is a medication that's safer than Tylenol at risk of a nationwide ban? Cristen crash courses the who, what, when and WHHHHYYY of the mifepristone lawsuit, its implications for medication abortion and the too-powerful judge deciding the case (whose last name Cristen unintentionally butchers throughout). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are women expected to put on a happy VOICE? Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg from How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) lend their self-help expertise and empathy to listener questions about a "pervy" father in-law, professional dress codes and bitchy resting voice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Who gets to be a ballerina and why? Erika Lantz, host of The Turning: Room of Mirrors, details the rigid hierarchy, body standards and elite ballet culture fostered by George "Father of American Ballet" Balanchine. Then, dancer Alyah Baker finds how to express her whole self as a Black, queer ballet dancer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can toxic relationships be a form of addiction? Codependency is complex, controversial and often ascribed to women. Writer Nina Renata Aron shares her own story of confronting codependency and helps Cristen unpack the culturally fraught relationship between codependency, women and feminism. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sure, breaking up is hard to do, but then what? Cristen offers some reassuring research and firsthand advice to three listeners on embracing singlehood, questioning relationships and marrying the rebound. Plus, a very happy ending from a newly divorced unlady. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when someone who built their career on being Indigenous turns out to be ... a white lady? Writer Michelle Cyca shares how she came face to face with Indigenous identity fraud, why academia and the arts have a 'Pretendian' problem and what these scams means for Indigenous rights and sovereignty. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do dogs tell us about gender, power and dominance? Listener Claire surprises Cristen with the toxic masculinity leashed to dog training, and pro dog trainer Jerri Scherff risks it all to smash the pawtriarchy. Plus, ladies who lapdog, pseudo alpha males and racialized canines. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices