WHEN DATING HURTS

This is part two of a two-part story. It comes with trigger warnings due to its content and descriptions. Alexandra story begins in Australia, where she was born and where we meet up with Michael. He was an artist and a narcissistic abuser. The kind of a guy we lie awake at night hoping our daughters never meet up with or date. The story takes us from Australia to Vienna, Austria and then to Poland where the abuse from Michael turns from the emotional to physical violence as horrible as we can imagine. We see how trauma bonding takes place and it is almost impossible to break free. There is a stop in Sweden where a brief relationship with a man named Magnus begins. Fortunately, that one ended abruptly and finally. We will let Alexandra tell her story. NOTE: If you want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com Thank you for listening to our podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com

This is part one of a two-part story. It comes with trigger warnings due to its content and descriptions. Alexandra story begins in Australia, where she was born and where we meet up with Michael. He was an artist and a narcissistic abuser. The kind of a guy we lie awake at night hoping our daughters never meet up with or date. The story takes us from Australia to Vienna, Austria and then to Poland where the abuse from Michael turns from the emotional to physical violence as horrible as we can imagine. We see how trauma bonding takes place and it is almost impossible to break free. There is a stop in Sweden where a brief relationship with a man named Magnus begins. Fortunately, that one ended abruptly and finally. We will let Alexandra tell her story. NOTE: If you want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com Thank you for listening to our podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com

This is part two of a two-part story. Deborah’s story takes us to places many of us have never been before. She spent time in the US Navy and then the US Army. We go to Virginia, California, Kentucky, and even Afghanistan before her return to the US. Before heading into Afghanistan with the US Army, Deborah meets Scott, who does a brilliant portrayal of being everyone’s best buddy while winning over Deborah’s heart. It here where warning signs are on full display but are unfortunately missed. Upon her return from Afghanistan, while in the US Army, Deborah, learns, she is pregnant with her first child. At this point, the relationship takes a major turn for the worse. This story shows how a covert narcissist can take on many disguises and fool many people. But when a narcissist is called out, or is not being obeyed, life can become turbulent and dangerous for the person being targeted. In this story, we see how Scott handles himself when Deborah is not compliant. We also learn how Deborah manages to keep her mind together when she is put to the test time and time again. NOTE: If you want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com Thank you for listening to our podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com

This is part one of a two-part story. Deborah’s story takes us to places many of us have never been before. She spent time in the US Navy and then the US Army. We go to Virginia, California, Kentucky, and even Afghanistan before her return to the US. Before heading into Afghanistan with the US Army, Deborah meets Scott, who does a brilliant portrayal of being everyone’s best buddy while winning over Deborah’s heart. It here where warning signs are on full display but are unfortunately missed. Upon her return from Afghanistan, while in the US Army, Deborah, learns, she is pregnant with her first child. At this point, the relationship takes a major turn for the worse. This story shows how a covert narcissist can take on many disguises and fool many people. But when a narcissist is called out, or is not being obeyed, life can become turbulent and dangerous for the person being targeted. In this story, we see how Scott handles himself when Deborah is not compliant. We also learn how Deborah manages to keep her mind together when she is put to the test time and time again. NOTE: If you want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com Thank you for listening to our podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com

Every survivor story comes with reasons to listen carefully and learn the many facets of dating and domestic violence. This story is certainly no exception. For those of you thinking domestic violence doesn’t happen to people like you, Jamie’s narrative stands as evidence to the contrary. She was a college graduate. A law school graduate. And then a prosecutor in a district attorney’s office near Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. What is so ironic? She was the prosecutor of criminal cases oftentimes like what she was experiencing within her personal life at that time. And yet, she was not thinking of her difficulties as abuse. When she realized she was technically a domestic violence victim, she felt guilt and shame for not coming forth and taking the kinds of legal steps against her abuser she would have urged her clients to take. Jamie wants to underscore dating and domestic violence can—and does—happen to anyone in any profession. This is what finally helped her turn the corner on her shame. This interview is her way to reach out to the world and use her story to help shine the light of knowledge about abuse. NOTE:  If you want to share your story of abuse on the    WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com Thank you for listening to our podcast,           Bill Mitchell            WhenDatingHurts.com

Every survivor story comes with reasons to listen carefully and learn the many facets of dating and domestic violence. This story is certainly no exception. For those of you thinking domestic violence doesn’t happen to people like you, Jamie’s narrative stands as evidence to the contrary. She was a college graduate. A law school graduate. And then a prosecutor in a district attorney’s office near Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. What is so ironic? She was the prosecutor of criminal cases oftentimes like what she was experiencing within her personal life at that time. And yet, she was not thinking of her difficulties as abuse. When she realized she was technically a domestic violence victim, she felt guilt and shame for not coming forth and taking the kinds of legal steps against her abuser she would have urged her clients to take. Jamie wants to underscore dating and domestic violence can—and does—happen to anyone in any profession. This is what finally helped her turn the corner on her shame. This interview is her way to reach out to the world and use her story to help shine the light of knowledge about abuse.  NOTE:   If you want to share your story of abuse on the     WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com Thank you for listening to our podcast,            Bill Mitchell             WhenDatingHurts.com - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Thanks to my wonderful sponsors.        When you purchase any of these products, a portion the   sales helps us keep this podcast running. BlendJet            • Use my special link: zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts12  to    SAVE 12%  at blendjet.com.      The discount will be applied at checkout! Cure Hydration            Try Cure today and feel the difference for yourself!            • Use my link: https://zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts1 for      20% OFF your order, coupon activated at check out! Nom Nom            Try Nom Nom today, go to trynom.com/whendatinghurts and GET 50% OFF your first order plus free shipping.

This the final part in a three-part story. Sarah’s story of abuse starts off a bit slow but then it really gets rolling. It covers many of the warning signs (red flags) of what became an unhealthy relationship, and later, and awkward, disrespectful, one-sided, abusive marriage. Plus, there were children involved. Sarah somehow managed to stay true to herself. She never became as awful as the behavior that came her way from her husband.     There is so much to be learned in this heroic narrative about a young woman trying to make sense and live with someone when she was not prepared.     This is Sarah’s survivor story.   NOTE:    If you want to share your story of abuse on the      WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com Thank you for listening to our podcast,             Bill Mitchell              WhenDatingHurts.com

This is part two in a three-part story. Sarah’s story of abuse starts off a bit slow but then it really gets rolling. It covers many of the warning signs (red flags) of what became an unhealthy relationship, and later, and awkward, disrespectful, one-sided, abusive marriage. Plus, there were children involved. Sarah somehow managed to stay true to herself. She never became as awful as the behavior that came her way from her husband.     There is so much to be learned in this heroic narrative about a young woman trying to make sense and live with someone when she was not prepared.     This is Sarah’s survivor story.   NOTE:    If you want to share your story of abuse on the      WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com Thank you for listening to our podcast,             Bill Mitchell              WhenDatingHurts.com

This is part one in a three-part story. Sarah’s story of abuse starts off a bit slow but then it really gets rolling. It covers many of the warning signs (red flags) of what became an unhealthy relationship, and later, and awkward, disrespectful, one-sided, abusive marriage. Plus, there were children involved. Sarah somehow managed to stay true to herself. She never became as awful as the behavior that came her way from her husband. There is so much to be learned in this heroic narrative about a young woman trying to make sense and live with someone when she was not prepared. This is Sarah’s survivor story.NOTE:   If you want to share your story of abuse on the     WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com Thank you for listening to our podcast,            Bill Mitchell             WhenDatingHurts.com

This is Lee Ann’s story part two of two parts. Our interview with Lee Ann, who lives in Florida, covers a lot of dating and domestic violence topics. You’ll hear about love bombing, overt narcissism, emotional and physical violence, and the rise and fall of a fortune made and lost. There is coercive control, deception, even degradation. You will also hear of the deaths of two ex-husbands. It’s all in this conversation. From living in a manor house with a housekeeper, to living on the run after calling in police to break up a domestic dispute, Lee Ann has seen it all. And she has experience at all.     And through it all, Lee Ann has been a determined survivor who found plenty of strength and she continues to recover. Lee Ann has never told her entire domestic violence story to anyone before.     This is Lee Ann’s story.   NOTE:      If you want to share your story of abuse on the        WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com    Thank you for listening to our podcast,               Bill Mitchell                WhenDatingHurts.com - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Thanks to my wonderful sponsors.           When you purchase any of these products, a portion the    sales helps us keep this podcast running. BlendJet               • Use my special link: zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts12  to       SAVE 12%  at blendjet.com.         The discount will be applied at checkout! Cure Hydration               Try Cure today and feel the difference for yourself!               • Use my link: https://zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts1 for         20% OFF your order, coupon activated at check out! Nom Nom               Try Nom Nom today, go to trynom.com/whendatinghurts and GET 50% OFF your first order plus free shipping.

This is Lee Ann’s story part one of two parts. Our interview with Lee Ann, who lives in Florida, covers a lot of dating and domestic violence topics. You’ll hear about love bombing, overt narcissism, emotional and physical violence, and the rise and fall of a fortune made and lost. There is coercive control, deception, even degradation. You will also hear of the deaths of two ex-husbands. It’s all in this conversation. From living in a manor house with a housekeeper, to living on the run after calling in police to break up a domestic dispute, Lee Ann has seen it all. And she has experience at all. And through it all, Lee Ann has been a determined survivor who found plenty of strength and she continues to recover. Lee Ann has never told her entire domestic violence story to anyone before. This is Lee Ann’s story.NOTE:     If you want to share your story of abuse on the       WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com  Thank you for listening to our podcast,              Bill Mitchell               WhenDatingHurts.com - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Thanks to my wonderful sponsors.          When you purchase any of these products, a portion the    sales helps us keep this podcast running. BlendJet              • Use my special link: zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts12  to      SAVE 12%  at blendjet.com.        The discount will be applied at checkout! Cure Hydration              Try Cure today and feel the difference for yourself!              • Use my link: https://zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts1 for        20% OFF your order, coupon activated at check out! Nom Nom              Try Nom Nom today, go to trynom.com/whendatinghurts and GET 50% OFF your first order plus free shipping.

This time, I'm the one being interviewed.  This conversation tells the whole story about how the WHEN DATING HURTS book and podcast came about--the hard way. It's good to know our podcast has the opportunity to be talked about before a whole-new group of listeners. This is one of the surest ways to grow our listening audience. If you do not know my family's story, this is a good opportunity. NOTE:   If you want to share your story of abuse on the     WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com Thank you for listening to our podcast,            Bill Mitchell             WhenDatingHurts.com - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Thanks to my wonderful sponsors.        When you purchase any of these products, a portion the    sales helps us keep this podcast running. BlendJet            • Use my special link: zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts12  to    SAVE 12%  at blendjet.com.      The discount will be applied at checkout! Cure Hydration            Try Cure today and feel the difference for yourself!            • Use my link: https://zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts1 for      20% OFF your order, coupon activated at check out! Nom Nom            Try Nom Nom today, go to trynom.com/whendatinghurts and GET 50% OFF your first order plus free shipping.

Content/Trigger Warnings: Domestic abuse, domestic violence, and graphic violence. The voice you hear on this WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast episode was created by artificial intelligence. It is not a real person's voice. The words spoken are a composite of beliefs and concepts expressed by dating and domestic abusers found within articles and interviews. They have been collected over nearly two decades. They have been reassembled as complete ideas and thoughts.    This episode illustrates how abusers portray themselves as victims. There is not one "portrait" that fits all abusers, of course, but many never take ownership of their words or actions, and they justify their abusive and destructive behavior.     NOTE:    If you want to share your story of abuse on the      WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.comThank you for listening to our podcast,             Bill Mitchell              WhenDatingHurts.com - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Thanks to my wonderful sponsors.         When you purchase any of these products, a portion the    sales helps us keep this podcast running. BlendJet             • Use my special link: zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts12  to     SAVE 12%  at blendjet.com.       The discount will be applied at checkout! Cure Hydration             Try Cure today and feel the difference for yourself!             • Use my link: https://zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts1 for       20% OFF your order, coupon activated at check out! Nom Nom             Try Nom Nom today, go to trynom.com/whendatinghurts and GET 50% OFF your first order plus free shipping.

This is part two in a two-part story.    At 16-years of age, Marie and a few high school friends went to a local university to hang out at some social events. That’s where she met Jake. Jake was a 21-year-old college student with aspirations of playing football. But injuries took that dream away from him. Instead, he used opioids and other means to deal with pain. In truth, he was addicted but said he had it under control. The Marie and Jake relationship “stuck”, and it lasted for years that included a list of red flags. While listening to Marie’s story, we find ourselves hoping she will see the light and direct her affections elsewhere. But it will take a long time for her to get there. In part two of her story, Marie speaks about an internship which allowed her to listen to highly dangerous domestic violence predators on probation. She gained powerful insights into the minds of abusers. Insights which helped her see Jake for who he truly was. In practical ways, this story describes red flags, drug abuse, dating abuse, coercive control, poor decision-making, and so many other missteps made (and consequences brought) in peoples’ lives. This is Marie’s story.  NOTE:   If you want to share your story of abuse on the     WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com Thank you for listening to our podcast,             Bill Mitchell              WhenDatingHurts.com - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Thanks to my wonderful sponsors.         When you purchase any of these products, a portion the    sales helps us keep this podcast running. BlendJet             • Use my special link: zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts12  to     SAVE 12%  at blendjet.com.       The discount will be applied at checkout! Cure Hydration             Try Cure today and feel the difference for yourself!             • Use my link: https://zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts1 for       20% OFF your order, coupon activated at check out! Nom Nom             Try Nom Nom today, go to trynom.com/whendatinghurts and GET 50% OFF your first order plus free shipping. 03.03.2024

This is part one in a two-part story. At 16-years of age, Marie and a few high school friends went to a local university to hang out at some social events. That’s where she met Jake. Jake was a 21-year-old college student with aspirations of playing football. But injuries took that dream away from him. Instead, he used opioids and other means to deal with pain. In truth, he was addicted but said he had it under control. The Marie and Jake relationship “stuck”, and it lasted for years that included a list of red flags. While listening to Marie’s story, we find ourselves hoping she will see the light and direct her affections elsewhere. But it will take a long time for her to get there. In part two of her story, Marie speaks about an internship which allowed her to listen to highly dangerous domestic violence predators on probation. She gained powerful insights into the minds of abusers. Insights which helped her see Jake for who he truly was. In practical ways, this story describes red flags, drug abuse, dating abuse, coercive control, poor decision-making, and so many other missteps made (and consequences brought) in peoples’ lives. This is Marie’s story.NOTE:   If you want to share your story of abuse on the     WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com Thank you for listening to our podcast,            Bill Mitchell             WhenDatingHurts.com - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Thanks to my wonderful sponsors.        When you purchase any of these products, a portion the    sales helps us keep this podcast running. BlendJet            • Use my special link: zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts12  to    SAVE 12%  at blendjet.com.      The discount will be applied at checkout! Cure Hydration            Try Cure today and feel the difference for yourself!            • Use my link: https://zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts1 for      20% OFF your order, coupon activated at check out! Nom Nom            Try Nom Nom today, go to trynom.com/whendatinghurts and GET 50% OFF your first order plus free shipping. 03.03.2024

This is part one of two parts with Amanda.   This interview comes with all the trigger warnings. Amanda lives in Australia, but her story could have taken place anywhere in the world. The treatment Amanda and her twin sister (named J.J.) received as babies continued into their teen years. It is shocking, disturbing, inhumane, and, frankly, impossible to comprehend. But it is true, nonetheless. This is Domestic Violence at its ugliest. The redeeming facet about Amanda’s story is how it never managed to break her. Her generous spirit can be witnessed here. She somehow was able to find a way to live through it all and took a heroic path in life. This is Amanda's story. NOTE:     If you want to share your story of abuse on the       WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com Thank you for listening to our podcast,              Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Thanks to my wonderful sponsors.          When you purchase any of these products, a portion the    sales helps us keep this podcast running. BlendJet              • Use my special link: zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts12  to      SAVE 12%  at blendjet.com.        The discount will be applied at checkout! Cure Hydration              Try Cure today and feel the difference for yourself!              • Use my link: https://zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts1 for        20% OFF your order, coupon activated at check out! Nom Nom              Try Nom Nom today, go to trynom.com/whendatinghurts and GET 50% OFF your first order plus free shipping.

This is part one of two parts with Amanda. This interview comes with all the trigger warnings. Amanda lives in Australia, but her story could have taken place anywhere in the world. The treatment Amanda and her twin sister (named J.J.) received as babies continued into their teen years. It is shocking, disturbing, inhumane, and, frankly, impossible to comprehend. But it is true, nonetheless.  This is Domestic Violence at its ugliest. The redeeming facet about Amanda’s story is how it never managed to break her. Her generous spirit can be witnessed here. She somehow was able to find a way to live through it all and took a heroic path in life. This is Amanda's story. NOTE:    If you want to share your story of abuse on the      WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com Thank you for listening to our podcast,             Bill MitchellWhenDatingHurts.com - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Thanks to my wonderful sponsors.         When you purchase any of these products, a portion the    sales helps us keep this podcast running. BlendJet             • Use my special link: zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts12  to     SAVE 12%  at blendjet.com.       The discount will be applied at checkout! Cure Hydration             Try Cure today and feel the difference for yourself!             • Use my link: https://zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts1 for       20% OFF your order, coupon activated at check out! Nom Nom             Try Nom Nom today, go to trynom.com/whendatinghurts and GET 50% OFF your first order plus free shipping.

This is part three of three parts with Sabrina.    She met him in her freshman year of college. He was a senior. Was it love at first sight? Maybe for her. Not for him. Jake had other ideas. This story is meant for parents with daughters in, or soon entering, college. It should be a time when they begin to take off in life and learn to find their way. But it be a time when they display their innocence and are easy prey for predators. Sabrina was a trusting young woman who put her life in the hands of a man who knew how to manipulate her until she had no power at all. The more she gave the more he took. We ask ourselves how these kinds of toxic/dangerous relationships take hold. We ask why a smart person doesn't just pick up and leave. This story will explain this from the POV of someone who still cannot understand how she had this happen to her.    This is Sabrina's story.    NOTE:   If you want to share your story of abuse on the         WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com Thank you for listening to our podcast,                Bill Mitchell                 WhenDatingHurts.com - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Thanks to my wonderful sponsors.            When you purchase any of these products, a portion the    sales helps us keep this podcast running. BlendJet                • Use my special link: zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts12  to        SAVE 12%  at blendjet.com.          The discount will be applied at checkout! Cure Hydration                Try Cure today and feel the difference for yourself!                • Use my link: https://zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts1 for          20% OFF your order, coupon activated at check out! Nom Nom                Try Nom Nom today, go to trynom.com/whendatinghurts and GET 50% OFF your first order plus free shipping.

This is part two of three parts with Sabrina.    She met him in her freshman year of college. He was a senior. Was it love at first sight? Maybe for her. Not for him. Jake had other ideas. This story is meant for parents with daughters in, or soon entering, college. It should be a time when they begin to take off in life and learn to find their way. But it be a time when they display their innocence and are easy prey for predators. Sabrina was a trusting young woman who put her life in the hands of a man who knew how to manipulate her until she had no power at all. The more she gave the more he took. We ask ourselves how these kinds of toxic/dangerous relationships take hold. We ask why a smart person doesn't just pick up and leave. This story will explain this from the POV of someone who still cannot understand how she had this happen to her.    This is Sabrina's story.    NOTE:   If you want to share your story of abuse on the         WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com Thank you for listening to our podcast,                Bill Mitchell                 WhenDatingHurts.com - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Thanks to my wonderful sponsors.            When you purchase any of these products, a portion the    sales helps us keep this podcast running. BlendJet                • Use my special link: zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts12  to        SAVE 12%  at blendjet.com.          The discount will be applied at checkout! Cure Hydration                Try Cure today and feel the difference for yourself!                • Use my link: https://zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts1 for          20% OFF your order, coupon activated at check out! Nom Nom                Try Nom Nom today, go to trynom.com/whendatinghurts and GET 50% OFF your first order plus free shipping.

This is part one of three parts with Sabrina. She met him in her freshman year of college. He was a senior. Was it love at first sight? Maybe for her. Not for him. Jake had other ideas.  This story is meant for parents with daughters in, or soon entering, college. It should be a time when they begin to take off in life and learn to find their way. But it be a time when they display their innocence and are easy prey for predators.  Sabrina was a trusting young woman who put her life in the hands of a man who knew how to manipulate her until she had no power at all. The more she gave the more he took.  We ask ourselves how these kinds of toxic/dangerous relationships take hold. We ask why a smart person doesn't just pick up and leave. This story will explain this from the POV of someone who still cannot understand how she had this happen to her. This is Sabrina's story. NOTE:  If you want to share your story of abuse on the        WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com Thank you for listening to our podcast,               Bill Mitchell                WhenDatingHurts.com - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Thanks to my wonderful sponsors.           When you purchase any of these products, a portion the    sales helps us keep this podcast running. BlendJet               • Use my special link: zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts12  to       SAVE 12%  at blendjet.com.         The discount will be applied at checkout! Cure Hydration               Try Cure today and feel the difference for yourself!               • Use my link: https://zen.ai/WhenDatingHurts1 for         20% OFF your order, coupon activated at check out! Nom Nom               Try Nom Nom today, go to trynom.com/whendatinghurts and GET 50% OFF your first order plus free shipping.