Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Is it worse to break up with someone, or get broken up with? Comedian Eric Andre (Bombing with Eric Andre) joins Nicole to delve into the heartache of breakups, including the time Eric was dumped via note. He also shares the nerve-wracking story about losing his virginity, talks first crush, first boner, and hard drugs. Plus, they answer your submitted questions, from awkward run-ins with exes to how to get your partner in therapy.Have a question of your own? Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian Leslie Jones (SNL) chats with Nicole about the challenges of adjusting to a new relationship, strategies to eliminate negative self-talk, and offers Nicole advice on her latest breakup. Plus, Leslie talks about the married chucklefuckers approaching her after shows, and reveals the dating app that's been a game-changer for her.Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Ever wondered what lies behind those picture-perfect 'couple goals'? Action star Michael Jai White (Black Dynamite, Outlaw Johnny Black) joins Nicole to spill his secrets to a happy, argument-free relationship. He shares why he doesn't believe in 'dating' and offers a fresh perspective on building a relationship with a partner.  Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Ever wondered what it's like getting intimate with a clown? Deep dive as comedian Maria Bamford (Arrested Development, Big Mouth) unravels her experiences as sex and love addict, the relationship tools she's learned in her 12 step programs, and her mental illnesses. Plus, for those seeking lasting love, Maria shares the 4 behaviors to avoid divorce. Recorded Aug 22nd 2023.Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 

The Emmy-winning Uzo Aduba (Orange Is The New Black) chats with Nicole about how her dating app DMs changed after booking Crazy Eyes, finding love at a mixer, the deep connection between her personal grief and art, and the importance of honesty in relationships. Plus, Nicole fails to hit on a cashier. Recorded July 13th 2023. For more information on the SAG-AFTRA strike, see sagaftrastrike.org. Consider donating to the Entertainment Community Fund to assist struck entertainment workers.  Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Broadway star Naomi Rodgers (Tina: The Tina Turner Musical) opens up about secretly dating her co-star while on tour, and offers advice how to grieve and get over a breakup. Nicole shares her latest European dating mishaps, including an unforgettable visit to the Red Light District. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 

It's episode 300! But how is Nicole STILL SINGLE?  On this milestone occasion, she's joined by her best friend Sasheer Zamata (co-host of Best Friends) to get to the bottom of it. In this special retrospective, they explore:How Nicole's dating life has evolved with the podcastThe highs and lows of her love lifeTheir favorite dates they've been onThe best dating advice they've receivedTheir new favorite sex toys they've been usingAnd they answer your questions about whether you should call out cheating in other people's relationships, dating someone with a bad social media persona, and their thoughts on Tinx's Box Theory.We're back in the studio, and folks, the energy is unhinged. You don't want to miss this one. Be sure to check out Sasheer's new special, THE FIRST WOMAN, available at 800 Pound Gorilla.  Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 

Broadway superstar Zurin Villanueva (Tina: The Tina Turner Musical)  joins Nicole for a discussion about the awkwardness of working together with a past hookup, safety precautions when dating abroad, and the best grocery store to find a good man. Plus, don't miss Zurin's recounting of a date gone awry when her phone rang, and on the other end? Her date's ex. Nicole wants to hear from you! Need some dating or relationship advice from Nicole and her guest? Submit your question to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it answered on an upcoming special mailbag episode. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

The hilarious comedian Jay Jurden joins Nicole to talk about his secret relationship with a frat boy, working at Abercrombie & Fitch during its peak era, the best app for threeways, and what goes on at a gay orgy. Plus, Nicole gets hit on by a 911 responder. Nicole wants to hear from you! Need some dating or relationship advice from Nicole and her guest? Submit your question to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it answered on an upcoming special mailbag episode. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Drag queen Gigi Goode (Drag Race S12) joins Nicole for a supersized live episode of the podcast! They talk about her trans journey during the pandemic, how the type of people who are attracted to her has changed since transitioning, making friends through Tinder, and shares her experience being in a long term relationship with a partner who's asexual. She also tells just so many, bad, no awful, date stories.  Plus, an audience Q&A: Do queens get cozy on the set of Drag Race? Is it possible to date someone you're not attracted to? What's the best one-liner for a dating app? Dive in to find out!Recorded live at The Elysian 4/5/2023. Nicole wants to hear from you! Need some dating or relationship advice from Nicole and her guest? Submit your question to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it answered on an upcoming special mailbag episode. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Drag queen Robin Fierce (Drag Race S15) LIP-SYNCS TO THIS VERY PODCAST! She talks about remixing Nicole's comedy in her drag performance, opens up about her relationship with Drag Race contestant Amethyst, shares the new subtle way to look for a sugar daddy on dating apps,  and speaks out on how people are using Grindr for their own personal meet & greets.  Robin gives us a exclusive look at her Snatch Game audition as Nicole Byer (and why it didn't help her book the show). Plus, the haunting tale of a Grindr date with a catfish.  For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Nicole wants to hear from you! Need dating or relationship advice from Nicole and her guest? Submit your question to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it answered on an upcoming special mailbag episode. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Drag queen Bosco (Drag Race S14) joins Nicole to discuss their long-term relationship with a fan, recounts her most enchanting full-day date, and tells how to spot chasers vs. genuine men. She shares how catfishing on Craigslist for attention ignited her trans journey, plus spills the tea on the severe highs, lows, and trauma shooting Drag Race.  For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Nicole wants to hear from you! Need some dating or relationship advice from Nicole and her guest? Submit your question to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it answered on an upcoming special mailbag episode. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian and friend Matteo Lane returns to the podcast! They reminisce about his love life since his last episode, getting kicked off Grindr and Tinder for "catfishing" as himself, and why men are intimidated by successful women. Nicole wins the orgasm contest at the Thunder from Down Under Vegas show. Matteo hooks up with a dancer from Magic Mike. Plus, a whole lot more.  Watch Matteo Lane's new special, Hair Plugs & Heartache, free on YouTube. Have a question for Nicole? Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com to have it answered on a upcoming special. Follow Nicole Byer: Now on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken.Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian & actor Jermaine Fowler (The Blackening) joins Nicole to reminisce on their time working on Guy/Girl Code, his joy of being a unexpected father, and discusses what makes a great dick pic. Nicole is now horny for them, but before you go sliding one into her DMs, she shares her criteria on how to take a tasteful pic. See Nicole Byer live on tour! Get tickets at nicolebyerwastaken.com. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian Jay Pharoah (Saturday Night Live) dives into how a messy breakup ended up saving his SNL career, and the bizarre role Donald Trump played in his escape from a toxic relationship. Jay shares the impressions he's been asked to do during sex, and how developing self-confidence saved him from a bad situation. Plus, what's it like to have your photos used by a catfish? See Nicole Byer live on tour! Get tickets at nicolebyerwastaken.com. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian and actor Melvin Gregg (Vine, American Vandal, The Blackening) opens up about his unique romantic path, where pretending to be a couple turned into the real deal. He takes us on a trip down memory lane, tracing his roots from being a Vine sensation to earning the badge of an early verified Tinder user. Plus, he shares his pro tips on sealing the deal at the end of any date or encounter.  See Nicole Byer live on tour! Get tickets at nicolebyerwastaken.com. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Actress and activist TS Madison (judge on RuPaul's Drag Race) is here for a heartfelt chat on her journey from being a viral TikTok sensation to a vocal advocate for trans rights, and all of the unseen struggles she faced in navigating systemic biases. She discusses doing sex work for survival, shares real examples of the transphobic harassment she receives to this day, and her relentless efforts to forge a better future. This episode is a raw exploration into the battles and victories that come with being Black, trans, and unapologetically visible.Content Warning: This episode contains audio clips featuring transphobic harassment which may be disturbing for some listeners.  See Nicole Byer live on tour! Get tickets at nicolebyerwastaken.com. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian Sam Taggart (host of StraightioLab) is here to spill some juicy insights on gay relationships and why they often swing open. Have you ever thought of Kevin James as a bear icon? Neither did Nicole, but Sam gives us a whole new perspective! He also tells the crazy story of a strange threesome he had with 2 cops from Boston. Plus, a candid chat about all things anal, and why we need to break the silence and start talking about our holes.  Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Twin drag queen icons Sugar & Spice (RuPaul's Drag Race S15) join Nicole for a conversation about why you can't skirt around the law of attraction, to spilling the tea on the sugar baby lifestyle and how to shine as a high-value woman in today's dating scene. And if you've ever wondered what it's like for twins to audition for Drag Race, Sugar & Spice pull back the curtain on their journey, talking about their impressions of Snatch game, including the unforgettable meltdown Spice had on-set after Sugar's unexpected elimination. Plus, Nicole reveals a sweet tip on how to score free drinks on a bad date.  Hungry for more drag queen interviews? Check out our drag episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

The hilarious Bridget Everett (Somebody, Somewhere) joins Nicole to discuss the hot porn searches they've been into, the need for increased privacy on dating apps, Bridget's experience hooking up with a go-go dancer at a gay bar, and her stand-up routine where she has audience members motorboat her huge titties. Plus, the story about the woman whose breast implants started to grow mold. Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746