You Are Not Broken

Joining me for the second time on the podcast is world renowned sex therapist, Dr. Marty Klein – Author and sex therapist to Silicon Valley. If you want our first episode together check out Episode 169 – where we discuss his book “His porn her pain” Today we are discussing his amazing book: “Sexual Intelligence: What we really want from sex and how to get it”. This book is 10 years old and still completely relevant. And he is still being interviewed about it!   What is sexual intelligence and why did it need to be written about?   “For a lot of people, sex is an opportunity to fail” – Dr. Marty Klein   How do you navigate when one partner wants something and the other doesn’t – oral during a period, PIV sex, kink?   What is your opinion about the “low desire” epidemic and the meds for low desire.   “Most people leave sex for when they are too tired to do anything else” – Dr. Marty Klein   “In a world that is filled with ice cream and Netflix….why would anyone want sex?” – Dr. Marty Klein   You say in the book PIV has symbolic meaning for hetero people – can you talk about why this limits us?   What to do when sex is boring?   What to do with a partner who won’t communicate about sex? Stonewalling?   26:13 Why Dr. Klein doesn’t like the term erectile dysfunction.   I’m not attracted to my partner any more – they gained weight or are getting older – any help?   Tips for desire discrepancy. Communication and more touch.   https://www.martyklein.com/ Dr. Klein’s book: His Porn, Her Pain  https://amzn.to/3IYvIsF Dr. Klein’s book: Sexual Intelligence https://amzn.to/3WLfYi0   Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK   Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership And get on the wait list for the upcoming "adult sex education master class"

Motives between the Sheets: Understanding Obligation for Sex at Midlife and Associations with Sexual and Relationship Satisfaction Monika Georgieva et al. · https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2022.2076278 This study investigated reasons for sex at last sex, with a focus on obligation (an avoidance motivation) and doing something nice for a partner (an approach motivation), and their associations with sexual and relationship satisfaction, while controlling for marital duration, age, and sexual desire. We investigated these reasons among married, midlife Canadian women (n = 324), men (n = 275), and 25 non-binary/gender queer participants 40 to 59 years of age. Darling, Come Lay with Me or Talk with Me: Perceived Mattering and the Complementary Association between Sex and Communication within Marital Relationships Haeyoung Gideon Park et al https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2021.2018393 Kovacevic, K.*, Tu, E.*, Raposo, S.*, Rosen, N. O., & Muise, A. (2023). Is spontaneous sex ideal? Beliefs and perceptions of spontaneous and planned sex and satisfaction in romantic relationships. Journal of Sex Research. Not enough early breast cancer survivors on Vag E. – Dr. Menn - ------- Cold S, Cold F, Jensen MB, Cronin-Fenton D, Christiansen P, Ejlertsen B. Systemic or Vaginal Hormone Therapy After Early Breast Cancer: A Danish Observational Cohort Study. J Natl Cancer Inst. 2022 Oct 6;114(10):1347-1354. doi: 10.1093/jnci/djac112. PMID: 35854422; PMCID: PMC9552278. Member question: On the topic of pain with penetrative sex, what can go awry during the healing process from vaginal surgery for hysterectomy and prolapse repairs that might contribute to this? Pelvic floor therapy, lubricants, moisturizers, estrogen and dialators are the armenatarium used but what happens when they are used long term but there is still pain upon insertion even a year out from surgery? NAMS practice Pearl on Testosterone https://www.menopause.org/docs/default-source/professional/practice-pearl-testosterone_.pdf Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership

Dr Jaime Seeman aka Doctor Fit and Fabulous is a board certified OBGYN.  She has a passion for fitness, preventative medicine and empowerment not only in her medical practice but in her own life. She has a podcast called The Fit and Fabulous Podcast with Dr Jaime Seeman and a book called Hard to Kill: Master the Mindset to Maximize Your Years She was last here episode 148: march 2022: - I Want to Be Hard to Kill! - Mindwork with Dr. Jaime Seeman, MD Welcome back! What she has been up to since our last interview. The connection between sex, body image, feeling good, being strong and confidence. How to get a lot done. Finding non-sexual passion in your life. Confidence is built though action – body and intimacy Why our internal language is so important. Muscle is the organ of longevity. Fat makes hormones – why low fat is bad. Helping hypothyroidism with diet. Red meat a more taboo topic than sex? Why do aging people need more protein? The role of collagen, and what supplements are okay? Why does alcohol make you easy to kill? Hard to Kill Manifesto https://www.doctorfitandfabulous.com Hard to Kill Book: https://amzn.to/3QiFGst https://www.instagram.com/doctorfitandfabulous Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership

Justin Lehmiller, author of Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How it can help you improve your sex life. He is a social psychologist and a research fellow at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. Why research Fantasy? Should we normalize fantasy? So many people feel shame or like they are cheating. Are there hormones correlated with sexual fantasy? What are Americans Fantasizing about? Shame about fantasy – and who feels more ashamed. Our our fantasies actually truth and should we act on them? The difference between fantasy and desire. Just because you have a fantasy about a threesome – should you do it? Humans are poor predictors of future emotional states – Justin Lehmiller What do people mean when they talk about “getting the spark” back. And is there a role for fantasy. Sex quality versus quantity. In his book Dr. Lehmiller talks about self disclosure and building trust….but it can seem fraught with backfire potential. Should you share your fantasy with you partner? How do you know if it is safe? Novelty – seems so simple but people have the same sex week in and out. Research shows couples who engage in the most acts of novelty tend to be the most sexually satisfied and the most successful at keeping the passion alive. The most common fantasy and the one that doesn’t work out well when done in real life – threesomes. Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life https://amzn.to/3ZkDW5K Sex and psychology podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-and-psychology-podcast/id1505460817 Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership

Episode 200!!!! Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz, MD works at the  Women’s Care of Beverly Hills, an obstetrics and gynecology practice that has locations in Beverly Hills and Redondo Beach, California. Dr. Gilberg-Lenz is involved in women’s empowerment and public education and frequently appears as an expert in women’s health and integrative medicine on TV, in print, and online. Her book Menopause Bootcamp: optimize your health, empower your self, and flourish as you age is out now. Why is talking about menopause an act of rebellion? How many doctors know how to treat menopause and how to find an expert? We discuss the role of communication and how it builds intimacy. Normalizing how varied sex can be and getting out of the heteronormative narrow view of penetrative sex. The role of declining estrogen and giving less fucks. How can menopause be an opportunity? Mainstream medicine has a woman problem – and the painful truth is that science fails us. Why we do not recommend pellets? How to talk to your doctor about menopause? Why does no one care about heart disease? https://www.menopause.org/ https://www.instagram.com/askdrsuzanne https://www.instagram.com/themenopausebootcamp/ Menopause Bootcamp: Optimize Your Health, Empower Your Self, and Flourish as You Age https://amzn.to/3m5ZJzn Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership

Dr. Dubin is a  fellowship-trained urologist and andrologist focusing on men’s health. He cares for men with fertility problems, sexual issues (erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, etc.), Peyronie’s disease, low testosterone, testicular pain and other problems involving men’s genitalia. He wants to help men understand that the issues they face are normal and help them find solutions that fit their lifestyle and life goals. In addition to providing individualized patient care, he is also passionate about providing helpful information to the community. He co-hosts a podcast, “Man Up — A Doctor's Guide to Men’s Health,” in which he discuss various men’s health topics. Why don't men go to the doctor? Where do men get most of their sex ed from? Figuring out the difference between erections, orgasm, ejaculation (and refractory time) and desire. The five things you need to get a good erection. The role of testosterone and libido and erections. Taking testosterone can cause infertility in 60% of men. Once you take Testosterone are you going to be on it forever? When a man goes to the doctor for Viagra, should the doctor ask about the partner? We need more people talking about intimacy without an erect penis. And if you are comfortable - what to do when you penis doesn't work - I hear over and over about men being able to orgasm with a soft penis and I need some info on this!  Are you the person?  So many people think sex is over when the penis doesn't work and I need someone to tackle this difficult topic. Dr. Dubin did a study looking at women getting blamed for their partner’s erectile dysfunction. 1 out of 7 women were blamed. Tips for when your male partner doesn’t want to talk about intimate issues. What is with products that make you make more semen? What is with penis enlarging procedures? Social media inaccuracies with men’s health – sperm retention! Does ejaculating decrease prostate cancer? Does vasectomy cause prostate cancer? https://www.themanuppod.com/ https://www.instagram.com/themanuppod/ Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership

Is bigger always better? The “use it or lose it” myth needs to die. Vaginal atrophy is a hormonal issue. Are orgasms good for you? Can I use vaginal estrogen more than twice a week? Tips and tricks for vaginal estrogen. Can you still get BV and yeast infections after menopause? Painful sex and low libido after a LEEP procedure. Hi I have a question! I just saw my gynecologist , she has me on vaginal estrogen. I asked if I can go on the estrogen patch she advised me that I don’t need to be on the patch that the tabs are what I need! I’m sorry I should have said explained i had a hysterectomy in my 40’s they left my ovaries a year later I was told I was in full menopause! I’m 60 now and only started vaginal estrogen a year ago due to me complaining about painful intercourse. Should I also be on the estrogen patch. I’m only 22 and suspecting a stage 3 prolapse . I’m pretty sure I’ve unintentionally caused it due to straining on the toilet,etc. I wanted to know- can I still get pregnant? And can my prolapse heal itself? Who needs systemic estrogen versus only vaginal estrogen? The multiple reasons we are undertreating menopause. I’m a 62 year old guy. Married to a beautiful soul for 40 years. I’d love to get her your book. But, I don’t wanna come off as being “that guy.” Do you have any suggestions? Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership

Hot off the back of the New York Times Magazine Feb 1st on Menopause Hormones - I gave a lecture to my local medical society about hormones.  It is a nice overview and I hope you enjoy it! The best way to get rid of fear is education Why the Women’s Health Initiative study took people off of hormones Understanding the Healthy Cell Hypothesis Repetition is the key to adult learning The top two reasons women stop having sex in perimenopause and menopause What we know about menopause hormone therapy in 2023 The more educated you are, the more you can advocate for yourself By definition: menopause is one day - 366 days after your last natural period Average age of menopause in western society is 51 Hormone therapy was popular in the 80’s and 90’s If you still have a uterus you must protect the uterine lining with a progestin if you take systemic estrogen (not so for vaginal estrogen) FDA approved indications for estrogen 1) preventing osteoporosis 2) treatment of vasomotor symptoms 3) treatment of premature ovarian insufficiency (going into menopause prior to age 40) 4) GSM how did we get to the point where we thought estrogen caused cancer? what does hormone therapy help? the longer you go without estrogen, your arteries develop a fatty streak or plaque who can’t be on HRT who can be on HRT Best practices for hormone replacement therapy Non oral estrogen vs oral estrogen Unanswered questions we have about hormones Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership

Happy ONE MILLION DOWNLOADS!   So I asked ChatGPT to help me write a podcast episode, and I think AI nailed it! How can iIget my partner to have more sex with me? 1. Communicate openly: Have a conversation with your partner about your needs and desires. Share your feelings and listen to their perspective. It's important to approach this conversation in a non-confrontational and non-judgmental way. 2. Understand their perspective: Your partner may have different needs or desires when it comes to sex. Try to understand their perspective and see if there are any underlying issues that may be affecting their interest in sex. 3. Show affection: Show your partner that you care about them and appreciate them. This can help build a stronger emotional connection and make them more likely to want to be intimate with you. 4. Be spontaneous: Surprise your partner with a romantic gesture or plan a special date night. This can help reignite the spark in your relationship. 5. Look at your relationship: Reflect on your relationship as a whole and see if there are any factors that may be affecting your partner's interest in sex, such as stress, fatigue, or relationship issues. 6. Seek professional help: If you and your partner are unable to resolve the issue on your own, consider seeking the help of a couples therapist or sex therapist. They can provide guidance and support to help improve your relationship. 7. Be patient: Remember that change takes time, and it's important to be patient and supportive of your partner. It's important to remember that every relationship and every person is different, and what works for one couple may not work for another. Communication and mutual understanding are key to addressing any issues in a relationship, including sexual intimacy. Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership

I get so many hormone questions!  So I needed a podcast to refer people to. I hope I did okay covering the basics and deep diving into some more complicated details. Enjoy! 1. Sex and Menopause 2. Systemic versus Vaginal Hormones 3. Estrogen Doesn't Cause Cancer 4. We gendered hormones and how this hurts women 5. Natural is a weapon waged to keep us in our place 6. Pellets and compounds are to be avoided if better options are available 7. You never need to stop hormones 8. The FDA will not help us (the two cases of Testosterone and Alzheimer's disease).  (bonus) I hate the word "balanced" when discussing hormones.  Pro tip - people are probably just trying to sell you something.  Paganini-Hill A, Henderson VW. Estrogen deficiency and risk of Alzheimer's disease in women. Am J Epidemiol. 1994 Aug 1;140(3):256-61 Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK

Blaming Her For His ED, UTIs on Social Media, Sex Toys in the Middle East, Female Testosterone Guidelines and More - January Live Podcast Vanessa and Xander Marin’s survey – over 54,000 people - their Sexual Frequency Report They were on my podcast # 181 – sex talks with social media’s sex educators Justin Dubin’s paper on Blaming women for erectile dysfunction Examples of misinformation found on YouTube and tiktok videos regarding urinary tract infection Sex toys in the middle east Mindfulness with Female Sexual dysfunction Clinical practice guidelines for use of T in Women https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/epdf/10.1080/13697137.2021.1891773?needAccess=true&role=button Justin M. Dubin, MD, W. Austin Wyant, MSc, Navin C. Balaji, BE, Iakov V. Efimenko, BSc, Quinn C. Rainer, BA, Belen Mora, BA, Lisa Paz, PhD, Ashley G. Winter, MD, Ranjith Ramasamy, MD, Is Female Wellness Affected When Men Blame Them for Erectile Dysfunction?, Sexual Medicine, Volume 9, Issue 3, June 2021, Page 100351 Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership

I have the good fortune of talking with Dr. Nan Wise, PhD, author of "Why Good Sex Matters" https://amzn.to/3GaubA5 Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership

Happy Third Birthday and New Year’s Resolutions - Will hit 1 million in January! New year’s wishes - Male birth control - Say no and have it be okay - Vaginal E for everyone who wants it o Good Rx  Estradiol 0.01% 42 G tube o Amazon Pharmacy – 28.13  Interlude – get interlude  20 off your first order - Decreased fear around estrogen o Peter Attia podcast Episode 42interviewing Estrogen Matters Dr Avrum Bluming and Carol Taveris Phd https://peterattiamd.com/caroltavris-avrumbluming/  2021 update from the authors - :the WHI has walked back virtually all of their early alarmist findings. In recent publications, they reported that estrogen does not increase “all cause mortality” or deaths from heart disease and cancer. Actually, they said, it increases longevity, most notably when begun within ten years of the last menstrual period. It is the best preventative for osteoporotic hip fracture. It is safe and effective when applied vaginally for local symptoms. And, in the most striking about-face from their 2003 headlines that HRT “did not have a clinically meaningful effect on health-related quality of life” for women in menopause, they stated in 2019 that “Hormone therapy is the most effective treatment for managing menopausal vasomotor symptoms.” - Desire mismatch is not a problem - Orgasmic equality - Hope is not a game plan o Wishing your desire was different does nothing – it does worse than nothing o Resisting reality, resisting what is - Healthy relationship with your body o Speak kindly o Sleep, exercise, food o Stop shoulding all over your body - Healthy relationship with sex o Stop shoulding o Stop doing it for other people o Be present o It is okay to fail, to not feel like it Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership https://www.getinterlude.com/?utm_source=affiliate&utm_campaign=promo-kc-notbroken

Happy December live podcast. I talk about snake clitorises, human clitoris nerve endings, why the American Heart Association wants you to start hormones early, and sex has gone mainstream as the Economist talked about it! Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership Our podcast sponsor is Bonafide Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life. Discount code for 20% off:NOTBROKEN Sales link: https://hellobonafide.com/notbroken

This is the audio of a lecture I gave to Urology and Gyn Residents in 2022. I know you are an advanced audience and can handle graduate level work!  Enjoy! Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership Our podcast sponsor is Bonafide Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life. Discount code for 20% off:NOTBROKEN Sales link: https://hellobonafide.com/notbroken

Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista’s life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her uncurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too. The brain love interpretation and drama. Tell us your story of how you became a coach for widowed moms. How to define grief – a natural response to perceived loss. When sex is appropriate while grieving? How does grief work? Grief is not golf. How to respond to someone experiencing grief. “Feelings are not problems to solve” – Krysta St. Germain 8 myths about sex and grief - You just want physical touch, not sex - If you want sex again it means you didn’t love your person of loss - The first year is the hardest/you shouldn’t have sex the first year - If you don’t want sex there is something wrong with you - You should wait for sex until you are done grieving - If you want sex then you must be trying to escape your grief - Escaping your grief is wrong - You can have sex again until it is “the one” - You aren’t ready to have sex until you don’t have strong emotions Sex after a health diagnosis https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/ coachingwithkrista.com https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-widowed-mom-podcast/id1468127632 https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkrista/ Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership Our podcast sponsor is Bonafide Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life. Discount code for 20% off:NOTBROKEN Sales link: https://hellobonafide.com/notbroken

Meet Sylvie B – a sexological body worker in training! Many people struggle in their intimate relationships, whether because of pain, perceived dysfunction, loss of libido, mismatched libido and, most pervasively, shame.  Many people have also experienced trauma, low self-esteem, and frustration over the limits to their pleasure. Somatic sex education is about exploring our sexual challenges through breaking down the autopilot and the worn out old patterns we rely on for whatever reason, which limit our erotic pleasure and full self-expression. Good sex more than just the absence of pain. Why do people come see a sexological body worker? What is Somatic Sex Education and sexological bodywork? Not many people are used to being asked how they would like to be touched. Some people get really frustrated because they realize they just don’t know. And that they have never looked too deeply into that. That can bring up feelings of guilt or shame. Tips for squirting How do you want to feel during sex? Tips for tuning in to the very subtle frequency of what people actually desire. What to do when people feel numb? How do we emerge from shame and trauma? How do we set and communicate boundaries as women in our relationships? The pleasure of the soft cock – what to tell men with ED. What to do. Let’s talk about this problem – middle age pelvis – menopause versus viagra Find Out More https://somaticsexeducator.com/ https://www.instagram.com/s3xandsensibility/ https://mysexandsensibility.com/ Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership Our podcast sponsor is Bonafide Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life. Discount code for 20% off:NOTBROKEN Sales link: https://hellobonafide.com/notbroken

Dr. Becky Lynn is back! Previous on Episode #44 and #43 where we talked about vaginismus and endometriosis and sex after breast cancer (44) and hormones (43). So check them out! She is the founder of Evora Women’s Health in Missouri Dr. Lynn  recently authored the paper: Low Sexual Desire in Breast Cancer Survivors and Patients: A Review - Sexual dysfunction is 30-100% of women with breast cancer. And low desire is 5-87% - What happens when we do surgery on the breasts o Does it matter if we had radical mastectomy versus lumpectomy, with or without reconstruction? - Role of Chemotherapy on sexual function - Role of anti-estrogen meds on sexual function - Role of couples therapy - Data on vaginal moisturizers on sexual function - Role and safety of vaginal estrogen after breast cancer treatment – ACOG statement paper - Trial of Bupropion – open study shows improvement – randomized controlled trial versus placebo pending - Role of vaginal testosterone cream in pts on Aromatase Inhibitors – lowers estrogen in the body - There is a study looking at intravaginal DHEA on sexual function in breast cancer - Abstract at ISSWSH on Addyi (filbanserin) in breast cancer population - Role of hormones after breast cancer Dr. Lynn is a proponent of medical marijuana for better sex 34% OF WOMEN WHO REPORTED USING MARIJUANA BEFORE SEXUAL ACTIVITY SAID IT INCREASED THEIR SEX DRIVE, IMPROVED ORGASM, AND DECREASED PAIN. Luo F, Link M, Grabenhorst C, Lynn B. Low Sexual Desire in Breast Cancer Survivors and Patients: A Review. Sex Med Rev. 2022 Jul;10(3):367-375. website:   https://evorawomen.com/ FB/IG @evorawomenshealth TikTok:  @dr.beckylynn FB/IG Becky Kaufman Lynn, MD YouTube:  search Dr. Becky Lynn YouTube:  search Evora Women's Health Twitter:  @Becky Lynn Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership The CE experience for this Podcast is powered by CMEfy - click here to reflect and earn credits: https://earnc.me/jWTmnn Our podcast sponsor is Bonafide Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life. Discount code for 20% off:NOTBROKEN Sales link: https://hellobonafide.com/notbroken

Dr. Carrie Leff is a practicing Internist and Pediatrician in Michigan. She is passionate about Adolescent and Women's health. Dr. Leff is on a mission to educate teens about their bodies and to help parents become more comfortable with difficult conversations with their kids. She is the mother of 3 daughters, a professional multi-tasker and a believer in the power of women. Dr. Leff co-wrote Celebrate Your Body 2: The Ultimate Puberty Book for Preteen and Teen Girls in 2019. It is a #1 Best seller in  in Teen & Young Adult Health Books on Sexuality & Pregnancy on Amazon. We met at the ISSWSH conference March 2022 in Texas – we were both giving lectures. “Mommy, I feel like you wrote this book just for me” – Dr. Leff’s daughter Why she wrote this book and created a program about puberty? How puberty is like menopause. She discusses when puberty starts and what first signs are. What does an all-American puberty education in a public school look like? “Talking to your kids should be 30 one minute conversations, not one 30 minute conversation” – Dr. Leff “Our kids aren’t connecting puberty and sex unless we make that connection for them” – Dr. Leff If you can’t/won’t discuss puberty with your kids then you are teaching them that you aren’t a resource for this information. I love how you call private parts “personal parts” – why is this important? So many middle aged women have body shame – when does this start? How she found out her book was banned. Consent – example of trying a shirt on at a store - - so important – many middle age women don’t practice consent. How to close the orgasm gap by 2040 – her plan A golden question, “how will you know you are ready to have sex?” Moms buying teens their first vibrators – thoughts and her experience You didn’t bring up birth control – when to bring it up, how to bring it up, resources for adults. You wrote an op-ed for the Washington post about your book getting banned: “Some parents believe that telling children the truth about sex and our bodies will spoil their innocence. But innocence and ignorance are not the same.” Celebrate Your Body 2 Book: https://amzn.to/3dLZzc7 https://turningteen.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drcarrieleff/ Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership Our podcast sponsor is Bonafide Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life. Discount code for 20% off:NOTBROKEN Sales link: https://hellobonafide.com/notbroken

So Many good topics in the November Live Podcast! USPSTF opinion on hormones for primary prevention of disease. https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/fullarticle/2797867 Worrying what other people think - vagina and penis broken in older dating Clitoris has 10k nerve endings What Kaiser says about having sex - and is it accurate? We need more research before we tell women they "should" have sex to prevent atrophy - it is just misinformation at this time. The brain is the biggest sex organ!  And the role of "sex negativity" on your sex life.