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Kink arrives in your life looking like a problem, but it’s really a solution. In this episode, Lina leads a listener through the daunting moment of taking stock of your submissive fantasies with the empathy of somebody a little further down the road. Get your Sub Survival Guide for 20% off at http://www.askasub.com/courses with code AWAKENING To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A listener asks the age-old question of where the line is with public humiliation kinks and involving bystanders, and Lina dives in with things to consider before you go to the grocery store with the f-word written across your forehead.   Listen to Lina address the Erewhon incident on Dan Savage’s podcast here.    To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

How can you date again after a D/s relationship turns abusive? You start by dating your intuition.   To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A listener calls in after someone told them saying they are kinky means they are probably not looking for anything serious. Obviously this is not true, but Lina also had some thoughts on the relationship escalator, community care, and how to see people as individuals in a sex positive context.   To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

I’ve been through some shit lately and wanted to share the ways people have supported me so you can support those in your life who are also going through shit. We will be back to our regular format next week. Love you all.  Get my essay about the miscarriage on Patreon or Substack.    To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Disability advocate, sex toy creator, and host of Disability After Dark Andrew Gurza joins us to talk all about non-binary identity, dating while disabled, and how we can improve accessibility in kinky and queer spaces. To get this full episode, go to Patreon or Substack. For that piece of writing I was talking about get it on Patreon or Substack.  To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A sub is concerned that her Dom’s wife is going to veto their dynamic and wonders how she can modify her behavior to make the wife more comfortable. Lina talks about which feelings we have control over (only our own) and how to give yourself grace during liminal times.    To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

So you've got somebody to do 24/7 with - great! Now how the hell do you narrow down all the options and create a bespoke practice just for you? Lina walks a listener through the buffet of options, and helps guide the process of assembling a satisfying D/s plate covered in consent gravy. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

This week a caller on the autism spectrum and his partner with ADD wonder if there is a link between kink and neurodivergence. Let's talk about it! To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Due to unforeseen circumstances (we got COVID), in lieu of this week’s scheduled episode please enjoy this rerun of a season 2 favorite. Lina interviews a listener who got in touch to share the story of her custody battle with her sex-negative ex-husband, and the unexpected win that arrived at the end of her story. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month!  Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com  Go here for information on how to record a voice memo   Subscribe to the subby substack here. Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

First Lina delivers a hot take about how women who sleep with men can become marginalized within kink, then teases out the difference between humiliation and degradation kinks while making fun of dating app bing bongs (as usual). To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

We’re back! And we’re kicking purity culture in the pants!!  Get info about the Friday 1/26 Deep Dive here! To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A sub calls in asking how to make amends for past mistakes. Spoiler alert: you do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert repenting. Unless you're into that. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Get a year of Patreon for $50 (that's two months free!) before the rate goes up to $6 on 1/1/24. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

The words filth and perversion barely begin to scratch the surface of what's on offer in this interview with Empress Wu and her singular penchant for scenes that expand into systems that fuck gender, the body, notions of inside and outside, as well as existence itself. Here in the free preview, we discuss Wu’s journey into pro-Domme work as well as her thoughts on sex work decriminalization. Paid listeners will receive the full hour and fifteen minute interview featuring specifics of her wild Dominance practice. Get the complete interview on Patreon for $11/month or Substack for $8/month. Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/94681123?pr=true  Substack: https://askasub.substack.com/podcast  To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month!  Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com  Go here for information on how to record a voice memo   Subscribe to the subby substack here. Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A sub is concerned about sending the wrong message when telling Doms she doesn't have hard limits. What to do? To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Bisexual polyamorous writer Gab Alexa joins me to discuss bi-erasure, queer baiting, and her spicy time at the infamous swinger’s retreat Hedonism. Join Patreon at $11/month or Substack at $8/month to get the complete interview, as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my only public recorded convo with Mr. Dune.  To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Hey, it's your real life calling! The one where you're not sleeping on an air mattress in a musty basement bracing yourself to hear your Uncle Jim's conspiracy theories at the dinner table! You -- yes you! -- used to be kinky, and that kinkiness is a superpower! Get 25% off on both Ask A Sub courses with code BOUNDARIES25 at askasub.com/courses. Offer expires 11/29 at 11:59pm PST. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A listener wants to know the answer to a so-called googleable question - what the heck is a play party, exactly? Lina answers & gives tips on navigating these experiences once you find the right one. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month!  Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com  Go here for information on how to record a voice memo   Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Get more Folsom info from this pamphlet. Special thanks to Cactus Cult Leather, BunnyLeather.com, Sylvan and Milton, SF K9 Unit, Bay Area Open Minds, The Satanic Temple and everyone who spoke to me at Folsom!  Get my full discussion with Alex Kacha on Patreon or Substack. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month!  Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com  Go here for information on how to record a voice memo   Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Theme Music by Dan Molad Disco Music via Descript

Are you or a loved one affected by Goodest Girl Syndrome, aka the desire to be the absolute best in comparison to all your partner’s other partners past, present & future? Tune in for solace, solidarity, and strategies to tend your tender heart. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo. Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad