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226. Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Drinking (Even When You Want To)

226. Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Drinking (Even When You Want To)

Update: 2025-11-14
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Ever notice how the harder you try not to think about drinking, the more it suddenly becomes all you can think about?

In episode 226 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick breaks down the classic Carl Jung idea, 'what you resist persists' and explains why fighting your thoughts and feelings around alcohol often makes them louder, not weaker.

You’ll learn why thoughts about drinking are rarely random, how the brain predicts patterns based on your past, and why resisting these thoughts can turn them into full-blown urges through the pressure cooker effect.

Patrick also explains what actually creates urges (it’s not just resisting thoughts) and shares a simple tool, the 3 A’s, to help you deal with thoughts, urges and emotions without fear, pressure or panic.

If you’re rethinking alcohol and want more peace, less mental noise and more control over how you show up each day, this episode is for you.

Some of the awesome key takeaways:
• Why 'what you resist persists' shows up when men want to stop drinking
• The difference between passing thoughts, repeated thoughts and real urges
• Why thoughts about drinking aren’t as random as they seem
• How resistance creates fear and pressure
• How acceptance creates peace, even when it’s uncomfortable
• How to use the 3 A’s (Acknowledge, Accept, Allow) in real time

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226. Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Drinking (Even When You Want To)

226. Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Drinking (Even When You Want To)

Patrick Fox - Mens Life and Sober Coach