DiscoverBlack Girls Heal#247: 3 Signs You've Grown and Are Healthier
#247: 3 Signs You've Grown and Are Healthier

#247: 3 Signs You've Grown and Are Healthier

Update: 2024-06-03
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This episode of Black Girls' Hill delves into the importance of recognizing and celebrating personal growth, particularly in the context of healing from past trauma and unhealthy patterns. The host, Carol Love, emphasizes the need to acknowledge progress made and move away from self-limiting narratives that may hold us back. She shares three key signs that indicate personal growth: pausing before reacting, even when hurt; being open to alternative viewpoints; and feeling and validating emotions. Love encourages listeners to celebrate these milestones, even if they seem small, and to recognize that progress is a continuous journey. She also addresses the importance of surrounding oneself with safe and supportive people who can validate and encourage emotional growth. The episode concludes with a reminder that personal growth is a process, and it's essential to acknowledge and celebrate the steps we take along the way.

Outlines

00:00:00
Intro and Episode Overview

This Chapter introduces the episode's theme of recognizing signs of personal growth and celebrating progress made. The host, Carol Love, shares her motivation for revisiting a previous episode on this topic, emphasizing the importance of pausing to acknowledge our achievements in the midst of our healing journey.

00:03:09
The Importance of Giving Yourself Credit

This Chapter delves into the importance of giving ourselves credit for our growth and recognizing the progress we've made. The host shares a personal anecdote about a coaching student who was still labeling herself with a past identity that no longer fit her current reality. This highlights the tendency to hold onto limiting narratives that prevent us from seeing how far we've come.

00:07:55
Three Signs of Personal Growth

This Chapter presents three key signs that indicate personal growth: pausing before reacting, even when hurt; being open to alternative viewpoints; and feeling and validating emotions. The host provides specific examples and encourages listeners to celebrate these milestones, even if they seem small.

00:21:49
Embracing Emotions and Challenging Limiting Beliefs

This Chapter addresses the importance of embracing our emotions and challenging the belief that we must always be happy and positive. The host emphasizes that our emotions are valuable resources that can provide direction and insight. She encourages listeners to choose the meaning they attach to their emotions and to see them as opportunities for growth rather than deficits.

Keywords

Black Girls' Hill
Black Girls' Hill is a podcast hosted by Carol Love that focuses on topics related to self-love, healing, and personal growth, particularly for Black women. The podcast provides a safe space for listeners to explore their emotions, learn strategies for overcoming challenges, and connect with a community of supportive individuals.

Personal Growth
Personal growth refers to the ongoing process of developing and improving oneself in various aspects of life, including emotional intelligence, self-awareness, relationships, and overall well-being. It involves setting goals, learning new skills, challenging limiting beliefs, and embracing opportunities for self-discovery.

Healing Trauma
Healing trauma refers to the process of recovering from the emotional and psychological wounds caused by traumatic experiences. It involves addressing the physical, emotional, and cognitive effects of trauma, developing coping mechanisms, and building resilience.

Emotional Validation
Emotional validation refers to acknowledging and accepting someone's feelings without judgment or criticism. It involves listening attentively, empathizing with their perspective, and expressing understanding and support.

Self-Love
Self-love refers to the act of accepting and appreciating oneself unconditionally, regardless of flaws or imperfections. It involves recognizing one's worth, practicing self-compassion, and prioritizing one's well-being.

Resilience
Resilience refers to the ability to bounce back from adversity, challenges, and setbacks. It involves developing coping mechanisms, maintaining a positive outlook, and adapting to change.

Community Support
Community support refers to the sense of belonging and connection that individuals experience within a group of people who share common values, interests, or experiences. It involves feeling supported, understood, and encouraged by others.

Cycle Syncing
Cycle syncing is a holistic approach to health and well-being that involves aligning one's lifestyle choices, including diet, exercise, and self-care practices, with the different phases of the menstrual cycle. It aims to optimize energy levels, mood, and overall well-being throughout the month.

Q&A

  • What are some key signs that indicate personal growth?

    Three key signs of personal growth include pausing before reacting, even when hurt; being open to alternative viewpoints; and feeling and validating emotions.

  • Why is it important to give ourselves credit for our growth?

    Giving ourselves credit for our growth helps us to acknowledge the progress we've made and move away from self-limiting narratives that may hold us back. It allows us to celebrate our achievements and recognize our resilience.

  • How can we create a supportive environment for emotional growth?

    Surrounding ourselves with safe and supportive people who can validate and encourage our emotional growth is crucial. It's important to identify and cultivate relationships with individuals who listen attentively, empathize with our experiences, and provide constructive feedback.

  • What are some common challenges to recognizing and celebrating personal growth?

    Some common challenges include the fear of appearing foolish, the tendency to hold onto past identities, and the belief that we must always be happy and positive. It's important to challenge these limiting beliefs and embrace the reality that personal growth is a continuous journey with ups and downs.

Show Notes

In this episode, let’s discuss the importance of recognizing and celebrating personal growth. Reflecting on past conversations with coaching students, I explore three key signs that show how much you've evolved: pausing before reacting even when hurt, becoming open to alternative viewpoints, and feeling and validating your emotions. Alongside these insights, we discuss the impact of sharing emotions with safe individuals and re-evaluating your social circle for healthier relationships. 


We have been very attuned to keep our focus on our shortcomings but rarely do we allow ourselves to celebrate the progress that we’ve been making in our inner work.


Tune in to learn how to acknowledge your progress, appreciate your journey, and break unhealthy patterns for a better tomorrow.


In this episode, we cover…

  • 02:49 The inspiration for this episode
  • 04:00 How labels from your past are keeping you stuck from growing
  • 05:16 Why you should give yourself credit for the progress you've made
  • 06:49 Why you need to pause before reacting
  • 09:15 Are you open to seeing alternative perspectives?
  • 10:21 A tool to use when you're triggered
  • 14:43 Example of seeing the alternative perspectives in dating
  • 16:41 Example of seeing the alternative perspectives in inner work
  • 18:38 Feeling your emotions and validating them
  • 20:15 Why people *don't care* about your emotions
  • 21:14 What to do when you don't have safe people around you


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#247: 3 Signs You've Grown and Are Healthier

#247: 3 Signs You've Grown and Are Healthier

Shena Lashey