This is a Fan Fav episode. I’m sitting down again with the incredible Dr. Nicole LePera—The Holistic Psychologist—for a radically honest conversation about self-sabotage, self-betrayal, and how our subconscious habits keep us stuck for YEARS if we don’t wake up and intervene. Dr. Nicole doesn’t just break down the science; she offers the practical tools and tiny first steps you need to start making change, even if you’ve failed a thousand times before.

With her signature compassion and “no more hiding” approach, Nicole shows us how overthinking, meaningless routines, and people-pleasing quietly sabotage our dreams. But, most importantly, she gives you a roadmap out. It’s time to reconnect to that inner voice, build unstoppable self-trust, and finally become the hero of your own life—no matter your history.

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  00:01 – What self-sabotage REALLY is and why “overthinking” betrays your inner wisdom

  
  


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  00:11 – Where self-betrayal comes from: The subconscious’s addiction to the familiar

  
  


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  00:27 – Creating space from your thoughts: Why you don’t need to “think less,” just think differently

  
  


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  00:41 – The daily “small promises” that actually break the cycle of self-defeat

  
  


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  00:55 – Overwhelm and emotional safety: How to start healing without retraumatizing yourself

  
  


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  01:15 – Self-sabotage vs. self-betrayal: How ignoring your needs ends up running your entire life

  
  


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  01:29 – Building ongoing self-awareness and spotting your own “tells”

  
  


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  01:52 – Navigating relationships as your needs (and self) evolve—and why communication is everything

  
  


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  02:15 – Meaning as your anchor: How reconnecting with purpose pulls you out of any spiral

  
  


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  02:36 – Why you’re not “broken,” and how tiny acts of self-trust change everything

  
  

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