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How to Know if Someone is Dismissive Avoidant or Secure

How to Know if Someone is Dismissive Avoidant or Secure

Update: 2025-02-12
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Are you dating someone secure—or dismissive avoidant?

In the early stages of dating, dismissive avoidants can appear secure, making it tricky to recognize attachment patterns until real feelings are involved. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike DiZio break down key differences between secure and dismissive avoidant partners, including early red and green flags to look for in relationships.





What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✔️ How dismissive avoidants can mimic secure traits early in dating


✔️ The biggest communication differences between secure and DA partners


✔️ Why dismissive avoidants avoid deep emotional conversations


✔️ How to tell if someone is genuinely interested in a long-term relationship


✔️ Signs that someone may struggle with emotional vulnerability and connection


If you’ve ever wondered, “Are they actually secure, or will they pull away later?”, this episode will help you spot the differences and date with clarity.




Timestamps:

00:00 - Intro


02:22 - 1 — DA’s Speak More Logically


09:45 - 2 — Secure People Are Comfortable Saying What They're Looking For


16:22 - 3 — Secure People Are Comfortable Talking About the Relationship


25:26 - 4 — Secure People Will Want to Resolve Conflict in a Timely Fashion


26:25 - 14-Day Free Trial


26:53 - Secure People Will Want to Resolve Conflict in a Timely Fashion (Cont’d)


31:52 - 5 — Secure's Can Laugh at Themselves


34:39 - Rocket Money


35:58 - 6 — DA’s May Have High Self-Consideration


38:44 - 7 — DA's and Secure's Handle Adversities Differently


41:56 - 8 — A Secure Person Will Introduce You to Family and Friends


49:33 - 9 — Secure People Will Express Unmet Needs


52:15 - Conclusion




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How to Know if Someone is Dismissive Avoidant or Secure

How to Know if Someone is Dismissive Avoidant or Secure

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