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Mary and Antoine Part 3 of 3: When Parents Fight

Mary and Antoine Part 3 of 3: When Parents Fight

Update: 2024-09-24
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An unspoken agreement with parents raising children is that they will be on the same page and they will be a united front. But that is often easier said than done. In part 3 of our 3 part series with Mary, her husband Antoine joins us to discuss what happens when they disagree, how it affects their 6 year old Oliver, and what they’re doing to make sure they come back together in healthy ways.



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  • 7:34 What does “being on the same page” mean to you?
  • 9:51 What does it mean when your child picks up that you are two different people, with two different personalities
  • 12:42 For some people, harmony is necessary for the nervous system
  • 15:56 Parents might be comfortable with conflict, and your child might need extra reassurance that you’re okay
  • 18:43 It’s okay to give children a sense of control in the situation
  • 22:03 Start having your child become aware of their level of discomfort - check in with them, and have them name it
  • 22:40 An incredible lesson for a child: I’m uncomfortable, and I can handle it
  • 25:50 In uncomfortable moments, prepare the family to brave the storm, and that it will pass
  • Sometimes we need to table arguments to have them away from children, but it is beneficial for children to see their parents arguing; it can be damaging to only see harmony/”perfection”
  • 30:46 Learning to “fight fair”
  • 34:28 Repair is incredibly important for children to witness
  • 34:40 Ideas of mutual respect and benefit of the doubt
  • 40:40 Definition of radical acceptance
  • 44:29 Idea that we can be different and still respect each other’s ways; you’re respecting your individual differences
  • 45:49 What do tolerating differences look like?





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Leslie-ism: Mutual respect is key for repairing relationship ruptures




For a full transcript of this episode and more information about the host visit https://lesliecohenrubury.com/podcasts/ . You can also follow Leslie’s work on FacebookInstagram, TikTok and YouTube. Join the conversation with your own questions and parenting experiences.


Credits: Is My Child a Monster? is produced by Alletta Cooper, AJ Moultrié, Camila Salazar, and Leslie Cohen-Rubury. Theme music is by L-Ray Music. Graphics and Website Design by Brien O’Reilly. Transcriptions by Eric Rubury. A special thanks to everyone who contributes their wisdom and support to make this possible.

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Mary and Antoine Part 3 of 3: When Parents Fight

Mary and Antoine Part 3 of 3: When Parents Fight