Soft Structure: Building a Routine That Honors Your Current Season in Life
Soft Structure: Building a Routine That Honors Your Current Season in LifeDigest
This podcast episode focuses on creating "soft structure" – flexible routines that adapt to life's various stages and energy levels. The hosts discuss the importance of self-care and prioritizing "non-negotiables," essential tasks that ground you, while avoiding rigid schedules that lead to burnout. They share personal experiences with both rigid and flexible routines, highlighting the benefits of adaptability. The episode offers eight gentle reminders and seven practical tips for building a supportive routine, emphasizing self-compassion, small steps, and incorporating rest and joy. These tips include identifying non-negotiables, focusing on rhythms instead of rigid timelines, honoring current life seasons, utilizing visual tools, batching tasks, buffering time, and prioritizing rest. The podcast encourages listeners to create routines that align with their current life stage and energy levels, promoting well-being and avoiding overwhelm.
Outlines
Introduction & Quote of the Day
The episode introduces the concept of soft structure and routines, using a quote from Tracy Ellis Ross about making time for oneself in loving ways. The hosts discuss the importance of self-care and adapting routines to different life stages.
Soft Structure: Routines for Juggling Life
The hosts delve into the concept of "soft structure," emphasizing flexible routines tailored to the individual's current life stage. They discuss the importance of adaptability and prioritizing non-negotiables while avoiding rigidity and burnout.
Current Routines & Rigid Schedules
The hosts share their personal experiences with rigid versus flexible routines. They discuss the challenges of maintaining a rigid schedule and the benefits of adapting to different life seasons and energy levels.
Gentle Reminders for Routine Building
Eight gentle reminders for building a supportive routine are presented, emphasizing self-care, flexibility, and the importance of rest and joy. Small steps and adaptability are highlighted as crucial elements.
Seven Tips for Building a Gentle Routine
Seven practical tips are offered for creating a flexible and aligned routine. These include identifying non-negotiables, focusing on rhythms rather than rigid timelines, honoring current life seasons, and utilizing visual tools. Batching, buffering, and incorporating rest are also emphasized.
Keywords
Soft Structure
Flexible routines that adapt to changing life circumstances, prioritizing well-being and avoiding rigidity. Emphasizes adaptability and self-compassion.
Non-Negotiables
Essential tasks or activities that must be included in a daily or weekly routine, regardless of other commitments. These are the foundational elements of a balanced life.
Adaptability
The ability to adjust routines and plans in response to changing circumstances or energy levels. Crucial for maintaining well-being and avoiding burnout.
Seasonal Routines
Tailoring routines to different life stages or periods (e.g., motherhood, career changes, healing). Acknowledges that what works in one season may not work in another.
Rest & Recovery
Prioritizing rest and relaxation as essential components of a healthy routine. Recognizes that rest is not a luxury but a necessity for well-being.
Self-Care
Prioritizing activities that support mental, physical, and emotional well-being. Essential for building sustainable routines.
Flexible Routines
Routines that allow for adjustments based on individual needs and changing circumstances. Promotes balance and avoids rigidity.
Routine Building
The process of creating and maintaining a schedule that supports personal well-being and goals. Emphasizes gradual implementation and self-compassion.
Q&A
How can I create a routine that supports my well-being without feeling overly restrictive?
Focus on identifying your non-negotiables—the essential tasks that ground you. Build your routine around these, allowing flexibility for other activities. Prioritize rest and joy, and adapt your routine as your life changes.
What should I do if my current routine feels overwhelming or unsustainable?
Re-evaluate your routine. Identify areas where you can simplify or delegate tasks. Focus on small, manageable steps rather than trying to overhaul everything at once. Remember that rest is essential.
How can I incorporate rest into a busy schedule?
Schedule specific times for rest, just as you would schedule other appointments. This could include short breaks throughout the day, a longer rest period once a week, or a "do nothing" day each month. Listen to your body and prioritize what it needs.
Show Notes
Hey lady! On the road to building the soft life of your dreams you’ll need to incorporate systems to keep that soft life moving authentically and with ease. Often, we’re taught that lives that feel good and easy come with hard work and while that is one way to do it there are ways to build routines and life processes that make life smooth and add joy. After all life is not about the end goal. The journey matters as much as the destination and to make that journey easier Dr. Dom and Terri have a comprehensive list of actionable strategies you can implement into your life incrementally to create a structure that is manageable and dare we say it, fun?! As with anything, take what you need and discard the rest.
You’ll want to tune into Patreon for the Aftershow. Terri and Dr. Dom offer seven journal prompts that can help you customize routines that provide soft structure and help you move intentionally towards your best, most fulfilled life of your dreams.
Quote of the Day:
"When you can and as you can, in ways that feel loving, make time and space for yourself”
– Tracee Ellis Ross
Goal Map Like a Pro Workbook
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Where to find us:
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Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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