Savage Lovecast Episode 949
Digest
This podcast episode begins with Dan Savage reviewing "Wicked," "Nosferatu," and "Baby Girl," highlighting themes of cuckoldry and offering suggestive commentary. The majority of the episode focuses on listener questions. One caller asks about the sweet taste sometimes experienced during oral-anal sex, receiving explanations related to diet and cleansing. Another caller seeks advice on rebuilding trust after a long-term partner's deception involving a secret family. The episode also addresses questions about the ethics of printing kinky nude photos, emphasizing the importance of consent, and how to handle a sibling's rapid engagement to someone they've known for a short time. Interspersed are advertisements for Hims ED treatment, Squarespace, and Helix Sleep mattresses. The episode concludes with listener feedback and information on submitting questions. The podcast touches upon various relationship dynamics, including polyamory, and offers practical advice on setting boundaries and navigating complex family situations. Humorous discussions about "Feast of the Ass" and appropriate greetings are also included.
Outlines

Movie Reviews & Listener Questions on Relationships & Sexuality
The episode opens with reviews of "Wicked," "Nosferatu," and "Baby Girl," followed by listener questions about appropriate greetings for "Feast of the Ass," cuckoldry in film, the sweet taste during oral-anal sex, and dealing with a deceptive partner.

Dealing with Deception & Family Dynamics
This section addresses listener questions about rebuilding trust after deception in a long-term relationship and navigating a sibling's rapid engagement to a new partner with a child.

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Kinky Nude Photos & Listener Feedback
This section discusses the ethics of printing kinky nude photos, emphasizing consent, and includes listener feedback on previous calls and discussions, addressing scams and relationship dynamics.

Closing and Call to Action
The episode concludes with listener feedback and information on how to submit questions and comments.
Keywords
Feast of the Ass
A humorous holiday celebrating anal sex and body positivity, emphasizing consent and communication.
Cuckoldry
A situation where a person's partner has sexual relations with another, sometimes with the knowledge and consent of the cuckolded partner.
Gaslighting
A form of psychological manipulation where someone makes a victim question their own sanity.
Micro-cheating
Low-level infidelity violating the spirit of a monogamous relationship (e.g., flirting, suggestive messages).
Polyamory
The practice of engaging in multiple romantic relationships with the consent of all partners.
Kink
Sexual activities or preferences deviating from mainstream norms, emphasizing consent and safety.
Relationship Advice
Guidance on navigating various relationship challenges, including deception, trust, and communication.
Family Dynamics
Advice on handling complex family situations and setting boundaries with family members.
Sexual Health
Discussion of sexual practices, consent, and related health topics.
Online Dating
Implicit discussion of relationship dynamics relevant to online dating and modern relationships.
Q&A
What are some potential explanations for a sweet taste during oral-anal sex?
Possible explanations include incomplete cleansing, dietary influences, or unusual body secretions.
How can someone rebuild trust after being deceived by a long-term partner?
Rebuild trust through transparency, consistent reassurance, and open communication.
Is it acceptable to refuse to develop a close relationship with a sibling's new partner?
Yes, it's acceptable to set boundaries and not feel obligated to befriend a sibling's new partner.
What are the ethical considerations when printing kinky nude photos?
The primary concern is consent; online services minimize exposure risk.
How should one respond to family members who disapprove of their boundaries?
Maintain a calm and assertive stance, explaining that the relationship will develop naturally.
What are appropriate greetings for "Feast of the Ass"?
The podcast humorously discusses various options, highlighting the importance of consent and communication.
How is cuckoldry represented in mainstream films?
The podcast discusses the depiction of cuckoldry in films like Nosferatu.
What advice is given regarding a brother's quick engagement?
Set boundaries and don't feel obligated to befriend the new partner.
Show Notes
Everyone is feverishly preparing for The Feast of The Ass on January 14! Consequently, many of you have questions, such as "What is the proper Feast of the Ass greeting?" And "Shouldn't the official Feast of the Ass dessert be the Tunnel of Fudge?" As always, Dan has the answers.
A woman's brother just got engaged...again. This is the third time, and he has been dating his current girlfriend for a scant 6 months. What's more, the fiancé has been pestering the caller to be best friends, texting her all day long. The caller has been through this before. Is she a jerk for feeling a little skeptical about her's brother's relationship?
On the Magnum, it's the return of the Funny Dom! Our favorite Australian sadist is back to help a woman and her boyfriend concoct the perfect mix of BDSM, femme-domming and to get some dang dishes done besides.
And, a cautionary tale: when you're flying on Molly, and you coquettishly ask "What could I do to be sexier for you?" Beware! He just might answer honestly.
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Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, reviver of Midieval Catholic holidays, and creator of the It Gets Better Project.From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.








