Never has there been a more important time, in my lifetime, than 2020 to cultivate hope. A pandemic, racial anxiety, quarantining… it can all be a little overwhelming, to say the least!

So how do we go about pushing forward and envisioning a better future for ourselves in the midst of all this challenge? How do we go about seeing it better, so that we can make it better?

It all starts… with hope.

Today’s conversation is all about cultivating hope to drive our lives forward.


We’ll dive deep into understanding how without hope, we feel powerless to create change in our lives. Without hope, we lack motivation to move forward, to be resilient, to push through adversity to reach our goals.

When we lack hope, we stay stuck in fear, constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop, expecting the worst to happen.

Hope allows us to tolerate failures and disappointments to keep moving forward in creating the life, and the world, that we want.

When we learn to cultivate hope, which is a learned behavior, not simply an emotion, we stay motivated in taking action towards what we want in life.

We’ll not only talk about hope, but also do Tapping to cultivate hope!

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• The definition of hope is a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen. It is about allowing yourself to dream.


• Hope is about having the ability to influence and direct your future in the direction you want. The opposite of feeling powerlessness.


• In order to be hopeful and move toward a future we want, we have to be flexible and be able to tolerate failure and disappointment, recognizing that this does not define us as who we are.


• Hope is a learned behavior and we need to recognize that this learned experience is one we can work through, addressing safety first to cultivate hope and create an empowering future.


• Real hope carries with it confidence and desire and faith and anticipation and aspiration…important emotions that allow us to drive ourselves forward.


• Tapping will help lower the intensity of past events and traumas that support a belief that we can’t be hopeful, and it also opens us up to create new experiences and cultivate new beliefs to overpower the negative beliefs and move you forward in a positive direction.

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Episode Start: 00:01:17


About the Tapping Solution App: 00:01:54


Definition of Hope: 00:05:08


Why we want to cultivate hope: 00:08:22


Hope is a learned behavior: 00:13:28


Hope is also about an emotion under the words: 00:16:00


Can you feel hopeful and visualize an empowering future?: 00:17:30


How our amygdala helps us feel safe and how tapping helps: 00:18:18


Tapping Session on Hope: 00:24:55


Intro Intensity Rating: 00:25:01


End of Tapping Intensity Rating: 00:33:56


Closing: 00:13:48

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Alex Ortner:

Hey guys, Alex here with the Tapping Solution Podcast and the Tapping Solution App. I am so excited to be here with you today because for the very first time I’m not only recording this via audio, I’m actually recording the video as well, which I’m personally excited about. I’m an expressive person, I like to be able to show my emotions, I am an emotional person. And so, I’m excited to actually record it via video so we can share this on YouTube and Facebook and all the other social media platforms. So, if you’re watching me here via video, thank you, you can see my mic. And, if you’re listening to your audio like normally, thank you so much for listening in and tuning in to our tapping solution podcast. Hopefully all of you, whether you’re listening via audio or video, that you’ve gone and downloaded our tapping solution app because our tapping solution app is absolutely life-changing. We’ve had over two million listens to the tapping meditations. You can go download it for free in the App Store or Google Play. Make sure you go do that. I might actually share a little special surprise about the app at the end of this podcast so stay tuned for that. I’m excited for that.

So, today’s conversation is gonna be all about hope. It’s about, how do we cultivate hope to drive our lives forward. And, hope is a really important emotion, it’s a really important practice for us to have on an ongoing basis. I actually just finished recording a master class for our tapping insiders, that’s why I decided to record this particular podcast today, because I wanted to share some of the messages that I shared with our tapping insiders club. And so, you know, I want to start off just by defining what exactly hope is and we will do tapping today, don’t worry, we always do tapping on these podcasts as well. We’ll talk about how we use tapping to actually cultivate that hope in to drive our emotions to change any underlying challenges that we have. And, I’ll talk about specifically what those things are that keep us from allowing ourselves to feel hopeful.

And, I know that right now we’re in the middle of a, literally a global pandemic with Covid 19. And, I know that there’s a lot of stress around race and how our society, how our police treat different people of color whether it be black or hispanic. And so, I’m, you know, let me first off say that I’m a huge supporter of the Black Lives Matter movement. I believe that it’s an important movement. I’m so glad, I’m hopeful, right. I’m hopeful that it is going to cultivate real change in our society and it’s definitely been an eye-opener for me in terms of some of the things that I took for granted in my life.

I did grow up with some very small amount of, you know, issues when it came to race because I was born in Argentina, I was hispanic, I, you know, that was, I was reminded of that numerous times growing up in middle school and high school that I was Spanish. But, I was still predominantly, you know, in a very white community here in Brookfield, Connecticut. I live in Newtown, Connecticut now but, just that small amount of experience where my race was brought up always hurt and I cannot even imagine what people of color experience on an ongoing, regular basis.

So, I wanted to say that I really support this movement in a big way. And so, with all this stuff going on with Covid 19, with racial anxiety in our country, it’s more important than ever to actually be hopeful and to actually cultivate hope in our lives. Because, I know that a lot of people have thought like, where in the world is the world turning right now, right. What’s going on with our economy, with our health, with our world, with everything. And so, for me, I am extremely hopeful that all of this is for the good. And so, hopefully you are cultivating hope. But, If not, we’re going to talk about exactly how we go about doing that today on the podcast.

And so, you know, let me just start off by defining what hope actually is. So, hope is a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen, right. Let me say that again, hope is a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen. Hope is really about dreaming, right. Hope is about allowing yourself to dream, to see a future that is more empowering than the future or then your current life right now when you see a future where there is positive change, where your life is better, where those people around you’s lives are better. Where you believe that’s actually a possibility.

Now, hope is not always easy and sometimes we cannot cultivate hope, we cannot feel hopeful, and I’ll talk about exactly what the reasons are for that today. And, we’ll talk about how we can release those things, you know, rewire our brain and our beliefs around some of those things and actually lower some of the emotional intensity we have around our inability to oftentimes feel hopeful. And, a lot of that has to do with safety, right. So, hope is about feeling safe, to expect good things in the future.

And, if you’re not able to feel safe, to actually feel hopeful. A lot of times that can be because of past traumas, past experiences. I know I was doing my master class a little bit ago and somebody said, oh, I feel like I’m always waiting for the other shoe to drop, right. It’s an expression I’ve heard a lot when coaching people on this issue is that, I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop. Meaning, that I don’t like to be hopeful because I’m worried or I’m just expecting that something bad is going to happen. Again, that has to do with our experiences, our past experiences. And so, I don’t want to feel hopeful because we don’t want to be hurt when things don’t go our way, when there’s disappointment, when there is failure, when all those things happen. So, it doesn’t feels safe to be hopeful.

So, we’ll talk about how we can actually move past that challenge of safety to be able to visualize a better future because we want to be able to visualize and see a better future for ourselves. Because, otherwise, how are we gonna create that future, right. If you can’t see it in your mind’s eye first, how are you going to create it in the world. I always love the example of Walt Disney when it comes to visualization. How Walt Disney saw Disney World in his mind before anybody else did. He was rejected hundreds of times, I don’t know what the actual number is, but a lot of times by different banks who did not believe in his vision. But, he stayed true to that. So, we’ll talk a little bit about that.

So, hope is about feeling that you have the power to influence and direct your future, right. I want to say it again. It’s about having the ability or the feeling that you have the power to influence and direct your future in the direction you want. And, just as importantly, it’s important to note that it is the opposite of feeling powerlessness where