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The one thing to never say when setting boundaries

The one thing to never say when setting boundaries

Update: 2023-08-07


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SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I talk about the importance of teaching your child about boundaries. This is part 2 of my series on parenting, boundaries, and mental health. Part one can be found here.

Whenever you, as a parent or caregiver, set a boundary, make sure that you always explain why in a way that your child will understand. Use the moment to model healthy boundaries for your child and teach them what a healthy boundary looks like, using language that encourages your child to think about the situation and what it means. Avoid using language that shuts them down such as saying “because I said so”, which will make the boundary feel more like a punishment than a teaching opportunity. 

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1:00 , 5:00 How to help your child clean up their mental mess

7:25 How to set boundaries with your child

8:20 Why it is always important to explain the “why” behind a boundary

9:40 Why we should avoid “Because I said so!” statements

12:00 , 17:48 How to use boundaries as a learning experience for your child 

19:00 What happens when we don’t set boundaries with our children

22:45 , 25:02 How to validate what your child is feeling while setting boundaries 


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*DISCLAIMER: This podcast and blog are for educational purposes only and are not intended as medical advice. We always encourage each person to make the decision that seems best for their situation with the guidance of a medical professional.









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The one thing to never say when setting boundaries

The one thing to never say when setting boundaries

Dr. Caroline Leaf