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‘Modern Love’: The Kind of Pain She Wanted

‘Modern Love’: The Kind of Pain She Wanted

Update: 2025-08-103
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For her entire life, Grace Hussar has been an overthinker. No matter how much she wanted to be in the moment, she always felt as if she was just outside it. But when she took up endurance running, she realized something: Extreme pain turned her thoughts off. She wanted more of that feeling — more pain and less overthinking. As a mother of two with a happy partnership and a career in finance, what she explored next surprised her.

On this week’s episode of “Modern Love,” Hussar talks about her essay, “The Kind of Pain I Wanted.” Hussar shares the story of how she discovered that rope play and kink were the keys to newfound presence and pleasure in her life.

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adam meredith

So, her "partner" is cool with her having sex with someone else? That sounds suspect.

Aug 11th
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‘Modern Love’: The Kind of Pain She Wanted

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