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ADHD and dating: Why the spark burns bright (then fades fast)

ADHD and dating: Why the spark burns bright (then fades fast)

Update: 2025-11-04
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For many women with ADHD, the spark of a new relationship feels like magic. But what happens when commitment feels like too much to manage?

In this episode, Dr. Monica Johnson explains the ADHD brain during the early stages of a new relationship. Learn how ADHD impacts attachment and commitment for some women. Get tips for how to manage coming down from the emotional high when the initial spark fades.

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(00:00 ) Intro

(01:05 ) What is new relationship energy (NRE)?

(01:54 ) The ADHD brain and early romance 

(04:28 ) The difference between a fading spark and incompatibility 

(07:41 ) Tips for managing a new relationship

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ADHD and dating: Why the spark burns bright (then fades fast)

ADHD and dating: Why the spark burns bright (then fades fast)

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