Dismissive Avoidants: How They Bond Emotionally & Physically
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Many people misunderstand what sex and intimacy mean to a Dismissive Avoidant — assuming distance, shutdowns, or withdrawal are signs of disinterest. But neuroscience shows that Dismissive Avoidants bond through intimacy in very unique ways, and their core wounds around vulnerability deeply shape how they connect emotionally and physically.
In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down what happens in the mind, body, and nervous system of a Dismissive Avoidant during sex and connection. You’ll learn why intimacy activates old subconscious programming, why vulnerability can trigger fear, and how to build a safer foundation for physical and emotional closeness.
You’ll learn:
✅ Why vulnerability activates core wounds like “I am unsafe” and “I am defective”
✅ How emotional intimacy can trigger shutdown after closeness
✅ Why pressure or expectations around sex lead to withdrawal
✅ How shame becomes subconsciously associated with intimacy
✅ The role of childhood emotional neglect in adult sexual dynamics
✅ How fear of inadequacy impacts desire and presence
✅ What partners can do to communicate without triggering shutdown
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 – What Happens to Dismissive Avoidants Around Sex and Intimacy
01:00 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Have Big Core Wounds Around Intimacy
01:35 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Are Afraid of Feeling Trapped, Helpless or Pressured
02:50 – Needs Course Promo
03:17 – When There is a Lot of Vulnerability Around Sex
03:56 – If There is Pressure Around Sex
04:27 – When Sex Becomes Less Frequent or Creates Problems
05:17 – If They Feel Criticized About Sex
05:32 – When They Feel Incapable of Meeting Their Partner's Needs
06:04 – If They Are Critical About Themselves
06:22 – Do You Have Any Questions?
Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
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