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Dr. Bandy X. Lee on Family Court Violence, Coercive Control and the Abuse Industry

Dr. Bandy X. Lee on Family Court Violence, Coercive Control and the Abuse Industry

Update: 2025-12-09
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World renowned forensic psychiatrist and violence expert Dr. Bandy X. Lee joins Bitch is a Bad Word to pull back the curtain on what she calls “family court violence.” If you are a protective parent, in high conflict divorce, or walking into family court after abuse, this conversation is your survival guide. Dr. Lee explains how abusers weaponize mental health, how courts confuse calm with credibility, and how a system that claims to protect children is actually trafficking them into the hands of violent offenders for profit. This is the episode you send to every bestie who thinks she is “crazy” for feeling like court is the biggest abuser in the room.


In this episode, we cover:

  • How abusers flip the script and weaponize diagnoses, “parental alienation,” and your trauma responses in court
  • Why family courts often give full custody to known violent offenders and strip safe, loving parents of their children
  • How gag orders, sealed records, fake experts and closed courts create an “abuse industry” worth billions
  • What “family court violence” is and why Dr. Lee calls it a public health emergency
  • The impact on moms. financial ruin, health collapse, disability and increased risk of death after losing custody
  • Practical insight for protective parents walking into court after domestic violence


About Dr. Bandy X. Lee

Dr. Bandy X. Lee is a forensic psychiatrist and global violence expert who has spent 25 years working with violent offenders in maximum security settings and serving as an expert witness across the United States. She is the Chief Medical Officer of the Institute of Forensic Science and a leading voice on the intersection of psychopathy, coercive control, systemic abuse and family court. She writes and educates on “family court violence” and is organizing a landmark national conference to reform this system.


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If you or someone you love is experiencing domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or visit www.thehotline.org

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Dr. Bandy X. Lee on Family Court Violence, Coercive Control and the Abuse Industry

Dr. Bandy X. Lee on Family Court Violence, Coercive Control and the Abuse Industry