How Do We Feel About Fat?

How Do We Feel About Fat?

Update: 2023-03-23


It's time for another community episode! This month, Virginia and Corinne are exploring how we feel about the word fat: Who gets to use it? What if you just don't want to use it? What is the power of reclaiming it? Thank you to everyone who contributed today. 

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Disclaimer: Virginia is a journalist and human with a lot of informed opinions. Virginia is not a nutritionist, therapist, doctor, or any kind of health care provider. The conversation you're about to hear and all of the advice and opinions she gives are just for entertainment, information, and education purposes only. None of this is a substitute for individual medical or mental health advice.

CW: In this episode we do mention some specific weights and sizes. If numbers are triggering to you, you might want to skip this episode. 


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How Do We Feel About Fat?

How Do We Feel About Fat?

Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay